All Things Aro and Apl

An aromantic and aplatonic centered blog. All aro-specs, apl-specs, and questioning folks are welcome! This blog is radically inclusive, more info about the blog and mod in pinned post.

[aroapl]

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INTRO

Howdy! My name is Bo, and my pronouns are it/its and en/en/er/ers/enself (they/them is okay from people that know me IRL). I’m a multigender nonbinary person, and I’m bisexual, aromantic, and aplatonic. I’m also loveless, lovequeer, and nonamorous. I’m 26 years old, and I’ve been out and involved in the queer community since around 2013. Some other tidbits about me that might be useful to know are that I’m white, neurodivergent, and a radical inclusionist (meaning I support any and all good faith identities).

For anyone interested, my main is @queer-rainebo​

https://pronouns.cc/@RaineBo

ABOUT THE BLOG   

This is an aromantic and aplatonic centric blog that welcomes all aro-specs, apl-specs, and questioning folks. I’ll mainly be posting/reblogging aro and apl centric positivity, resources, jokes, and art. 

My ask box is always open (with anon on), and you're welcome to ask/send me anything. I’m willing to offer advice, support, validation, help finding labels, and anything else like that (though disclaimer, I do not claim to be an expert). I also welcome and encourage you to share your experiences as an aro or apl person. Whether it’s how you discovered your identity, a coming out story, or any experience relating to your identity, I would love to hear and share it!

I’ll accept any kind of aro or apl related art in my askbox or submissions as well! Anything from drawings, fiction, poetry, music, pride merch, and so on is welcome!

NOTES

-This blog is radically inclusionist. LGBTQ-phobes of any kinds will be blocked, including those hating on mogai labels, microlabels, any aspec or mspec labels, and labels like mspec lesbian/mspec gay.

-Bigots and nasties of any kind in general will be blocked, including but not limited to racists, pedos/MAPs, ableists, and so on.

-I do not have any triggers, but I will ask that you please do not send me asks venting/looking for advice about topics involving self harm, suicide, abuse, eating disorders, or similar topics. I am not equipped to handle helping with heavy things like this, and I would like to keep this blog a primarily positive space.

TAGS

#asks - All asks (not including those reblogged from other blogs).

#resources - Any kind of resource posts.

#advice - Advice posts of any kind, including advice asks.

#labels - Posts involving label searching, coining, and flags.

#posi - Positivity posts of any kind.

#aro - All things related to aromanticism.

#apl - All things related to aplatonicism.

#aro experiences - Aros sharing their personal experiences.

#apl experiences - Apls sharing their personal experiences.

#aro art - Any kind of aro related art.

#apl art - Any kind of apl related art.

#aro headcanons - Arospec headcanons, character art, and other such things.

#apl headcanons - Aplspec headcanons, character art, and other such things.

#Bo posting - Any kind of personal post from me.

[endcrys-art]

This pride month I need every aromantic to get more annoying about being aromantic

[alloarboreal]

Happy pride to every alloaro! 💚🤍💛

[77pink-prin-cess77]

Please don't forget about loveless people this pride month. Love doesn't make us human. People don't need to love in "other" ways to be valid. Some people are aplatonic, some afamilial, some asensual, some are heartless. They still belong. Abolish conformity and the idea that someone needs to be something specific to belong at pride.

[genderkoolaid]

just a pride month reminder:

if you are making something featuring multiple flags and you put in the asexual flag, you better put in the aromantic flag.

if you put in the aroace flag, you better put in the aroallo flag.

fighting aromantic erasure starts with YOU 🫵

[genderkoolaid]

for reference:

^ the aromantic flag

^ the aroallo (aromantic allosexual) flag

& just btw, aromantic erasure is so bad that on pubmed, many of the very few studies that have looked into aspec people specifically, categorize us as a type of asexuality. from this study:

Our findings highlight that aromantic people wish for aromanticism not to be considered a part of asexuality—a practice that has dominated contemporary literature (Antonsen et al. 2020; Carvalho & Rodrigues, 2022; Clark & Zimmerman, 2022; Hall & Knox, 2022; Zheng & Su, 2018). Many participants clarified the distinction between their sexual identity and romantic identity and highlighted that though they may be connected for some, they should be considered independently as unique contributors to an individual’s identity and experience. This aligns with a previous aromantic community survey that showed 72% of the sample did not identify with asexual terminology (AUREA, 2021a). In combination with our findings, this suggests that a tendency to conflate and describe these identities as the same or linked may be to the disadvantage of a significant portion of the aromantic community.

this is why it is so important to include aromantic people as our own group and to specifically include non-asexual aromantics. i hope y'all can understand how frustrating it is to be erased through a group that is already erased.

asexual representation is sparse? all aromantic rep is asexual and most of the time people don't even bother to remember that "aromantic" is its own thing. i can't count how many times i've seen a character talk about not experiencing romantic attraction, only for people to go "wow asexual rep!" even though sexual attraction was never brought up.

asexual community & resources are sparse? when i try to look up groups for aromantics, i get resources on "ace & aro groups" that are literally all asexual-focused. at best asexual-focused with a mention of aromantic people. which isn't really helpful when you are aroallo and don't really want or need a group that is clearly meant for alloro asexuals and aroaces.

asexual history is sparse? i've literally never seen anything even trying to talk about aromantic history. the most impactful thing on aro history is that one tumblr post talking about a woman at a nursing home who heard the term and realized her best friend was likely aro. see above with the character situation as well.

my point here is not "aros have it worse than aces" because we are both aspec and both get fucked over by the same forces and in fact, a LOT of asexual aromantics are also very frustrated by aromantic erasure! i've even heard some people talk about not identifying as strongly as asexual, even though it fits them, because they feel their aro identity is more important to them but gets constantly erased by their asexuality.

my point is that it is so fucking disheartening to be aro even in queer spaces that are trying to be asexual-inclusive, even in supposedly aspec spaces, because it swiftly becomes apparent that people see your entire identity as just a footnote for asexuality. so many people never even realize they are aro because they aren't asexual and don't realize that you can be aro but not ace. i dealt with some really intense arophobia as a teen after realizing i was aro, feeling broken and alone. it hit much harder than any internalized homophobia or transphobia did for me at the time. i did not meet another person who identified as aromantic irl until this year. any resources and community that i had as a queer teen, as a trans teen, did not exist for me as an aro teen and does not exist for me as an aro adult, really.

and big problem is that, because people think of aromanticism as just a footnote of asexuality, they implicitly assume that more asexual rep, more asexual resources, more asexual visibility will automatically serve aromantics too. and when it doesn't work like that, aro people continue to suffer as a result.

things have improved over the years and i hope will continue to! but i really need every queer person to become more aware of aromanticism & arophobia & how the queer community contributes to it & hurts aro people. hence why i am so testy about when people will include the ace flag but not the aro one. YOU 🫵 will care about your aromantic siblings and consider us this pride month!!!!!

[fandoms-and-chaos]

As an aplatonic I like hanging out with people in certain settings. I enjoy going to class bc I get to talk with the person I always sit next to. When I have a work meeting I enjoy talking with my co-workers. I enjoy talking in the support group I attend. I like talking on tumblr. But when I'm approached to become "friends" outside of that setting it makes me uncomfortable

[drowninginredink]

Godddd person who I have good conversations with while at thing or carpooling to thing and then never talk to outside of that is in fact the best relationship

[cate-geo]

Happy APL Day!!

I have a discord server for all aspec people

Please join!!

🍏🍏🍏

Check out the Aspec community on Discord - hang out with 127 other members and enjoy free voice and text chat.

[auggator]

happy aplatonic visibility day to aplatonics with friends, aplatonics who don’t want friends, aplatonics who don’t like their friends, aplatonics who want friends, aplatonics without friends, aplatonics who love talking about their aplatonicism, aplatonics who are super social, aplatonics with personality disorders, aplatonics with low empathy, mean aplatonics, cruel aplatonics, autistic aplatonics

[nonacearo-week]

Non-Ace Aro Fanwork Week 2026

ladies, gents, and everyone in between or outside of those parameters, we are back again for 2026, this time kickin' off the announcement a little bit sooner. after last years outstanding support and excitement for this event, we've decided to run it again! the planning is just about all the same as last year too, no big surprises about it.

and, as always, a little bit about your host. hi! we're Mito/Rev, our pronouns are ve/1t, and technically we're the same guy running it as last year but with a sprinkling of turns out theres more than one of us. we're collectively aromantic with some variance in how the lot of us experience our non-ace aro'ness.

schedule

prompt submission: May 1st to May 10th prompt voting: May 11th to May 17th prompts posted: May 18th (probably won't have fancy formatting) downtime to pre-create: May 18th to May 31st posting week: June 1st to 7th

guidelines

1: anyone can participate! whether you're non-ace aro, aroace, alloace, or alloallo, you can participate! just keep the works focused on aromanticism without the asexuality, yeah?

2: please tag your works properly! nsfw and dead dove creations are allowed and welcomed, but it'd be nice if ya tagged 'em

3: don’t worry about posting “late”! i’ll be scrolling around for things posted late through all of June, aim for posting during the week but it’s okay if ya don’t. however, if you do post late please tag the blog* to ensure we see it!

4: any fandoms** and any “ships” are allowed! this is a multifandom event, and, truthfully, the more the merrier and all that jazz!

5: most importantly, have fun with it!

aaaaaaaand, yep, that brings this post to a close!

all in all, we continue to hope that this event brings the non-ace aro community a little closer together, raises awareness of non-ace aro experiences in fandom, and most importantly, that everyone has fun with this event

arrow assets made by @aroworlds

if anyone has any questions about the event, the askbox is open as always

-Mito/Rev

*last year there were issues with posts not showing up in the tag, so if you desperately want your post to be reblogged here we would suggest just tagging us to make sure we see it **the one stipulation to this is works by jk rowling and neil gaiman, we cant stop you from making them, but we wont be reblogging them

[dancecalledmemory]

today is a wonderful day to get more normal about aplatonic and aplspec people

[aplatonics-assemble]

Welcome to an aplatonic fandom event!

This blog exists to encourage as many people as possible to post aplatonic fanworks on Aplatonic Awareness Day: May 4, 2026. Please use the tag #Aplatonics Assemble 2026 to promote your works, and tag this page so that I can reblog them all! If you write a fanfic posted on AO3, please also add them to the collection below:

Aplatonics Assemble Collection

Additional rules/FAQs below the cut:

Rules/Guidelines:

All works are accepted as long as they relate to aplatonicism in some way. This includes romantic fics, sexual fics, gen fics, ""problematic"" fics, any rating, content, fandom, tags, etc. We want to represent the full spectrum of aplatonicism, and that includes alloromantic, aromantic, allosexual, and asexual aplatonics. It also includes everyone on the aplatonic spectrum, including those who do feel some platonic attraction, like demiplatonics, greyplatonics, etc, and those who are friending or plato-favorable.

Early and late submissions to the collection will be accepted.

Works from all fandoms are accepted, as well as original work. However if you post Harry Potter to this I will be extremely annoyed.

You do not need to be aplatonic to submit to this event. Works from allies are accepted and encouraged.

Miscellaneous:

My main is @drowninginredink, so that's where all likes are coming from, and I also do queer posting on @papercranesandpride and supernatural posting @schizosamwincester.

I will queue works submitted to this event so that people actually see them, so if I don't reblog your thing right on May 4, don't worry. I did see it, I just want to spread the posts out so that they all get the attention they deserve.

I will post optional prompts for this event as well, so feel free to let me know if you have ideas for those.

[the-bar-sinister]

Regarding the ask about being aplatonic,

Sending this here so anon probably sees it: my NPD 100% influences mine, and I understand that's somewhat common. Not NPD specifically, but neurodivergence and other disorders and stuff influencing things like this. (I'm also AuDHD, so that's not helping probably WWWWWW)

At least for me (I am NOT also aromantic) there's the people I'm in love with, and then people who amuse me. People talk about friendship as bonds? "Liking" a person and all of that. I don't do that. I am still open to maintaining friendships, but I don't feel much of anything at all for them. They amuse me, that's it. I only really "feel" things about my romantic partners.

Ouugh, that's really relatable, honestly.

For me, I do 'like' people in that I enjoy their company in social situations, but I feel you exactly in not forming a 'bond' there. I don't have any impulse to continue it as a relationship, unless I feel romantically toward them. I don't know if it's that I only feel interested in engaging with people I will feel romantic toward, or if I inevitably gain romantic feelings when I actually bond with someone.

[anistarrose]

Shoutout to people for whom aromantic is also a gender. Gotta be one of my, you guessed it, favorite genders.

[anistarrose]

Oh, so we're making some people realize some things with this one! Good!

[aro-ace-chaos]

Shout out to all aros this Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

Including, but obviously not limited to:

Romance repulsed aros

Romance averse aros

Romance indifferent aros

Romance ambivalent aros

Romance favorable aros

Green stripe aros

Aros who experience no romantic attraction

Aros who experience little romantic attraction

Aros who experience fluctuating romantic attraction

Non-partnering aros

Partnering aros

Loveless aros

Aroallos

Aroaces

Non-SAM aros

Aplatonic aros

Alloplatonic aros

Arospecs

Greyromantics

Arofluxes

Aromids

Arospikes

Cupioromantics

Nebularomantics

Demiromantics

Lithromantics

Apothiromantics

Platoniromantics

Quoiromantics

Myrromantics

Reciproromantics

Bellusromantics

And all other aros!!!

[i-suggest-aro]

at some point, we're really gonna have to start talking about how popular queer media correlates wanting sex with no strings attached with traits like being manipulative, exploitative, abusive, or even predatory. because queer media can talk big game about how aromanticism is cool and valid, but they still turn around and make the antagonist someone who doesn't want a relationship. you support us in name only, you don't wanna give a second's thought to the actual experiences of aromantics. "oh, but this character isn't aromantic!! they're just afraid of commitment!!!" do you have any idea how often actual aromantics are told that shit.

[acexualien]

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week 2026!

💚🤍🩶🖤

Today, I want to introduce you to the brief history of ASAW! Stay tuned for this week's upcoming Arospec Info posts 😊

[innocuous-gnome]

this aromantic spectrum awareness week, I am celebrating every aro.

so this one goes out to the aroaces, the alloaros, the arospecs, the aros who don't use the SAM and those whose identities are too complicated to describe neatly.

this is for the aros who have never been in relationships, and those who have. the ones who feel romance repulsed and the ones who are neutral or favorable.

this is for aros who have queerplatonic partners or would like them. for the aros who never want a partner in any form.

for the trans aros, the neurodivergent aros, the disabled aros, the aros of color. for the aros who have other identities that affect their experience with aromanticism.

for the aros who are still figuring things out. for the aros who are questioning or who used to identify as something else. for the aros who are insecure in their identity. for the aros who sometimes feel isolated or misunderstood because they're aro. for the aros seeking community.

for any aros who aren't already on this list, because our community is so varied and full of so many people who are all over the spectrum of human experience.

this is for every aro. you are all real and valid, and you all belong. this is a week to celebrate you. and I can only hope that you feel celebrated every other 51 weeks of the year, because aromanticism is beautiful and is something worth celebrating, always.

may you be happy. may you be fulfilled. may you find others like you. may you make it through the hard times to find a better world on the other side.

happy aromantic spectrum awareness week.