#reidentified

[gougarfem]

i buzzed my hair today and i feel incredible. everyone was so unsupportive, telling me I'd look unattractive (god fucking forbid) or that i should try a pixie cut instead, asking if i'm going back to my "boy phase" etc... i was so nervous and convinced it would look horrible but actually it suits me really well and i feel so much freer and instantly so confident. like, my mum won't even look me in the eyes but for once i don't care about what people think!! i'm so happy with it and if you're considering cutting/shaving your hair DO IT!! it's practical, attractive and fun to run your hands through lol

[werewolffem]

ngl, silencing or downplaying detransitioners views and experiences is just another way to glorify transitioning as something a teeny tiny group of people regret/nothing bad comes from transitioning.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Detrans Woman Pride Flag

Detrans woman (or reidentified woman): someone who detransitioned to womanhood.

It could overlap with FtMtF, however not every detrans woman feel represented by that acronym, some may detransition from being non-binary, for example (i.e. FtNtF).

[radtoken]

I try to use somewhat inclusive language and be somewhat affirming when it comes to talking about/to TiFs because I remember when I was first coming around to radical feminism. I had been entrenched in trans-rights activism, identifying as a transman and so utterly dysphoric that it was debilitating.

Not many radfems were welcoming to me, a 15 year old trans-identified female, despite the fact that I wanted to learn more. But the few who were, the few who, despite their beliefs about gender and TRAs, let me into their spaces and educated me (despite my obvious bias and ignorant questions). Those are the women who allowed me to strip myself from the transgender label. Those are the women who taught me how important radical feminism is—especially now.

I'm not saying you need to go out of your way to say that they can identify as men. I'm not saying you have to be ultra-sensitive when speaking to them. I'm just think that it'd pay to be a little bit kind, especially when they ask genuine questions.

(Luckily, I feel like most radfems now are nicer, or at least more tolerant, towards TiFs who are curious.)

[ahalfway]

woah its been 3 years since i last posted here. 2021. i can't believe how much has changed. i never could have predicated where i would be in 2024 back then. i never could have predicted having a loving wife and a loving partner and living somewhere totally different. i could never have predicted id own a house and have a dog and a friendship circle the size that it is. i could never have predicated being (more) comfortable with who i am as a person.

my last post, the last one i actually made for myself, talked about how i was terrified i was that nobody would ever see me for what i thought i was. but fuck me i was so so wrong.

turns out i just needed a friendship circle full of people who are gay, who are lesbian, who are bisexual, who are comfortable in who they are, who look at me when i say im a dyke-- with my ugly mustache and sometimes stubble beard, with my weird deep voice, with my surgery-flat chest and hairy back and hairy legs and the gut that testosterone gave me-- and go "yes, you are". who look at me and see me for me and respect my choices and my opinions. who let me call myself a he/she. who let me crawl in beside them and don't complain when my dykey little carabiner digs into their hips.

me three years ago could never have imagined. could never have even dreamed.

if you're detrans, if you want to pursue detransition, if your one month or one year or one decade into your transition and you look at yourself in a mirror and think it was all a mistake. it will be fine. it will be. it has to be. so surround yourself with love. surround yourself with dykes and fags and fruits and crossdressers. surround yourself with people that will look at you and say "yes, you are."

[battleczar]

have you considered that you might be agender? Or maybe a demigirl? Idk I’m trying to be compassionate and I see a lot of suffering under your hate

Yeah, anon. I have. If you read even a little bit of what I’ve written about my experiences with gender identity, even just my pinned post, you’ll see that I am very open about the fact that I identified as some flavor of trans or nonbinary for nine years.

Gender identity is a coping mechanism that allows women and girls to dissociate themselves from their status under patriarchy—a status that causes suffering on a scale that can’t even begin to be measured. Young girls see and experience that suffering, and they learn that suffering and being disrespected and violated is part of being female in our world.

Gender identity offers an escape. “What if, deep inside, you’re actually somebody who deserves respect? What if you’re an individual with needs and desires and an internal life that has nothing to do with the way women are forced to live?” For many women, that realization is simply that of “Women aren’t all the patriarchy says they are! We’re more!” But for many of those who are exposed to the grooming, petting, sycophantic rhetoric of gender identity, that thought process is interrupted, and molded into “If I’m not what society says a woman is, then I’m not a woman!” And you’re encouraged to never reflect on what that logic might say about how you perceive the women around you. You’re alienated from other women and from yourself, constantly occupied with how others perceive you and the crushing need to be different, bolstered by the doctrine that any woman who stays a woman must like it. You don’t like it.

Gender identity deadens your ability to meaningfully analyze and express your suffering. It takes away your language. It cuts off your connection to the women who came before you and the women who will come after you.

So yeah, I am suffering. But at least, having rejected everything that gender identity is and everything it does, I’m allowed to talk about what’s actually causing my suffering.

[incognitoradicale]

okay so how do I go off testosterone the smartest way? Just going at once probably isn't that good.

and I am not really wanting to tell the clinic because I fear they're gonna freak out LOL.

[plushself]

detransition/reidentified transmasc to nonbinary fem person !

top stripes represent femininity and detransition, bottom stripes represent non-binary identity, and the center represents the journey as a transmasc person, before the individual reidentified