Behold! A Bitch!

BAD BLOG, BAD BLOG, WATCHA GONNA DO? WATCHA GONNA DO WHEN THEY COME FOR YOU, BAD BLOG? 25 | they/she/he/it pronouns | white (sorry) | my name is Veronika now

[anishenanigans]

[guy whose heart is an autoclave voice] yeah man lately ive just been feeling like this great unstable mass of blood and foam yknow

[dark-spirit-tamamoland]

they're still terming random transfems as i type this i see which does make quite a statement doing this today specifically

[puppetstuffing]

watched three girls who reblogged its new blog mutual aidpost (made literally 15 minutes ago) already disappear from its notifs. transfems are not included in their pride :/

[puppetedlove]

:)

[puppetvictim]

:)

[tamamowand]

QUITE the statement to be nuking transfems at the current accelerated pace right at the start of pride month like this, isn't it

[cuunos]

being a kid and hearing adults say stuff like "woah 2011 was 4 years ago haha" didn't really convey the fucking horror of a youtube video crossing my recommended labelled "9 years ago" and it's from 2017. that's not true. 9 years ago is 2010 or something. don't lie.

[draconym]

The eye doctor is the most fun doctor you can go to. They never steal your blood. They never make you get naked and put on a paper dress. They're just like, "Can you see these letters? It's fine if you can't, we can fix that." And they don't even spell anything.

[draconym]

[innerchildabortionclinic]

This claim appears to be accurate. From the website "Generative AI For Good":

Notice how after Israel "(October 7th)" is specified. It's clear the CEO is not talking about victims of Israel.

Here is who they are working with currently:

[decompose1]

real exchange i overheard between two of my bosses. ????

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

[is-the-battlemech-cool-or-not]

[5kindsofmagic]

it's true tho

[transfemme-shelterdog]

As a trans woman, I really, really, don't appreciate people acting like they know what it was like for me growing up. Like yeah, I realize that your childhood was like that and I'm sorry that you were treated that way. But don't act like that's how it is for everyone.

I was very much seen as one of the guys growing up. I went to "boys nights" with the guys, which typically consisted of very masculine activities, I had gay cis dudes hit on me, I never once was seen as anything other than a dude.

Guys never once mistreated me, or saw me as anything other than a man. Even through University, I was seen as a man to the point where my University friends were shocked when I came out to them as a trans woman.

I was even treated as "one of the safe ones" all through high school by the girls I hung out with. I had an all female friend group that I hung out with and gossiped with, and was allowed to hang out with them in and out of school, because friendship with me never came with the possibility that I was gonna make things weird and try to fuck them. I showed no interest in dating them and treated them like any other person.

They literally called me a "Girl's guy".

So, your experience isn't universal, and I really wish people would stop acting like their trauma is standard. Because it's not.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

And then there's my husband, who hated being a girl, hated femininity, was bullied by girls growing up, never had any friends aside from a few guys in high school, and was never accepted as a girl by girls.

Trans experiences aren't universal.

[gh0st-note]

They truly aren’t, because I for one actually grieve the boy I used to be, even though that isn’t who I am anymore. I mourn what could have been and yet I’m excited for what is going to be. I felt fine being a boy, and was very much seen as one of the “bros” once I finally found a friend group (even if they still treat me as one of the bros but that’s a separate matter) I personally had very little trauma surrounding my identity growing up as a young lad, even if I constantly felt out of place. Just like being trans is a spectrum, so is trauma. No one’s trauma is the same and you CANNOT presume what other people have gone through.

[vaspider]

I have such complicated feelings about my body and gender and growing up, like... I wouldn't be who I am if I hadn't been an Oldest Daughter and an Oldest Of Three Sisters in a very conservative rural home*. I loved being successfully pregnant! I hated everything else about having a uterus. Once we were done working together, I wanted it gone.

There is not one true way to be Trans any more than there is one true way to be a man, a woman, or non-binary.

*my brother and I had a loooong conversation about that once we both came out, bc like... having been that thing was important to both of us, but so was no longer being that thing. And it felt shitty to me to deny our sister's life experience too by saying "sorry, that didn't actually happen. We were never sisters."

[hachama]

I said "when I was a little girl" to TH recently, and bless him, he tried to correct me.

"NO, Imi. You aren't a girl."

Sweetheart, back then I thought i was.

"NO"

Which is to say, gender can't be flattened without losing something. It's a social construct. It's a set of traits linked to secondary sex characteristics. It's a spectrum. It's a Potato Head of expression and performance and identity. It's all of those things and none of them and I'm going to shake it shake it shake it shake it until all the weird stereotypes fall out and then I'm going to EAT IT with GLITTER and KETCHUP.

And if there's one universal way to experience any of that^, I'll eat that too.

[capnsoapy]

always remember that chell is canonically* a transgender woman

[capnsoapy]

Transition timeline; 99999 days on Aperture Science homebrew œstradiol

[capnsoapy]

POV you used the phrase "transition timeline" on [tumblr] post about 20-year-old video game models

[romansroys]

this scene deserved at least 10 emmys 

[sun-moon-talia]

batman is one of those characters where i can read one of his comics and think “man. what a great guy. despite all his paranoia and obsessive tendencies he has a deep love for humanity that pushes him to make the world a better place. i don’t understand why so many people hate him.” and then i read another one of his comics and i think he should die in a glue trap

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

[no-sharks-on-the-sun]

they killed him for this

[certified-linguistics-moment]

[eldritchbauble]

A trend in the "nobody cares about me" crowd that they probably don't want to hear about but needs to be said anyway is that maybe sometimes people do care about you, you just won't let them.

[eldritchbauble]

If you alienate everyone close to you by demanding their time and energy but still complain that nobody cares about you because they aren't doing enough, that is actually a you problem.

[eldritchbauble]

Until YOU internalize what healthy love is, you won't feel loved no matter what anyone around you does. And in the process of yelling about how unfair it is you're harming the people who actually give a shit. Sometimes.

[eldritchbauble]

And this obviously (but stating anyway cuz Tumblr) isn't everybody who feels like nobody cares. But it is a trend I have seen in numerous people. It is, kinda, hard to care for someone if they're aggressive and hard to be around on a chronic basis.

[eldritchbauble]

It's disordered behavior, too, but that doesn't mean you have a free pass to lash out at people. It is your responsibility to evaluate reality vs. your trauma in relationships and not make it other peoples' jobs to emotionally regulate you for you.

[eldritchbauble]

OH, ALMOST FORGOT, ALSO VERY IMPORTANT:

While relationships should be a relatively equal amount of give and take, you doing things for others that they never asked for nor expected of you and then being angry when they don't give 150% back is also a problem. It doesn't mean you're a nice person who's selfless and always giving to others. It means that you're not practicing healthy boundaries and you need to learn that Being Useful doesn't make people love you any more. If you unbalance the scale it isn't fair to come back at people with resentment when they practice healthy boundaries, i.e. respecting their own needs and limits and not centering you in every part of their lives.

I actually highly recommend looking into codependency if this is a thing for you.

[eldritchbauble]

VIOLATING YOUR OWN NEEDS AND BOUNDARIES DOES NOT MAKE YOU LOVABLE; YOUR RESENTMENT IS A BURDEN TO OTHERS.

[qqchurch]

[charl0ttan]

You are in a woman's body

WE DID IT 🔥🔥🔥