Hello my brave thyroid-champions!
This subject may be a little off topic, but it's something very important to me and I know that this affects a lot of us. And it's about fat shaming. Calling people fat is awful, and it makes me so upset.
When I was younger I was the chubby girl, I gained weight during puberty. I hated my body. I didn't just get stretch marks, I got teased. OTHER people made me feel bad by calling me fat and mean nicknames. Evan family members commented on my weight. My grandmother told me when I was 10 that I would never be as skinny as she was when she was young, and when I ate she would tell me to not eat so much becuase I would get fat. That especially hurt, because she was someone I looked up to and trusted. It still makes me so upset when someone hints that I should loose weight, i will cry and have anxiety for several days after wards.
I talked about this with someone who has recently lost a lot of weight, and I told her how different I got treated after loosing 20 kg, especially by boys who used to treat me like scum, and suddenly they were nice to me and she told me that since she has lost weight people are treating her like a human being again. But even at my lowest weight I heard that someone had said that I would be so hot if I lost weight (!!!), while other people told me that I looked anorexic. It's funny how much opinions other people have about other peoples weight.
I'm guessing this effects a lot of you since I know a lot of people with thyroid issues struggles with their weight. Being fatigue can't help either, since overweight people often are believed to be lazy.
"Just eat less and exercise more" - people say. Well obviously, that is not the case for everyone, especially for thyroid patients, which I've talked about here in the past.
What can we do? Here's what I think we can do to stop the fat shaming:
Don't call anyone fat. Ever. Evan as a joke (just like Demi Lovato once said). You don't know how that person will react, that person might have had an eating disorder or he or she might have been teased. You don't know how sensitive that person is. Also, if that person really is overweight, he or she probably already knows that, and you are not their doctor who needs to tell them.
Just stop using the word fat to describe other people. The reason why I say this is because fat has become such a negative and hurtful word for many of us, and I don't like how it's loosely used on people who are not overweight, both in the media and by people around me.
Take some time to think about what fat actually is. This is for the same reason, that I just explained. I'm at a healthy weight according to my BMI, but my stomach is not flat, I have quite big butt and my arms are flabby, does that make me fat? I don't think so, because I'm at a healthy weight, and those are just my flaws and pretty much everyone has flaws. Still I often look in the mirror and I feel fat, and I'm trying to do something about it, not just for me, for everyone feeling like that. Basically people who are not fat gets called fat way to often and I would like it to stop.
So basically there is no need to make others feel worse than they already do. And don't judge others, which is hard. When I see someone overweight I automatically think that that person probably eats a lot of junk food, which is none om my businesses and I also don't know that. That person might have thyroid issues or other issues that I don't know about, but I would never ever ever ever call them fat!!! Because I know how much it can hurt. And I think to myself, that that person probably does the best he or she can do to manage their own life.
Please take care, and love yourself and your Thyroid.
PS. Obviously skinny people gets a lot of shaming to. People assume things and say rude things to them too, like asking if they are anorexic or tell them they should eat more. If you've done that, please stop.
PS 2. If you know me in real life and you care about me, please don't call me or anyone else fat, even as joke, I don't think its a funny joke and it makes me very upset. Please don't tell me that my boyfriend should loose weight or that I should get him to work out. Please don't talk about dieting or calories with me or in front of me. Don't tell me I need to work out or loose weight. Don't comment on my body or ask me if I've lost weight, I will not take it as a compliment, it will just make me uncomfortable that you've looked at my body. If you do any of these things, than you should be aware that these are anxiety triggers for me because I've spent more than half my life feeling fat and that I should loose weight thanks to people making comments about it, I will have anxiety for several days, sometimes months where I cry, have panic attacks, call myself fat and I might even self harm which I try not to do anymore. I used to measure and weigh myself every single day, and I've stopped doing it now because I know it just gives me anxiety if I measure more than I think I should. I still count calories pretty much every day, silently in my head. But I try to tell myself, every single day that it doesn't matter how much I weigh, measure or what clothing size I wear as long as I feel good and I'm healthy. Those are just numbers and they don't measure the quality of my life. But one comment can ruin so much, so please be kind to me and others. Thanks!