Unrelated To Bears And Tombstones

Hi. I joined Tumbr in autumn of 2024. she/her exmormon, asexual, married, american, leftist Steven Universe, Star Trek I like reading, journalling, and crafting.

[imjunebitch]

its so weird that ppl r so weird about allosexual ppl being in relationships with asexual ppl. did yuoy knoww you can do moste of that stuffe yuouresrlf.

[sea-salted-wolverine]

Hey. Heyhey. Do me a favor real quick.

If you don't already know you have issues doing so, squat down real quick. Bend your knees all the way and touch the floor. Just make sure you can do it. Okay? For me? And then stand up all the way and make sure you can balance on one foot.

Like. You don't need to blow it into some huge thing. Just. Make sure all your bits and peices still work the way you think they do.

[sea-salted-wolverine]

Can you turn your head to look behind you without twisting your shoulders? What about standing on your toes? If you sit down on the floor can you get back up without using your hands?

If there was ever a tumblr post worth sending to your mom, it's this one.

Just saying, bodies are a use it or lose it kinda thing.

[sea-salted-wolverine]

okay so every time I see this post crop back up in queues and notifications I end up thinking about it. Because I made the post and even I'm still doing the thing where I read the post about maintaining range of motion in my delicate meatsuit and I nod and hmm and think yeah that's a good idea and then dont move from where I'm curled up shrimp style staring at the nightmare rectangle.

So like. Thinking real hard about moving doesn't count as moving. Major bummer. Anyways. Joints.

[gutsygills]

mold pisses me off so much

oh you have to eat your produce the moment it leaves the store or the fuckin Hungering Dust will get it. and. poison your food

[tobiasdrake]

I ran into this post years ago and to be honest, it has completely reoriented the way I engage with food.

Like. I’ve always sorta understood that things grow moldy or stale or sour or such if left out, but I never really internalized it in a meaningful way.

But now I’m just like.

Yeah. The hungering dust. There exists omnivorous dust in the air that will eat my food if I don’t.

Those bagels have been sitting there for a week. Are we going to eat them soon or are we leaving them for the hungering dust?

Pizza’s been sitting out on the counter for an hour. Everyone’s enjoying the pizza, but if we don’t want “everyone” to include the hungering dust then we should probably put it away soon.

That’s just. That’s how food works to me now. There exists an invisible predator in the air that hungers for your yummies, and it will not hesitate to eat your food if you don’t make the effort to protect and preserve it. And eat what can’t be preserved before the dust can.

Life-changing.

[the-missing-number]

food doesn’t actually “go bad”, it just gets eaten by something else first

[the-haiku-bot]

food doesn’t actually

“go bad”, it just gets eaten

by something else first

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[washlore]

data: i have no emotions

data, later: hello, geordi. i have created a portrait of us as terran cats. this artistic technique is known as pointillism. it became popular during the late nineteenth century. i selected an american bobtail to represent you, and an oriental shorthair to represent myself. after researching feline behavioral characteristics and common humanoid-to-animal artistic associations, i concluded these were the most statistically appropriate choices. of course, it is not possible to determine which cat breeds we would actually resemble unless we experienced a transporter malfunction or a similar form of energy fluctuation leading to an unexpected physical transformation. i also adjusted the composition to accommodate your VISOR’s perceptual processing. you have previously informed me that faint details tend to blend into surrounding imagery. because of this, i used a high level of contrast to better define the silhouettes. the cats' whiskers and ocular details were rendered in pure white to improve clarity. i additionally incorporated bright violets, cyans, and saturated blues to the main color palette of the piece, as these wavelengths appeared more distinguishable within your visual spectrum. what do you think, geordi?

[sicklesium-moved-deactivated201]

i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because: 

i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live 

most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person 

im not a pissbaby

[damncommunists-deactivated20180]

my white friends that have reblogged this give me life

[zelda-tempest]

4. Sometimes I am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP

[lallamariamhabibi]

If ur white and like this post I fux with u

[birdpapi-deactivated20171121]

^absolutely

[verdant-witch]

5. It’s hard to be offended when white people jokes involve bland food/tourist dads in socks and sandals/white girls in yoga pants obsessed with pumpkin spice/suburban PTA moms and other harmless and mostly true stereotypes while jokes about POC involve them being called thugs/criminals/slurs/uneducated/illegal immigrants.

[blackpoeticinjustice]

i fucks with u heavy if ur white and you reblog this

[sm0k3-ring-deactivated20160109]

6. They’re usually really fucking funny and don’t perpetuate stereotypes that will ever affect me economically, politically, or cause me any true harm, let alone create risks that “justify” my murder and/or death

[wolfythewitch]

all all all

[fibromyalgicaf]

Edited to add: Since a lot of people are reblogging this original post, I'm adding the updated version I did that incorporates the intersex circle...

I know intersex people are still getting excluded in a lot of LGBTQIA+ spaces (let alone wider society) and I think it's crucial to show this group is included in the statement that we all deserve equal rights.

[no-passaran]

Good news!

Finally, France has abolished the law under which it's mandatory for married couples to have sex. (Source)

This comes after a French tribunal in a fault-bases divorce case attributed the blame solely to the woman because she did not want to have sex with her husband— after her health problems and the husband abusing her. She appealed, and in 2019 the French appeals court reiterated that the woman's "continued failure" to have sex with her husband constituted a "serious and repeated breach of marital duties and obligations".

She took the case up to the European Court of Human Rights, defending that the state has no business penalizing her for not wanting to have sex. Last year, against France's resolution, the European Court sided with her, adding that the very existence of a law that makes marital sex mandatory goes against sexual freedom and bodily autonomy. (Source)

This case was supported by the French feminist movement, under the statement "Marriage is not and must not be sexual servitude". The European Court's Resolution also came after the famous case of marital rape of Gisèle Pelicot (for many years, her husband drugged her and raped her and invited other men to rape her while she was unconscious, which at least 50 other men did and recorded themselves doing), which sparked new debate about marital rape.

The report in Parliament said: "Through the recognition of marital duty, French law has legalized having sexual relations under duress—in this case, under the threat of divorce for fault." And, in fact, a man in 2011 had been sentenced by a court to pay 10,000€ in damages for "lack of sexual relations" with his wife.

With the continued pressure from the feminist movement, and after years of fight, yesterday the French Parliament voted to abolish the law that made sex mandatory in marriages.

A day to celebrate for everyone's body autonomy, and particularly women (who have repeatedly been blamed using this law) and the asexual community.

[theunfairfolk]

i do actually get tired sometimes of having the same basic decency discussions around native culture. stop using the term spirit animal. don't use the skin word for shapeshifters. i saw a plushie kickstarter with the W word for a small skull deer plushie and it had already met it's goal. people just blithely repeating terms with no connection to their culture. actively profiting off of it.

[subversivecynic]

Ok, so I'm down but a sentence here gave me confused and I'm hoping you have spoons to help me clarify my brain.

"don't use the skin word for shapeshifters"

I know that the We---- word is a closed cultural word, and I'm careful to not say it because I don't want to be an asshole

Is 'skin wa-----' offensive as well?

[theunfairfolk]

yes! though "offensive" is a bit reductive; it's not a swear or a slur, it's just a concept that the navajo would prefer non-navajo not to talk about, both because of their belief about how using it's name invokes/summons the being in some way and because of the ongoing appropriation and erasure of native culture.

[theunfairfolk]

so apparently netflix is coming out with another season of the tv series "Skin--- Ranch".

reminder that the original name of the ranch was Sherman Ranch and you can refer to it as such. secondary reminder this is all being driven by the white mormon ranch owner as a PR piece for his shitass UFO ranch.

[queerautism]

Fellow white people did you know there's this cool youtube hack where you go out of your way to watch videos made by Black people. And suddenly your video recommendations will have loads of cool new channels. And then you realise youtube was literally hiding videos made by Black people from you because they assumed you wouldn't be interested

[starlitbeetle]

Hey all, while we're busy normalizing women with hairy legs, hairy armpits and bushy pubes, let's also normalize women with hairy upper lips, hairy chins, hairy side burns, hairy chests, and all the other places where women are supposedly magically hair-free.

[unrelatedtobears]

I tried to explain Tumblr to my mom, and my mom described it as Reddit and Pinterest combined, and my brain short circuited.

[freesiadotcom]

having 40 minutes to leave the house is fked because 40 minutes is basically 30 minutes and 30 minutes is basically 20 minutes and 20 minutes is basically fifteen seconds. but 50 minutes? 50 minutes is an hour, and an hour? ooobh thats plany off time

[nocturniko]

i feel like a lot of fandoms pride themselves on being gayer than the source material but have they considered being less racist and less misogynistic than the source material as well . could be revolutionary

[unrelatedtobears]

Children only receive how you show up

I don't remember where I heard it, but hearing "children don't receive how you feel. They only receive how you show up for them," has changed my brain.

It explained succinctly how pissed I get when I watch a movie where an adult child is in real pain because of an absent/neglectful parent (usually a father), but then they find out that secretly their dad loved them and was super proud of them, and the movie paints this as fixing the problem. NO! Because you didn't SHOW UP. You still caused harm.

(Can you tell I've got problems with my dad? Every time I pointed out how my dad treats me, my mom told me that he loves me so much. I finally, because of this phrase, had the language to tell her that I don't actually care how he feels inside. I care how people show up for me, and I actually don't care about him anymore. She took it better than I expected. She's a much better listener than she used to be.)

and honestly, this isn't just about parents and kids. No one can really receive how you feel about them. They only receive how you show up. And this has changed how I interact with my friends.

[yesterdaysprint]

The Kansas Industrialist, Manhattan, October 18, 1916

[chewing-on-lead]