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• Ari | genderflux (she/her, they/them) | trans enough | hippie wannabe |  something queer idk girls are cute | regretfully, Russia• • actually, there's no reason for you to be here • • i couldn't care less about the theme • • seriously, why are you still here? •

[tomorrowillbeyou]

you have to listen to loud music . it scares the evil creatures from your head

[creepymutelilbugger]

bonus : without any of the evil creatures left , you can hear the song of the angels more clearly (tinnitus)

[i-am-dulaman]

I'm sorry I'm not over this yet

Imagine being a marine biologist and a marine biology comes to visit you but you're not home 😭😭

[frauggiethecreature]

reblog if you fully and intentionally are referring to aspec people as well when you use the word queer to refer to the community

[mckitterick]

my partner once said, "if you have to explain your sexuality to straight people, you're probably queer"

[whitepeopletwitter]

[criptochecca]

Every few months twitterinas bring back the “carnivores are a problematic element of nature and we should feed them synthetic meat and make it so they don’t eat herbivores. this is completely normal, feasible and won’t have any kind of repercussion on the ecosystem” discourse

[criptochecca]

First time I saw that was a guy who had as proposition to create fake prey animals with a robotic exoskeleton and covered in synthetic meat that predators would hunt, eat and then the exoskeleton would get up and go to the lab to get re meated. That was funny as hell

[leviathan-the-boy]

Tiger watching skinless carcass it just ate get up and walk away

[infectedwithnyanites]

Actually we should totally do this but not for like ideological veganism reasons just cuz itd be funny as like an animal social experiment.

[leviathan-supersystem]

doing this with real meat so there's not even a hypothetical animal rights angle, just completely unwarranted and unmitigated freak behavior

[nepofledgling]

hate when a female character gets a lot of hate but I dont like her either. sorry queen I cant defend you

[made-nondescript]

figured out a way you can search for posts that are tagged TWO things on a blog!!! feeling clever

for anyone else who didn’t know, this is the format!:

https://[blogURL].tumblr.com/search/%23[tag1]%2C%20%23[tag2]

remove the [brackets] when using it!

[unculture]

mods are asleep, share hacks that make the site usable against its will

[relaxxattack]

discords new username update is literally just “what if we got rid of privacy & safety & the fun of name changes! cuz numbers are so hard :(” and it is making me physically violent

[relaxxattack]

good advice.

[yourdragonisinanothercastle]

I’ve read the notes and I still genuinely don’t understand the issue here.

We’ll still have perfectly customizable display names so we can put our pronouns and stuff. We’ll still be able to personalize a nickname for each server. We’ll still be able to change our usernames up to 2 times per hour, so it shouldn’t affect our ability to escape malicious stalkers. And there is no obligation to use the same username as on our social media.

None of these features will be locked behind a Nitro subscription.

I’m begging people to explain here. Is there a big issue that I’m completely blind to, or did nobody bother reading the FAQ?

[relaxxattack]

the usernames now must be completely unique and are separate to display names; aka the same as most socmed systems right now. that’s annoying on its own because discord is not a socmed. it’s a messaging app. anyway this means even if you can change them whenever you want, you shouldn’t, because it opens up your name to being stolen. this also means url hoarding can be a thing on discord now. this also means that people who don’t like to change their name because they want it consistent across platforms can be forced to if they don’t want to be stalked for any reason— and then, should their new name be found; they will have to do that again, potentially eventually running out of any names they even like having. sure, we’ve all had to make names we didn’t like that much on social media before— but discord is not a social media, not to mention they literally had a perfectly good system before and are just deciding to change it.

this also means that anyone besides the FIRST person to have a common name now must change their name, regardless of how attached to it they were before. because it’s going off of seniority.

there’s also the fact that there was practically no good reason for this change. the statistics discord mentions in their announcement of the update are misleading at best and at worst completely untrue. i also struggle to understand the purpose of forcing 9999 people to chose an entirely new name just because that 10000th person wasn’t able to get it too. “only 9999 people can have this name, which seems unfair! so instead of adding a number to make it 99999 or something, we’re going to take away numbers, so now only 1 person can have it!” does not seem like a well thought out decision to me.

as i understand, it also means that only people with latin characters for names can make their usernames, and people without will have to change their names. i’m not going to even go into why that’s dumb.

in short, it’s going to be a huge hassle and inconvenience for many many people, and actually dangerous for other people. and even if it wasn’t, there really is zero good reason for this change besides the homogenization of the internet, which personally i am avidly against.

at least, this is my opinion. i hope it doesn’t come across as harsh.

[loth-catgirl]

in short, to use a mangled metaphorical: you know how we're getting bots with really good urls these days? and how those urls are gone forever, locked away from us because some botnet took it? discord is introducing a similar scarcity problem.

[liliflower137]

FINALLY SOMEONE ELSE MENTIONS THE PRIVACY THING!!! I love how no one can message me on discord without me personally giving them my 4 numbers even though I use the same username everywhere!! I don't want to loose that!

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Saw a reddit post today about a girl who was upset that her childhood best friend replaced a photo of the two of them in his wallet with one of him and his girlfriend. And while yeah, she was being unreasonable with a lot of what she was saying, I totally understand the sadness of a friend "replacing" you with someone they have romantic feelings for. Makes it worse when the top comment is this

Every single comment on this post is about how family and romantic relationships always take precedence over friendships. I don't have anything more to say to this aside from the fact that... this is why it's hard for aroaces to imagine futures for themselves. Society drills it into your head that you're going to live in a world where you are no one's priority if you don't have romantic relationships and it fucking sucks

[cottagecore-raccoon]

Being older is weird - so let’s play a game about it!

Would you rather:

Write a cover letter

Make an 8 hour drive

Call your bank

Go to the gynecologist/urologist

Put together an ikea cabinet

Deep clean the house for company

Provide technical support over the phone to elderly parents

Serve on a jury

Discuss final arrangements with an elder

Attend a shot gun wedding of an acquaintance

Voting ended onJun 2, 2023

[thinksquad-deactivated20190405]

[doublediscourse]

Another reminder that if your system of morality is based solely upon what’s legal and illegal, you have no moral system.

In an ideal society laws exist to protect people and make life easier. We do not live in an ideal society.

[the-errant-bard]

A few weeks ago Cool People Who Do Cool Stuff covered the break in and everything that went into it

[meme-theft]

[oddityball]

I LOVE THAT THEY KEEP PICKING UP MORE OMG

[the-thought-emporium-imperial]

Man, The Spiderverse movie looks rough as hell.

[soft-symbiote]

can you imagine being at this con dressed as spiderman and this caravan passes by and you’re like “…I gotta go” and leave your friends in the dust

[donnamissal]

[parasect]

Thanks, tumblr mobile, for unintentionally making this even funnier

[po-acus]

Just as I said, “is this ever going to load?” One gif loaded and honestly it answered my question perfectly.

[sternenhimmel-mond]

Together they create the full set.

[bartziefluff]

saw this again on my dash after reblog and…

[tuntematonkorppi]

tumblr black out poetry

[exsanguiination]

another hyperspecific poll on your dash

you have gone to warped tour exactly once

you have 2 cousins who are siblings with the same birthday

you only take ibuprofen never tylenol

unexplained scar on right hand

always sitting in a way that makes one or both feet fall asleep

you have one sibling with a 9 year age difference

never had braces

this emoji 🌚 is always in your frequently used

more than one (put in tags)

none apply

Voting ended onApr 25, 2023

:)

[deadlynight1987-deactivated2023]

life is good

[luigis-slut]

[spatscolombo-deactivated2022030]

How DARE Tolkien omit in the final draft the information that the traditional hobbit marriage custom is to have unspoken vibes for years and then disappear without explanation for an indeterminate length of time!?

[quixoticanarchy]

[ID: a photo of a partial book page labeled across the top “First Version”, “A Long-Expected Party”, and “17”. The text starts midsentence and reads “curious habit in their weddings. They kept it (always officially and very often actually) a dead secret for years who they were going to marry, even when they knew. They they suddenly went and got married and went off without an address for a week or two (or even longer). When Bilbo disappeared this is what at first his neighbors thought. ‘He has gone and got married. Now who can it be? - no one else has disappeared, as far as we know.‘ Even after a year they would have been less surprised if he had come back with a wife.“ /end ID]

[mamakitty187]

Okay but… Sam, Frodo, Merry, and Pippin all randomly deuces out the same night… can you imagine the Shire gossip???

[theredkite]

At the next Took family gathering, Esmerelda and Paladin II make a show of casually settling up their bet, but later hustle each other off into another room for a hushed “They did marry each other, didn’t they?” “Surely neither of them married that Baggins boy!” “My Peregrine would never!” “You said he wouldn’t marry Meriadoc though.” “Well, yes, but… not the Baggins boy? I’m sure they’ve married each other. Frodo Baggins has married his gardener, and our boys married each other and it’s fine.” “Unless all four of them -” “Don’t even think it!” conversation.

Fredegar Bolger trying to pretend to have ANY idea how the poly geometry works there.

Meanwhile in Hobbiton Hamfast Gamgee is inconsolable because there are no good possibilities here. His poor son has married into the gentry and it doesn’t matter which one what kind of husband is that for such a promising lad?

Rosie Cotton sobbing “He’ll never notice me now HE HAS A HAREM I knew he was out of my league!”

[theconcealedweapon]

[queeranarchism]

& that 1% regret rate is almost entirely “Yes I’m still trans but the surgery was bad, or the transphobia i encounter is so much worse than anticipated, or I was pushed towards a specific treatment by my binary-oriented doctor when I wanted a non-binary transition” etc.

Actual ‘whoops, I don’t identify as trans anymore” cases are closer to 0,02%.

[earhartsease]

people absolutely get to detransition and retransition and whatever (I personally know about six people who “detransitioned” from being binary trans people, and then transitioned again later as nonbinary people, for example) but the idea that a small number of people going “oops got this wrong” somehow justifies gatekeeping everyone else is criminal, and mostly a deliberate ploy to block us from getting what we need

[is-the-post-reliable]

[ID: A tweet responding to V @ Arcless Arc @EVeracite. The tweet reads, ‘I like how in the context of trans affirming care, successful treatment in 99% of cases is treated as dangerous, whereas in all other areas of healthcare a 99% success rate would be treated as an absolute miracle.’.

The reply from Aster @aster_disaster_ reads, ‘Having a child has a 7% regret rate. A knee replacement has anywhere between 6-30% regret. Across all types of surgery, the regret rate is 14%. Transition and trans related surgeries have a 1% regret rate.’ End ID]

requested by anonymous:

RATING: RELIABLE

The statistics given are generally reliable, although of course different studies do give varying results.

The regret rate for having children in the US has been estimated at 7%. A survey in the UK found the regret rate to be at 8%.

The reported regret rate for total knee replacement varies. I have linked to two studies, one finding 17.1% of patients reported moderate or severe decision regret, the other finding a dissatisfaction rate of 8%.

Source:  ‘TKA patients reported moderate or severe (Mod/Sev) DR [17.1% (56/328)]’ 

Source: ‘In an analysis of dissatisfaction after primary total knee replacement, 8% of the sample were dissatisfied at a mean follow-up of 37 months.’

The regret rate for surgery in general is 14.4%

Source: ‘Self-reported patient regret was relatively uncommon with an average prevalence across studies of 14.4%’

The regret rate of trans related surgery is found to be around 1%. The most common reason for regret was lack of social acceptance.

Source: ‘A total of 27 studies, pooling 7928 transgender patients who underwent any type of GAS, were included. The pooled prevalence of regret after GAS was 1%

[…] Overall, the most common reason for regret was psychosocial circumstances, particularly due to difficulties generated by return to society with the new gender in both social and family enviroments.23,29,32,33,36,44 In fact, some patients opted to reverse their gender role to achieve social acceptance, receive better salaries, and preserve relatives and friends relationships.’