#trauma regression

[perma-kiddo]

Homeless regressors are valid

Regressors who need someone else to keep track of/control their medicine are valid

Regressors with insomnia are valid

Regressors who struggles with memories/flashbacks are valid

Poor regressors/regressors in poverty are valid

Substance abusing/active addict regressors are valid

Regressors who are in and out of hospitals/psych wards are valid

Regressors who experience psychosis or "scary" mental illnesses are valid

Regressors with severe mental issues are valid

Regressors who are mentally and physically disabled are valid

Regressors who are plus size or underweight are valid

Regressors who struggle with/ cant function and valid

Regressors who are scared of adult figures are valid

Regressors who find comfort in things other might find gross or disturbing are valid

Regressors who actively struggle with SH and EDs are valid

Regressors who struggle with suicidal thoughts and behaviors are still valid

Regressors who are scared of people are still valid

Regressors who are bed bound are valid

Regressors who have no one to care for them are valid

Regressors who are too scared to ask for help are valid

Regressors who struggle with intrusive thoughts, no matter what they are, are still valid

Regressors who hate their regression are valid

(alll regressors are valid no matter what, despite the fact some might make you uncomfortable, just block them and move along, "negative"/struggling regressors are still valid and allowed in the community)

[bunnelbaby]

to those who are learning to embrace their regression, overcoming shame, guilt and self loathing regarding their coping mechanism, allowing themselves time to grieve the loss or lack of a carefree childhood, and creating a safe space to heal their inner child—i’m so proud of you.

[tinytrax]

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[caninecarer]

let's talk about caring for a regressor with PTSD/trauma.

i think a lot of regressors would describe themselves as sensitive when they're regressed, which makes sense. but when that heightened sensitivity is engulfed in panic attacks and flashbacks? it's truly devastating to witness.

if you're a carer to a little one with PTSD/trauma, know that i'm proud of you and your kiddo knows how much you love them. i sometimes struggle with blaming myself for setbacks in my kid's recovery, and if anyone feels the same, i want you to know that i know you're doing the best you can. remember that you're not responsible for their healing, and although you truly want to be there for your little one, you deserve to have your needs met too.

of course, such low lows make the highs seem even higher; the mornings when your kid wakes up and says they had no nightmares; teaching them to use self soothing techniques; proving to them each and every day that you're not going anywhere... don't get me wrong. i would do anything to rid my kid of their trauma. but i wouldn't trade them for the world.

[cutiepieautistic]

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[birthdaypup]

"you must be fun at parties..."

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[amamimimi]

Big Feelings: A Guided Journal Worksheet for Vent Regressors ☆

Journaling can be fun with lots of creative activities, but sometimes regression isn't as happy or bubbly as most journal prompts seem. Big Feelings can be especially hard and scary to work through in the moment when you're small and don't have the words to talk about them. Having the comfort of a caregiver and letting those feelings out in a safe place is good start, but not everyone has or wants a caregiver and working through the feelings is a big part that I don't see many people talk about in the agere space.

It helps to have other ways to show and get out your feelings when they get overwhelming, but some regressors need a bit more of a structured, guided way to make sense of the messy feelings in their head. My little Kokki is one of them, so I decided to put together some more guided questions for journaling through Big Feelings in a way that hopefully will feel safer and still maintain that small, more simple headspace to make it feel less scary to do. Something that a regressor could do on their own or with the extra guidance of a caregiver.

I may add more as new ideas come to me, and other caregivers are free to suggest additions as well. I hope they help!

☆ Big Feelings in Our Body

Sometimes we feel Big Feelings in different parts of our body—your tummy aches or your chest gets tight or your face gets hot. Where do you feel your Feelings right now? Draw a picture of yourself or your stuffie and color in the parts of your body where you feel your Big Feelings the most. Think about the sorts of ways this Feeling shows up in your body. Is there a lot of energy in your body that needs to come out? Or is your body tired and needs a rest? Why do you think that your Big Feelings might feel differently in your body? What sort of Feeling do you think is making your body feel this way now? Now that you know where your Big Feelings are in your body and what they might be telling you, you can do things to help it feel better. Tea or a small snack can help a tummy ache, or a cool washcloth can help soothe hot, teary eyes. What are some things you can do to help your body feel better? Draw or list some ideas that you can try.

☆ Big Feelings as Art

Some people like to associate their Big Feelings with certain colors, shapes, or things. What colors are your Feelings right now? Draw some shapes or things in that color that also remind you of this Feeling. Think about how this Feeling might change the way you color. Do you scribble or draw neat lines? Do you press your crayon or marker harder or softer? Why do you think that your Big Feelings might change the way you do things? What sort of Feeling do you think is making you color this way now? Now that you know what kinds of art match your Big Feelings and what they might mean, let's think about kinds of art that help you feel better. What colors feel safe to you? On a new page, draw some shapes and things in that color that also feel safe. How has the way you color changed to match what you're drawing now?

☆ Things that Cause Big Feelings

A lot of the time, Big Feelings happen because of something that happened around us to make us feel that way. It can be scary to think about these things, but learning what causes Big Feelings to happen can help you better handle those things in the future. It's alright if you're not sure, though. Recognizing what causes Big Feelings to happen is hard and takes practice. What happened this time that might have caused these Feelings to come up? Was it one big thing or a lot of little things? Why do you think that made you Feel the way you did? Did it remind you of something that happened in the past? Or was it something new that caused bad thoughts? What are some ideas you can do for next time to help keep yourself safe? Are there boundaries you can place or safe people you can tell to help you?

☆ Talking About Big Feelings

Talking about Big Feelings can be scary, but it's very important to communicate with the people you care about. If you feel safe doing so, try sharing these prompts and your answers with people you trust to open a discussion. If you have one, share your worksheet answers with your caregiver and talk about why you answered the way you did. Brainstorm some ideas together on how you can communicate and handle similar Big Feelings next time. If you'd rather not share your regression with other people, at a time when you're feeling bigger, you can take a look at your answers again to help you find your own words to talk about it with a friend in a bigger headspace.

[dragon-queen21]

Trauma Regressor Naruto headcanons

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~Naruto who everytime he regresses reveals something else about his childhood, (or lack thereof) and makes team 7 more and more concerned

~What do you mean you don’t have a favorite bed time story as a kid? What do you mean no one ever read to you and tucked you into bed that you can remember?!

~No one can actually say ‘oh yeah you used to do this as an actual kid’

~Team seven thinking he’s stupid when they go to the store cause Kakashi promised them (cough cough bribed cough) them with a new toy if they could get through the day without giving him a headache and Naruto brings more money than the item actually costs. “Read the tag idiot! Or are you already small?” “Am not! And the numbers mean nothing! Maybe to you guys but they always change it for me!”

~Kakashi finding a mentally two year old fox kit in his kitchen, trying to cook, with a burn on his hand, near tears, because the powers out in his apartment and he’s upset and still would rather be a sad emotional mess than ask Kakashi or literally anyone, for help. Because no, why would Naruto ask for help when he’s small? He cooked for himself as a child or he’d starve. He should be able to do this. Kakashi is just *tired dad sigh* picks up the sobbing toddler and is forced to actually make himself and the regressor breakfast

~Kiddo who’s never run a bubble bath ever before. Luxury of affording fancy soap? Never. Water ever being clean enough to want to soak in it? Yeah no thanks.

~Intrusive fox kit thoughts that tell him to bite the suds >:] while Kakashi is filling up the tub. Terrible idea mind you, his whole face is soaked and he has soap in his eyes and Kakashi is like ‘What did you do?!’ Like he fell into the tub while the caregiver was like two feet away.

~(Also him and Sasuke having a bath together when they are both little. It takes one splash before all hell breaks loose and poor Kakashi is drenched in what feels like a tidal wave, guess he might as well take a shower now too once this is all over, he’s soaked through enough to warrant it)

~Sakura who has to teach him how to play pretend. She has an extensive collection of dolls and mini figurines. And he kinda recalls some broken toys he nicked as a kid that were left abandoned at school. Toy soldiers, marbles and the like…

~He didn’t have the chance to play, not really. Not in anyway that mattered past trying to get seen. He doesn’t know how to answer her.

~Kakashi in a couple hours will have a very bossy mentally five year old demanding he take both her and Naruto to the toy store right this second “Kashiii it’s important!”

~Sasuke who is pointedly big and dragged into a game of make believe by Naruto when Sakura is busy and can’t play and is immediately so concerned over how Naruto depicts characters.

“You are like two years old right now why the hell do you know those kind of words?! No you’re not bad! Yes the word’s your using are- what the heck Naruto!”

<- He scolds Sakura about her choice in storylines only for her to be just as baffled. Yeah most the times she picks the game when playing with Naruto but it’s usually some cheesy romance story or something with super heroes or some fluffy slice of life thing where she specifies roles- not whatever that was Naruto was repeating the heck?! (Cough cough children playing out the abuse they witness/experience through their toys cough)

~Who clings to Kakashi with a death grip, or Sasuke, or Sakura, or anyone he remotely trusts when regressed and in public. At first it’s taken as cute, “Aww you shy little kit? Think you’re going to get lost?” Is Sakura’s response, teasingly like any older sister would, “You know you can hold my hand, if you… want…” before realizing that Naruto’s trembling when they pass a group of civilians, clinging to her with a death grip, flinching when she tries to reach out and comfort him.

~Who’s house is bare and horrible and weirdly damp and smells of mildew and suddenly he’s not living there anymore, he’s staying with Kakashi. These are not kiddo friendly environments