[mercy-misrule]

one of the most amazing things that has been said to me in therapy is that self esteem doesn’t exist.

and that floored people and the psych went onto say that what she meant was that self esteem is a concept that actually includes a vast array of things and labelling them all as one thing is really limiting and prevents actual improvement

you could have real strong pride in the things you create and hate your body

you could hate your creations but also want to share them with people

you could not hate yourself at all but not take care of yourself, engage in reckless self endangerment

thats all bundled under ‘self esteem’ but saying ‘i need better self esteem’ doesn’t mean anything

whereas if you say ‘i need to work on ways to keeping myself safe, refusing to act on destructive urges’ or ‘i want to be in a place where i believe compliments trusted people give me’

thats concrete, thats a goal.

having it said in therapy helped a lot of people in my group stop saying ‘i have low self esteem’ and start specifying about the actual issue they have

[bead-bead-deactivated20190901]

Wow, that is so, so helpful.

[transs-juice]

Not trans related but I think this is a helpful post.

[coffeeandufos]

Spectrum outfitters is a new UK BASED company that is about to start selling binders

I know this damn website is so Americanised but PLEASE reblog this! Transmasculine people in the UK have to pay a ridiculous amount of money for shipping from America. This could change all that.

Support your UK trans community. Reblog this. Get the word out.

[thexfiles]

if u think trans women can’t be lesbians u need to unfollow me. ur not welcome here.

[honeyfemmme]

also if u think lesbians can’t be attracted to trans women you need to unfollow me. ur not welcome here.

[ghostmage-deactivated20200411]

just going to say it. i’m going to be honest. if you feel any kind of legitimate self hatred over your attraction to men, as a bi woman/mlm/etc, that’s not healthy. it’s not Supposed to feel that way, and it’s not something you should treat as a positive or relatable thing. internalized biphobia/homophobia is a very real problem, and it’s ugly. you don’t deserve to feel that way!

[nachosforfree]

Trans rights, okay!

[transprideworldwide]

hey, trans woman struggling to afford medical care here! i need to come up with about $300 here in the next couple of weeks and i would really appreciate any help i could get <3 thanks y'all!

paypal.me/dingusmyers

[misogynistcatgirl]

Dear teenage trans girls!

You look especially good today! (And every other day!)

I am in awe of you

You’re still beautiful, even if you aren’t out!

Your courage is stronger than hate

Even if you can’t or won’t conform to femenine things, you are still girls! I still love you

You amaze me

I love you, you are what fuels me to keep loving, you are the source of my love, you are loved, you are love

You are loved more than you know and you will always be loved

rb to love a teenage trans girl

Terfs dni

Chasers dni

Transmeds dni

[blackqueerblog]

Also: don’t stigmatize HIV+ individuals because they all have different circumstances and might’ve  gotten the virus from a variety of sources (sex, occupational, birth, blood transfusions in other countries). 

HIV-related stigma remains a huge barrier to preventing HIV, and is linked to a low level of people testing for HIV. 

The bad news is that Trump is cutting America’s spending on HIV year after year.  He has taken steps to weaken the Affordable Care Act since coming to power.

[sandandglass]

[natalie-mars]

I don’t reblog much, but this is too well said not to.

[themayfieldtreasury]

This always gets a reblog.

[userboxer]

[melcdrcma]

CAN I GET A YEEHAW FOR MY LESBIANS??

CAN I GET A YEEHAW FOR MY BI GIRLS???

CAN I GET A YEEHAW FOR MY PAN GIRLS??

[disastermommy-deactivated202402]

Lost my job to transphobic violence

Hey everone, I recently lost my job because of threats from customers and transphobia from co workers. Over the last 8 months I have had my life threatened multiple times by people very capable of killing me. I have been hit and had things thrown in my face. I have to go to court in June over one particularly bad altercation. Essentially I was in a very unsafe position and my life was at risk every night. That being said I could really use some help keeping the bills paid while I am finding a new job. I have rent coming up and I am still in a good deal of debt. My paypal email is: [email protected] and I also have a ko-fi: https://ko-fi.com/viviserket

[outofcontextdiscord]

[mydysphoriaventblog]

me: *takes of my binder at the end of the day*

my lungs:

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

[Image description: Text that says “Happy TDOV!” in the colors of the trans pride flag. /End ID]

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Transgender Day of Visibility is on March 31st and if you’re trans then these blogs might boost your selfies if you send any to submit to them:

@brownandtrans (for all trans people of color)

@fattranspoc (for fat trans people of color)

@fuck-yeah-transmen (for trans guys)

@nbpocparty (for non-binary people of color)

@transmasculineselfielove (for transmasculine people)

@nbselfielove (for non-binary people)

@nonbinarynotandrogynous (for non-binary people)

@nonbinarycuties (for non-binary people)

@chubbytubbytrans (for fat and chubby trans people)

@fuckyeahcutetranschicks (for trans girls)

@transgirlsarebeautiful (for trans girls)

@dailytransselfies (general)

@transbutts (general)

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Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Genital surgery

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

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Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Masculine clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Swimming

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Genital surgery

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

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More resources:

What gender am I? A roadmap to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and coping tips

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns

Here is how to get hormones in America

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airports and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults)

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Other trans blogs on Tumblr

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

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Anyone can reblog, including allies! Hopefully these resources reach someone who needs them. Happy TDOV everyone!

[transdayofvisibility]

Happy Transgender Day of Visibitlity! We here at TDOV hope everyone had a safe and healthy day.

[transs-juice]

Happy TDOV everyone! Here's some helpful stuff :)

[trashmouthdickiebird]

PSA

y’all

need

to

read

Shimanami Tasogare

It is an amazing manga with an almost entirely LGBT+ cast and talks a lot about gender identity, sexuality and troubles faced by those within the LGBT+ community (especially for younger members). Also it is fucking BEAUTIFUL.

Kamatani Yuuki’s use of imagery and visual metaphors never fails to take my breath away.

Please just read the damn manga.

[sparkytheandroid]

I personally had an emotional breakdown because of this manga having a character I felt so connected to so definitely give it a read my dudes.

[seangetfreaky]

guys it’s getting an official North American release!

Volume 1 will be out on May 7th!

[tuxedo-rabbit]

I also want to point out that there’s ace/aro rep in this series too!

I was absolutely shocked, never expected to see that kind of rep in manga, but it’s there! The author identifies as X-gender and asexual, so it’s LGBT+ rep being written by an LGBT+ author!

It’s a really great series!!

[skullvis]

This series is a fucking godsend and I love it. It addresses actual problems LGBT+ people face in Japan while being heartfelt. It is so lovely and I wish it was more popular or known here. 

[aroloverboy]

OMG I NEED THIS

[marlboro-trans]

Terfs: wombyn are their ovaries!!! Ovaries make a wombybybynnn. Accept that u are a womynbdgnn you have ovaries !!!!

Me, a trans man on the danger list for ovarian cancer and is going to get them removed in the distant or near future:

not for long

[lesmercy-deactivated20190205]

You’re still female whether you have ovaries or not lmao

[marlboro-trans]

You heard it here first folks!! Females are females regardless of whether or not they have ovaries, so trans women are women regardless of their lack them. Well said :)

[shitposts-n-shenanigans]

You played yourself like a damn fiddle, fool

[moonsofavalon]

i love watching terfs run circles around their own logic:

“you need ovaries to be a wombyn!!!”

transman: guess who got that shit removed I’m a Real Boy™ now

“nO not like that you still have a uterus that makes you female!!!”

ciswoman who’s had a complete hysterectomy: guess i’m not a woman then

“tHAT”S NOT WHAT I MEANT if you have a vagina/vulva you’re female!!!”

transwoman who’s had bottom surgery: oooh i’ve got one of those does that mean i’m a Real Girl™ now??”

“NO YOU DON’T HAVE OVARIES OR A UTERUS”

literally everyone except terfs: *squints*

i especially love to person in the notes who brought up needing to have “female muscle/fat distribution patterns” like I have some incredible news for you about exactly what Hormone Replacement Therapy does…

[dragonofyang]

[somethingextraordinarilynew]

Reblogging to show that terfs dumb crazy

🌟Reblog to piss a terf off🌟

[sheydim]

🌷reblog to support & uplift a trans person🌷

[cloudfreed]

My mom is a breast cancer survivor. She had a double mastectomy, a hysterectomy, a oophorectomy, and a lymphadenectomy.

In our family, we know that a person is not defined by the body parts they have or do not have.