werewolf in a linkin park hoodie

18+. i'm jay. they/themsbian. early 30s (were)wolfkin + wolf furry. disabled, autistic, queer, transmasc (genderqueer). jewish (white). neurotic and socially anxious. cripplepunk. writer and artist when the spoons are available. icon by me. terfs fuck off

[ze-ev]

pinned

finally posting this, just in time for twitter exploding even more

hey what’s up im jay (they/them)! my twitter handle was pawtism

here’s some stuff about me, in no particular order:

-in my 30s. if you’re a minor, plz don’t follow/interact.

-im not online as much as i used to be (more info here), but when i do post, you'll mostly see posts that i like, find funny, learn from, or find important to share. also the occasional life update

more detailed about under the cut

-to name a few interests: werewolves (and other monsters n beasts), furries, art, animals, nature, history, mythology, magic, alterhumanity, weed, and various media that i like (i try to tag for spoilers if the thing is new enough)

-gay married to @hobbinch irl !!!! 💙 we've been together for over a decade. we have a dachshund, two cats, and two leopard geckos! i love our little family so much

-im transmasc, genderqueer, butch lesbian, queer, and grey ace/aro. dont be weird about this please 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

-i have multiple kintypes, some of which overlap and some don’t! i call myself (were)wolfkin because my primary kintypes are werewolf and wolf therian. depending on what’s going on with me/my brain on any given day, im also a black cat, a cerberus, a dragon, and/or a combination of any/all of the above. you know how it is sometimes lol

-im jewish (ashkenazi, reform)

-when im more functional/not bogged down by disability stuff, i make art (#my art) and write. i also enjoy proofreading!

-ive got multiple disabilities, and have very limited energy amounts as a result. this combos off horribly with my Brain Shit (such as social anxiety, autism, memory problems, and more!!). i usually reply to DMs slowly/inconsistently, but i always try to get back to folks eventually! thank you for your patience <3

-on a similar note to above, i often struggle with articulating myself, especially out loud (see: Brain Shit). if you ever need me to clarify something or you’re concerned about something i said/did/reblogged/etc, feel free to reach out! in general i appreciate corrections, and rebuke if i misstep

-thanks for reaching the bottom of this pinned post im sorry i come with so many disclaimers ✨

[lilstinky]

Donate to Keep Trans Run Electrolysis Clinic Open!, organized by TL Debow

My name is TL and I run Next Chapter Electrolysis. I completed my electrolysis certi… TL Debow needs your support for Keep Trans Run Electro

WELL what else is there to say that i havent already lol...........

i'm a transgender man running an electrolysis clinic, most of my patients are also trans and many of them are getting VERY time sensitive treatment for GRS if my clinic closes they all have to pause their surgeries.

[lilstinky]

Worst news possible: my landlord for the clinic is giving me until THIS MONDAY (June 8th) to move out.

I have no money in my account to move and find a new clinic space, let alone in one single business day. I was promised I could stay here until August until her lease ran out but just now I was told to move out by Monday morning.

A donation to my clinic is a donation to continue the care of over 2 dozen transgender patients. If you want bang for your buck this pride season please PLEASE consider throwing a couple dollars my way

[thequeenoftheentiregoddamnworld]

Hey, hey, look me in the eyes when I tell you this okay? The whole "do trans women or trans men have it worse?" debate going on right now is the most obvious CIA bullshit on earth cause honestly we've both got it pretty shitty and fighting each other isn't helping anyone

[catchaspark]

californians, consider calling your state assemblymembers in order to object to the current budget proposal stripping Medi-Cal (our Medicaid) from asylees and refugee applicants except in emergencies. also, they’re agreeing to reduce the asset limit for many Medi-Cal recipients back to $2000. That number means that the maximum amount a Medi-Cal recipient who is aged, blind, or disabled can have in the bank at any time is $2000. That figure is obscenely low, and it’s actually lower by about fifty bucks than the amount they’re allowed to get each month in income.* if enacted this policy change will vastly hurt thousands of seniors and disabled people and i’m not kidding. please speak up if you can.

[sealydan]

I wanna emphasize how important this is!!! I just finished a fellowship where I was working with a lot of medpros who treat families on medi-cal and this is *the* thing people have been afraid of and bracing for because of the risk it poses to patients and their families.

[syn4k]

ok note to self i gotta leave the house regularly so that i dont feel like im slowly transforming into an evil fucking shadow clone of myself

[syn4k]

So as it turns out your sense of self doesnt exist in a vacuum. You gotta actually use it and bounce it off of other people like echolocation to see where you are as a person and shit. So if you dont regularly interact with other people the echoes just get weaker and weaker and before you know it your personality is a blurry fucked up fog clone of its former self. which it sucks because this makes it really hard to interact with people again but yknow

[lakemojave]

People are unfazed if you hate women but if you dislike dogs they assume you're a bad person

[lakemojave]

Tumblr users will read a post complaining about normalized misogyny and hyperfocus on your claim that it's ok to dislike dogs

[gandalfsbignaturals]

learning to notice an absence of people of color is crazy. you start seeing it everywhere. ill see a random pic of characters or people or whatever and be like "these are all white people. why"

[gandalfsbignaturals]

all the babies in those baby youtube video memes. humanized character posts. like. its the little innocent shit. and like, the people making those baby memes probably arent seeking out white babies. maybe theyre just easier to find. but why are they easier to find? a complicated question, surely... but you know what it probably comes down to. someone, somewhere, maybe a lot of someones in a lot of places, made a choice. maybe knowingly, maybe not. but they made a choice. it starts to make you feel like a conspiracy theorist!!

[gandalfsbignaturals]

its really funny that after 2 months this post is still making racists come into my askbox treating me like im a horrible person for pointing out that sometimes people of color are excluded from things in visible and offputting ways. cry about it

[nongunktional]

i do think the negative interpretations of "im probably nonbinary but i have a job right now" are kind of reaching. it's obviously a waste of time to theorize the op's intended meaning, so instead i think it's better to recognize how the phrase can be a useful framing device to criticize how much of a fucking hassle it is to get gendered correctly. "but i have a job" e.g. will face discrimination that could threaten livelihood; e.g. don't have the mental bandwidth to explain gender to others; e.g. don't have the time and energy for the soul-searching necessary to confirm. all three of these are labor issues. yes you could interpret it as "but being nonbinary isn't important enough to worry about", despite that being a blatantly bad-faith read. it's more useful to interpret it as "but being publicly nonbinary requires a lot of social effort that, in many cultural contexts, will create more problems that you can't afford to deal with". like cmon it's a really good jumping off point for productive conversations about queer labor rights

[catboybiologist]

Imagine if a like 8 foot tall guy that looked kinda like an alien species just kinda showed up at the house you rent a room in and crashed on the couch and at first everyone hated him but you kinda just accepted this weird massive kinda-human alien species thing as a part of your group even though he's like twice the size of everyone else there

[catboybiologist]

Cuz that's literally happening to sea lions in San Francisco right now

[catboybiologist]

So there's two species of sea lion in North America: the California sea lion, ranging along California (including Baja) but not ranging into the north coast or into oregon

And the Stellar's sea lion, which are WAY bigger and live in Washington, British Columbia, and Alaska

A male Stellars sea lion showed up in SF like a month ago and just kinda. Didn't know what to do, and joined a colony of California sea lions, and is just kinda chilling there now.

[catboybiologist]

Weird vagrant species happen from time to time, but this is just a particularly funny instance of a highly social species getting very lost, and just trying to blend in with its closest nearby relatives

[closet-keys]

when thinking about how oppression works, on a structural level, my guiding principle is that I must spend at least as much time looking down as I do looking up.

what do I mean by this? here's an example. when my surgery is delayed multiple times, I spend a little time looking up (there is only one surgeon in the entire area who will perform this surgery on trans people, so every trans person's surgical timeline is bottle-necked and delayed by months every time he goes to a conference or takes a vacation or experiences an injury. in other words, if I was cis, I would not encounter this difficulty in accessing surgery). and then I spend time looking down (due to nonstop harassment and legal threats, this practice now only treats adults and will no longer perform surgeries on minors. in other words, my access to surgery is predicated on adult privilege I have at the direct expense of trans youth's lack of access).

if you do not build a habit around thinking in this way, you will become the person Audre Lorde describes as "so enamored of her own oppression that she cannot see her heelprint upon another woman's face." If we are seeking to dismantle structures of oppression, rather than to simply use and climb them, then we absolutely must make a practice of looking in both directions, especially when we feel like we're on the bottom.

[snowchester-system]

"my headmate is evil!"

>looks into headmate

>scared headmate with fight response

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

Isn’t it kind of fun how when your life sucks you just can’t talk about it with anyone

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

I’m serious though. When your life reaches a degree of suckage, you find yourself having to look elsewhere for anything at all to talk about. The things going on in your life are trauma dumping. Your past is probably also trauma dumping. So you have to get really weird about specific things or hope that others want to talk to you, because very quickly people are going to develop an aversion to you and the way your life sucks. Unless you just don’t talk about it

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

It’s socially isolating, which is dangerous—when you’re in this sort of situation, community is the difference between life and death, housing and homelessness.

I think the collective prioritization of comfort first is hurting people in a real and material sense

[coelii]

draw more fat trans women do it today do it now

[coelii]

make sure her belly sticks out further than her boobs btw

[coelii]

to be abundantly clear: this is not a fetish thing this is a representation thing I’m so exhausted seeing only depictions of skinny white trans women

[coelii]

Moi, par exemple

[garaks-padded-bra]

I wish adhd didnt have the reputation of the oh my god you people cant do anything disorder because i feel like i am barely staying afloat at every single moment of my life dawg. Maybe i have adhd 2 but um jesus fucking christ, jesus christ,

[garaks-padded-bra]

Like i literally feel like a loser. What do you mean the disorder is Affecting me. It shouldnt be doing that, ppl online said thats cringe. Thats not allowed

[myjetpack]

My latest cartoon for New Scientist

[voroxpete]

To be clear, this isn't a bit. This is what they actually did. "Its too late" is the new "Climate change isn't real"... And its still a lie!

Every serious climate scientist agrees that there is no such as thing as too late, just as there is no such thing as too early. We should have done a lot more than we have to fight climate change, and the world will suffer for our inaction, but there is no point of no return. We can always work to reduce the amount of suffering that occurs, and eventually turn things around to the point where our planet is healing once again. Do not believe anyone who says it's "too late".

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Make sure you don't accidentally punish people for communicating their needs and boundaries. When someone cares enough to have the uncomfortable conversation, that's a compliment and a clear sign that they are invested in the relationship. Yes of course it's uncomfortable to hear that something you've been doing has been upsetting someone you care about when that was never your intention, but people generally only bother to have these conversations with the people they want to keep around - the people they trust to care. If they just didn't like you, they'd probably just try to avoid you. So make sure you don't make it into a more punishing experience than it has to be. Try to see the care and the trust behind the criticism, even when it triggers uncomfortable emotions. It's a good sign that they're there telling you.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

maybe y'all didn't notice but fat people who don't hate ourselves sure did notice that people were obsessed with shitting on fat people in the late 90s and early 2000s (conservative political time) and now are again (fascist political time), coincidentally while the market for weight loss has become a 90 billion dollar industry due to glp1s.

you are not immune to propaganda. it makes some people a whole hell of a lot of money for you to hate fat people and fear becoming (or staying, I think like 70% or something of the US is fat) one of us.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

a lot of the fearmongering over fatness comes from studies directly funded by the weight loss industry...i think people don't really realize or think about the fact that research can absolutely be influenced and skewed by its funding. there is also research that shows that an amount of the negative health outcomes for fat people come from anti-fat bias. if you go to the doctor with concerns and the doctor simply tells you to lose weight, your problem is neglected and you may not even bother going to the doctor with the next problem.

every fat person you know for the most part probably has a story like this, of medical neglect. many of the stories i've heard personally are when the complaint or the doctor wasn't related at all, like being told to lose weight at the ear nose and throat doctor or at the dentist. it's straight up just bias. it's such a thing that in the show Shrill it's portrayed, when Aidy Bryant goes to the gynecologist and her doctor suggests she get gastric bypass.

the studies on health and fatness are simply not that black and white and there is basically no research that shows that more than an incredibly tiny minority of people can lose weight and keep it off for more than like 2 years. bodies have set points that they gravitate towards, it's not a personal failure. this also is how the weight loss industry succeeds so well - repeat customers.

some of the harm associated with fatness is also due to weight cycling, which is very hard on your body and is even worse if you get off a GLP1, which according to a recent study causes weight to be regained at a rate that is 4x faster than without taking a GLP1.

you don't have to hate yourself. you don't have to hate other people for their body type either. it makes me so sad to see the thinspo tag going around again in 2026 a lot like it was back in the day.

some resources to learn more here:

https://www.reuters.com/article/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/feeling-fat-may-be-worse-for-you-than-being-fat-idUSTON079061/

The Healthiest Weight Could Actually Be 'Overweight', Huge Study Finds

A study spanning almost four decades and involving more than 100,000 adults in Denmark found that those with an 'overweight' body mass index

there's so much crazy shit once you go down the rabbit hole. for example, BMI was not invented by anyone with a medical background. it was never meant to measure individual health.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

U.S. Weight Loss Industry Grows to $90 Billion, Fueled by Obesity Drugs Demand

The U.S. weight loss industry reached an unprecedented high in 2023, estimated at $90 billion, largely driven by surging sales of the widely

Body fat supports your health in surprisingly complex ways

Evidence is mounting that our body fat supports everything from our bone health to our mood, and now, research suggests it also regulates bl

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

just gonna reblog this forever because i love fat people and we deserve fuckin basic human dignity and respect regardless of our weight