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lesbian! twenty. ill post about being a lesbian and feminist and related issues. leaning radfem.

[femsolid]

They've been writing "OP is a TERF" on my posts for 10 years. 10 years. I check their bio and they are 30 years old now. It's not a new generation of idiots, it's the same idiots. They have not matured at all. They're 30 and they still fight against the feminazi boogeyman. "OP is a TERF". And every time, all I take from it is: "OP is a feminist who doesn't believe sexist stereotypes are identities and that upsets me somehow." Or "OP is a feminist who doesn't believe in gendered souls and that upsets me somehow." Or simply "OP is a feminist and that upsets me somehow."

During those 10 years, I have not seen the emergence of any other acronym used to designate any other group that is critical of the gender fandom. No "TECA" trans exclusionary conservative american. No "TELM" trans exclusionary leftist man. No "TEC" trans exclusionary celebrity. No "TEP" trans exclusionary parents. No "TEMP" trans exclusionary medical professionals. None of that. Therefore, I have not seen threats and insults that are specifically tailored towards any of these demographics. I have, however, seen a lot of "art" depicting the supposed radical feminist stinky vulvas, a lot of threats detailing how we should be raped and have our breasts cut off and a lot of signs with hanged women on them.

So, it's 2025, and what have the big bad radical feminists done really? What crimes have been committed? 10 years of screeching and crying and panicking over a branch of feminism, and for what? What have "TERFs" done? They wrote words on the internet? They printed stickers? Signed petitions? What? You decided to reduce their feminism to "trans exclusionary" but it looks like they've had their hands full with all the other issues that women face. Of course you were never really scared of radical feminists. People don't harass and threaten those they fear. You just enjoy attacking women. And for 10 years you've been pretending to be oppressed by feminists, like a fucking incel, and you've got nothing to show for it. The jig is up. "op is a terf" is a laughable catchphrase and nothing more.

[badmiffy]

um actually I’m immune to social influence btw, i just HAPPENED to arrive at the same free choice as every other woman on the planet. you know, the one that’s socially expected of us and that we face social repercussions for not choosing? yeah it’s pure coincidence

[learningwomanhood]

'For example, the shape we call a heart - whose symmetry resembles the vulva far more than the asymmetry of the organ that shares its name - is probably a residual female genital symbol. It was reduced from power to romance by centuries of male dominance'

Gloria Steinem's foreword in Eve Ensler's The Vagina Monologues

[harborfreight]

stop the madness no more nose jobs

[harborfreight]

and veneers and botox and lip filler and bucal fat removal and lipo and on and on and on

[lovergf]

There should be special protections for dykes who don’t care about heated rivalry

[veritablevent]

becoming intolerant of bitch/pussy/cunt as casual ways of referring to an imagined opponent in a conversation will have you noticing just how ingrained casual misogyny is. so many popular posts on this site i can't/won't reblog, because their ops automatically assume that it's fun and cool to call the imagined person in their imagined scenario one of those things.

[gokusclit]

The next time ur abt to rb heated rivalry posts think abt ur poor lesbian mutuals shivering all alone in the rain inside a cardboard box who could not give less of a fuck abt those men

[bakwaaas]

do it for her (your female ancestors)

[uncertainwaters]

i really wish people would stop using "the 41%" as a smarmy comeback to own tha transes. it's not funny, and i think less of anyone who does it.

we aren't just talking about sexpests here. we aren't even just talking about adults. bullied gender non conforming children make up a very high proportion of trans suicide attempts. you're talking about homosexuals, prostitutes, impoverished women, rape victims, domestic violence victims.

i myself was almost a trans suicide. so forgive me for not laughing. jokes are meant to be funny. that statistic is not a joke to me.

[lostandfem]

yeah it never felt right to me either. like trans was a last ditch effort to avoid suicide for myself, and yet people are laughing at the failure of such a desperate leap into what you pray to god is a better life for yourself. like you're not laughing at 'the transes'. you're laughing at someone who thought it was genuinely their only hope for life, and laughing at them for an entire system that failed to give them alternative treatment

[butchpeace]

Hard agree. I could have been part of that statistic too.

And I'm not just saying that because I was trans identified, but because at one point I needed to quit my job, take meds, and be physcially protected in order to not become part of it.

The trauma that many kids go through that causes their trans identification is immense, and the trauma that medical transition puts you through can be just as bad. Suicide is never a joke.

[e-sadg]

If you look up symptoms of ASD specific to girls one of them is frequently “masculine behavior/dress” or whatever and people love to blame that on autism being an “extreme male brain” but it’s really very easily explained when you consider what femininity is: a set of implicit social rules forced on women. Like, of course autistic girls and women aren’t going to be as successful at performing femininity “correctly.” It doesn’t have to do with the fictitious male brain. It has to do with femininity being inaccessible to people who have difficulty navigating complex and arbitrary social conventions. 

[the-rainbow-lesbian]

also sensory issues make performing femininity more difficult.

[avobrav]

Do I want to wear this fashionably body-conforming shirt with thin fabric I’ll have to pair correctly with something else? No, just give me a thick loose T shirt. I’m not wearing man-clothes, I’m wearing easy clothes.

Do I want to paint my face one smooth color so I can powder on more colors on top of it? No, that feels uncomfortable, makes me look like someone else, takes up time, and the supplies are expensive. I’m not performing a man-action, I’m just choosing not to perform the difficult action.

Do I want to shave off my body hair in exchange for one day of smoothness? No, that’s time consuming, boring, and you have to keep up with it or the stubble will itch until you let it grow out fully again. It doesn’t make me look like a man, it makes me look like an adult who is choosing not to perform a cosmetic action.

Sensory issues make performing femininity more difficult because femininity IS a performance, and it IS more difficult than the default presented to men. They get non-actions presented to them as the default.

[opinionsstuff]

Completely agree. My autism made it that I never was able to deal with the sensory hell of clothes and accessories for women. I’ve always simply prioritized my comfort. I wear comfortable clothes, I do not irritate my skin with shaving/waxing/laser/whatever, I do not wear uncomfortable cakey chemicals on my face, etc.

I am not performing masculinity, I am simply existing comfortably.

[lafemmenuit]

I’m tired of girls trying to invalidate their own feelings during times of pain, especially to their friends. Your break up meant something. That friendship you lost was a hard blow. I understand why you feel tired this semester. Sometimes this “modern woman” stereotype is patriarchy’s last attempt; patriarchy disguised as feminism. You don’t have to be “wise beyond your years”; your pain and crying does not mean you are not intelligent. If you feel your friends demand justification for your pain and ordeals, they’re not friends. You’re strong but human. Remind yourself emotional space is part of liberation.

[magneliotrope]

Minimizing your pain as a female is what patriarchy has always asked of us.

[electripipedream]

Gay Liberation Front member, New York University, New York City, September 1970

[otrerasdaughter-deactivated2025]

Stop being scared of building muscle.

Stop being scared of lifting heavy.

Stop being scared of looking bulky.

These things are keeping you from being your best, strongest self. Muscles will protect you in more ways than one, and have so many health benefits. It’s worth it I promise 🫶🏻

[djuvlipen]

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

[source]: Kupferberg Holocaust Center

[djuvlipen]

And in case anyone wants to dig more into it, the historian of reference for Nazi brothels is Robert Sommer who wrote a thesis about the brothels that were set up in Nazi concentration camps (Das KZ-Bordell: Sexuelle Zwangsarbeit in nationalsozialistichen Konzentrationslagern). He also wrote many articles about it and some of them are in english but I don't know if they are freely available online.

Sommer also contributed to a book called "Sexual Violence Against Jewish Women During the Holocaust" which is an absolute must-read as well (it's not limited to brothels though).

There is also this article about forced prostitution in the Warsaw Ghetto.

Unfortunately sexual violence, prostitution and the Holocaust is a very new field, Sommer published his work in the 2000s and it's only in the 2010s that we started seeing exhibits, symposiums and books about those topics

[3vill3sbian]

it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me that i’ve never felt anything towards men and also never wanted to “just try it” or experiment.

no shame to lesbians that did but i feel like im broken for not ever desiring/being curious about men before.

[sighing-is-a-song]

Happy Pride! Let’s get some things str8

Trans people had nothing to do with the first pride 😁

Black Butch Cis lesbian Stormé DeLarverie started threw the first punch that started the stonewall rebellion. I say rebellion and not riot because that is how Stormé herself referred to it:

“It was a rebellion, it was an uprising, it was a civil rights disobedience – it wasn't no damn riot.”

Two cis gays and two cis lesbians, Craig Rodwell. Fred Sargeant, Ellen Broidy, and Linda Rhodes, proposed Pride. And then Cis bisexual Brenda Howard organized it. She is even called “the mother of Pride.”

Furthermore Marsha P Johnson was NOT trans.

And Sylvia Rivera doesn’t like being called trans.

Erasing the accomplishments of gay men, lesbians, and bisexuals to fit your narrative is not cute or “woke.” It’s disrespectful and downright homophobic. All of you spreading misinformation should be ashamed.

[bluerotundas]

The most convincing lie any of us has ever been told is that there is a truer version of ourselves being held captive or sabotaged by an uncooporative body. That lie has caused so many of us to waste entire lifetimes punishing ourselves for what we are. To me, self love has required that I end the delusion. I am my body, my body is me, nothing more, nothing less. So I begin to love myself, instead of resenting myself. I am exactly as I exist in this moment.