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💛Self Care Blog💛

[gloupblog]

I’m in a very different place to a lot of my friends at the moment but that does not mean I am better than them or worse than them, it means we are doing our own things at our own pace and I hope we all do well wherever we are

[sunlitsuggestions]

taking care of yourself doesn't always feel good, setting boundaries is painful, trust your limits, know when to make yourself rest, know when you need solitude

[thelatestkate]

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[wholeheartedsuggestions]

congratulations on getting through the day even if it was really, really hard. you’re doing great.

[turing-tested]

self care is putting yourself to bed on a regular schedule because it’s the base treatment for mood disorders

there’s no twist or anything it’s just really really good for u to sleep at consistent times

[fishmalazahn]

[succubusboyfriend]

look if you’re feeling really low the questions “am i hungry,” “am i thirsty,” “am i sleepy,” “do i need to bathe,” etc ARE very very important for you to ask yourself but something else you should ask is “have i done anything today??”

when you’ve got mental illness esp anything related to depression or executive dysfunction it can be VERY HARD for you to be productive sometimes, but. the human brain literally hates being bored and it hates feeling like it hasn’t accomplished anything; sitting around stagnant is just gonna make you more miserable.

even just getting up and washing a couple dishes can take a shit ton of the weight off. it doesn’t have to be something big. just do… something.

[omgthatdress]

Putting these up for anyone who needs them today.

Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward

Why Does he DO That: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

[superopinionated]

Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.

IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.

So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.

And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.

[omgthatdress]

^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is

[kithnkin]

Also recommending

[swampseer]

Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.

[heysawbones]

Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.

[robotsandfrippary]

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family.  It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors. 

[anna-mator]

A gentle reminder that I have Toxic Parents as a FREE PDF if you would like to download it and read it on your own. Take care of yourselves.

[heavyweightheart]

All the books in this thread are great; adding this one because it was the most helpful to me. Free pdf here

[the-patchwork-sun]

Giving up is not failure. If something is making you miserable, sometimes it really isn’t worth it. It’s not weak to let some things go.

[future-ghosts]

it's never too late to start your day

insomnia got you sleeping in until 2 pm?

that's okay. get yourself some coffee and go thrift shopping, no one will know

anxiety got you staring at walls until 8 pm?

it's going to get better. start a load of laundry and take a hot shower, so you go to sleep clean

depression keep you locked in your room until 11 pm?

it'll be alright. drive to walmart and buy some nice candles for your night, you'll wake up with something new

you don't have to start your day in the morning. i start at 5 pm sometimes and let me tell you, doing something almost always feels better than doing nothing. it doesn't have to be big or important. it doesn't have to be too much to handle. it's enough to wash your face, or comb out your hair. if you feel tired, it's enough to make a list of things you want to do tomorrow. don't let the clock hold you back. it's a piece of glass and plastic. you get to decide what a day is.

[untitled4022]

Daily reminder: some points = better than no points.

I came to class today completely unprepared and bombed the 10 point quiz. I got one question right purely on luck.

But you know what? 20% is better than the 0% I would have gotten if I had skipped class.

And it will be okay.

[abcsofadhd]

This took me 6 years of failing to learn.

I would skip tests and miss assignments I hadn’t fully studied or completed. I dunno why. Perfectionism? Maybe cause in my head, an automatic 0 was better than low grades, which would be proof I was struggling? Who can say.

Then at the end, I would fail getting 37-38%. Had I just submitted the half completed assignments or taken the half studied test, I might have passed instead of failing.

Some points is always better than no points. 

[emmeetslawschool]

This is also broadly applicable to life where there are no "real" points. But some cleaning is better than no cleaning. Some progress on a project is better than no progress on a project. A short time getting active is better than no time being active. etc. etc.

[imnotcrazyidontthink]

A friendly reminder :)

[the-patchwork-sun]

Steps to unlearning self consciousness about your voice

1. Hum along to your favorite songs.

2. Stop covering your mouth when you laugh.

3. Raise your hand in class. Speak up, even if you feel a bit shaky.

4. Talk to yourself. Not sure what to say? Talk through problems, talk about your feelings, talk about your grocery list or what you’re planning on doing today. If you don’t think you can be nice while talking to yourself, talk to your cat or your plant or your stuffed animal. (Stuffed animals will never judge you.)

5. Sing in the shower. Sing when there’s nobody home. Sing songs you love; songs that make you feel things. Your voice will crack. You won’t hit the notes. Sing anyway.

6. Read out loud. Read passages of your book, read poetry, hell, read your homework out loud. Notice how long you can speak without taking a breath, notice how the inflections sound in your voice, notice how some words drag into each other, while others are crisp and sharp. You don’t have to like the way you read, or dislike it. Just notice.

7. Call out to people. Call out to your friend across the hall, or your neighbor across the street. Yes, people might notice you. It’s okay. Let your voice reach farther than you think it can.

8. Don’t let people interrupt you! (This is a tricky one.) If someone tries, tell them that you were still speaking, and finish your sentence. Don’t acknowledge what they’ve said until you finish your thought. (Note that all interruptions are not meant badly—people get excited to share their thoughts, and forget to wait their turn. Just because an interruption was well-intentioned does not mean that you need to hold your tongue.)

9. Start conversations. You don’t have to wait to be spoken to.

10. Sing along at concerts, scream yourself hoarse with the rest of the crowd. Sing along with your friends as they all chime in to that song you guys all know. Sing along when your dad plays that one album you know by heart.

11. Listen to recordings of your own voice. It only sounds like that the first dozen times you hear it, and then it might not be the most pleasant thing, but it won’t be so utterly abhorrent, either.

12. Practice presentations and speeches and monologues in front of an audience. Read for your family, read for your friends, and when the time comes, get on stage and speak.

13. Laugh loudly. Sing at the top of your lungs. Speak up. Shout! And when that voice in your head(maybe it’s your own, and maybe it’s not) tells you to quiet down? Ignore it. You don’t have to listen.

It will take some time. It won’t be easy. But your voice? It’s worth it. No matter what it sounds like, your voice is beautiful, and important, and the world needs to hear it.

[rosalitadiazz-deactivated202003]

[lostingradschool]

Self care is essential. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself. Give yourself the same love you give to others

[mywhisperedcolors]

[thefrizzkid-deactivated20220425]

Let your heart remind you that you deserve good things, even when your brain has you convinced that you don’t.