完全感覚Dreamer

aiden aesthetic, seventeen, metaphysics

[wonnhao]

is jihoon okay…

[hellabatfam]

Cassandra Cain appreciation post bcos she deserves it.

[woozifer]

this time last year i was feeling like shit because i was with an abusive asshole who made me feel as big as a speck of dirt over going out with friends for a quick drink after school and completely ridiculed my idea of a valentine's gift.

This year i'm still feeling like shit because the person i want doesn't even want me and decided to wait until 2 days before valentine's day to tell me that.

Love is a fucking joke and i'm done with it.

[cannabisbutch]

i have such a wide range of emotions, including

Not-sure-what-im-feeling-but-it-isnt-bad

Not-sure-what-im-feeling-but-it-isnt-good

Empty

Pure Unbridled Rage

Manic Energy

?????????????????????

[songbirde108]

Don’t forget deeply, existentially sad.

[backtotheborderline]

Also: “sickening paranoia based on nothing”, “sudden pent up aggression you weren’t aware you had” and “guilt guilt guilt guilt guilt”

[woozifer]

in need of some words of encouragement today.

[boredofborderline-blog]

It’s amazing that being ignored can send me into such a depressive spell

[betterstayabsurd-deactivated202]

[bemusedlybespectacled]

Gomez gives out better relationship advice than like 90% of dudes.

[obstinate-nocturna]

Gomez Addams is a suave motherfucker who loves his wife more than his own life.

Everyone should want a Gomez. He’s p cool.

[breelandwalker]

Gomez and Morticia Addams actually have a very loving and extremely healthy relationship, both in the old TV show and in the more recent movies. They were also one of the first television couples to be shown to have an active (albeit offscreen) sex life. Their frank attitude towards sexuality was shocking in its’ time, but their relationship and their family dynamic is actually more functional and more…dare I say it…sane than most families portrayed on TV.

The comedy in the show came from the family’s “odd” lifestyle, rather than from infighting and petty bickering, or worse, as was common on other shows of the time, thinly veiled references to spousal abuse. They didn’t make fun of each other or act like their children were creatures from another world. Were they strange and outside of social norms? Yes. Were they united in creating a loving home and being good, supportive parents? Absolutely.

These two support and adore their children, care for an aging mother and an estranged brother, put family before everything, and they love each other, wholly, fiercely, without reserve. They are every bit as much in love after at least a decade of marriage as they were the day they met.

Relationship goals. LIFE goals.

[avotica]

Just remembered in the second movie when their third child became “normal” for a period and although they were shocked and didn’t know how to handle it, they didn’t mistreat the child or love it any less. They accepted the difference, even though it was hard for them. 

[drnerdlove]

Reblogged for truth.

[franklyunfabulous]

❤️❤️❤️

[endreal]

Posts about Gomez and Morticia Addams are almost always uplifting and I’m happy to have them on my dash, but I think my favorite bit about this conversation is what Gomez is actually saying to Fester.

It’s nobody’s surprise that many of the aesthetic and thematic elements of The Addams Family in its various incarnations are influenced by Gothic tradition (not goth, that mostly came later. And not Goth, that was much much much too early), and I think Gomez’s words are a dead bullseye in terms of Gothic mentality.

“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”

The sublime is a recurring theme throughout Gothic literature. Although the word (like “awesome”) has lost a lot of it’s original luster over the intervening decades, sublime doesn’t really mean elevated and lofty (or even heavenly) as it’s often used today, but rather something possessing the power and grandeur to induce awe and veneration in the mind of the beholder. Although less than divine, something sublime possessed a wildness and power that transcended human ability to control…or even to comprehend.

Sublime is standing at the edge of the Grand Canyon leaning as far as you dare over the railing and still not being able to see the canyon floor below. Sublime is warrior-queen Galadriel being tempted by the One Ring. Sublime is waking up in the middle of the night in the heart of a wild thunderstorm.

“Make her feel like she’s the most sublime creature on earth”

Gomez isn’t advising Fester to treat a woman he fancies like a princess, or even elevate her to pedestal of angelic nature (who’s idea was it to equate femininity with purity anyway? What a laughable and historically damaging idea. Shame on whatever dead (probably) white dudes promoted that!)

Gomez is advising Fester that if he truly loves a woman he must do everything he can to remind her of how she’s an untameable force of nature who’s grandeur brings him to his knees in awe and terror. Just like Morticia, for Gomez.

I’ll sign off with one of my most favorite quotes of all time, because it feels suddenly very relevant:

“When I find myself surrounded by so much beauty, I feel as if I am the eye of a hurricane.”

- -Sanjay Kulkarni

[fuckyouimpurple]

Lavender Lemonade

4 tbsps (¼ cup) culinary lavender*

2 cups boiling water

2/3 cup sugar

1 1/2 cups fresh lemon juice (about 8 lemons)

2 cups cold water

* Culinary lavender is lavender harvested for the purposes of cooking/eating. Please don’t buy the perfumed air-freshening kind because that is going to be utterly gross. Steep the lavender in 2 cups of boiling water for 15 minutes. Strain through a fine-mesh sieve and discard the lavender. Place the lavender tea and the sugar in a small saucepan and set over high heat, stirring until the sugar dissolves (you don’t have to put it over heat, but I do this because I’m impatient and want the sugar to dissolve faster and completely). Remove from heat and let cool to warm. Stir in the lemon juice. Stir in the cold water. Add more to taste. I prefer to keep mine on the concentrated side because I like to mix it with seltzer water when I serve it. Serve over ice. Makes about 6-8 cups depending on how dilute you want it.

[faerielywitchy]

My friend actually made lavender lemonade before and it’s delicious. Not sure if this is the same recipe, but stillllll

[captindigorose-deactivated20170]

reblogging for the recipe

[cyborgsmanifesto]

dealing with the worst case scenario

your condom breaks

you feel a lump on your breast

your friends are ignoring you

you’re stranded on an island 

you got rejected by a crush

you get into a car accident

you got stung by a bee/wasp

you got fired from your job

you’re in an earthquake

your tattoo gets infected

your house is on fire

you’re lost in the woods

you get arrested abroad

you get robbed

your partner cheated on you

you’re on a ship that’s sinking

you fall into ice

you’re stuck in an elevator

you hit a deer with your car

you have food poisoning

your pet passed away

you fall off of a horse

you or your friend has alcohol poisoning

you have toxic shock syndrome

your house has a gas leak

[4velitta4]

I feel like this could be useful in my future

[bekkathyst]

BEKKATHYST SUMMER 2017 GIVEAWAY

~This giveaway is in no way affiliated with Tumblr.~

Please read thoroughly before entering!

Hello lovely Tumblr folk! It’s that time again- I have a giveaway for you all. Summer is quickly approaching, and I know a lot of you are getting ready to relax and vacation! So in celebration, I’m giving you the chance to win this large collection of items.

All these items came from my shop (minus the sage!).

What you get:

(Handmade by me) Clear quartz and copper necklace

(Handmade by me) “Full moon” rainbow moonstone hairpins

$25 credit that can be applied to anything in my shop.

amethyst cluster with calcite

selenite wand

tourmalinated quartz wand

black & blue kyanite crystals

polished petrified wood slice

four polychrome jasper hearts

an amethyst stalactite slice

baby amethyst sphere

rose quartz sphere 

large rose quartz chunk

labradorite sphere

fluorite obelisk

labradorite point

golden calcite point

ocean jasper marble

Dominican amber cabochon

rutilated quartz point

amethyst pyramid

spirit quartz crystal

a black sparkly candle (because why not?!)

a sustainably harvested California white sage piece, picked by me (sadly if you are outside the US I cannot send this to you)

This has a retail value of $260 in addition to the $25 shop credit!

Rules:

You must be 16 or older. (If under 18 you MUST have parent’s permission)

You don’t have to live in the US

You must be following me, so you can get updates if anything about the giveaway changes.

Please check out my shop and if you’re interested, you can sign up for my email newsletter here. (Totally not necessary or required, it’s just an option!)

DO NOT tag this post as giveaway. That will risk the notes getting messed up, and this will be ruined for everyone. Please don’t argue about this- for some reason people have said really nasty and mean things to me over this.

Reblog this post to enter. Likes count, too. No giveaway or spam blogs. If you reblog on a side blog, let me know in the tags what the name of your blog is that you’re following me with.

Please don’t spam people with reblogs- you can reblog however many times you’d like, but please be courteous.

Each entry will be assigned a number and the winner will be chosen by a random number generator.

The giveaway ends Wednesday, July 26th at 6 pm Pacific time.

The winner will be messaged and must respond with their full name and address within 24 hours, or a new winner will be chosen.

Please respect me and my rules, and have fun!

[ashirahs-deactivated20170926]

Hey Tumblr fam, I need some help

I created this anti-hangover popsicle, have tested the crap out of it, and yes it works amazing. My friends love it, but I’m struggling with sales. Just being honest here. 

Anyway, if you get a chance please check out our website Lushzie.com I would love your feedback.

So for all my tumblr fam we are offering the popsicle that will literally end your hangovers for just $1 (to cover shipping) use code “TUMBLRFAM” at checkout. 

The popsicle contains coconut water, electrolytes, and nutrients to protect your liver and help your body metabolize alcohol faster preventing a hangover.

[crownedambitious]

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[ashirahs-deactivated20170926]

Thankyou!!! 😍😍

[idoyoudowealldohoodoo-blog]

I don’t even drink anymore and I’m gonna get some

[thistleunderthemoon-deactivated]

Thistle’s Beltane Giveaway!

Prizes

Dried Jasmine

Under the Sea bath salts

The Moon’s Essence Ritual bath salts

Stay Spooky sticker

Witchy coloring zine

Nag Champa cone incense

Champaka cone incense

Two black candles

Jinx removing tea, good memory tea, & pleasant dreams tea

Vanilla tea, mint tea, hibiscus and ginger tea, lavender tea, and black tea with rose by @thewitchofthenorse (she is not affiliated with this giveaway, but I love her products so I try to support her whenever I can - bath salts also created by her)

Rules

Do not delete the text!

This giveaway ends on Beltane (05.01.17) at 8pm CST & will be mailed out on (05.05.17) - winner will be messaged on Beltane & you will have 24hrs to respond or I will choose a new winner

DO NOT TAG THIS POST WITH “GIVEAWAY” - we don’t want tumblr to delete it

You must be following me because this is a giveaway for my little birds, I will check

You must be 18+ to enter this giveaway & willing to give me your name + address

Only reblogs count, but feel free to like this to keep track of it (please don’t spam your followers with reblogs)

You must live in the US or Canada (sorry, postage is just ridiculous elsewhere)

If you have any questions or concerns, please message me. Good luck everyone! Also, sorry for the poor quality photo haha 🌿

[thistleunderthemoon-deactivated]

5 more hours left 🌿

[tortagnamgnam]

This is the lucky clover cat. reblog this in 30 seconds & he will bring u good luck and fortune.

[itschinyere-deactivated20200201]

[itschinyere-deactivated20200201]

This is the money nigga.

It only appears every 587,432,258,943 posts. Reblog in 12 minutes, and money will make its way to you in the next 48 hours.

[teamnowalls-deactivated20180918]

if you not black and you reblog this you 100% going to hell

[itschinyere-deactivated20200201]

Exactly

[clearlyenticing]

idk why i laughed so hard @ “money nigga”

[fanduel-deactivated20191021]

deathly afraid of three things

never doing anything remotely successful again

never falling in love again

and stagnating forever, just living to die like my italian neighbors who keep fighting, they got nothing for them, just existing until it ends

[imtiredofactingokay]

[user64290]

5 Do’s and Don’ts of Splitting

(For the person splitting):

1. Do: check in with yourself

Don’t: ignore the other person on impulse

The difference:

(checking in) ask yourself what you feel and why. “Ok, I know I’m angry and not thinking clearly. Why did that comment upset me so much? Has this situation upset me before?”

vs

(impulse) leave the vicinity in spite, hoping they feel just as bad. delete them from social media hoping they feel just as bad.

2. Do: express yourself

Don’t: use self-expression as a means to blame

(Self-expression) “I feel frustrated.”

vs

(Blame) “You make me feel abandoned when you forget.”

Pro Tip: take responsibility of your emotions; try your best to change the use of the phrase “you make me feel..” in any scenario.

3. Do: Acknowledge urges

Don’t: Talk about urges with the intention of guilting

(acknowledgment) “I don’t know how else to feel better other than to relapse.”

vs

(guilting) “Now I want to relapse because you forgot about me.”

4. Do: apologize when you are wrong

Don’t: apologize profusely, or use self-deprecating language.

Pro Tip: putting yourself down is not an apology and makes this about you.

(warranted) “I’m sorry I lashed out. Next time, I will say it differently.”

vs

(unwarranted) “I’m sorry I’m so stupid. You probably want nothing to do with me.”

5. Do: set boundaries

Don’t: give ultimatums

(Boundary) “I won’t continue this conversation because I’m upset and need to leave for now.”

vs

(Ultimatum) “If you can’t respond the way I’d like, then there’s no point in talking anymore”

Support someone splitting: read the second part of this post here.

To learn the 5 misconceptions about splitting, click here.

To learn how to set boundaries, click here.

More advice from me here.

New Site: bpd4bpd.org

Coming Soon:

5 Ways to Repair a Relationship After Splitting

5 Misconceptions About Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

[quietborderlineinfo]

ok, this stuff is really hard to do when you’re feeling all those intense emotions!. don’t feel bad if you can’t always get it right (i sure as hell can’t). use this as a quick cheatsheet for when you’re going through the whirlwind of emotions and are about to say something you’ll regret!

-Mod K