#justgirlythings

[justgirlythings]

We finally did it, y’all! We’re married 💍

[turnupswritessometimes]

I'm obsessed with them, actually.

Bonus:

[honeytonedhottie]

how to free yourself from people pleasing permanently⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍨🎀

if ur done living for the approval of others, feeling the pressure of always having to make everyone else happy while neglecting yourself then this post is for you…💬🎀

BE SELF AWARE ;

the first step to change is becoming aware of ur behavior. do u say yes even when u really wanna say no? do u constantly walk on eggshells in the fear of being misunderstood? do you water urself down to be digestible to people? if u answered yes to any of these questions, chances are u have people pleasing tendencies.

WHY DO WE PEOPLE PLEASE? ;

a lot of us learnt people pleasing as a survival mechanism. we started people pleasing to fit in, or maybe we were taught from an early age that being a "good person" meant keeping everyone happy but yourself, and that love was conditional.

THE STEPS TO TAKE ;

change ur environment - if u cannot change ur environment drastically u can always change little things about it, for example changing the people you talk with everyday, taking new routes, putting yourself in new environments and planning ur next big moves

reconnect with ur authentic self - journal, reflect, be alone. figure out what you like, want, need. people pleasing disconnects you from your own identity, learn who you are WITHOUT the people pleasing performing tendencies

STAND ON BUSINESS ;

to finish off, ur not here to be liked by everyone, some people might get uncomfortable when you stop over-explaining yourself or putting them first, but that’s not your burden to carry anymore. its ur life so why shouldn't u put urself first?

im not telling u to go out and be a terrible person im telling u to listen to yourself for once. think "what does (insert ur name) want?" instead of what u should do to appease to others. dont overextend urself for crumbs girls. choose you always 💕

[thesophistiicate]

the good life essentials: the ultimate guide to getting what you want 💭

for so long i always felt a sense of struggle when it came to my achievements. i could reach my goals but it always felt so hard, and it usually came paired with periods of burn out and malaise. then i found out why: i was often neglecting foundational needs, living in chaos and not taking proper care of myself, and trying to zoom straight to big-picture achievements.

below is my ultimate guide to 'the good life'. the more balance you can achieve in each category, the easier and more pleasurable it becomes to reach your goals. you will still have to stretch yourself and explore beyond your limits... but it should feel relatively nice because you are supported by a nourishing lifestyle.

you deserve a beautiful, healthy, passion-filled life. here's how you get it:

01. your foundation: the essentials

physical health: create nourishing routines for sleep, exercise, and nutrition. your literal energy starts here, so if you’re trying to bring positive energy to your life and achieve success, you need foundational energy.

mental and emotional health: build resilience and develop strategies for coping with pressure and stress. take care of your mental health always, not just when you’re already spinning out.

financial stability: learn to manage your money wisely. budgeting, saving, and debt management are a must.

02. your core: connections + fulfilment

your home: whether you have just a bed, a room, an apartment, or a whole house, create a safe, comforting space to recharge and feel grounded.

strong relationships: surround yourself with supportive and meaningful connections - so much about ourselves is defined by those we are close with so choose wisely.

meaningful work: follow your sense of purpose and find work or projects that bring a sense of fulfilment and satisfaction to your life. remember that it may not always be paid work. if you have no idea, just keep trying things and follow what interests you, while working on the next stage.

03. your growth: personal development

personal growth: invest into self improvement, developing new skills, growing your knowledge and learning as much as possible.

spiritual fulfilment: find purpose, whether through spirituality, self-reflection, or a connection to something bigger.

creativity & self-expression: explore creative outlets and express your true self to find a grounding sense of joy and authenticity.

04. your larger contribution: beyond the self

community & contribution: give back, volunteer, or participate in community initiatives to connect with a greater sense of purpose and life-giving connection.

legacy & impact: define the mark you want to leave on the world, through family, work, or contributions to society. think deeply about what you wish to leave behind and tailor your life to this goal.

05. your enrichment: quality of life enhancers

play & leisure: make time for joy, hobbies, and relaxation for rejuvenation, calm, and passion. if your day to day work isn't your passion, it's so essential to find passion here.

time in nature: regularly connect with the outdoors for grounding and mental clarity.

[regsaysstuff]

phan is real and justgirlythings is a lesbian.... life is good

[fairyw1ngs]

poison girl…I started reading Anna Karenina the cover matches my new bra 🖤

[thenewpearl]

jerry runs up the stairs when it's dark downtsairs

[the-muppet-joker]

Why am I sticky...