#selflove threads

[sk-lumen]

It’s time for you to flourish like never before, it’s time for you to find the happiness and peace you’ve always wanted. It’s time.

[sk-lumen]

Nothing is worth sacrificing your mental health or wellbeing over. Understand the depth of that statement. Nothing and I mean absolutely nothing is worth sacrificing your mental health over.

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Because I love myself, I take the time to cook a hearty, delicious meal for myself. Even if cooking is not a preoccupation of mine, even if it is a chore, even if I'd rather be doing anything else. I take the time to nourish my body, because I know I will feel so much better, and stronger, and relish the gratitude that blooms in my chest for being kind to myself.

Because I love myself, I take the time to tidy up every day, to make my bed in the morning, because I know it gives a lovely start to my day and gives me a boost of satisfaction. I take the time to put my clothes away, and fold the dry laundry, and neatly prepare my outfit for the next day, because I know future me will breathe in relief and feel even a little more at ease for having a task already handled and sorted out, one less worry on my list.

Because I love myself, in each moment I mindfully and intentionally choose what is healthy, joyful and uplifting for me. In each moment, I choose whatever path is brighter and brings more ease and gentleness into my heart.

Because I love myself, I write out my to-do list as often as I can, because I know it will give me more peace of mind and focus so I can achieve my goals.

Because I love myself, I am mindful of my shortcomings, triggers, traumas and anxieties, and take mind not to trigger them; avoid actions that I know will trigger them, while at the same time lovingly working through then within myself, taking the time to address, evaluate and release what I can.

Because I love myself, I am mindful not to be hard on myself, or be overly critical, or demanding. I know that in each moment I am trying my best, and that is good enough, always and forever - even if my best happens to be 5%. It is ok. It is my best, and it is enough. Each day is different, and I welcome the beauty and diversity of that. I know that mistakes are inevitable, because that is life, and that ultimately there is no wrong or right, in the end your life choices simply are, and you take ownership for your decisions, because it is the path you have intentionally chosen for yourself.

Because I love myself, I understand that I am complex, that like nature itself, my spirit moves through seasons where I am reborn, bloom wildly, recharge or hibernate; like the moon, my spirit moves through cycles where I burn brightest and then withdraw, even drown, in my own darkness. Because balance is necessary for the spirit, mind and body to integrate all its intricate, miraculous facets, both dark and light.

Because I love myself, I know that life is not a race, or a competition, and so I do not strive to be better than anyone else, other than myself; I strive not to outdo anyone else, but myself; I strive for the highest regard of no one else, other than myself; I strive for self development, and not artificial (and consequently subjective and relative) perfection.

Because I love myself, I forgive all those that have wronged me, not firstly for the sake of others, but for my own peace of mind and soul, so I may release myself from the captivity of painful bonds, relationships, memories. I forgive all those that have wronged me, including myself, because I know myself, and know my value, and my worth, and most of all know that I deserve to be happy and at peace - with myself, with others, with my past.

Because I love myself, I know that I am not a fixed definition in the vocabulary of all that know me. Instead I am a concept, an ever changing enigma even to myself. I am always evolving, improving, transforming; and that is something that nobody and nothing can withhold from me, or hold against me.

Because I love myself, I know that life is not about doing the right thing according to this or that. Instead, life is about choosing for me what makes me happiest and most at peace (but never at the negative expense of others). I understand that I am the protagonist of my story, and that the only editor of my narrative is me - not my friends, or lovers, or family. I can erase, rewrite and draft my storyline as many times as I need, as many times as I want.

I love myself, because that is my base nature, it is my natural self. When I relax into my being, when I let myself to simply be, I relax into my most natural state, and that is love.

A Manifesto Of Self Love by SK Lumen

[sk-lumen]

here is your gentle reminder to...

🌷 relax your shoulders, release the tension in your body

🌸 don’t be so hard on yourself, i promise whatever weighs down on you is not worth punishing yourself over. it’s going to be okay

😌 take a deep breath. know that you are good enough

🌿 take it easy, I know you’ve been trying your best and I’m proud of you

🥤 drink more water, just like a thirsty little plant under the sun your body needs to hydrate

🌞 not every day needs to be productive or amazing, it’s ok to have days where you are simply living mindfully, being in the moment, enjoying a book or slowing down to catch up with yourself

🎨 not every work of art has to be perfect, or have a purpose, or an agenda, or look pretty. often times you need to let your creativity splash and splurge around with colors just for the sake of expressing yourself. expression is a good enough reason.

[sk-lumen]

Categories by which you can sort your glow up / self development process:

fashion (wardrobe, jewelry, shoes collection, etc)

body (nutritious diet, skincare, haircare, teeth, fitness, etc)

mental wellbeing (confidence and self-esteem, positivity, focus)

emotional wellbeing (emotional stability, addressing inner wounds, childhood wounds, traumas, anxieties - you have to be in a balanced place in order to really thrive)

education (learning new languages, cultures; courses and certifications; learning about various topics, politics, science, whatever interests you)

grace, poise, posture, manners

financial education - a separate category in and of itself because being financially savvy will change your life (basic financial education, how to invest, healthy money mindset, what are good investments, how mortgages work, etc)

and so many more!

Feel free to add more below or let me know if you’d like more in-depth article on this. 

💋 𝐿𝓊𝓂𝑒𝓃

[sk-lumen]

Find the beautiful in you.

If you have freckles, cherish them as the marks of your guardian angel’s kisses as a newborn.

If you have stretchmarks, cherish them as tiger strips obtained as a graceful, elegant feline on the prowl.

If you have scars or spots, cherish them as sacred scriptures painted or indented into your skin like braille, there for yourself and loved ones to trace the story of your heart.

If you’re tall and skinny, cherish how you look statuesque and effortlessly chic in tailored, loose clothing.

If you’re curvy, cherish how you look like a goddess in dresses and outfits that accentuate your feminine silhouette.

If you have blonde hair that you think is dishwater colored, let yourself soak up the golden sunlight until your hair is sunkissed with rays of gold, as if dipped in honey.

If you have dark hair which you find bland and mundane, cherish how it looks like the luster of a pond at nighttime, or like the glistening feathers of a jetblack raven.

If your hair is strawberry blonde or ginger and you’re still grappling to come to terms with how bright and loud it is, cherish how it is the color of fire, ever warming, tumultuous and enchanting.

If you have pale skin that you find sickly and unsightly, cherish the exquisite luminosity of it like sheer gauze or porcelain polished bright. It is the color of alabaster statues dewy with rain.

If you have deep brown skin, cherish how it is the color of the rich, fruitful soil out of which anything and anything can luxuriously grow anew. It is the color of potential, of mother earth, of everything calm and anchoring.

Find the beautiful in you for you are a walking masterpiece.

[sk-lumen]

How to be a High Value Woman

We have already discussed how to be a classy woman, as it is the foundation for elegance and success. If being classy is the first level of your level up journey, then being a high value woman is the top level. In this article, we will be analyzing the qualities of a high value woman, but also focusing on tips on how to improve yourself in the areas where you are struggling. After all, we’re all looking to improve ourselves in practical and measurable ways, and not just daydream about an ideal higher self.

1. Self love

First and foremost, a high-value woman has a strong foundation, and that foundation is none other than her own love, appreciation and support. It is the way to grow thick, stable roots deep into the earth of her own consciousness, as that is the only way mountains can establish the strongest foundation.

If you’re still struggling with deep insecurity or self-acceptance issues, or self-loathing… learning to embrace who you are (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually) is the first and most important lesson to sort through if you want to level up and be a high value woman. Otherwise, any challenges appearing from the other qualities listed down below, will keep knocking you off balance, which is why the foundation... Read more

[sk-lumen]

Nothing you say or do can make you inherently unlovable. Nothing you say or do can make you inherently unlovable. Nothing you say or do can make you inherently unlovable. Nothing you say or do can make you inherently unlovable. Nothing you say or do can make you inherently unlovable. Nothing you say or do can make you inherently unlovable.