stay afraid, but do it anyway

☀ ✬ ☀ ✬ ☀ call me times. 34, queer, they/them. ☀ ✬ ☀ ✬ ☀ my ao3 | my web weaves ☀ ✬ ☀ ✬ ☀ this blog is not safe for work. if you need me to tag something for you, just ask!

[valtsv]

"why does this nonsexual power dynamic sound so sexual" i have some news for you about the dominant social relationship between sex and power

[valtsv]

i am also a corrosive pervert. that's not relevant right now though.

[ottawa--centaurs]

[ottawa--centaurs]

[surrealistart]

The Blank Signature (1965) René Magritte, oil on canvas, 81 x 65 cm

[rottingtrouble-child]

I saw this video about a doctor who performed an MRI on a 5 year old and discovered she essentially had “brain damage” from excessive iPad use, as the white matter in her brain couldn’t form properly due to an understimulated environment.

Hmm it’s almost like there’s supposed to be adult figures responsible for monitoring her screen time and making sure she develops properly… certainly this isn’t the result of neglect at the hands of her parents…

[rottingtrouble-child]

“This 5 year old is brain damaged by excessive iPad use”

Translation: This 5 year old is developmentally impaired by neglectful parents who used an iPad as a stand-in for social and environmental stimulation / interaction for hours at a time during critical early stages of child development. The iPad is the cop-out.

[rottingtrouble-child]

“Children don’t have the strength to hold pencils anymore because they only use screens.”

Translation: Parents aren’t making the conscious effort to help their children develop necessary skills and letting iPads raise them.

When are people going to realize the iPads and whatnot are the instruments through which the neglect is happening through and not the cause? How the fuck do you let your child have such a severe lack of physical strength in their hands that they can’t hold a pencil properly?

[rottingtrouble-child]

People will see a study suggesting children with higher screen times have poorer or negative developmental outcomes and immediately say it’s the screens causing this, and not the more likely fact that higher screen time = less engagement time with their environment, physical exercise, parents, family, and their peers, all of which are NECESSARY for a healthy upbringing as a social species.

It’s like saying a dog who was kept in a cage all its life and left with atrophied muscles was damaged by the cage, and not by the fact its owners were too lazy to play or walk their dog in order for its muscles to build properly. The cage is the instrument of neglect and the owners are the perpetrators, in the same way parents are the perpetrators and weaponizing screen time as an excuse and painting themselves as helpless bystanders.

[grabmyboner]

is ur pussy an inny or an outy

[clytemnestraaa]

your ilya mental health crisis as a foreigner post has sososo many layers for me as a fellow eastern european clubrat stuck in Bumfuck, North America. your entire life you're well aware of The West but it's translated glimpses and your friend's cousin's cool new chuck taylors. the very mark of success is going there then coming back with a conviction that your own country is better. then you get here, and it's just... a blank slate of a country. it's saturday morning and people wake up with their spouse and run and walk their purebred dogs and eat surgary breakfasts around the time you're used to turning in for the night. other cultures come here and mingle and fuse but this happens in specific pockets. you're like SURELY i'm missing something, surely there's more to people's lives and aspirations than nuclear families in two-story houses. why is everyone grimacing at me and why is the server constantly asking me if i like everything. why is everyone dressed like they gave up on ever looking good. why does no one want to leave, aren't you ashamed of being so still? and you can't go back it's WORSE back home but you feel insane here. it's not just a language barrier, you feel fundamentally disconnected from the people around you and like you have to learn a new spectrum of human expression just to convey the american equivalent of the emotion you're having. it's not home but home isn't home either anymore so why do you feel like gnawing off your own leg to escape a trap even though you don't have anywhere else to go. at least this is what i project onto #myilya

i need to think about this for the next 3-6 months. i will say that this is not unlike the experience of being a born and raised american and moving from a big city to the midwest and the suburbs. you live like that? on purpose? i am going to drive my car as fast as i can into a tree.

and then i think about my grandmother who survived genocide and several wars and more loss and trauma than can really be described, who learned as a child to identify planes by their sound to know if she should find a shelter or not. and how at age 28 after 3 continents and 3 countries and 3 new languages she got to the suburbs of illinois and what a relief she felt spending the rest of her life in boredom, in blandness, in mediocrity. her whole house is carpeted. terrible, awful, unforgivable things have happened in that house. but at least it all was soft. i think to her, sometimes all you can do is pick the quieter violence.

[hollandar]

Heated Rivalry — 1x06 ⤷ PHONE BLOWJOB

(sources below)

Faking It — #1, #2 Deadline — #3 Variety — #4, #5 Vulture — #6 The Wrap — #7 Vulture — #8

[cuppydogshane]

ilya voice I Say How The FUCK! are my FUCKING! SWEETIE! PEES!!!!!!!!

[cuppydogshane]

[yr-efydd-ger-yr-afon-wyre]

Source

[bugslibraryy]

Shane and Ilya in big oversized hoodies, hoods up, slutty athlete shorts on, Shane in white sock, Ilya’s cold toes half pushed into said socks, curled up foreheads pressed together on the outdoor couch with the fire burning behind Shane’s back, turned away from it to face in to Ilya. Their foreheads pressed together, it’s almost completely dark but not just yet- sleepy and heavy limbed, red eyed from swimming in the lake all day. And just like smooching. Soft kisses, Ilya’s hand shoved up Shane’s hoodie, rubbing over his stomach and Shane’s hand on Ilya’s face, fingers playing with the edge of the hood of Ilya’s hoodie, fidgeting with it. Deeper messy kisses, sucking on each others lips, teeth clacking when one of them gets too eager. Ilya’s leg slung up over Shane’s hip, using his thigh to keep him tucked close. Taking short breaks from kissing, Shane nuzzling his swollen mouth over Ilya’s cheeks, petting over his head over the fabric of his hood, combing his curls back up off Ilya’s forehead. Ilya brushing the backs of his knuckles over Shane’s cheeks, thumb dragging over his eyelids, his lashes. Shane biting Ilya’s chin, his jaw. Shane pushing his hand up under his jumper to play with Ilya’s fingers, tangle their hands together. It’s maybe a little too cold to still be outside, shivery just a small bit even with the fire but they aren’t moving for anything.

[shnehollander]

ilya is soft hearted and kind and plays sharky in the pool w kids and makes his situationship tuna melts and wears a cross all the time for his mama

[mswyrr]

What Happens When Young People Actually Read “Disturbing” Books

Something is missing from the debate over educationally suitable literature

[mikkeneko]

[philcollinsenjoyer]

explained to an 8 year old that once a fruit is ripe you only have so much time until it rots so you have to eat it soon and she said so i'll never be able to keep it perfect like this forever? no and there are about a million pieces of art for you unrelatedly

[scribefindegil]

everyone who is not currently in the process of moving please pause and take a moment to be grateful that you're not currently in the process of moving

[localpubliclibrary]

If I ask nicely will people reblog this and tell me what their most common breakfast is? Not your favorite necessarily, just what you have for breakfast most frequently? 🙏🏽

[the-eldritch-it-gay]

“but shrouded black figures are scary!” not when ur muslim. its the funniest fucking thing. this is labeled on pinterest under shit like “classic horror” “scary phone wallpaper”

but that LITERALLY just looks like a niqabi or someone in a jilbab. Like Look at this pic of me (from a self photoshoot, now w/o the dramatic lighting and dark background)

or this pic of me

or this pic of me

like its so funny i can’t be scared of shrouded figures it just looks like me.

[the-eldritch-it-gay]

if i saw this i would just be like “Assalam alaikum sister, dope sword you got there”

[ultmateragnarok]

I mean I think a part of the ‘scary background’ bit is the thing where the individual in question is staring directly at the viewer from a foggy pond in a dense forest. And also the literal burning halo

[the-eldritch-it-gay]

sounds like a normal Friday night. if a sister wants to go on a walk in the evening who am i to stop her. if she has a burning halo that’s the will of god.

[twilanore]

also can we talk about the game design of count the rice?? brilliant

the only challenges that require multiple people are at the beginning and end - at the beginning to allow the players to bounce around there for a bit before they realize they need to go down, and also at the end to ensure that a runaway player has to wait for another to catch up

count the rice itself, of course, can only be played with one player, so that players never actually have to count rice (if you had to wait for a second player at the end, then whoever got closest would win) (this is ofc not accounting for hannah pilkes)

the middle rooms are great too, because they are easy to intentionally fail, and hard to win. the spot the difference rooms are especially good, because you think you understand what it is (spot the difference between the two halves of the room), and this is seemingly confirmed when you successfully loose, but once you come back to try to win, you realize you did not actually fully understand the game. the placement of these is important, too - only players who were intentionally trying to lose got to those rooms. any higher in the sequence, and they might have had a player trying to win reach the rooms first, and then they'd realize the twist

and also the decision to split the rooms up? 2 and 3 in a separate space from 4-8, so players would assume there are only 3 until someone loses enough, subtly hiding the majority of the game from them

ugh just so many little details in the game design here are so perfect and well thought out, game changer is clearly such a labor of love