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I think when a sub says "you can do whatever you want to me" what they're actually wanting is to not make decisions anymore, and they think by saying this they can foist the decision making off on the dom without having to do any of the work beforehand. But unfortunately to get to the Not Making Choices part of kink you do in fact have to make a Lot Of Choices beforehand and communicate those choices to your partner. This is an essential part of the process and skipping it is both unsafe and unfair for whoever you're playing with.

Not Making Choices is the reward for communicating clearly, not the default

beastoftimes

i think “biological clock” is fake but what’s real is that you hit a certain number and manner of deaths in life around 30 & start to be like. life must also be created and continue. that’s why old people like babies so much more than young people

dont-give-a-fuck-club

lilyblisslys

this is how lesbians text when you’re trying to figure out where to go for dinner

churrotowns

since it’s pride month, throwback to this beautiful cover and this wholesome interaction between two icons

brightlotusmoon

catgirlmimikyu

I don't understand husbands who dgaf abt their wife's interests. you should be getting hard every time she nerds out, no exceptions

louisegluckpdf

Truly one of the unsung heroes of posting

longseasons

gwydionmisha

Bonus: If I buy a book I get to keep it! The publisher can't turn up at my house at random and confiscate all the books I bought.

dreamyfreakout

i am working on a little site for class hehe :3c

dreamyfreakout

it'll have some stuff like this :-) ~ wip ~ but yeaa ~ lots of ideas on writing lyrics, chord progressions, song structure, etc.

dreamyfreakout

the site will also have illustrations like this >w< i am trying to make it all with this limited color palette (which is afun challenge & i'm already enjoying the cohesion) ^w^ ~ i will also be making the content mostly under a creative commons license so it can be reused/edited/etc. fwiw... anywayssss... i hope ramblings about my class projects are interesting ~ cus i am trying to make them good and worthwhile >w<!!

dreamyfreakout

i have the kind of mental illness that makes me wanna make weird stuff... but maybe the site will have a little chord progression randomizer lol... >w<

konoko

girlwhoisgoingtobeokay

I HAVE TO DO THE WORK SO THAT MY LIFE CAN BE DIFFERENT AND I CAN REAP THE BENEFITS

quasistarjudgement

pastperfectcontinuous

bell hooks mentioned going through a time in her life where she was severely depressed and suicidal and how the only way she got through it was through changing her environment: She surrounded her home with buddhas of all colors, Audre Lorde’s A Litany for Survival facing her as she wakes up, and filling the space she saw everyday with reinforcing objects and meaningful books. She asks herself each day, “What are you going to do today to resist domination?” I also really liked it when she said that in order to move from pain to power, it is crucial to engage in “an active rewriting of our lives.”

ritavonbees

I have come to think of the suicidal impulse as the brain waving a flag to say three things:

something needs to change here

this is urgent

I don’t know how to do it

death is the ultimate metaphor for drastic change. it’s a general specific. whatever your problems are, it is very likely that dead people don’t have to deal with them. a real solution to your problems may demand a very narrow range of action that’s likely to be out of reach at this moment, but death is sold on every street corner, so it feels like a more realistic fantasy than happiness.

you don’t really want to die per se but it’s also not completely random chemicals swamping your brain for no reason. you want the pain to stop, you want to be somewhere else, you want to be someone else. it’s urgent. you don’t know how to do it. the end is not the end but a means that feels within your reach right now.

this is the wisdom of bell hooks: daily rituals of meaning and resistance and solidarity are part of slowly building a future where you can make the change you really need. and only alive people can do that. every step you take towards change and power is another step away from death.