Not sure why you're here

I'm not even here

[thissurprisinglyisnttaken]

Babes, take a second. Nono don't scroll, please. Just lend yourself a moment. Find a spot and sit back in your chair or stand still for a bit.

Breathe. Feel. Exist.

It's ok, it's alright. You can have this moment, after all how often do you give time to yourself. You don't have to think about anything if you don't want to.

Just listen to yourself, your body. Do you need water? a stretch? a bathroom break? a snack? Is there something small that could make your existence easier in this moment?

There, see? Sometimes all you need is a break from Too Much and that's completely valid. If you're ready to step out of this moment you made for yourself, go for it. If you need a bit more time, we can chill here for a bit.

<3

[saszor]

[ID in alt text]

"Tutorial" on how to draw an OC with dwarfism (well, some of it).

Boring tired disclaimer: Keep in mind that this is an introductory "drawing" "tutorial" and has some generalizations in it, so not every “X is Z” statement will be true for Actual People. Which happens to be true for everything in general.

You are heavily encouraged to do your own research because this does not contain everything you should know before making a character with any type of dwarfism.

Consider supporting me on ko-fi if you find this to be helpful.

If (when) you repost this on pinterest at least put a link to the original post somewhere..

[feefal]

Daydreamer anatomy☁️

These individuals tend to have their head in the clouds, and are reported to prefer the escapism of fiction over reality.

[emilylorange]

More acrylic practice with follower's volunteered pets 🐾

This one is for taxonomaly.bsky.social 6"x6" on wood

[thetheaterkidwriter]

can we please normalize saying “I love you” to friends please??? Like no I don’t love any of them romantically but I sure as hell do love all of my friends platonically and would like to share that information with them without it being weird

[pris-cas]

Lesson #29 Kissing

Yup. It’s icky.

First lesson Previous lesson

Also again sorry for my lack of responses to the inbox. There is currently 160+ requests and I can’t keep up. So sorry!

Thank you to my superb beta readers!

@xushibeetle

@the-asexual-winter

@stelosia

[yiddishfisting]

"posting to my tumblr is not the same as walking up to a stranger in the street and telling them my deepest thoughts" that's correct

"instead my tumblr is like my home, if you come onto my blog and look at my posts you are basically walking into my house" no that is not correct

[yiddishfisting]

exactly

[cazort]

common sense interpretation

it's reasonable to approach people's blogs as a bulletin board that is owned by the blog owner, but facing a public street.

[maswartz]

[fractally]

This has been my main argument against "AI" from the very beginning.

OpenAI scraped the entire web. All of which had been a labor of love from humans. Wikipedia is the backbone of a lot of LLMs, and that was volunteer human labor. They stole it and now they're selling it back to us.

And worse, they're trying to destroy the free sources that they stole from. It's destruction of human knowledge on an unprecedented scale. The burning of the library of Alexandria has nothing on this.

[cazort]

I would love to see a mega-copyright ruling that finds all LLM's trained without explicit permission from all copyrighted material that went into it, guilty of copyright violation. I want to see both civil and criminal rulings. I want companies liquidated, CEO's and other top executives jailed.

[milquetoaast]

source

[yanguang]

[cazort]

Is this video not actually edited or sped up? If so that's absolutely nuts!!!

[toastyglow]

I think one of the best things I learned from my last therapist was the idea that when there's a box in your mind you need to open, you don't have to open it all the way on the first try.

what I mean is that she said "you didn't deserve <bad thing that happened to you>" and I said, "I feel like I know that intellectually, but I don't really believe it deep down". and she said, "do you think you can try to believe it just a little bit, as an experiment?" and I started crying lmao

trying to change a core belief entirely all at once is scary, especially when it exists as a protective measure. try giving yourself a cheeky bit of plausible deniability! you're just dipping your toes in the water of self-esteem, you're just having a little wade! you don't have to go swimming right away, and you can always step out if you want. (but the longer you spend in the water, the more you start to understand you're actually safe there...hm, who could have predicted this...)

so that's my advice: if there's something real and true you can't seem to believe no matter how hard you try, take some time to try and really believe it just a little bit, even if you're only pretending at first. climb the staircase one step at a time instead of trying to put one foot all the way at the top!

[olderthannetfic]

I'm not spectacularly into /reader stuff, but nothing twigs me worse than 'AFAB reader' being used instead of 'reader w/ vagina' or '(non-op) transmasculine reader' or 'female reader' or 'unisex/any gender reader' or 'reader experiences misogyny' (etc).

*I'm not saying that people doing this are maliciously transphobic, I'm sure most of them are allies (or even trans people) who haven't fully thought it through. Also, I get that it's perhaps the least wordy option.*

But the contrarian in me looks at every 'AFAB reader' fic and goes 'okay, where's their penis then?' 'why are they described as having a high-pitched voice?' 'how can the narrator tell that they aren't a post-op trans woman?'.

It reminds me of my GP who absolutely INSISTED I get cervical cancer screening done because I am 'an AFAB' (I don't have a cervix or uterus, and haven't had one for several years). I'm sure trans women are also put off by being excluded from reader-inserts that could describe them just as much as it could describe a cis woman.

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[cazort]

I'm always saying it and will say it again. Just say what you mean. If you mean vagina, say vagina.

[captain-price-returns]

oh no they’re going to start calling democrats the same thing they’ve been calling democrats for 20 years now

[hotvampireadjacent]

[thewellofastarael]

"Here’s a trick I learned during the Obama presidency for handling certain types of political labels. Take, as an example, the Tea Party claim that Obama is a Communist. Don’t take the word of the person making the claim (Tea Partiers). Don’t rely on the rebuttal of the target (Obama), because that will just be dismissed. Go to the group itself (Communists) and ask them. Ask an actual Communist if Obama is a comrade and see how they answer. Watch as they laugh at you, then explain in great detail how they wish there was a Communist in the White House, but here’s a long and exhaustive list of why that just isn’t so. Now apply this logic to the claim that Hillary is pretty much the same as a Republican. Ask an actual Republican if they think Hillary Clinton is one of them. Watch them laugh, and then explain in the same exhausting detail why that just isn’t so. Some of them might concede that she’s better than Trump, but that’s not the same thing. Finally, go ask a White Supremacist if Trump is one of them. As they excitedly explain how Trump is the guy they’ve been waiting for all these years, and how he’s really empowered their movement, use this to guide how you will be voting in November."

Source: a 2016 facebook posts by Craig Enan, since then deleted (OG link here)

[badsciencejokes]

I’m just gonna run full blast to the other side of the room. You’re good tho — view on Instagram https://ift.tt/3DW2dnE

[supreme-leader-stoat]

[supreme-leader-stoat]

[jimjongjung]

Sensory issues aren’t about fear.  They’re causing physical pain.

So I see a lot of people (mostly not actually autistic people) talking about sensory issues in terms of fear.  They’ll say things like “oh, he’s afraid of the vacuum.”  

This, of course, isn’t correct.  It’s not that the person is afraid of the vacuum, it’s that it’s literally causing them pain.  Like, literally.  If you put an autistic person in an FMRI and expose them to one of their sensory issues you’ll see their pain centres light up. 

So, why is this a problem?  Well, most people view fear as something that can be overcome.  So they’ll look down on people that let themselves be controlled by it.  Which isn’t good.  The other thing is that the tried and tested way to overcome fear is through exposure therapy.  However, if the thing is pain and not fear, all you’re going to do is numb yourself from the pain.  Which is generally not the best way to deal with things. 

So, if you’re autistic, remember that your sensory issues are part of how your brain physically works, and you can’t just will yourself out of them.  If you’re not autistic, don’t dismiss people’s sensory issues so flippantly.  Rember it’s literally causing them pain. 

[headspace-hotel]

With everything I’ve been talking about I figured it was a good idea to bring this back.

Also note that you can, like me, be relatively insensitive to pain but experience lots of discomfort at other stimuli. Or you can have a hard time distinguishing the two.

Autistic people deserve to have their discomfort taken seriously and addressed!

[cazort]

I have severe sensory issues and I think it’s a bit misleading to say that certain stimuli cause “physical pain”. To me, pain is a distinct sensation and unpleasant sensory stimuli like loud sounds do not usually cause physical pain. But they can actually feel worse than pain in some circumstances. For example, when i experience a strong physical pain, like a wasp sting, my body becomes acclimated to the pain quickly. It’s worst in the first few seconds. A minute later, it has dialed down a bit, because my body’s compensation has kicked in.

With an unpleasant sound, like a gas-powered leafblower, it can be worse than pain even if it’s not quite loud enough to cause actual physical pain. It’s worse than pain in part because my body doesn’t seem to have as effective a compensation mechanism, but also because it elevates my stress level in a way that a wasp sting doesn’t. With a wasp sting I might feel a surge of stress as I get stung but once I’m safely away from the wasp(s) and I know I am safe, I can then relax, just with a new sensation of pain. With the loud sound, I cannot relax. My stress level is ramped up as long as the sound is on.

Additionally, the loud sound also blocks out other auditory information. I cannot have a conversation. I cannot listen to music. I cannot hear a car approaching unless the car itself is extraordinarily loud. I cannot hear bird song, the wind, the sound of my own footsteps, the sounds of my own body. This new soundscape is effectively disabling, it is mostly removing one of my senses. It also removes all of the sounds I find calming, relaxing, and centering.

Lastly, the combination of stress, discomfort, and sensory disabling makes a situation where I am even less tolerant of other stressors. Very bright lights? I might be able to tolerate them okay if everything else is fine, but bright lights when i am already hearing a loud sound now give me a splitting headache and might make me so bad I become nonverbal or shut down.

So imagine (1) there is something as unpleasant as physical pain even if it is not actually pain (2) this thing elicits an involuntary stress response that is very hard or impossible to resist or dial-down (3) the thing severely limits one of my senses to where it’s effectively shut down entirely except for other very loud and simple stimuli (4) sensitivity to all other stressful or uncomfortable stimuli is ramped WAAAY up.

So yeah, for me I would say it is not pain but it can often be worse than pain.

[barren-and-trivial-words]

Wait, do some people not find things like the sound of a leaf blower overwhelming to the point of preventing them from doing virtually anything else that requires hearing or speech?

[cazort]

I don’t know but the way I talk to a lot of people about how big an imposition it is on me and how it’s a major effect on my quality-of-life that I have to listen to them as often as I do, it’s like I’m telling them I’m an alien with 5 heads, so I dunno.

[thoodleoo]

grieving as an adult is so funny it's like. im sobbing my eyes out i'm laughing like a maniac im pondering the mortality of everything around me. ok glad thats out of my system because i have a dentist appointment in an hour

[jueki]

[theangryman]

Strip searches, trauma, isolation: Trans men describe life behind bars

Transgender men say they are often harassed, denied medically necessary care and “forced to be someone” they're not while incarcerated.

absolutely fucking sick to death of “trans men are privileged because they don’t get v-coded in prison”

[deepestangelcollective]

Prisions are horrible to all in them.

This article does not describe a trans man being V-coded.

"V-coding is the common practice by carceral staff of subjecting trans women to sexual assault by placing the woman in the same prison cell as an aggressive male inmate in order to placate the male inmate."

source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/V-coding

Removing the gendered specifics of this definition, it is discribing the use of a human being as a commodity. Above and beyond sexual assult, this is treating people like tradable sex toys.

[cazort]

The caption never said that trans men get v-coded. It said that the OP was sick of people saying they were "privileged" because they don't experience this exact thing in prison. And the OP is right, these claims are absurd.

"This other group has it worse" is not a valid counterargument to a statement "This group has it bad."

All trans people have it bad in prison. And every trans person I have known in person has always shown great solidarity with other trans people: trans women with men, and binary trans ppl with nonbinary.

Arguing about who has it worse creates unnecessary and counterproductive infighting.

We are united in wanting to end all of this crap once and for all. These arguments are a barrier to achieving that goal.