Where Are Me Spoons?

Got spoons? (Any pronouns)

[wizario11]

Intro:

Hey my name is Siah I’m 16 years old. I'm indo-trinidadian and puerto rican. I use any pronouns and I'm also a cane User and non-binary and queer lol. I love all things cute and pastel. I like writing watching YouTube and staring at my ceiling. I am hoping that I create a nice community on here plus I could use a hobby especially since I’m a spoonie with nothing to do lol. Let’s see where this goes. Im excited (^з^)-☆

[wizario11]

Ok but disabled ppl absolutely can become burdens to their partners, and expect them to be saviors

TW:Ableism

If you're talking about codepency that's completely different then having someone help you with tasks. Many able bodied people who are in interabled relationships where their partner requires that care from them, do have to deal with caregiver burnout but that doesn't mean they're a burden. If someone is expecting their partner to be a savior then that's the wrong reason to be in a relationship and this goes for any relationship. But having to rely on people for physical needs or mental needs due to a disability doesn't mean you're a burden. No disabled person or anyone in the matter is a burden.

But of course keep in mind that having your partner/partners as your caregiver doesn't work for everyone and that's absolutely fine. But regardless you shouldn't call people burdens epically disabled people because that's ableist.

No one is ever a burden. And once again please refrain from referring people as burdens because like I mentioned before it's very dangerous.

(I hope this clearfies things and if you want me to go deeper into it or re explain please let me know)

[wizario11]

If you don’t consider mental illnesses to be a disability you’re not crippled punk

Mental illnesses are very disabling and deserve to be recognized as such

That is the bare minimum

To all of my people living with mental illness, you are just as much a part of the disability community as the rest of us

[smoov-criminal]

no one is saying mental illnesses arent disabilities or disabling. all we are saying is that being mentally ill or ND or whatever doesnt make you a CRIPPLE. it doesnt make you CRIPPLE PUNK. thats it. you can be a part of the disability community if you're mentally ill but only if you stop speaking over physically disabled people and let us have our own spaces. holy shit

[wizario11]

@cane-you-dig-it

You are absolutely correct. I should've clarify what I was trying to say sooner. Thank you for taking the time for calling me out on my mistake. I edited my original post in a small part of fixing what I have have done. I'll do better.

This is an apology to all who have seen the post. Thank you for everyone who took their time to call me out.

[wizario11]

If we want change in the disability community we need to stop with the Gate keeping, the gaslighting, and the belittling

You can't fight for disability rights while still being an ableist, especially when so many of us have multiple disabilities.

Fighting for rights for physically disabled people but then being ableist towards mentally disabled people and vice versa is just going against and back firing on our own community.

(I had to edit this a couple times since before it was worded very poorly. Thank you for being patient with me.)

[wizario11]

Disabled people are not burdens to their relationships.

Non disabled partners aren't saviors.

They all add something to their relationships

[wizario11]

Something I wish for as a disabled person is that if there was only more representation of interabled relationships.

Our relationships often have their own issues that are specific or atleast more common in interabled relationships.

Like for example, if I'm going to have a long term relationship (which I do) I have to get comfortable with the fact that at some point they might need to be my caregiver

And that's hard to accept because I don't want to put that on anyone, you know?

And don't get me wrong I'm very happy and interabled relationships can be very awarding and beautiful just like any other relationship

But there are issues and certain things you have to consider more than a non interabled relationship

If there was more representation and it was talked about more, maybe there would be more resources for us and our relationships.

[wizario11]

Just a reminder that disabled people can be just as ableist as non disabled people. So please check yourself on your biases as I will check on mine. Also it's always good to follow people who have different disabilities than you. That way we can educate ourselves on issues within our community.

[fairytalepsuedonym-deactivated2]

sorry i THINK im with you but i 100% need this ecplained better.

[wizario11]

@fairytalepsuedonym

No need to apologize

so what I'm saying is that disabled people can be just as bigoted towards other disabled people. So as disabled people it's our job to educate ourselves on other issues in the disabled community.

I hope this helps

[rpwickit]

I like the funny little magic lamb.

[autisticsunmasked]

Help Ky Get a Service Dog, organized by Kylia Kennedy

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[timidsketch]

"Mental disabilities are so much easier because you're not visibly disabled."

Mental disabilities:

[forestwhisker]

Tldr: I'm trying to save up for a service dog! Please check out my commission sheet!

Hello! I'm Cay but many of you may know me as ForestWhisker. I'm a 24 year old recent college grad looking for work in the animation world but that's for another time.

I'm writing this asking for some help fundraising a service dog for myself. Without getting into too much detail about my health, I've got a chronic fainting problem and have been blacking out in dangerous places and been shepherded to ER rooms more times than I'd like. I was told by a doctor I qualified for a service dog. Unfortunately, my insurance isn't going to help me so I'm putting out this easy visual guide for commissions!

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Email: [email protected]

Twitter: Forestwhisker

[wizario11]

TW: ableism

For all my non disabled people (and disabled people too)

If you think calling out that wheelchair user for moving their legs, calling out the person who uses a aac device for talking, the blind person for look at you when you talk, the mentally ill person for “not seeming mentally Ill”, etc

Guess what…

You just did some ableist behavior

There is no one way to act disabled, mentally Ill, chronically ill, neurodivergent, etc.

Disabilities fluctuate

Not everyone has the same symptoms

Fake claiming is not protecting "real disabled people"

It's harming us.

[wizario11]

Something that I noticed is that as my disability started to impact my life much more and effected my ability to take showers more than once a week, if that I started to get more into make up and skin care and the such.

Even though half of the time I don't have the energy for it, it's nice when I look at myself in the mirror and I don't look like how I feel.

It makes me feel like a teenager again lol.

[wizario11]

This is my oc Wawuda. She’s the leader of her magical girl group.

[catboyrobin]

i FINALLY drew him with a cane!!

[shapeshiftinterest]

outfit swap (with fake crown)

narinder doesn’t really remember being this… short, or squishy, last time he was alive

[wizario11]

Hey guess what....

It's okay to use the mobility aid if it improves your life and benefits your health. So use it. Don't let nobody tell you different ;)