[momowho34]

Here’s to hoping that every single person with schizophrenia or a schizoaffective disorder or DID or NPD or any other ridiculously demonized mental illnesses has a wonderful day

[momowho34]

oh and people with ASPD and borderline and bipolar disorder and anybody who experiences psychosis but doesn’t have schizophrenia or a schizoaffective disorder. i love all of you and i wish you the absolute best <3

[2-point-5]

not to be rude but some of y'all need to look on the bright side sometimes. like, yeah sure the world is fucked and people suck and we all die whatever, sure, but like. go outside.

[2-point-5]

ok i phrased this poorly, hang on.

i’m not saying the cure for depression is touching grass. however, if you surround yourself with sad things and talk about how terrible life is and how much you’re suffering and never take a breath and remember it’s not all bad, you’ll end up making yourself worse.

[2-point-5]

like, i’ve been diagnosed with clinical depression, and anxiety, and insomnia, and chronic pain, and a million other things that get in the way of me having a simple fucking good day, but you know what?

i watch videos that make me happy and wear pretty clothes and cut my hair in fun styles and do my makeup and drink strawberry tea and take two showers a day and i look on the bright side because goddamnit if god is trying to break me down, he’ll have to try harder.

i see so many people talk about how sad they are, who make their depression their first priority, and i get it, i really do, but you know that is actively harming your mental state, right? please, just do something nice for yourself, think positively for one day. i promise things get better when you step back and breathe.

[sideflorfauna]

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[adhd-sorcha]

Girl help! The unrealistic January aspirations are coming to get me!

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

it makes me sad to see so many non-ADHD allistic neurodivergent people be shocked when they find out they do in fact "count" as neurodivergent (or even autistic or adhd people who are shocked to find out their other things Count as neurodivergent) bc they have been convinced by online communities that only ADHD and autism (and maybe anxiety) are neurodivergencies

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

anyway Things That Count:

autism

ADHD

anxiety disorders such as phobias, OCD, generalized anxiety, and social anxiety

major depression, dysthymia/persistent depression, and other depressive disorders

bipolar disorder

psychotic disorders such as schizophrenia, schizoaffective, delusional disorder, and other things that include psychosis

personality disorders

Depersonalization/Derealization disorder, DID, OSDD, etc

PTSD and C-PTSD

addictions

anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and many other EDs

intellectual disability

learning disabilities like dyslexia, dyscalculia, etc

epilepsy

tourette's

down syndrome

And More ! i have a very bad memory so i don't remember every mental disorder to ever exist, but literally. if there is something wrong or Funky going on in your brain. if you have ANY mental illness, mental disorder, mental disability, or mental condition. congrats you're neurodivergent

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

gonna swing a bat at a hornet's nest and say autism as a whole is not destigmatized, tiktok autism is

[chaotic-queer-disaster]

i will say first this is not the fault of autistic people on tikok (or other social media platforms but im using "tiktok" as the example for this post), it is the fault of society as a whole. tiktok autistics choosing to only talk about certain parts of their experiences aren't at fault for what neurotypicals assume (though sometimes low support ones can contribute to the erasure of MSN/HSN autistics on purpose, but... that's a different issue).

what tiktok autism looks like (to neurotypicals, i mean)

ooh flappy hands (and other calm or "cute" stims)

i like steven universe or another cartoon!!! isn't it fun how i'm very into my interest at a quirky level, but still a normal one

i give off the vibe i can live independently (it does not actually matter if they can; neurotypicals will assume)

fully verbal, only occasionally loses speech

has sensory issues but isn't "annoying" about it

meltdowns are mostly being sad, not angry or weird

disassociates, maybe

has cool skills (good at academics, art, whatever)

all of those things are, of course, things autistics can experience. some are also infantilized (like liking children's shows or having "cute" stims). the problem is not that those autistics exist and talk about their experiences--the problem is neurotypicals assuming this is all autism is, "removing their biases" on these tiny groups of symptoms and experiences, and not destigmatizing:

being semiverbal or noverbal

incontinence issues or difficulty remembering/realizing you need to use the bathroom

needing a carer, part or full time, or being otherwise unable to live independently

being "weird" about our special interests or obsessed with them in a way that isn't palatable (like me)

having an interest that isn't "fun" or "cute"; something to do with horror or gore, something "strange" like stamp collecting or corgis, something "boring" like the war of 1812, whatever (like me)

autistics who grunt, rock, hit things, etc to stim ("weird" stimming) (like me.)

autistics who frequently dissasociate, have trouble remembering things, or can't follow instructions (like. me.)

meltdowns that are angry, loud, screamy, full of movement, or some other "inconvenient" meltdown (LIKE ME)

how their racialized, queerphobic, or physically ableist biases intersect with their view of non-white, queer, or physically disabled autistic people (e.g. thinking black autistics are scary, for some reason)

autistics who have difficulty using the right words or sentence structure and thus often say odd or technically incorrect things (like me--ok ill stop now)

intellectually disabled or otherwise non-high-IQ autistics, as well as autistics who were/are in special ed

not understanding danger/doing "reckless" or "stupid" things

autistics who are monotone, lack facial expressions, or appear not to show emotions (we are often called "creepy" or "scary" for this)

and more

none of this is destigmatized. i deal with several of them on a day-to-day basis. the autistic that is destigmatized is the "cute", inobtrusive, i-choose-not-to-discuss-my-bad-days, low-support needs, often white and/or physically abled autistic experience. an autistic experience that does not even truly exist, i'd wager--bc again, even those autistics who seem "destigmatized" will often immediately be stigmatized if they talk about any of their more negative or strange traits.

even i, a white low-support high-IQ autistic person, find my autism to cause people to make horrendous assumptions and say awful things about/to me very often. autism is not destigmatized.

[adhd-sorcha]

Not gonna lie, the Tumblr disability community reminds me so much of the Tumblr queer community. Who's enough to be included? Who's allowed to say they relate to who? Why don't we all just stay in our boxes and make sure we never mix? Who's word is this exactly? Just constant infighting that doesn't actually help any of us.

Both come with a breath of fresh air when you go talk to someone irl and get away from the internet's love of exact definitions and who fits them.

[adhd-sorcha]

A tough part of emotional dysregulation is how childish it makes you feel. Like, needing to have a cry about an appointment you don't want to go to instead of just getting on with it “like an adult”. I really don't want to go but I have to and it benefits me in the long run but my brain melts down into full on “it's so unfair mode”

[adhd-sorcha]

Trying to pin down or organise my thoughts is like trying to get a tight grip on soap sometimes

[frequentlysuicidal]

stimming isn’t enough i need to take my body apart and put it back together as one would a clockwork machine or a particularly nifty toy car

[vancouver-lord-goldeneyes]

The clothes are not clean or dirty but a secret third thing (on the chair)

[notabled-noodle]

today one of my friends said “for someone so self-aware, you sure make a lot of stupid decisions” and. yeah?? it’s called the anxiety and ADHD combo??

[abcsofadhd]

My anxiety acts as maladaptive coping for me.

I'm inattentive. I can struggle to remember things, I can fail to notice things, etc.

So my anxiety forcibly keeps me on my toes and vigilant.

Now, anxiety is quite extreme and makes life in general harder by keeping me on my toes for everything all the time, so I don't want to rely on it. So I've been trying to replace it with healthier coping strategies.

I absolutely don't want to rely on it, and it comes from a place of self doubt and from learning from continuous failure that my brain is unreliable.

It came about when I was a child and had no coping strategies. It has been very helpful when I had nothing else.. or atleast it felt like so.

As I've learnt healthier coping strategies, I've let go of the anxiety as I feel I can relax a tad.

Oh and cause my anxiety stems near completely from my ADHD, my ADHD meds help manage it quite significantly too.

[greelin]

epic that anxiety is not confined to the brain and just poisons every inch of the body. stomach. chest. neck. shoulders. everywhere else. really really cool

[spellbunned]

I hate that no one talks about just how distressing memory loss from adhd actually is. I always see memes that are like “haha I forgot my phone, I don’t remember where my laptop is, etc”, but no one seems to talk about how it can really fuck you up long term to just, not remember things that are completely mundane to non-adhd’ers. The memory loss is, however, so frustrating to us. I cannot physically count how many meltdowns I have had over the sheer mental frustration and torture of not being able to remember seemingly simple things

[adhd-sorcha]

However, a day or two have been taken off work and I shall try to relax with special interests, my weighted blanket, wearing soft clothes that won't cause any sensory issues and not leaving the house for the day, also to avoid sensory issues that I know I'm going to be more sensitive about today.

We're all about making sure this doesn't turn into any meltdowns or shut downs.

[Special interests in question are knitting and Sauron]

[adhd-sorcha]

I've added a completely new activity to my weekly routine. It is an important activity. As such, my body has taken the appropraite action of making sure the anxiety hasn't let me breath comfortably for days T_T

[taproot-bread]

Weighted blanket is not enough I need someone to do this to me

[boyfujo]

ID: A colourless digital drawing of a person being rolled flat by a rolling pin that is held by a pair of larger disembodied hands. end ID

[taproot-bread]

This has been circyling around the autism community AND the chronic pain community. Target audience has been met

[adhd-alien]

Here is the comic series I promised with my last post!

Part 1/4

Part 2 will be neurological explanations,

Part 3&4 will be actual tips and tricks!

Please know that I’m not intentionally withholding the next parts, they’re just not finished yet and making this series takes so much time. So much Layouting to not make all this info a wall of text! That being said I hope I can upload part 2 next week to my patreon