hey, i am altair, they/them, 22, i love fantasy stories, music, tea and fairy lights. my favourite trope is found family.
so far, i mostly posted about the marauders era but i try to get away from it (because of jkr).
i'll try to set a focus on non-romantic relationships, female, nonbinary and lesser represented characters/ships and to write only few hurtful headcanons/microfics, but no promisses - it's all work in progress.
i created a second blog @platonic-multifandom-microfics where i post prompts for microfics every month and love to read all your submitted stories from any fandom or with your original characters about platonic relationships in a quest to bring more focus on and appreciation for friendships and platonic love.
i do not support jkr, i stand with trans people and people on the ace- and aro-spectrum. if you do not, this blog is not for you.
feel free to ask me about what i like or to create something. i am also open to criticism as long as you phrase it nicely.
thank you so much to everyone reading, liking and commenting on my posts! i look forward to meeting you all!
i love queerplatonic relationships where one of them is aroace and the other isn't. i love when the allo character has a crush that fades over time. i love when they don't care what they are to each other as long as they're together. i love when romance is an option that they don't choose. i love when both aros and allos feel fulfilled without romance or sex.
Most of the days I feel like I lost so much time because I am afraid to start something and fail. But I got to give myself some credit because I try everyday and I think it is value in that.
And what if I fail ? It's okay every start is a new opportunity to do it better.
What is a woman? Or why are we even talking about gender identities?
Read my rant below:
I have been discussing 'gender' with some friends lately and i came to a hypothesis: Gender is only necessary in patriarchy to assign gender roles.
If we are seperating gender roles from gender (e.g. women do not have to cook and take care of the children), then how do we define gender identities? What is a woman? What is a man? Funnily enough, even the term ‘non-binary’ is defined in relation to ‘man’ and ‘woman’: non-binary is, after all, neither man nor woman. But how can we define ‘non-binary’ independently of that?
I think, we can all agree on gender being a social construct. But why are we even still using gender identities for ourselves? Who the fuck cares what we are? It isn't even necessary, is it? We only need to know name and pronouns.
I know that a label can help to communicate. To find people who feel similar to you, your community. To explain to people, that not all people with a vulva are women, that there are not only women and men, etc. I know, that in society as a whole we are not that far in the gender revolution to abolish gender yet. I guess, my question, or one of my questions is, if that would be a goal.
If yes, there would also be follow-up questions. Like, biological differences exist. How do you call them? Do you still talk of sex as male, female and intersex? That actually already is a question now, since we are separating sex and gender. I'm afraid it would carry the risk of sexism though. So how do we avoid that?
Second, to abandon gender would also mean most labels for sexual and romantic orientation would loose their meaning (except for aspec or pan or something, i guess). I would assume, new labels to describe one's preferences would form. It seems just interesting to me, which ones they would be.
Haha, maybe you all say now "Wasn't all that obvious already?" or " Eh, no? It doesn't make any sense what you are talking here!" or "You are completely forgetting this!" etc. Please be kind with me, I'm just sharing my thoughts here because I can't stop thinking about it and I wanna know what other people think about all this. I know, all of this seems utopic, but I still find it interesting to think/talk about. Even if we might never manage/want to abolish gender, I think it is still good to reflect on it.
So if you want to, I would love to read your thoughts in the comments! Thank you for listening to my rant, hehe :)
Also, I know I have a specific view on this, based on my background. I don't feel comfortable sharing all of those information here, but the most gender-related ones are, that I was assigned and socialised female in a western society and identify as something like trans, genderqueer, agender.
So...I forgot it was aromantic visibility day. I got the date confused with aromantic awareness week in Feb. Oops. I was originally gonna write a fic or story or smth to celebrate, but I'm a slow writer so I wouldn't be able to finish that today. But I still wanted to share something. So I threw this rant together instead, based on my real life. It's not really a story. It's more just...a thing I've been feeling for a while.
I'm aromantic asexual. For me, that means I'm not interested in sex or romance. I'm reminded of this lack of interest nearly every day, because almost every part of our society is based around sex/romance. In little ways at least. It's in nearly all our media, fictional and real, from the TV shows you watch to the stories your parents tell you over dinner. You hear it in every song on the radio. It's a milestone, one that every person is expected to reach. People build their lives around sex and romance. It's to the point where a lot of them don't understand how you could live without it. To them, it's not a life at all.
I've always thought the obsession with sex was really annoying. Basically as soon as I was concious of it's existence, it frustrated me. But the emphasis on romance has always felt...a little different. To me. Maybe because I'm not repulsed by it? I don't know.
I think romance is cute. I don't think it's God's gift to humanity or whatever, but I like watching it happen to other people. I like shipping and romantic stories. It's nice to see my friends pair up and start dating. It's funny to mess with my sisters' partners and both my sisters about their dating lives. I don't think romance is bad. It's fine. I just don't want it.
But...that feeling is weird. Me not wanting it, it feels weird. Not bad weird. But weird.
It feels weird to not want romance, when so much of our society is based around it. Not even just to not have it, but to not WANT it. Most of the people I see who don't have romance, want romance, and are very loud about it. If someone doesn't want romance in fiction, it's almost always treated as a character flaw. If someone doesn't have romance in real life, they're met with sympathy or mockery, because they want it so bad. If someone doesn't want to date/get married then they're seen as a failure because they haven't reached the 'milestone' that everyone else has. It feels like almost everyone. I can't see myself in people who don't have romance, because unlike them, I don't want it. I don't WANT to want it.
I see all these people, longing for romance or celebrating that they finally have one, and I just feel like I'm on the opposite side of a glass wall because I'm completely neutral. I see romance, this thing that makes so many people so happy, and I just sit with the knowledge that it does absolutely nothing for me. I don't want it. I'm okay with that. But it feels weird to not want something that makes everyone so happy.
I like it when my sisters tell me about their love lives, but it feels weird. I listen to my older sister talk about marriage, dreamily imagining her future wedding. I watch my younger sister cry because she can't see her boyfriend for a few months. I want to support them. But I feel a little hollow because I'm so distracted by the fact that I can't understand their want. I mean, I get it logically, it makes them happy. But I'll never feel like them. I'll never want it. Ever. I don't even want to want it.
It's not a bad feeling. I'm happy as an aro. It just feels weird. And maybe a little lonely.
Found this Valentine Marauders Ships event on @a-bit-of-everyth1ng tumblr and honestly... Fave ships from 14th to 1st, let's go! 💖
Day 1 | Day 2 | Day 3 | Day 4 | Day 5 | Day 6 | Day 7 | Day 8 | Day 9 ~Day 10.
05. Dorlene (Dorcas Meadowes x Marlene McKinnon)
They're my fave lesbians! I do really see them as Badass fem Dorcas x Grunge dork Marlene or something close to it. They're my idiots to lovers, and not necessarily enemies at first for me. They just have it bad for each other and they're completely, like really completely, oblivious.
