#indentity

[qkinzins]

Oh good Lord heaven, the amount of love I have for fics where Bruce publicly says how much he hates Batman and he does a terrible job. Like he really just hates the guy that saves him almost every Saturday. He's so vocal about it too, whenever asked about superheroes it's always "Ah yes, Wonder Woman, so much strength and passion, I'm glad the world has people like her. Oh, Green Lantern? I can see some fun you can find with that ring. Superman? It's nice to be saved by someone so big, you know, being carried, what a romantic experience, but he just had to fly us to the moon called hospital, such a waste. Batman? Did you know he doesn't even shower? Like, every time he comes to my kidnappings, I just feel bad for them because I think they are losing because dude won't use some soap or deodorant so they all faint... He should have called himself Stinkyman or something, ew, just the thought of him."

And Clark is baffled, like that's his bestie being roasted on a TV show by some rich prick. He doesn't even smell bad! Clark thinks Batman smells amazing, thank you very much. So Clark, ever the investigative journalist, starts digging because he is curious as to why Bruce dislikes Batman so much.

He digs and digs and digs just for personal reasons because he's afraid of what if Bruce Wayne isn't just a dumb playboy, because every time Clark has ever seen Wayne, he has seen how calculated his gaze was until he was quick to mask it again. What if that's the new Batman's nemesis, like Lex Luthor is to Superman, but he's just waiting for his time to shine? But Bruce just looks mildly annoyed whenever someone talks about or even mentions Batman. At galas, Clark notices that Bruce lingers in the dark corridors and corners, and most importantly, Clark can hear Batman's heartbeat there.

So Clark draws the most logical conclusions ever:

A) Bruce and Batman really don't get along because Bruce thinks the latter is trying to crash whatever gala

B) Bruce and Batman are dating and are trying to keep a low profile (that could explain why Batman has new tech)

C) the most logical: they are bitter petty exes

Honestly, he's not sure; B and C could be true, like okay, maybe they're dating or maybe dated, but still, whatever. It all could be great if Bruce Wayne wasn't throwing himself on Clark or on Superman. Okay, he can see that Bruce is just messing with him when he's in costume, 'cause he's not that bad when they are hidden from the public eye, respectful actually! And Clark knows the bro code, so even if Batman doesn't know him as Clark, he still won't take whatever Bruce is offering. Oh, Rao, help him, 'cause why is Bruce so dedicated to him?

"Mr. Wayne, I'm not sure this is appropriate... um, what if Batman crashes through the ceiling, haha?" He says as he adjusts his glasses. Oh Rao, is he sweating? Well, yeah, Batman's ex or not is not just hinting but borderline saying that they should spend the night together. He's not sure if Batman gets jealous and he really doesn't want to get into any messy situation, even as Clark Kent.

And Bruce thinks Clark is joking about his kidnappings. He doesn't know why else he would mention Batman, and what's up with reporters mentioning him? Oh wait, right, because Bruce is his biggest hater, but what does that have to do with him trying to get into this beautiful man's pants.

"Don't worry, Clark, I'm sure he wouldn't mind joining in on the fun," he winks at the reporter, who is turning even redder by the second. God, he needs that man in his bed now.

!?!?!??!?!

Actually, Clark thinks his head exploded and his brain stopped working because in what world does anyone ever—and he means ever—so bluntly say that Batman wouldn't mind having a threesome with him? Except Clark finds out that he actually wouldn't even mind if that happened, well, shit.

[sinclairsting]

Anyone else get a huge kick out of it when people refer to you by your pseudonym?

Anytime someone refers to me as "Sinclair" it puts me halfway between "IT'S ALIIIVE" and "Nobody cared who I was, until I put on the mask."

[violets-andvoltage]

figuring out I was a lesbian was one of the hardest things to come to terms with because I knew I liked women but I had assumed it was in addition to an attraction to men, I never questioned if I really liked men like I questioned if I really liked women because liking women was different and liking men was expected.

I expected myself to like men, and I assumed when I liked a man, who I knew others would perceive as conventionally attractive, it meant I was attracted to him. I would obsess over these male “crushes” I created and eventually I’d get tired of them and notice that they weren’t actually attractive to me, and instead of addressing this I’d soon have another “crush” and another and another.

I identified as bi for a long time however I first “officially” came out to my family as omni, then pan, then bi, and I proceeded to flip flop from pan and bi. I remember settling on the bisexual label and initially being disappointed in myself for not being pansexual because I viewed it as the ideal sexuality, to love all kinds of people regardless of the limits of gender, I wanted nothing more but I had a strong preference for women that I couldn’t deny.

I then ditched most specific labels entirely and opted for umbrella terms like queer and sapphic. When I stated to seriously question if I was a lesbian and proceeded to have a large increase in random male “crushes” as a result of this (which I now realize was comphet), but like all the previous crushes they quickly expired and I had no interest in them anymore.

As someone who’s never even had her first kiss and never been in a relationship before, figuring out my queer identity has been incredibly hard. I asked myself if I could really know if I didn’t like men when I’ve never been with a man…or anyone at all?? But I thought, hypothetically, if a really really attractive man asked me out and wanted to be with me sexually I think would feel validated (because I’ve never been wanted in that way and I don’t know how it feels to actually be genuinely asked out) but I think I’d say no. If an attractive women asked me out though…hell yes.

Fast forward a whole year of college (I can’t believe I’m a sophomore now) I came to terms with my lesbian identity though I still struggle with comphet and internalized homophobia.

p.s.

hello lesbian tumblr!

[ahmed33k]

من أنا؟ سؤال لا ينتهي.

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[girlwithlandscape]

“We go through life. We shed our skins. We become ourselves.”

— Patti Smith

[ozcar-aguilar]

[warpwoof]

Alfred Korzybski

He pointed out that “either/or” is one of the basic flaws in all Western thinking, like “either intellect or emotion” instead of “both… and…” Because every action is both intellectual and emotional. For example, your cat wakes up and he feels hungry—that’s an emotion, an instinct, but then his front brain goes to work to show him where food has been, there food will be. This is still the basic guiding principle of Hollywood: what has made money will make money. But as soon as that happens, the cat’s front brain is going into operation, taking him to where the food will be—same way with people. So, trying to chop the human body into intellect and emotion… I mean it doesn’t at all correspond to what we know of the human organism and the universe.

So there’s a basic flaw. Another is the definite article, as though it was a permanent: The God, the way, instead of a God, a way. And another is the is of identity, as though this were a permanent status. “He is my servant.” Now, the Egyptian’s glyph: “He as my servant.” At this moment, he is acting as my servant. “The ‘is’ of identity,” Korzybski calls it.

William Burroughs

[bra1nwashed]

i'm questioning myself rn.

i'm currently identifying as aro but as for my sexuality, i have no idea.

i've been going by bi and pan. basically i've been saying idm being called either.

but, i kinda wanna change to unlabeled? but also keep those, if that makes sense :/

like, i like the labels i have now but i feel like unlabeled might suit me more?

also, i feel bad cuz i'm talking about calling myself unlabeled as a label.

idk. advice? anyone?

p.s. forgive my tags