[crimsonservbot]

You ever hear that old chestnut about how most people neglect the part of the story of Icarus where he also had to avoid flying too low, lest the spray of the sea soak his feathers and cause him to fall and drown? You ever think about how different the world would be if Icarus died that way instead? If the idiom was to Fly To Close To The Sea? A warning against playing it far too safe, about not stretching your wings and soaring properly? You ever think about how Icarus died because he was happy?

[crimsonservbot]

If I told you I wrote this while thinking about the dangers of being visibly trans vs never trying to transition at all, happiness followed by a bright, burning end, smacking hard against a concrete ocean vs playing it too safe and never flying high, dooming you to a cold, crushing end from drowning, You'd believe me, right?

[justsomeguycore]

also while i’m ranting about gender i always see debate about whether girls are rewarded for being tomboys or not and it’s like. actually girls are rewarded for mirroring whatever the situation demands of them. girls can’t be too prissy and refuse to play in the creek, but girls also can’t show up to girly events covered in mud. girls can’t have makeup art as a hobby or else they’re superficial, but if they never wear makeup they’re a slob and dumpy, etc. it’s not that girls are universally rewarded or punished for being tomboys, they’re rewarded for bending over backwards to always be exactly right for any given situation and punished for breaking those boundaries. so yes a classically pretty girl who cleans up nice is rewarded when she can ALSO be a tomboy. but a girl who is a tomboy all the time is definitely punished for never being able to achieve that prerequisite feminine side. this debate is over now thanks

[lousyfuckingratboy]

this is spot on. A woman's masculinity is rewarded as long as it doesn't conflict with being heteronormatively attractive and as long as the masculinity plays harmonising second fiddle to the masculinity of the men around her.

[dhdd-fandom-ramblings]

We've seen a lot of stuff about KPOP Demon Hunters from a non-straight, trans, and disabled perspective, but we also wanted to point out the intersex reading you could have on it.

Rumi and Celine could be an extremely interesting representation on what it's like growing up visibly intersex. In this reading, Rumi represents a visibly intersex person, Celine represents the caregivers and doctors of a visibly intersex person, and the Honmoon represents the pericisnormative patriarchy.

Rumi was born with patterns. From the very start, Celine told her to hide them, to be ashamed of them, that they are wrong. She prevented her from coming out to her friends about her patterns. There's nothing wrong with Rumi's patterns, there never has been - the only reason why they hurt her is because of her own shame.

Celine imposes the role of a demon hunter onto her. She ignores her demon parts unless she can use it to further impose the idea of sealing the Honmoon (like how a visibly intersex child has their traits ignored unless it can be used to promote the patriarchy.)

Rumi tries so hard to hide her patterns, but slowly, they are spreading. Picture this like an intersex person hitting puberty or otherwise becoming more visibly intersex, struggling to hide their intersexuality with each passing day.

Rumi trying so hard to hide her patterns makes them more visible, and has negative side effects for her health (her voice.) This rings familiar to intersex people who are given/feel pressured to use "treatments" in order to "cure" their intersexuality, "treatments" that often have a negative effect on their body (ie; being forced onto hormones or birth control.)

When she is outed to her friends, and it goes over poorly, she goes to confront Celine. Celine can't even look at her body, saying lines like "everything I was taught told me you were wrong." She says that they can lie to hide her patterns again, that they can still "fix her." Rumi asks her why she can't even look at her, why she never loved her, and when Celine says she does love her and "tried to accept her", Rumi rightfully points out that her idea of "acceptance" is built upon only accepting her if she fits the specific roles imposed upon her and her body.

The movie ends with Rumi still having her patterns, happily showing them off, going to the bathhouse with her friends like she always was too ashamed to do before, and creating a new Honmoon that isn't built upon shame.

Anyways. Intersex Rumi headcanon anyone? /lh

[creekfiend]

I don't think men saying out of pocket shit to me on the internet is because they're men. everyday billions of men wake up and don't say out of pocket shit to me on the internet. this is clearly an active choice

[creekfiend]

genuinely one of the scariest and saddest kinds of conversations that I find myself regularly having with various women is where they will describe something that a man in their life has done or said to them that is absolutely horrific and then when you express horror about it they are just like "haha well you know how men are"

girl that is not how men are. I have many men in my life who I care about and none of them are like that. that man is not biologically compelled to treat you like shit. it's a choice he is making. ARERRGH

[creekfiend]

some of you can't read so to be clear this post is not

1. saying "not all men" or

2. denying the existence and impact of societal misogyny/patriarchy.

HOPE THIS HELPS!

[creekfiend]

thaaaaank you that's such a concise explanation of what I was trying to say

[yurious-george]

I keep saying “separating men and women’s spaces is anti-feminist at its root and all competitions, bathrooms, etc., should be mixed-gender” and people keep saying “trans people should be allowed in their respective gendered spaces.” Which I agree with, but is only a step on the path, and I take issue with people treating it like an end goal. In fact, we COULD eliminate that step entirely by simply having mixed gender spaces.

I remember the fight for mixed gender sports, but now we’re fighting for trans people’s rights to be included in gendered sports. The only justification for gendered sports that exists is Those Men Will Crush Our Weak Little Women. It’s sexist. Segregation is always a means of oppression.

I’m not a fan of that goalpost shift, and I’m not sure why it’s so popular as of late.

[saltwaterembolism]

Humans of all the great apes are remarkably sexually non-dimorphic. The (mean) difference between men and women tends to be ~15%. For reference, other apes like gorillas, orangutans, tend to have about 50% dimorphism. 15% is comparable level of dimorphism to dogs and horses.

Both of which, if youll note, are species that we race in non-sexgender-segregated sports. There's not one derby for boy horses and another one for girl ones.

The majority of the dimorphism that we *see* is social and cultural. Women are discouraged from sports from a much earlier age than men. Women who are naturally tall and muscular may choose not to pursue body building because of social pressures for women to be small and dainty. Women who have broad shoulders, double jointed ankles and webbed toes (the things that make Michael Phelps such a good swimmer) may never touch a swimming pool in their life because of similar stigma surrounding women's bodies that men are not subject to.

Instead of looking to abolish the conditions that create these sexgender differences, trans-exclusionists attempt to reinforce the binary by asserting that women are naturally weak and there is no possible way to overcome this difference except by segregation. Ask yourself: who benefits from that train of thought?

[sporesong]

support trans people.

[assignedmale]

[featheredwolf]

someone wanna help me with tags for this? DAMN

[gender0bender]

ID: a photo of four televisions, with two smaller TVs stacked on top of larger ones. The TVs on the top right and bottom left are switched on and showing static. The words “Do not count on corporate media to tell you the truth about trans life” are written on the four screens. ED.

[franknfeeder]

this specific genre of man gives me hope for my transition in a way I didn’t realize was possible as a fat person. they’re hot, stylish, cool, confident & kind. idc that they’re cis, they serve tboy swag in a way that heals my soul like a warm bowl of soup

[fatliberation]

I’m so glad this has resonated with thousands of fat queer people 🥲

[felixcosm]

They remind me of this picture (I think the first person is him?) and this is my favorite trans positive pic ever, I care about it sm

[fatliberation]

YES this is matty matheson!!!

[alwayswasalwayswillbeourland]

I always see some takes on here that are really...they're not wrong but they're coming from a place that lacks worldview. Like they're very...for a certain demographic of people.

um. you wont all the answers online, just remember that.

[alwayswasalwayswillbeourland]

Like for example, when I see some of the situations women explain when they express their frustrations about men, I'm really appalled.

Because the conversation is saying "men this and men that" but the behaviour is abuse. so they're actually talking about abusers. But the conversations continue on as if this behaviour is normal for men and that all of us are having the same issue.

it's painted with feminism paint. if you push the idea that there are men out there who aren't bottom of the barrel trash, it will quickly get you excluded from the conversation.

but all these women stand around and sigh like 'oh well all men are trash, what can you do?'

you can expect better.

you can demand better.

to do that, you have to acknowledge that men can be decent, and more than that, they should be.

idk this isn't a well thought out post, but I feel like sometimes gender becomes the talking point when what really matters is that the people around you are giving you the respect you deserve as a person.

[ellie-eames]

I hope I can add to this meaningfully, sorry to jump onto your post.

When it comes to this, a feminist gloss over a worldview that men are just ‘like that’, it doesn’t do anyone any favours in whichever way.

As a feminist point, it fails to acknowledge the patriarchy, structural bigotry or the sexist ways that young children are raised and the damage and expectations it builds.

As a point against abuse and mistreatment, it does nothing to help victims who need to hear that better is findable and deserves to be found. It’s so much easier to move forward away from that damage when you know it isn’t everywhere.

As a basic point of accountability, those men need to be pulled up and told that they are not just ‘men’ they are bullies and abusers and pieces of shit and that the world has moved on around them.

The idea that men can and often do be good is genuinely essential to any meaningful conversation about sexism and abuse. Talking about anything else moves the needle away from the central issue. Horrible men is not a gender problem it’s a societal problem. I think some of you need to put your ideology where your mouth is and read some real books and research.

If you want to stand up for women then you need to know what you’re standing for. Disliking men isn’t enough, you need to know how to meaningfully support the girls.

[kattahj]

I think too often, this important viewpoint gets dismissed as a "not all men" thing, but that an important difference between the "not all men"-reflex dudes and genuinely decent men is that genuinely decent men don't let others get away with abuse either.

And of course abuse is mainly a factor of power, rather than gender, which becomes very clear when you look at the treatment of people who have even less power than women, such as children.

[transcyberism]

I think one of the core reasons I find it deeply insulting and undermining when trans men are not allowed to express or reflect upon our history with femininity/womanhood is that it reflects a very naive form of presentism. let me get hauntological with my gender stop pretending the past has no effect on the present

[thedogeveryonehates]

[virgopropaganda]

[tens-girl]

Perfect. 10/10. No notes.

And even more funny when you consider that JK publishes her crime fiction under the pseudonym ‘Robert Galbraith’ - so she fully committed to a male representation of her works post HP.

[miguelinileugim]

[shamebats]

The OP uses he/him pronouns.

[a-posing-somdomite]

As a girl feminity felt suffocating. As a boy feminity is lovely and makes me feel very pretty ✨️

[redgoldsparks]

The Nib ( @thenib ) is doing a whole month of queer comics and I was honored to contribute this one! You can read all of the other comics I’ve done for them here, and here is my comic from last year’s Pride Month. You can find more of my comics, including my Genderqueer series, on instagram and you can support me on patreon or on ko-fi if you’d like to help me keep making this work :) 

[luxiomahariel]

"trans men/mascs transition out of oppression and towards privilege" is a terf talking point and it will never be progressive.