Seven Keys to Writing Beyond Yourself
It’s one of the greatest challenges—and rewards—of writing: creating characters who are nothing like us. If you want your characters to feel complex and real, you can't just write yourself in a different hat. You have to build them from the ground up, with their own roots and unique growth pattern.
Here are seven ways to push beyond your own experience and plant characters with lives, beliefs, and souls completely different from your own:
1. Research the Worldview, Not Just the Job
Go beyond superficial traits like occupation. Research the cultural, socio-economic, or historical context that truly shaped their thinking. Understanding why they value certain traditions or why they fear a specific outcome will give you the necessary framework to write their choices convincingly.
2. Locate the Shared Emotional Root
While your character's experiences may be different, their core human emotions are universal. Find the common ground in emotions like love, loss, fear, or ambition, and use that as the initial, authentic entry point into their psyche. Even if they respond to grief differently than you, the source of the pain is recognizable.
3. Link Their Beliefs to a Specific Wound
Connect their differences directly to a specific trauma or formative event in their past. Their non-authorial beliefs aren't random; they are flawed coping mechanisms created to protect them from that past pain. Writing their different perspective as a logical defense against a past trauma makes their actions understandable.
4. Interview the Character Formally
Sit down and formally "interview" your character as if they were a real person across the table. Ask them questions you, the author, would find uncomfortable or confrontational, focusing on their prejudices and daily, mundane choices. You should genuinely aim to be surprised by their answers.
5. Focus on Physicality and Environment
Pay close attention to how their physicality, daily routines, and environment reflect their difference from you. Does their speech pattern betray their history? Does their posture reflect their profession? These external details serve as constant reminders that you are writing a person who moves through the world differently.
6. Embrace the Challenging Flaw
Give them a fundamental flaw or contradiction that genuinely challenges your own moral compass. The act of writing their flawed justifications without immediate judgment will deepen your understanding and prevent the character from becoming a mere puppet of your plot.
7. Explore the 'Wrong' Side of a Choice
When the character is faced with a choice opposite to what you would pick, write the internal monologue that leads to their decision. Write a short scene where they confidently defend their "wrong" position, exploring the internal logic that makes their choice feel right to them.
It takes effort to climb out of your own head, but the reward is a garden full of diverse, unforgettable life.
What is one trait your current character has that is nothing like you?