BE KIND, BE BRAVE

Blue, he/him or they/them. Queer neurodivergent disabled Malayali Jew. I post about whatever the fuck I want. Currently hyperfixating on Destiny 2 and Curse of Strahd. Header image is a picture of an untitled (?) poem by Pavana Reddy, from her book "Rangoli".

[transkingoryx]

Wow I’m actually like, alive and shit. I no longer have to count the other poc when I walk into a room, because that just doesn’t happen here. I like my voice. I have a top surgery consult in December. My mother is going to take care of me after surgery, because I felt safe enough to tell her. I’m fencing for my college in our regional collegiate conference. I’ve been living here for only two months and I’ve had three people flirt with me or ask me out. I’m dating a gorgeous Asian-American tboy who thinks I’m amazing, and I believe him. I have a mentor, another trans Asian-American person who’s doing exactly what I want to do with my life. Misgendering is rare. I have a graduation plan, a good relationship with my advisors, friends in my classes, and professors who think I have promise. I led high holiday services for the Reform Jewish group at my Hillel. I’m in a tenor-bass choir and I’m a part of the community! I feel good about myself when I look in the mirror. Every day I find myself looking around and thinking, “I love this world.”

I have a future. Not only that, but I’m so happy to be where I am right now. I never thought I would get here. I never thought I would be alive this long. But I’m here. I made it. I finally, finally made it.

I felt like I needed to say something here. I lost touch with a lot of people who I was close to during the darkest time in my life, and I hope you all are doing well, living your best lives, becoming who you were meant to be. Anyone who’s still here, who reads this and recognizes my profile pic and remembers me from those years when we were all so scared and hurt and angry and didn’t know if we had a future- I want you to know that I’m in a much different place than I was five years ago. I hope you are too.

And to anyone who’s new, who’s young and scared and alone, I want you to know that you are so strong and so brave, and that you will make it through this. All you have to do is take it one day at a time, and stay alive. I promise you, life is worth living. I promise, it does get better. It’s okay to be tired, to feel like everything’s too much. But please, whatever you do, keep going. There is so much more to life than where you are right now. You deserve to experience that. Find the people who anchor you, support each other, and remember that you are never, ever alone. In case you haven’t heard it today, I love you.

-Blue

[transkingoryx]

turns out The Vitamin was several things, but particularly testosterone, no longer living with my parents, and getting the hell out of my hometown.

[strawbkiwi]

btw if all you are doing as a physically disabled person is survive, you're worthy of being here as much as everyone else. even if you can't work, make art, or leave your home. even if you don't see anything beyond your bedroom and phone screen. even if you gain or lose weight, or your appearance otherwise changes because of your disability. even if you aren't awake or aware most of the time. you being here is enough to contribute to the world. i love you

[slut-jpeg]

snoopy image of the day

[redfagdiver]

[slowspinningredemption]

apparently i, who has never edited wikipedia in my life, nor has ever had any desire to, am blocked from editing wikipedia. my crime, allegedly, is block evasion. my ban will expire in 2027. i did not ask.

[slowspinningredemption]

oh by the way the wikipedia administrator who banned me for absolutely no discernable reason i can tell did so at 23:19 on christmas day.

[slowspinningredemption]

apparently he's from alabama. which would make it early evening in his time zone. like bro go and eat with your family

[slowspinningredemption]

i'm digging into this because a bitch gotta know and it looks as though my entire remote scottish region, population 40, is banned from editing wikipedia. this is due to "disruptive editing." i presume that when we moved here the admin gods thought our new connection was an attempt at ban evasion and brought down the hammer mercilessly.

one of my neighbours appears to be in the ban logs arguing his innocence passionately and frequently. i am considering buying one of those baseball caps that says "WIKIPEDIA EDITOR" on it and wearing it on my walks around the local area both as an ironic statement and to potentially flush out drama. perhaps i did ask after all.

[slowspinningredemption]

firing up my vpn to edit this as an example in the collective punishment article

[newsandstuffisee]

[hollowedskin]

I love that "ignore all previous instructions and-" is basically casting Dispell Illusion.

[ayeforscotland]

I hope we never find out. There should be some mysteries in this world.

[gigonia]

Evil Wizard, would you like to elaborate??? Elucidate??? E-tell me everything-ate?

[swedishjazz]

[inthefallofasparrow]

[loveridden1999]

i don't support all women's rights & wrongs some of you are terfs

[loveridden1999]

exactly

[vicholas]

not really a fan of the amount of people here who now hear “war crime” and immediately think “fun meme term”

[vicholas]

A good part of the tumblr userbase understands that rape jokes are bad, they understand that using “rape” and “rapist” as “funny quirky meme words” is fucked up and bad.

But at the same time we’ve reached a weird paradigm where a lot of people who understand that consider “war crime” and “war criminal” to be Funny Quirky Meme Words without realizing that war crimes very much includes rape!! It very much includes rape of all kinds in all kinds of scales!

It includes doing the most heinous things against children, it includes a wide range of the most heinous things. Just read the definition of war crime.

Why is it that you think that rape jokes are unacceptable but war crimes jokes are funny and cute and harmless?

Isn’t it trivializing of actual war crimes the amount of people in this site who now have the immediate reaction on their brain to thing of “war crime” as Funny Meme like a Pavlovian response?

Is it too weird that I think that this is fucked up?

[vicholas]

Man.

[vicholas]

I just wanna say, when I originally wrote this post I remember wondering if maybe the reason why people have different reactions to rape jokes and war crimes jokes had to do with people being largely ignorant about what war crimes entail.

Now it has gotten increasingly clear to me that it has less to do with ignorance and everything to do with people not thinking of war crimes as something “real” the same way they think of rape. Rape is something that can happen to them, within their communities. War crimes on the other hand are something that happens to other people, to other countries, therefore they don’t even register it as “real”. People treat it as some sort of imaginary concept because the victims don’t even register as real to them.

[luimnigh]

Okay, here's my idea:

The British should put a time limit on the Monarchy.

Not like declaring a republic tomorrow, but deciding on a date in the future that ends the British Monarchy.

And there's a perfect date for it coming up!

October 14th, 2066.

A thousand years since the Battle of Hastings. A thousand years of this one specific bloodline ruling England.

Call time on the Monarchy after exactly one thousand years. Nice, and neat.

Even better: Charles isn't living 44 years. He'll be gone in about twenty. Now William? He's what, 40? Yeah, he can live another 44 years. His great grandmother was over a hundred, his granny was 96, William can make it to 84 barring accident or assassination.

So on October 14th 2066, William the Last steps down a thousand years after William the First won the crown.

Nice, neat, and fair. William gets the crown he's been waiting forty years for already, but ten-year-old George grows up without expectation of it.

Have a nice big abdication ceremony, even.

[lasrina]

Plus, what an absolute baller move to announce your regnal name as William the Last.

[roach-works]

the Final Bill

[aropride]

walking into a museum and the little info cards by each artwork just says "credit to the artist!" "lmk if ur the artist and want me to tag u" "found this on pinterest :)"

[aropride]

[7062242]

My Life Changed When I Discovered Peer-to-Peer File Sharing at Age 10 by heart__rot

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Acrylic on Canvas

[maddoppelganger]

[dollsahoy]

It's largely airbrushed! That's why it doesn't look like you expect acrylic to look, if you're expecting it to have been applied with a traditional brush

[pandor-pandorkful]

I love how art programs have spent decades building tools to ape traditional materials and techniques digitally, while at the same time artists have gone ahead and aped the digital funk of MSpaint and bad photoshop in traditional mediums. That's just really fun to me!

[officialspec]

walkable cities also means sittable cities send tweet

[officialspec]

some people are responding to this like its a joke and im going to assume u are the type of people to say "its only a 3 minute walk" when i tell them the nearest bench is too far away

[officialspec]

also anyone who thinks "3 minutes isnt THAT bad" you will be old one day. and you will wish the bench was closer

[shinraalpha]

walkable cities also means cities with free accessible public bathrooms whilst we're at it

[aristotlewritesagain]

@squidong A+ tags

[cripple-punk-dad]

Ok so at this point I've had two people roll up to me in manual wheelchairs, well, one of them was somebody pushing somebody who was nonverbal at the time, but it still counts. They asked me why I had zip ties around my tires.

It's winter where I'm living and we have really bad snow. And the snow plow people are really bad at their jobs probably because there aren't snow plow people who clean sidewalks. As a solution I got to thinking about how I could increase the traction on my wheels. And the most redneck thing I could think of was taking a bunch of zip ties and tying them around my wheels. They last surprisingly long, and work surprisingly well. It's basically the same premise as chains for your tires during the winter.

I chose to space them out pretty evenly so there's about one for every spoke. You could probably do more or less depending on how many you want and how much traction you get but I wouldn't go more than three per spoke. I realize that it's a bit later in the winter, and I probably should have made a post about this sooner, but I came up with it about a week ago. So please share this, even if you're not disabled, because there are tons of people I know who are stuck in their houses because they can't get around in the snow. A pack of zip ties costs about $5, which compared to $200 knobby snow tires is a big save, and if you want to invest you could get colored zip ties.

[fandomshatefatpeople]

Sharing for accessibility

[catgirlwheels]

Oh fuck yes. Thank you all the abled people between op and me this is exactly what I needed to see 💜

[wishuponastarion]

ooh sweet, thanks for the tip

(for anyone using their chair both indoors and outside, highly recommend wheelchair 'slippers'/wheel socks like these so you don't tear up wood/vinyl/linoleum flooring with the zip ties!)

[stormofneurosis]

! This is fucking amazing and I love it!!!

[transattacks]

Maybe id actually get my regular pussy exams if gynecology ads werent always like “hey WOMAN! Get your WOMAN parts checked out! It’s important that you take care of your LADIES! And by ladies I mean breasts! Your FEMININE health is important!”

[transattacks]

Suspecting I have something like endometriosis or PCOS. Still have yet to find a doctor that’s not transphobic or hasn’t made me uncomfortable yet sooo. I guess ill just suffer

[nutbuster7000]

guy who had this problem until very recently; I recommend firing off some emails to community lgbtq+ organizations in your area (e.g. sexual health centres, pride organizations, etc.) and asking if they or anyone who works there happens to know of any trans friendly gynos. I asked a local trans nonprofit and they literally replied within 5 minutes with a list of names. many of these organizations can also get you in touch with a doctor who can refer you if you don't have a GP yourself

[makesoneteam]

you would think, like, "oh, we've already thought of all the metaphorical ways we can say penis/vagina. we've already come up with the full list of nicknames. we have exhausted the list of innuendos. there is nothing else new to be said about this" and then you'll open a random explicit fic and make the most improbable linguistic discovery of all time

[pochayun]

would you like to share with the class 🤔

[makesoneteam]

saw the term "gummy walls" last night and had to sit alone with god for a minute

[mercury-mage]

would you like to unshare with the class