Hello, we are back from our hiatus. We honestly needed some time off to come up with ideas, but now we’re collectively making this post.
We do admit that we’re kind of nervous of posting this one. It’s a serious and very much incriminating post that will probably stir the community up, but we consider this post quite crucial in regards of how the community lures you in.
TW: The BITE model is often associated with cults, organizations, RAMCOA/OEA and so on. It describes extreme emotional abuse that these groups use. Please, do not read if this content triggers you.
What is the BITE model?
The BITE model is a type of abuse structure used by organizations, cults and groups. It uses very specific thought patterns to manage their victims, often divided in four types of control: behavior, information, thought and emotional.
As the image projects, there are multiple characteristics within these:
Behavioral: it refers to control of the entire ambience and surroundings, inciting the victim(s) into staying or being docile towards the authority. Punishment and rewards are usually very common in this specific area. Similarly, abusers always aim to have their victims be dependent, obedient and monitored.
Information: this is related to propaganda and false information dressed as truth. In this type of abuse, abusers discourage victims to look for external information, as well as constantly making the propaganda they provide look as a “them vs us” thing.
Thought: this specific bit is intertwined with the former point, as it is mass manipulation. Abusers will often encourage “good” thoughts, which leads to constant “black and white” thinking in this regard. They will make their propaganda feel as “all or nothing” or “good or bad,” and reject any nuance between them. Usually, they make you “stop thinking” for them to manipulate you, using intricate manipulation bits to make you stop question. A close example is to make you pray for having depression instead of reaching to its root.
Emotional: this is by far the most dangerous type of abuse in the model. In an organization, abusers will tend to have favoritism of specific people, usually making them feel like they are the chosen one, special or unique. On the other hand both “commoners” and “chosen ones” suffer from taught phobias (see: homophobia, transphobia and even xenophobia), guilt-tripping, and so on.
In simpler terms, an organization will constantly find ways to lure you in and, while you’re in that group or community, keep you controlled and spoon-fed with pseudo information, love-bombing and multiple other types of abuse.
“But what about radqueers?”
That’s probably the question you’re about to ask. And unfortunately, I have news for you; they operate on a scheme that, if it isn’t the same things verbatim, it is oddly similar to the BITE model. These traits we mention include:
Behavioral: constantly making sure that their members feel unsafe in other spaces by making them feel they will never be accepted; create dependence and obedience utilizing “lack of rules” as a rigid moral backbone; reactionary behavior as a defense to their beliefs.
Information: offer pseudo information about the trans- prefix, mental illnesses and even older terms as trans species or otherkinity; propaganda to lure in vulnerable people by romanticizing paraphilia/paraphilic disorders, mental illnesses and other things; treat people who even aren’t aware of the existence of their beliefs as enemies; controlling information by hiding other important details (youth liberation being treated as a “minors can consent” card, for example).
Thought: manipulating vulnerable members into thinking they are transX or have a paraphilia; encouraging the sexualization of IRL minors, paraphilia and trauma as “good thoughts”; frequently dissuading others from looking into other communities outside of the radqueer community.
Emotional: triggering victims to lure them in further; constantly manipulate them into thinking they can’t escape or that they will never be loved or appreciated in other communities; constantly treat your disorders as desirable (ie: treating NPD as something desirable or call themselves transAutistic).
These are just small examples of what some ex-radqueers have experienced, including us. But there are other multiple ways they can manipulate you into joining. After all, they pretty much operate on “solo” by creating spaces for themselves to create echo chambers.
Another thing we would like to bring up that are aligned with these bits of Hassan’s model are the following:
The “queerification” of mental illnesses and paraphilia
The growing influx of transIDs that may or may not work as propaganda
The curious yet worrying treatment of deity-kin within the community
The influx of “fults” (faux cults) within the community
Treating neoreligions as cults (this excludes pop culture deities, as these are simply egregores)
The constant romanticization of RAMCOA as a sexual kink
Conclusion:
While the comparison of radqueers to cults is rampant amongst the anti radqueer community, we personally consider that it is, in fact, not a cult. However, we DO consider that radqueers operate on similar schemes and modus operandi that mimic actual cults.
Radqueers constantly deny committing these types of abuse, but… If they are a “free-thinking” community, why would they allow a “trans” nazi on the community? More so, why do they commit to the bits and do follow the BITE model? Unless it is unknowingly, why would you do precisely what an organization of abusers would do to a victim? Especially a cult to its victims?
A big part of the community are victims of grooming within the space. Perhaps that is why most of them operate on the same pattern. But unfortunately, the thoughts and actions behind this community are dangerous to others and themselves.
I have a specific headcanon that might blow some leokumi fans’ minds
Usually you would expect Takumi to be the delicate-looking one while Leo is bigger and stronger. But i actually disagree.
See, Leo runs on horses. He uses swords. But his area of expertise is magic. The training may require agility if the mage is on foot, but Leo actually isn’t.
Takumi, being an archer, he requires more training in stealth, skill and strength. Carrying a yumi, even if it’s the fujin yumi, is already work as it is. The average bow is 1-5 lbs, and by the looks of it the fujin is made out of gold.
So ideally, Takumi would be on the bulkier side compared to Leo, who would be on the leaner, lighter side. I do also believe that Leo would be taller by at least half an inch but not more than 1.5”
Hello everyone, I'm Heather, I'm Fernando, and I'm BETTY! And we're The Cat Chorus~!
We saw that our co-workers/boss have a tumblr blog and we wanted to try it out! - Betty
Yes, what my little sister said. But do not fret as this is gonna be a shared blog, meaning that I'll keep an eye on my sisters actions if they do anything.. suspicious.. - Fernando
Mhm! We hope we'll be welcomed with open arms! - Heather
"I used to be a great Godnando. Always fighting for the point, always protecting my teammates, specially my healer. Anyone who dared to touch them would have to face me first. Until one day, after saving my main Ying friend, she told me she didn't need to be protected by me, and that I should go ahead and fight. Something broke on me that day, I suffered a crisis, becoming what I used to despise: A Flanknando"
Hey, thanks for making that transID alternatives post! I have something to add about why transID isn't the best term.
I was an adult during the 2010s Tumblr era, including the rise of MOGAI and otherkin on the platform. The first time I ever saw "trans [anything other than gender]" were on these very obvious troll blogs that were mocking transgender people and otherkin.
A very, very large portion of these blogs claimed, in addition to being transgender and transspecies, that they were transethnic or transabled, and if you didn't treat them as the race they claimed they wanted to be or the disability they were claiming, you were transphobic and no better than people who don't treat trans people as their genders.
I cannot overstate it that these people were trolls and not operating in good faith. Similarly to how the first use of the word "radqueer" was from outside the MOGAI community to mock the MOGAI community, the first use of what would now be recognized as "transID" came similarly from outside the community by people who want to mock it.
I have other complaints about comparing atypical forms of identity to queer identities by way of the "trans" prefix (transspecies is excluded because it has such a different history), but in terms of an older origin thing that others may not know as much about, yeah, that's something I remember that not everyone might know about.
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And!!! 🐀 is back at it again with the bangerposting!!
I did find out a page on the LGBTQIA+ wiki that pointed out that radqueer was actually derogatory against MOGAI people. Whether that is completely real or not, is yet to be fully uncovered by my own research… which is slower than snail, oops!!
Also, there is something ableist and straight up wrong about calling yourself trans-traumatized. I don’t know, but it kind of rings as “I have trauma I am not willing to accept yet” kind of energy that I honestly can’t even feel happy about. I think Augustine or someone else said it on a post, but being trans-abused or trans-traumatized is actually a cry for help, in my honest opinion.
I guess I should say something among the lines of: “I’m sorry that you went through it. It’s okay to be a victim, but you survived. You are here, standing. You don’t need a transID term, you just need a hug and comprehension.
Oh! I'd say it's absolutely wonderful! Especially when we get to work with others like Jack for example! - Heather
Yeah, but sometimes it can be a bit stressful. I mean, remember that one time where Rammy was late and Yoko almost cancelled the show? - Betty
Oh yeah, nobody can forget that. But it was a one time thing so I moved passed it. Besides, calling people out on their mistakes is kinda harsh, don't you think? - Fernando
