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syn4k

good morning everybody happy feb 14th i am reclaiming today for the aro bitches specifically. romance is not real

aroace-official

shout out to the aro/ace spectrum people enduring valentine's. you're literally so beautiful and strong

arokuma

happy valentines day friday! 💚🤍🩶🖤

#aro

princessgemma12

If you like the word “queer” reblog.

incandescent-creativity

#fun umbrella. we r all sitting under it like the big rainbow thing in elementary school gym class

queersatanic

Happy birthday, Duane.

#queer history

lestatfag

The Bisexual flag is officially 25 years old today 🥳 💗💜💙 (December 5th, 2023)

lestatfag

happy birthday to this gorgeous flag!! remember that bisexuality has never excluded trans and nonbinary people and has never had any restrictions on preferences to genders :))

#happy birthday bi people!!!

onyxthelion

The 2025 Ace Community Survey is now open! Anyone who is 15 or older are encouraged to respond. This includes folks who do not identify as ace! (those responses help for comparison purposes) The survey is also available in 16 languages!

Find the survey link here: https://acecommunitysurvey.org/

#ace #for science

silvermoon424

As an ace this is the only time "you just haven't met the right person yet" has made me laugh lmaoooo

specialagentartemis

Thinking about it, and I’d like to forward the idea that prejudice against single people (aromantics, asexuals, and also just… anyone who does not have a romantic partner) follows dynamics less like anti-queer bigotry and more akin to anti-fat bigotry.

Fatness, like singlehood, is seen at large as a state of failure. Everybody is supposed to want to be [thin / partnered], and if you are not, that is a personal failure on your part, and you are pathetic and mock-worthy. The popular idea is that of course everybody wants to be [thin / partnered], and everybody is striving towards the goal, and anybody who is not [thin / partnered] is either temporarily inconvenienced on their way to correctness, or has something fundamentally wrong with them. And because [fatness / singlehood] is something that is treated as fixable, if you have not fixed it, then there is something wrong with you—and thus discriminating against you is acceptable, because your [fatness / singlehood] is based on your own bad choices.

The world is, in some cases quite literally, not built for fat or single people. If you are fat or single, the world is much more difficult or expensive to live in, because it is structurally designed for the assumption that you are thin or that you have a partner. The normative Person, after all, is thin and romantically partnered. If you are not thin or not romantically partnered, there is something fundamentally less human about you.

[Fatness / singlehood] is something embarrassing, something worth mocking others over, something that reflects your fundamental unworthiness. Every fictional hero is thin, every fictional happy ending ends with romance. Everyone in your life is either quietly or not-so-quietly worried about you.

And all this is fine and acceptable. Because in the general perception, [fatness / singlehood] is not a real axis of bigotry. It’s a choice! You could just become a different person and stop being [fat / single]! You deserve the mockery, the derision, the attempts to fix you, the world not accommodating you, because you could just become a better person and stop being [fat / single] at any point. So it’s your own fault people treat you badly, really.

thenopequeen

And the medical discrimination? Your actual needs and desires take a back seat to the imaginary desires of the partner you will definitely want to have and who you must please no matter what it does to you, and your needs are only worth listening to in terms of losing weight and what will help you lose weight and all health problems must be blamed on weight and no other diagnostics are necessary

silvermoon424

As an ace this is the only time "you just haven't met the right person yet" has made me laugh lmaoooo

gendercensus

Gender Census 2025: Worldwide Summary

Who? Everyone whose gender doesn’t tidily fit into the female/male binary.

What? An online survey asking participants how they describe themselves and how they would like other people to refer to them.

When? July to August 2025.

Participants: 43,096

The full report: click here

Raw data and summary tables: Google Sheets:

Unprocessed responses

Processed responses – warning, this will take a long time to load!

2013-2025 trends

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Identity words

The top 5 were:

nonbinary: 61.7% (up 1.3%)

queer: 56.1% (up 2.5%)

trans: 46.5% (up 1.8%)

transgender: 41.1% (up 2.3%)

a person / human / [my name] / “I’m just me”: 39.7% (up 0.6%)

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Titles

The top 5 were:

No title at all: 42.6% (up 0.4%)

Mx: 14.7% (down 2.7%)

Mr: 11.0% (down 0.3%)

Non-gendered prof/acad.: 8.9% (down 0.3%)

Ms: 5.6% (down 0.2%)

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Formal address (sir/ma'am)

Here’s the top 5:

No title at all: 66.9% (up 2.0%)

Friend: 35.9% (up 0.9%)

Sir: 32.4% (down 0.8%)

Comrade: 23.5% (down 0.6%)

Mx: 18.1% (down 2.5%)

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Pronouns

Here’s the top 5:

They - they/them/their/theirs/themself: 75.0% (down 0.5%)

He - he/him/his/his/himself: 40.6% (down 1.4%)

She - she/her/her/hers/herself: 34.1% (down 1.9%)

It - it/it/its/its/itself: 22.8% (up 2.5%)

Avoid pronouns / use name as pronoun: 14.4% (up 0.5%)

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Say thanks / Mailing list / Patreon

ash-rigby

some additions 👊💥

genderkoolaid

you've heard about how asexuals are often really good at making porn but we also need to discuss how aromantics often have discerning tastes when it comes to romance. as a mildly romance repulsed aro if i say i like a romantic story it should be taken as high praise because it generally means that the characters in the romance are fully developed people on their own, whose romantic relationship is fundamentally a very close well developed bond between equals, and the romance doesn't just exist to be the narrative equivalent of dangling keys in front of a baby

gendercensus

The 2025 Gender Census is now open!

[ Link to survey ]

The 12th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 30th August 2025.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

If you can't wait for survey numbers, you can click here for a public spreadsheet of non-secret info with graphs as it comes in, updated manually a few times per day.

Thank you so much!

[ Link to survey ]

gendercensus

It's been about 7 hours and there are now over 4,000 responses! Reblogging with that nice update, and to catch people in a different timezone, and also to show off the traditional public participation spreadsheet of non-secret data, which I plan to update a few times per day.

And now it is midnight and I should go to sleep. :D

Tomorrow I will hopefully be able to send the press release out to a few niche LGBTQ+ publications. This is my latest step in the ongoing mission to bring in as many different kinds of people as possible.

Edit: During its busiest hour so far, the survey was getting about 16 responses per minute - one every 3.8 seconds. Whaaaaaaaaaat

#gender #for science