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persianmom-deactivated20251026

agonizing over all the time you wasted or lost is useless. it’s gone now. you survived in the only way you knew how. doesn’t your survival deserve some recognition too?

persianmom-deactivated20251026

like toni morrison said, “sometimes you don't survive whole, you just survive in part. but the grandeur of life is that attempt. it’s not about that solution. it is about being as fearless as one can, and behaving as beautifully as one can, under completely impossible circumstances.”

palmer

I’m going to the grocery store does anyone want to sublet my apartment for 45 minutes

jurynullification

How much

palmer

Only 3400

jurynullification

hot damn 🏃‍♂️ cmon guys lets go 🏃‍♂️🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🧞‍♀️

palmer

ok I’m back you and your boyfriend and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your dog and your djinn can go

cuubism

do fic readers know that their comments actually influence the course of the story sometimes? i don't mean in a "you need to write it this way because i say so 😡" type of comment, i mean when people are asking questions or really engaging with the plot and the themes in the comments they sometimes bring up things that i didn't even think of, or dig into parts of the story that i've overlooked, or get really interested/fixated on something i was going to just kind of glance over--and it has me going 'oh wait that's actually really interesting, that's a good point' and fully adding or tweaking or changing things about the story going forward. i'm literally adding an entire additional chapter to something right now because someone's comment had me like "oh i didn't dig into that as much as i could have." you have impact!

plaguedocboi

GORGEOUS GIRLS IN MY AREA???

I followed this lil dude around for like ten minutes. Probably the most beautiful polychaete I’ve ever seen

turquoisedata

How very depressing that Neil Gaiman had trended not even a tiny bit for demonstrating what a fucking horrific person he is.

As a reminder, he's suing Caroline Wallner, one of his accusers, for breaking her NDA. Not for libel. He's saying she shouldn't have told anyone about it, not that she lied.

The author says Wallner broke her NDA by sharing her story with the media, including with New York Magazine.

He doesn't need the money. He's risking the Streisand effect. He is punishing Caroline, he's trying to intimidate other victims who have signed NDAs to scare them into continued silence.

He is no friend to women, to the LGBTQIA+ community, to anyone quite frankly unless he thinks they are of value to him.

Share the story. Put it on Facebook and bluesky and whatever else you're on. Make it clear what a horrifying person he is. Tell your friends. He's paying Edendale a fortune to try and cover this up. Make this hard for him. Make it cost him money.

patricia-taxxon

the thing is, if your younger self was a bigot or an abuser, u can't make people forgive you. but you still gotta forgive yourself, like that's non-negotiable, dude. that happens before u can even ask the question of earning forgiveness from anyone lese

patricia-taxxon

oops, in your attempt to martyr yourself out of respect for your victims you accidentally sabotaged your own ability to conceptualize yourself as anything but a perpetual evildoer who is always one bad day away from hurting everyone you love, all but guaranteeing history to repeat itself. rookie mistake

patricia-taxxon

im gonna try explaining myself, cus im a gambling addict and im waiting for the day that it actually works.

"forgiveness" is personal, that's why I said in the post that you might inflict harm on people for which they can never forgive you, but that's their quest. if you abuse someone, you can't go no-contact with yourself. you actually keep living in your own head indefinitely, and ultimately you need to learn to live with yourself in order to continue living a full life without further harm. this is not necessarily an anti-carceral thought, although i am generally anti-carceral myself. I simply want people to like, fix their heart and atone for real with measured accountability & self love instead of dissociating, self-marking themselves forever and guaranteeing their recidivism.

You and a remorseful abuser would both think I'm giving the easy, coddling path. It's actually the tough pragmatic path in disguise.

ship-of-fools

actualaster

The kinds of people who argue once you abuse somebody you can never, ever change and grow past it and stop being abusive are almost 100% of the time people who will contort themselves into intricate knots in an effort to justify any and all harm they cause to anyone else in order to make sure they never have to come to terms with the fact that they're equally capable of being abusive to others (and in a not insignificant number of instances I've seen people who do this be abusers themselves but they've convinced themselves their victims deserved it so they're still morally pure).

foone

Important rules for the "age verification" era of the internet that we're living in:

1. Do not do age verification.

2. If you have to do age verification, cheat. Do not under any circumstances give them your real ID.

very-gay-alkyrion

The tool presents users with a 3D model they can then manipulate to, the creator says, bypass Discord's age verification system.

Oh no I dropped my link, what a horrible thing! Sure hope this doesn't get reblogged until it reaches users from the UK and Brazil!

And remember to not make a second account just to test out what works best when verifying your identity

asksanguinius40k

A reminder that we still dont support Age Verification bullshit.

infectiouspiss

fucking hell i forget that some people violently hate polyamory and are way too proud of admitting it :/

infectiouspiss

"if my partner suggested polyamory i would kill them and then myself" what happened to being respectful? do you not hear how shitty that is to say ??? whats fucking wrong with people

infectiouspiss

responses to a "what would you do if your partner suggested polyamory?" poll. what the fuck.

ariaste

Hey pals, this kind of behavior is a huge red flag. Translate this threat to simple English: "I would punish my partner with emotional and physical violence (or the threat of it) simply for asking a question I don't like."

This is manipulation and abuse. The polyamory thing is so incredibly beside the point -- if they will threaten to punish you for asking one question they don't like, then chances are they will threaten/punish you for asking any question they don't like.

It might not always be physically violent: Someone breaking down into hysterics every time you try to communicate your needs/wants/idle hypothetical curiosities, to the point where you feel afraid to start a good-faith conversation about your relationship because they will blame you for causing their feelings -- that is still manipulation and abuse.

If you feel like there's no "right way" to advocate for your own needs without causing a catastrophic meltdown in your partner, or if you are afraid of your partner's patterns of emotional response in any way, that is a symptom of manipulation and abuse. If you feel like you have to be constantly hyper-vigilant about every word you say for fear of hurting them, that is a symptom of manipulation and abuse.

Get out or get help. You are not the bad guy. You are not the bad guy. You are not the bad guy. You are not obligated to stay with someone who has threatened you, threatened themselves as a way of controlling your behavior, or otherwise made you afraid like this. YOU ARE NOT THE BAD GUY. YOU'RE NOT.

If you are in this situation, please consider telling a friend, a trusted mentor, a parent, a therapist, etc about what's happening. There may be resources in your country for domestic violence services to help you get out if you need to leave and feel like you can't. (Also please note that although I have used the word "partner" here, you can replace that word with any other word ("friend", "boss", "parent", whatever) and the point still stands.)

Finally, if you are one of the people who answered something like the above screenshots? Friend, this is a come-to-jesus moment, because that is NOT an appropriate way to handle an upsetting conversation. You're allowed to be upset; you're allowed to dislike a question; you're allowed to excuse yourself to another room and cry for a while. It is okay to have big, hurt, scared feelings. It is NOT okay to control someone's behavior via threats of violence, even if they are threats of violence against yourself. It is NOT okay to browbeat your partner into compliance and silence with your unregulated emotional displays. I really hope you sit with this quietly and think about it.

jackrabbitbazaar

New ACEOs up for auction! Each one is a punchline, with the prompt being the title of the card. Check them out here!

jackrabbitbazaar

New ACEOs up for auction here!

ihazyourkitty

Friendly reminder:

No, you don't want that otter. No, that is not a pet. No, that up close encounter where you can pay to cuddle with an otter is probably not ethical. No, I'm pretty sure that channel with a guy and his pet otters is not a legitimate "animal rescue", stop recommending it to me.

Yes, the otter is cute. Please admire them either from a distance, or behind a barrier at an accredited facility. Thank you.

.....no I'm not going insane seeing how flooded social media is with unethical otter content.

loubatas

The recent popularity of otter cafés in Japan caused a rise in animal trafficking & poaching of these otter species in Asia. Asia isn't an exception: the same will happen anywhere. The more popular an exotic wild species is as a "pet", the more it encourages poaching & trafficking. Even if you can give your exotic animal the best living conditions (which is always more complicated than with a domestic species), this factor will always remain

If you want a pet, you want a domesticated species. If you want a domesticated mustelid (the family otters belongs to), we have one: it's called a "ferret"

Yes, they do require specific care you need to learn about (like any animal, wild or domestic), no they don't look exactly like otters (it's the closest you'll get in domestic animals though) But they're a lot more adapted to live in human houses, and they're not at risk of being poached in the wild. Mostly because like dogs or domestic cats, they don't exist in the wild

why-animals-do-the-thing

I’m going to add to this that you also really do not want to swim with or cuddle otters. I am very foot-stompy on this point right now because the shitty reptile zoo that closed near me just reemerged as an otter-cuddling petting zoo.

All of the issues of supporting less ethical encounters and driving the illegal pet trade aside (other people already covered them, yay), have you seen those teeth? The ones that rip through fish like butter?

North American River Otter (The Des Moines Register)

Asian Small-Clawed Otter (Knockhatch Adventure Park)

Do you want wet slippery stinky chaos gremlins with those teeth anywhere near your soft fleshy parts? No. No you do not.

People get bitten by wild otters and it is a big enough deal to make the media when it happens! There’s a bunch of examples of serious bites at this link. They mostly avoid people but when they feel threatened they can fuck you up.

Seriously. There is a reason that people who work with otters, professionally in credible zoos and aquariums are the least likely people you will see reaching in to sneak a skritch. They only contact their otters in heavily trained situations using very thoroughly positively reinforced tactile cues.

You really do not have any reason to go do pay to play snuggles or swims with otters. If you do want to get closer to them than just looking from outside an exhibit, there are accredited facilities that will allow you to observe up close or tong-feed while protected by a barrier. Do that instead.

whysoseven

Can confirm, I used to work in a zoo that had north american river otters as an educator and animal handler. I handled mostly smaller animals, like snakes/roaches/frogs/turtles, but I sometimes had access to animals like the sloth and the armadillo. Once I saw them bringing out a reinforced carrier for a vet visit, and they told me it was for an otter. When I asked who handles the otters, do you know what the answer was?

No one. No one handles the otters. The otters absolutely do not get handled under any circumstances, because they can and will maul you.

I know theyre playful, I know theyre cute, but theyre wild animals, and wild animals don't know how to behave around people. Theyre not supposed to. Even if the otter is "nice", even if it likes you, one wrong play bite or boundary warning and youll be lucky to just get stitches.

Does this make otters any less cool? No, absolutely not! I love otters! But I love them for what they are, which is something you have to respect or it WILL hurt you.

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florallychaotic

Im gonna be so real can yall actually talk about ways we can support trans women in the UK instead of giving all the attention to fucking JKR. I already know that Harry Poter sucks, I wanna know how to actually HELP people. Something something you have to love the oppressed more than you hate the oppressor