Think about the genuineness of healthy children before they’ve been taught to cover up their feelings and think about their actions. They have great energy because they’re not in any internal conflict. They’re comfortable in their bodies, open with other people, and ready for the next thing. They are guided from within by what they like and don’t like, and they feel safe sharing their emotional truth with people they love. Locating your true self involves noticing your dreams, feelings, and impulses when you’re totally being yourself—as most children do naturally.
You are quietly confident and there’s no internal struggle. Words and ideas come to you from a deep inner sensibility, and you can tell what’s true and what’s not. Above all, there is a sense that no matter what happens, everything will be all right because you’re in the right frame of mind to handle it. Feeling firm, yet peaceful, you see the heart of the matter and move forward without ambivalence...
Your true self speaks with a still, small voice that guides you toward things that enhance your life energy and support your essential individuality (Gibson 2020). If you fight this inner guidance, you can produce internal conflicts so strong that they can cause symptoms. For instance, we become anxious when we deny our true wishes, and we become depressed when we think there’s no hope for being our authentic selves.
So where is this true self when you really need it? You know, like when you’re struggling with domineering or coercive behavior? It’s still there, but it gets hidden as your defenses step in. You have to tune into it. So, if possible, take the necessary moments to center yourself before you have any significant interaction. When your true self is leading the rest of your personality, you’ll be calmer and much less reactive (Schwartz 1995, 2022).
Your true self is the foundation of your entire personality, and it has been there since your beginning. It’s always there if you remember to look for it. Part of the popularity of meditation and mindfulness is that these practices take you into the spaces where the true self lives, where you can connect with your own depths.
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As you tune in to yourself, you’ll discover what you really think, how you really feel, and what you do and don’t need from others. It always amazes me how some people, after reconnecting with their true feelings, spontaneously start speaking the truth to EIPs simply because it’s so much easier to just say what needs to be said rather than quash it. When you’re in touch with your true self, the right words come out.
Your true self lives in quietness, awareness, and calmness (Schwartz 1995). Meditation, mindfulness, journaling, therapy, or deep conversations with a trusted friend can reconnect you with the essence of your true self. There are easily accessible meditation apps (for example, Headspace, Calm) and resources online, or you can search out introductory meditation books that appeal to you either online or in bookstores. You can use these resources to clarify what appeals to you and what makes you feel energized and alive.
When you’re faced with a difficult challenge, you can get quiet and ask yourself: What is the most essential truth about myself and this situation? Writing out your emotions, values, and perspectives can help you connect more deeply with your authentic self, and soon it will emerge more often in your interactions.
you don't have to fulfill anything or anyone. no inner man, no outer man. you are already fulfilled. detach and disidentify from the stories that say you're not. you're fulfillment itself.
Genetic engineering has made transhumanism available to everyone! Now that you've designed your ideal body (see links below for previous polls), what is the best description of your new form?
In India, you won't get a 'good husband' if you aren't of a fair complexion. Some colours won't suit you if you are black. This has been going on since ages. Before we were introduced to social media, bollywood played a big role in most of the Indians' lives. Everyone wanted to be as 'beautiful' as so and so actor/actress. And by beautiful they mainly meant being fair. This increased the production of creams like "Fair & Lovely" and "Whitetone". Ads showed a woman who used these creams would immediately win a guy or get a job. These ideas have narrowed down people's mindsets even more. Brown girls had no choice but use tons of make up which damaged their skin even more. And obviously this will give the society to talk shit about her even more. As there is now one more reason why a guy, who isn't open minded, won't marry her. What's the point of marrying a guy, who won't accept you for you, who won't look at your inner beauty, your trueself, and blindly looks for a girl who is perfect as per society's norms. As per the post, what if a kid who has dark complexion thinks that he/she is ugly for the rest of his/her life? Won't that be traumatizing for him/her ? Chances are he/she will get bullied during school years and he/she will end up harming his/her own skin.
Society won't leave you unless and until you feel like a total failure.
I am really glad that today's generation are well educated about sensitive topics like this and are empathetic towards others, and I do hope that such cheap thoughts won't be passed down to the next generation as it was passed down to the previous ones.
This isn't right. People should be appreciated for who they are. Change for the better.
