#presential attraction

[liomogai]

Could you make a term for one who feels presential attraction first then it fades into platonic attraction? Like one is attracted to someone presentially at first, then after a while they feel a mix of presential and platonic, then a while longer they feel only platonic attraction (sorry idk if this makes sense)

Attractionfaden

[PT: Attractionfaden]

A term denoting a form of attraction which, over time, fades into another form of attraction. For instance, one may initially feel romantic attraction towards someone, but that attraction may fade/turn into sexual attraction over time, with the romantic attraction slowly being "replaced" by sexual attraction.

Preseplatofaden

[PT: Preseplatofaden]

A term denoting presential attraction which, over time, fades into platonic attraction. One initially feels presential attraction towards someone, but that attraction fades/turns into platonic attraction over time, with the presential attraction slowly being "replaced" by platonic attraction.

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tagging @radiomogai

[dozingdahlias]

My squish isn’t a typical squish where I want to be best friends with him, or I want to be in a qpr with him.

I just want to be in his presence. Literally all I want is to be around him. To be in the same class as him and have him talk to me a little bit. To share an amused/exasperated glance with him when the class clown says something absurd. For him to say something to me in the lunch line if we’re next to each other. To congratulate me after a race.

[mourningmogaicrew]

Presential attraction

Flags in order from top left to bottom right: presential attraction, apresential, apres-spec, demipresential, autopresential, fraypresential, cupiopresential, apresflux, aprespike.

Presential attraction: attraction based on wanting to know someone through their physical presence.

Presential attraction is the opposite of virtudinal attraction. This is a type of tertiary attraction (or physical attraction) and is not the same as wanting to know someone IRL or wanting physical contact/touch.

Apresential: not experiencing presential attraction.

Apres-spec: experiencing atypical or little presential attraction.

Demipresential: only experiencing presential attraction to someone after you form a(n emotional) connection to them.

Greypresential: experiencing atypical presential attraction (or relating to apresential experiences but not fully).

Autopresential: experiencing presential attraction to yourself (more than is typical). Examples may include wanting to spend time with (a version of) yourself or wanting to be in your own physical presence.

Fraypresential: experiencing presential attraction to someone when you first meet them or get to know them, but then the attraction fades after you form a stronger connection to them. The opposite of demipresential.

Cupiopresential: not experiencing presential attraction, but still desiring a relationship based off presential attraction or physically spending a lot of time with someone (ex: living with them or just enjoying their presence).

Apresflux: when your orientation fluctuates on the apres spectrum. Some people may become allopresential or completely apresential at times, others just have small changes in the amount of presential attraction they feel.

Aprespike: usually feeling no or very little presential attraction, but sometimes having (more intense) spikes of attraction before returning to baseline.

Flags are based off the original presential attraction flag (eyestrain warning if you click on the link), the demi/greysexual flags, the auto-spec flag, the fray/cupiosexual flags, and the aceflux/spike flags.

Also please note that there is a cool presential flag redesign here (eyestrain warning again) but I wanted to go even simpler/less like the original with mine.

Presential attraction (AKA tangible attraction) was coined in 2018 and the flag was made in 2021, this is just me making some subterms!

Flag IDs in alt text.

[feliraeth]

post rubor presential flag

[pt: post rubor presential flag ! end pt.]

[id: a rectangular flag with seven stripes that gradient from yellow to grey-orange to black. end id.]

requested by ; anon :3

[aro-thoughts]

My type is, generally speaking, just 'unattainable'. And that's goddamn perfect for me. Majority fictional since that would never happen irl but the others that are real people I know, also would never happen. We have no actual chemistry and would probably never be interested in me/would be turned off once they got to actually know me (true story)

I think the reasoning for this is probably because it feels so comfortable this way, not having a pressure to pursue a relationship. I feel like if I ever crushed on someone who actually was attainable there'd be a pressure to pursue something romantic with them, which would probably be pretty uncomfortable for me

I'm rly happy in my presential attraction, just enjoying their presence and daydreaming, I don't want anything more

I come to this realisation cuz I developed a tiny crush on my friend's roommate 😳 I've heard about him a bunch but only met him in person today and when I saw him for the first time I accidentally saw him shirtless, istg it was like something out of a fanfic 😂😂

But he's got a girlfriend and we never trust J names so in what world would anything ever happen between us?? Plus he's a bit of a normie-

But I'm very happy with how that is :) I wouldn't want anything more ❤

[hypnosiacon-archived]

Feruvital Attraction: A combination of Feruvelic and Presential Attraction.

✖ Tagging @acidicwolf16

[lovequeerindigo]

i just found out what presential attraction and oh my god??? i think i’ve definitely felt that before (mixed in with others tho). like… i definitely felt it while with my ex gf.

[smol-aro-tea]

Here’s a song for you… I Like (the idea of) You by Tessa Violet

This song reminds me of the attraction that isn't well known in the community but that I feel the most: presential attraction.

Here, Tessa Violet sings about how she wouldn't consider a serious relationship with the person she's attracted to but she likes the idea of them.

Of course, she's not literally singing about presential attraction, as aros never get any representation, but I feel that this explains it quite simply.

I've felt presential attraction to 5 people and it's never intense. I never want to have sex with the person, spend my life with them, or even be their friend - I just want to be around them. And it's not a feeling that stems from their looks or their intelligence: it's about the person's overall vibes/aura/presence. I like (the idea of) them.

I hope this explains presential attraction well :) it's a bit of a lesser known attraction in the community as far as I've seen but it's very important to me as it's the attraction I feel the strongest. Other names you might know it by are tangible, material or vital attraction.

❤🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈