Shame, Love After it Rains

Call me Zack - She/they 26 Lesbian, metalhead, amateur botanist, artist. I like star wars and video games. My nature/plant blog @coyote-mints. WoW blog @night-elf-aesthetics

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[starwarsheritageposts]

star wars heritage vid

[kitty]

i dont care what you’re doing take 1 minute out of your day to watch this you wont regret it YOU NEED SOUND

[fucktoyfelix]

[amber-writhing]

Some thoughts.

Kofi Tip jar

[thewickerking]

day one after changing sheets: ok im gonna kick my bad habits i won't eat in bed or leave knives or scissors or lighters in bed I'll have only normal bed things in my bed and I'll change the sheets more often too

day two after changing sheets: oh yeah this half eaten bundt cake is sleeping with me tonight

[peoplegettingreallymadatghosts]

fell for the oldest trick in the book

[ophilosoraptoro]

[severeprincesheep]

It's on the wikipedia page that literal sea people attacked out of nowhere?

[peoplegettingreallymadatghosts]

Never doubt my shitposts again

[ryllen]

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[tomb-mold]

alone in my room voguing like nosferatu

[tomb-mold]

me alone in my room

[krafterwrites]

Just remembered about possibly one of my favorite YTP clips

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[neiljostenpussyindulgence]

I love gay people theres a guy in my neighborhood who named his one singular dog “simon and garfunkel”

[bovineblogger]

can you guys watch my squab for me im gonna go on my smoko

[kcrossvine]

baby need smoko

[bovineblogger]

BABY DOES NOT NEED SMOKO

[mushroom-soup-is-my-religion]

New pin

[bovineblogger]

WHAT THE FUCK

[bugn]

[toddycats]

another comic about friendship

the first one is here

[meanbuddhist]

lowkey kinda hard to access my inner peace and serenity lately

[sentimentalslut]

trying to explain to tumblr that the Middle Class in not their enemy

[sentimentalslut]

saw someone say that someone complaining about only having 7k in savings makes them contemplate “doing something bad”

you know that 7k covers like. one hospital visit WITH insurance, right?

[sentimentalslut]

“people who make six figures shouldn’t be allowed to complain —“ most people who make six figures are, these days, solidly middle class. where i live, a combined household income of $110k is *lower middle class*.

“people who can afford homes —“ are typically 400-600k in debt for them. also if “can own your own home” is your threshold for the rich you are contemplating eating, i think you are genuinely stupid

“boohoo your investments dropped, stop complaining rich boy” idk how to tell you this but. most of us have a retirement account. you should probably open one

[dirt-mann]

[angelofthemornings-deactivated2]

One thing I really like about Beverly Engel's book It Wasn't Your Fault, which is about PTSD-induced toxic shame, is that quite a bit of it deals with people who haven't broken The Cycle of Abuse (TM) and have gone on to hurt others. That's a really underserved and vulnerable patient population, and statistically, it's also MASSIVE. I don't think I've read a single other self-help type book on PTSD and self-loathing that confronts the possibility that you're exactly as bad as you think you are.

[angelofthemornings-deactivated2]

I felt better that it so much as mentioned that children can react to abuse with ungovernable rage. Everybody likes the image of PTSD patients as internalizing everything and becoming doormats, which does happen, and often, but it's not the only narrative. Personally I've always hated my abusers and have always wanted everyone who so much as breathed wrong in my direction from ages 0 to 18 to burn eternally in hell. I *never* thought any of it was my fault and ever since I was a toddler I was willing to make it everybody else's problem, and it's really relieving to read a clinical perspective that acknowledges that abuse victims can act that way too.

[reasonablywittyatbest]

It's wild to me that its such a neglected subset of abuse victims. Its really common. When I still lived with my parents and was still subjected to my father every fucking day I would lash out terribly at my mother, to the point when i went to visit them for years afterwards she was afraid I would lash out again. We've worked it out, I'm a much better person when I'm not regularly subjected to mental and emotional abuse, but like, its just so common.

I think it must be, at least partially, because, people hate the imperfect victim. Its easy for so many people to sympathize with someone who never lashed out. Less so for people to sympathize with people who are angry and lash out. Even though its a perfectly sensible reaction to being hurt over and over. I'm sure most people would like to think they would simply never.

I don't think this is the whole reason, but, I think it plays into it.

[sunspotpony]

Similarly, there’s a narrative of, you cannot experience grief over having fucked up. That if you are hurting because you caused harm, because you were the cause of harm, that you’re not allowed to grieve, because you “earned your sorrow. You deserve to bottle it up and to hurt for the bad things you have done,”

Which is punitive logic. It’s copthink. Which is bad.

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important

In fact, you can actually give yourself trauma over fucking up too badly and doing, witnessing, or failing to prevent something evil that goes against your morals; for instance, if you steal your mother's life savings due to drug addiction, kill a civilian during a military operation (please do not join the military), or became abusive because you didn't have the tools and skills yet to handle BPD. In the field of psychology this is called "moral injury" or "perpetrator trauma."

[stuffaboutminneapolis]

Art Sled Rally at Powderhorn Park!

via Axios Twin Cities

#Minnesota #Minneapolis

[lyricwritesprose]

I think maybe the thing I like most about the human race is that we will invent something completely, utterly, blazingly stupid and then do it because it brings joy. This is so dumb. This is so awesome. This makes me so happy.

[gojinka]

My bacteria means I like it.