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Gender, plurality, neurodivergence & the rest of it

[whatthehellisthis-world]

I hate pericis people so much.

[whatthehellisthis-world]

Just say that we are men at this point. I don't want this wishy washy bullshit about socialisation and power dynamics. You, a cis person, have more power over me than I have over you, and you know this.

These people think that non binary people AMAB are just cis men that have different pronouns and it shows. They have no concept of medical transition. They have no concept of intersex people. They have bought into the belief that non binary people are just people that choose different pronouns and do nothing else.

This person is a cis gay man, and he thinks he can talk down to us about power dynamics? Give me a fucking break. I bet that he thinks the same way about non binary people AFAB, that they're quirky cis women who choose different pronouns. This shit pisses me off so much.

[the-xnor-star]

I find it a little weird that we even need a term like "diamoric". Not that I want it purged from the public consciousness or anything, but we don't exactly have a relationship term for "whatever with a woman in it", do we? I don't feel like I bring any particular quality to every single of my relationships just by being nonbinary, and I find the implication awkward. My relationships are certainly queer, though, same as any gay relationship.

[sweetneapolitan]

Hii!!! Here are some terms for relationships that include nonbinary people/define nonbinary attraction

Diamoric: Considered an umbrella term referring to attractions experienced by non-binary individuals that cannot be described with language such as same/similar or different/opposite gender, such as "straight" or "gay".

Trixic: Describes a person with a nonbinary gender identity who is attracted to women. Or a relationship that includes a nonbinary person and a woman.

Toric: Describes a person with a nonbinary gender identity who is attracted to men. Or a relationship that includes a nonbinary person and a man.

Enbian: Refers to a relationship between nonbinary individuals, or nonbinary people with attraction to other nonbinary individuals.

Sources:

Diamoric is generally considered an umbrella term referring to attractions experienced by non-binary individuals that cannot be described wi

Describes a person with a nonbinary gender identity who is sexually and/or romantically attracted to women.

Toric

[giggle-bones]

Not every intersex person with a vagina was AFAB. I feel like people should maybe comprehend that. Ive seen a lot of hate for people saying "You can have a vagina and be transfem" and regardless of how you feel about afab transfem stuff it doesnt matter because you do not have to have been AFAB to have a vagina.

Like no... even with "male-leaning" genitalia on the ambiguous genitalia scale you can still have a vagina. Thats literally just the hole, usually itd be blind in those cases aka, not leading to like a uterus. But it is very much still there.

I need perisex trans & cis people to genuinely just take a step back and learn anything at all before they start enforcing arbitrary rules onto us that dont make any sense. We really gotta teach you guys to not use AGAB as shorthand for the sex traits that someone does or does not have, because really it means jackshit.

(Also if you call caring about intersex trans people "whataboutism" i will eat your BONES! caring about a discriminated against large part of your community and how they fit in is not whataboutism.)

[the-xnor-star]

It's very important to me pesonally that every alter in my system is capable of feeling the full range of emotions. There must not be "feel good" or "feel bad" alters. It's conducive to survival.

[elegantpersoncreation-2]

Arthur Hacker, English painter(1858–1919)

[lockssteps]

im a fake fan of everything i like because i cant remember anything

[tramontane-fire]

Reblog if you are Bad Queer Representation.

[homunculus-argument]

When I was a kid almost every other kid I knew had parents who were divorced. That wasn't confusing, sad or scary to me, it was just the normal way that people do things. As far as I was concerned, at seven years old, was that adults get married twice. First they marry someone they have their (first) kids with, and then after a while when the kids are older, they get divorced and marry someone who they are actually happy and in love with. That made perfect sense to me.

What I didn't understand was why my parents just stubbornly refused to get a divorce and go find and marry some other people who make them happy. Everyone else's parents have already done it.

[what-even-is-thiss]

The amount of slavery in Ancient Rome was legitimately terrifying tbh

[what-even-is-thiss]

Y’all know that I’m into ancient Roman history and I do a lot of research on it but even though I should be used to it by now sometimes I read an anecdote about how an individual slave was treated and I’m hit with the realization that like a third of the population was living like that and I just need to put my head in my hands for a second

[what-even-is-thiss]

Emperor Hadrian randomly stabbed a slave in the eye in a fit of rage and he was supposedly unusually sympathetic to slaves.

There’s other instances of people randomly punching slaves that they didn’t even know because they got in their way or something. This was just normal behavior.

And slaves didn’t rebel en masse because if even one slave committed an act of violent rebellion it was common practice to kill every slave and former slave in the household.

People only took notice for posterity when these mass executions got into the hundreds of people. One of the few recorded for the history books is of over 400 people being killed because one guy stabbed his enslaver.

Like how many people throughout history were beaten to death because some rich asshole was angry and there was no legal or social consequences for doing so? We don’t know.

[what-even-is-thiss]

When you study ancient history you’re reminded that slavery has never once been kind or justified. It just takes on different forms of evil in every time and place that it infects.

[hesperocyon-lesbian]

Lurking under this is also the fact that most Roman mining operations were done by slaves in conditions that were far more brutal than those of household slaves, to the point that sending a slave to the mines is a threat I’ve read leveraged multiple times in separate texts

[cassavee]

Historian Emma Southon has touched on this in her books A Fatal Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum and A Rome of One's Own, and her newest book Not Built in a Day is specifically about slavery in the Roman Empire. I want to read it, I just need time to brace myself emotionally.

In fiction, the Wolf Den trilogy (The Wolf Den, The House with the Golden Door, The Temple of Fortuna) by Elodie Harper follows a woman who was sold into slavery and claws her way up from life as a prostitute, and no punches are pulled regarding how much she does not want to go back and what she will do to keep what freedom she has.

[thisisexorsexism]

Our language is treated as a joke. Our inclusion is treated as a joke. Why are all alternatives to 'ladies and gentlemen' humorous? What if I wanted to feel included in a formal context? I am still nonbinary during serious conversations. Being nonbinary isn't less serious than being a binary man or woman.

this is exorsexism

[madmonksandmaenads]

I wish I could make white people(and not just white Americans) understand how diverse the pre-columbian Americas were. The history, religion, culture, politics was at least as complex as Europe's. There was the full gamut of religions, from monotheists to animists to ancestral religions. There were city building empires, village farmers, nomadic traders, and so many other ways to live. This is all just based on what we know, the fragments left behind and the stories of survivors of an apocalyptic plague. All this before the most extended campaign of genocide in history was waged in an attempt to wipe out those survivors.

Over 500 years spent trying to cut down a whole trunk of human culture.

Do you understand how much poorer our whole species is because of it? Can you imagine where art, religion, and science would be if we still had these vast bodies of knowledge? The stain of the colonial project will never be fully washed clean. We owe more than just the land to those we stole from. We owe them a whole future, a future that could have been brighter for all of us. If only greed and fear weren't allowed to rule this land.

[thisisexorsexism]

i love older pokemon games and stardew valley but i can't play either of them because they both force you to pick a gender to play as. if i want to not be misgendered i have to mod the game‚ which pretty much locks me out of multiplayer. it honestly feels like a metaphor

this is exorsexism

[elierlick]

Yet another new study debunked the basis for the anti-trans sports bans. It was never about sports but for creating legal avenues for exclusion and abjection. This is one of the largest analyses ever conducted, involving 52 studies and 6,485 trans people. Read the study here.

[lucieslucidity]

post so nice had to reblog it twice and force it down everyone's throats

[partywithponies]

Fascinating how what's considered feminine and what's considered masculine can change over time. The rebranding of being a horse girl into being a stereotypical feminine girly trait needs to be studied.

[partywithponies]

Look at classic children's novels. As recently as the 50s and early 60s, being obsessed with horses as a girl was depicted as strange and tomboyish, and the very concept of being obsessed with horses from early childhood and loving toy horses and desperately wanting your own horse being a "little girl thing" and not a "little boy thing" would send someone from the 1800s and earlier into a coma.

[partywithponies]

There's maybe a point to be made here somewhere about how when keeping and riding horses stopped being necessary to the functioning of society and became a more "frivolous" thing, it was rapidly rebranded as silly and girly and for women, but what do I know.

[dizzyghoast]

i wrote a paper in my masculinity studies class in college about this exact phenomenon, specifically about how high heeled shoes started as a practical way for Persian cavalry to keep their feet on their stirrups, then likely due to that association, became a popular fashion item and status symbol among the upper classes of Europe, before the Great Male Renunciation of the 18th-19th centuries, when men started shunning opulence in favor of utility, leaving them as a fashion item for women instead.

I've joked that the two genders are Aesthetic and Utility before but thats just kinda the case

[seo-m-e]

it is a liiiiittle funny that no matter where you came from, if you're non binary people will try to tell you that you're actually a woman

[website-com]

you never know what someone is going through. for instance i didnt know i was going through anything until about 2 years later. i thought i was just chilling