Hereās another āstuff I wish Iād known about being a system three years agoā post:
š¤Everyone plays an important role and should be loved. Sounds corny but I had to put this in here cause itās true.
š¤Donāt share anything about ur system unless ur sure all your alters are ok with it.
š¤Thinking youāre fake is literally part of the disorder, your brain wants to hide your system from you.
š¤Drugs and alcohol can haveā¦interesting effects on you as a system, including having trauma hit you when youāre not equipped to handle it. Iām not trying to be ur mom but just be careful with it.
š¤Littles arenāt always literal children. Theyāre not always happy, or innocent.
š¤Itās ok to have fun and joke around with your headmates, it doesnāt mean youāre fake.
š¤Itās hard to find the right therapist and it might take you awhile. Therapists donāt know everything sometimes, and can say harmful shit.
š¤In-system dating and sex are totally ok, and can even be really healthy and healing.
š¤In-system communication is so fast and intimate it doesnāt feel like talking sometimes, sometimes itās just another alter airdropping you a meme or a thought or feeling or image or quote or anything really. Itās all valid <3
š¤Your trauma was enough, I promise.
š¤System friends are essential and a huge part of coping. Idk why we felt guilty for seeking them out? But yeah system friends are really good.
š¤Itās not all trauma and pain. Thereās successes and laughter and happy memories, too. It wonāt always be like this. Itās not always a bad thing.
š¤Your alters arenāt just symptoms, theyāre part of who you are. Every detail you learn about yourself(selves) is important.
š¤Self love is a beautiful thing. You are beautiful, actually.
š¤You fucking survived. Fuck, youāre awesome. You will recover, I swear.