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a miscarriage is a traumatic experience for any woman. we never tell her “it was just a blob of tissue.” she knows intrinsically in both body and mind that there was loss and she must take the time to heal. we do not blame her for grieving for her child because, on some level, we recognize it is a loss too. and often, she will choose to remember her child through a ceremony or a memorial, and we never blame her or tell her “but it wasn’t a person.” because on some level, we agree that there is something of value, that there is some child and that there was some loss.

why do we think abortion affects a woman differently? why do we take different language to abortion vs. miscarriage? why are we so eager to tell a woman “don’t worry, it’s just a clump of cells, not a person…” but not comfort a woman who miscarries the same thing? does personhood depend on if you are wanted? does personhood depend on whether someone is convenient to support and raise?

somehow along the way, despite the trauma on the body being virtually identical or worse, being complicit in your child’s death (abortion) became not only a solution, but empowerment. it’s a horrible thing to experience, not only psychologically but physically as many can attest.

but one of the most nefarious aspects of abortion, besides stopping the heart of a living human, is that a woman becomes complicit in the death of her child. the woman who spontaneously miscarries may at least take comfort in that she tried the best she could. even a mother who carries to term a terminally ill baby can say she was not complicit in her own child’s death. that, at the very least, though the experience is traumatic and tragic and demands her full strength, she did not participate in the death, violence, and trauma. she can take comfort in that she tried all she could and showed her child love all throughout. this is the comfort any of us take when we lose somebody. we say to ourselves “the time we spent with him/her was precious” and “at least we could be with them and give them our love while they were alive.”

but when we convince a woman to abort, we rob her of this comfort. we oppose her against her child. we masculinize her, we tell her that her feminine nature to bear a child (which makes women so beautiful) is her enemy, and she should instead pursue her education and career childless like a man. we tell her she is enemies with her biology and reproductive ability. we tell her that she ought to feel powerful when she ends the life of the child developing inside her. we make her complicit in the death of her offspring. the guilt, i imagine, is immeasurable and unbearable.

what could be more vicious and contrary to nature?

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but we’re not convincing women to abort??? Like I get how you get all philosophical about it, but that’s not what we’re saying at all. We’re saying women should have the choice.

the CHOICE.

the C-H-O-I-C-E.

C.H.O.I.C.E.

no one is convincing women to abort. Y’all just want to remove the right to abort.

I kinda get what you mean about comparing miscarriage and abortion. It is true that people won’t describe the fetus with the same words, depending of which case it is. But the situation are also so different???

In miscarriages, women usually want the baby. They start picking out names, preparing the room, they tell their friends and family and about it. They and their loved ones are happy and excited about it.

When women want abortions, that’s not usually not the case. There’s no name, no room, no desire of seeing this fetus come to life. The trauma is so different.

And that’s not even talking about the women who want the babies but have to get abortions for medical reasons. Because the baby is killing them. Because the baby is sick. Because the baby is not viable. Because the baby, if it survives, will be severely handicapped for the rest of its life. Because the mother’s safety is at risk?

Look up all the women sharing their abortions stories. So many who had abortions for this kind of reasons, later get told (when they get pregnant again, for example) by doctors that had they not aborted, they wouldn’t have been able to get pregnant again. In cases like this, abortions not only saved an actual person (the mother), but also allowed for other children to be born (safely and healthily).

There are so many different stories, so many different facets behind it, so many reasons to get an abortion, your two-balls psychology is shit and cannot apply to the multitude of women that we are.