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WARNING!!!!

People, please be careful. There are also people tracking children and people and putting bids on them based on their profile pictures on whatsapp, tracking and kidnapping them. Especially young children, so please be cautious, especially parents who have their children as their profile pictures.

Please pass this on to everyone so that they are aware of the danger. I don’t how it is all around the world but I know it can’t just be here so please please spread the word. Thank you.

[gallileawinds]

oh my god

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I HAVE BEEN GETTING THIS TEXT REGULARLY FOR WEEKS

HOLY SHIT THANK GOD I DIDN’T

[imagine-that-one-thing]

I’ve gotten a few of these. Never ever click a link from an unknown number!!!

[thefartshart]

oh yeahhhh, I saw that on snapchat. it’s been freakin’ EVERYWHERE lately. i haven’t been getting the text, luckily, but im still extremely cautious about it. shit’s scary.

not just girls, but boys and other genders have to be careful as well. this could happen to anyone. please be safe, my friends <3

[finninsanelycoolish-deactivated]

FOR ALL THE YOUNGER PEOPLE THAT FOLLOW. YOU GUYS ARE SMART. YOU KNOW THIS. BUT JUST IN CASE THERE ARE SOME WHO MIGHT NOT. THAT DOESN’T MAKE YOU NOT SMART, PERHAPS JUST LESS INFORMED. 

DO NOT CLICK LINKS IN TEXTS EVER. GO TO ACTUAL WEBSITES FOR ONES YOU RECOGNIZE AND TYPE IN THE URL. OR A BOOKMARK IF YOU HAVE ONE. DON’T CLICK LINKS IN TEXTS AND SOCIAL MEDIA MESSAGES/DMS AND EMAILS. EVEN IF YOU KNOW THE PERSON. TAKE EXTREME CAUTION. 

IF YOU’RE GUTS SAYS EH WOULDN’T DO THAT BUDDY. LISTEN. 

ALSO SIGNAL BOOST THE HELL OUT OF THIS

[67-chevy-baby]

I DON’T CARE WHAT YOUR BLOG THEME IS!! REPOST THIS TO SAVE A LIFE!!

[why-so-perfect-duh]

Tfw (#1)

Tfw you go aesthetic blog hunting and you read @romantic-academia ‘s uuuh whatever is that text under blog title called, that’s in latin, with a french accent for literally no reason

Oui.

[grdnkim]

Cuddling is therapeutic.

[charliestudyblr]

Quick reminder,

This quarantine isn’t a productivity competition.

You do not have to:

- lose weight

- work out every day and get a 16 pack of abs

- cure acne

- master a new skill

- read 17 books

- change yourself in anyway

By saying you’re going to use this time to “glow up” is implying that you’re not already shining but bb you sure are.

It is ok to not lose 15 pounds and don’t beat yourself up if you gain a lil bit either. It’s natural, you’re at home and walks to the kitchen are pretty common.

It’s ok not to work out every day and get absolutely shredded. Sure get your exercise but don’t beat yourself up over not doing an intensive 30 day butt and ab workout. Who the flip cares!

It’s fine not to master a new skill. Sure find something to keep you occupied but you don’t need to master a whole new skill just because. Arts and stuff takes years to master don’t feel bad because you can’t get there in a week.

You do not need to change yourself in anyway. This is quarantine, our main goal is to survive. Don’t beat yourself up if you’re not solving world hunger or turning yourself into a model and certainty don’t beat anyone else up if they’re not.

This is Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, you can’t achieve Self Actualisation if have not achieved your psychological needs and you can’t get psychological without basic needs.

Pretty much, make sure your wellbeing is in top knick before you try to accomplish every goal you’ve ever set or ever will set.

Keep safe and much love,

Charlie xx

[smiles-advice]

If you don’t think you can make it to tomorrow, then just focus on getting through today. If that’s too much, then focus on this next hour. If that’s too difficult, focus on just the next few minutes.

Take it one breath at a time.

[saintacephale]

❀ quarantine tips for people who deal with mental illnesses ❀

- try to enjoy the sun as much as you can!! even if it’s to open your window to let some daylight and fresh air in!

- try to get dressed every morning, even if it’s to change from your pajamas to a hoodie and leggings. believe me, it does make a change

- make a list of activities that usually keep your mind busy

- being close to your pets helps a lot

- try to meditate everyday, it’s super beneficial

- i know it’s hard (specially because our bodies are way less tired) but try to go to sleep at the same hour everyday and keep a concise sleeping schedule

- don’t force yourself to be extra productive just because you are at home, let your mind and your body rest

- try to keep contact with your loved ones and talk to them regulary (keeping a list of people you want to text/call everyday also helps)

- trying sensorial hobbies help a lot during this time, specially if you suffer from dissociation or if you feel out of touch with reality lately. embroidery, playing an instrument, painting, gardening... you name it!

- writing a list every single day of things that happened that day that you are grateful for helps a LOT

- if you are too tired to exercice, yoga helps

- try to be kind to yourself. you deserve as much love as anyone else

note: my private messages are always open to whoever needs to talk or if you simply need a distraction. you are so loved and strong. you’ve got this ♡

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things that can help ease anxiety:

- a hot soothing drink like chamomile tea - warm yellow lighting, like a little lamp - sweet scents or candles - reading a paper book - organising things - holding a cushion or pillow - a big bowl of soup - listening to songs that are calming - light exercise or a walk in a quiet street - fresh warm laundry and a tidy room - remembering things you’re thankful for - soft and comfortable clothes

[saintacephale]

in this quarantine:

mental health > making most of your time staying home and having your shit together

please don’t forget ♡

[saintacephale]

friendly reminder that this quarantine isn’t something we were expecting thus you have the right to be unproductive and feel down. you don’t need to “have your shit together” right now. please don’t pressure yourself to be productive, let yourself grief. you are so loved. ♡

[positiveautistic-deactivated202]

Okay so you made a mistake, or maybe more!

Will hating yourself make those mistakes go away?

Will hurting yourself erase your mistakes?

Of course not!

”But.. what will help?”

Try to see what you can learn from them, you grow when you realize this.

Accept that you can’t change what happened.

You have the power to change your future.

Mistakes are proof that you’re trying, and that’s something to be proud of!

Mistakes are part of the process.

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Suggestion (tags)

Maybe we should separate the #self love tag into two groups?

I don’t want to bring anyone down but I looked up “self love” in search for healing tips, encouragements and other things like these But I found pics of girls in revealing clothes

And I mean, yeah you look good but people with body dysmorphia may feel triggered by that because they compare themselves to you I know you don’t mean it and might not be aware of that so I’m not accusing you of anything or blaming you I really really don’t want it to sound like “don’t post this don’t post that” but the self love tag is a bit messy sometimes

Also it’s for your own good because there are pedos/pervs on the internet, what if they pass those photos to other people like these? This genuinely worries me (Posting pics in revealing clothes/swimsuits/bathing suits/underwear is a big risk)

That was about revealing clothes, now for the tag itself:

What if we made a sub-tag? Or whatever it should be called

#Self love - messages from other people, tips, encouragements, etc. (what other people have to say to you) #Self love (me) - my own journey with loving myself, photos, bragging about how we love ourselves, a bit more personal “online journals”(?) (what other people say about themselves)

Because I really think this is a difference. self love - how to love myself? I’m searching for answers for my questions, I’m looking for tips and help because I have problems self love (me) - How do other people love themselves? I want to see people being happy and comfortable with themselves, I want to get inspiration

There’s also a difference between “I look really cute in this outfit/hairstyle and wanted to share this” and “Day 5 of healthy eating and not throwing up after, I looked into the mirror and didn’t hate myself that much” Both of those are self love but are so different And I feel like people might sometimes forget it

Neither of those two is seeking attention, neither of this is fake One person is just already loving themselves/being really close to it/having a good day While the other is still getting there

For some of us it’s easier, for some of us it’s harder

This might be useless because people would keep going with what they are already used to (the original tag) but I think it would make some things much better

Any thoughts on this matter? Would that help you? I want to know what you think cuz I feel like I’m talking to myself sometimes lol

[why-so-perfect-duh]

Quick rant #1

Okay guys what the fuck I accidentally discovered some fanarts from a game I like, right

More precisely - ship arts, like, showing the main characters kissing right

Now there wouldn’t be anything weird about it It’s just two characters kissing, they are in love woohoo etc.

Nothing weird right

That’s a normal thing right

There’s a lot of things like these right

Okay but one of the characters is in their 20 and the other is a child.

This is basically romanticizing pedophilia what the fuck

And even though I didn’t search further, there were some borderline lewd pictures/arts

What the fuck is wrong with some people??

And no, *that* one picture wasn’t the child character “aged up”

It was an adult kissing a child

What the fuck

This is wrong on so many levels what the hell People I’m begging you, stop doing this This is just making me sick

It’s not the first time

There are more games where two main characters are adult + child and there are ship arts of them

I DON’T WANT TO GO FURTHER BUT I JUST *KNOW* THERE WILL BE THE LEWD ARTS SOMEWHERE WHERE THE CHILD IS STILL A CHILD

SOMEONE STOP THESE ARTISTS

THAT SHIT AIN’T A HENTAI

THIS IS NOT OKAY

GET YOURSELF CHECKED

AN ADULT AND A CHILD IN A GAME CAN HAVE PARENT/CHILD LIKE RELATIONSHIP AND IT’S GREAT

THEY CAN HAVE SIBLING-LIKE RELATIONSHIP AND IT WILL BE OKAY TOO

SO WHY ROMANTICIZE IT CMON

PLEASE. DON’T. RUIN. THINGS. FOR. ME. AND. PEOPLE. WHO. ARE. NORMAL.

NOW I DON’T CARE IF SOMEONE COMES AT ME I JUST NEED TO SAY THIS - IF YOU ROMANTICIZE OR WORSE, SEXUALIZE RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN ADULT/CHILD CHARACTERS YOU ARE FUCKED UP

AND THAT’S ON PERIOD, PEACE OUT AND SEE YOU IN THE NEXT POST STAY HEALTHY WASH YOUR HANDS DRINK SOME WATER AND MEDITATE ALSO TAKE YOUR MEDS IF YOU HAVE THEM BYE

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Unhealthy things people should stop romanticizing #2

Depression.

I hope more people realize this. Depression isn’t romantic. Even if it’s used in fanfictions a lot. Most common tags? #depression #self-harm #anxiety and others. I get it, everyone lives happily ever after in the end but, as some fanfictions cover this too (to my relief), you don’t just tell a person you love them and kiss them deeply and it’s magically gone.

Depression is a sickness. Just like you don’t feel and look good with a snotty face during a flu, you don’t feel/look great with depression.

Eyes puffy from crying aren’t romantic - the person most likely cried, as they would say, “for no reason” when in reality the depression itself becomes the reason. You would never call cutting marks cute, right? I really fucking hope you don’t. Those are scars. Caused by ugly and painful thoughts that most likely weren’t right.

Depression isn’t “I’m sad because no one loves me”. Hell no! It’s much more than that! Everyone experiences it differently too, so there is not a way to define it. But it’s painful. It’s horrible.

Don’t be ignorant. It’s not romantic. You can’t just “save” a person from it. It takes time, meds, actual therapy, support and patience. You need to understand that people with depression need to be reassured that they are not annoying, clingy or anything like that.

Not everyone can handle helping a depressed person.

But this post is not about “how to handle a depressed person”. First because that’s not the goal of this “series” of posts, second - because “handling a person” doesn’t sound good at all.

Depression is an illness. Romanticizing it is like saying that someone is sexy for having diabetes. It doesn’t make sense.

You don’t romanticize illnesses people - you heal them.

That applies to all mental illnesses. You can love someone despite their illness - and make sure they know that.

If you have depression or know someone who has it, please get help. You deserve it. You’re a precious human being and you deserve good things.

Numbers to remember:

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK [8255]) (US)

Free Confidential Helpline (1.800.537.6066.)

NHS (111) - call if you or someone you know needs urgent care, but it's not life threatening

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline: 1-800-950-NAMI (6264)

Teen Line: 1-310-855-HOPE (4673) or 1-800-TLC-TEEN (852-8336)

[why-so-perfect-duh]

Yo

If anything my dms are always open

If you need to talk to someone to share your happiness or sadness I’m here to listen

I may not always answer quickly because of time differences or school, but I will always let you know that I read the message and you’re listened to.

I will let you tell your whole story and then write so I won’t interrupt your train of thought. I would never ignore you.

[why-so-perfect-duh]

You, yes you

Do you know who’s a hard-working person who does their best despite stress and illnesses and mental problems even when people tell them otherwise and call them “lazy” or “useless”?

Read the first word.

Yes, it’s you. All of you reading this post.

You’re doing great no matter what other people tell you. Even if you just took a shower while being depressed.

“Even”.

That word doesn’t belong in that sentence, because we all should know that depression drains all life energy from people. If you found enough strength to brush your teeth - you did a great job and I’m proud of you.

People say things because they are ignorant. But there are some that understand your pain and hardships and are ready to support you.

You’re not alone. You’re doing great. Never give up.

Remember these things.

[why-so-perfect-duh]

Get your priorities straight

Your mental condition (do I feel okay enough to do this?)

Basic needs (food, drink, sleep)

School work/other important things

Fun things

If you start doing your school work (for example) while you feel horrible you’re most likely going to have a breakdown at some point. Your health comes first. Relax, make yourself some tea/coffee, take a bath/shower, put on comfortable clothes, hug a plushie. Once you feel “okay” or, how I tend to call it, balanced, you can start doing your assignments.

Don’t feel bad for taking some time for yourself. You deserve it.

Remember to take breaks too. If you feel like you’re getting stressed - stop immediately, walk away from your desk, take a few breaths, make some more tea. Don’t work until you reach your limits.

If you feel like something is wrong, slow down so the bad thoughts don’t get to you. Clear your mind and then continue.

It’s okay if you work a bit slower, you are working in a healthy way and thanks to this you can do more things. Instead of burning out every day you’d need a whole hard week to break down.

If you do break down - that’s okay. Let it out, no one can judge you for this. Cry, yell, punch a pillow. Direct the negative energy outside, not inside. You can even decide to hate the whole world, just don’t hate yourself. Once you let it all out and calm down you will know you didn’t mean all of that. Hurting yourself by directing negative energy inside leaves scars that you’re later ashamed of, they remind you of bad things and make you hate yourself again. You get closed in a loop.

So remember - if you don’t feel strong enough to do something, give yourself time. Baby steps. You’re still moving forward.

Once you’re done with your work, you can do some fun things. Treat yourself, you deserve it! You did it! And remember - I’m proud of you, always.

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❤ Self-reflection time ❤

Some time ago today I got so stressed about my school work I almost started crying and blaming myself, only to realize later that everything is okay.

When I calmed down I looked back at the situation that stressed me and broke it down into a few parts:

What was I doing?

Was I doing it wrong?

Why was this a stressing situation?

Was that something I could change?

When did I get mad?

Why did I get mad?

Was I right?

Was it worth it?

And so I started answering these questions.

I was sending my ‘homework’ to a teacher - normal situation. I believe I did everything correctly - I wasn’t worried about the grade I’d get. I had a time limit and there were a few exercises - I thought I wouldn’t make it on time (understandable). No, I couldn’t do anything - not everything can be changed. I got mad when my internet connection went unstable and I couldn’t send the homework, making me send it 2 minutes after the time - only 2 minutes (I started thinking irrationally and stressing myself even more). I got mad because I thought the teacher would not accept it - irrational thought. No, there weren’t any problems - realization that everything is okay. It wasn’t worth it, it wasn’t my fault and I got delayed only by 2 minutes - it could happen to anyone and no one would hate me for it.

We all sometimes feel like every bad thing that happens is out fault, but that’s not true. Some things happen just because and us blaming ourselves never helps.

We need to accept the fact that some things don’t go smoothly no matter what we do so we don’t end up stressing over nothing.

Take your time to reflect on moments that stressed you and answer these few questions. However if you feel like this might trigger something - don’t push yourself. It’s okay to forget sometimes too.

Stay safe, I love you all ❤