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[animentality]

[handshandshandshandshandshands]

[sandersstudies]

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

[sandersstudies]

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

[beemovieerotica]

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

[misfit-toy-haven]

Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST'S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn't just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.

[lierdumoa]

A really good host would actually provide a topic of conversation based on things you and the person they were introducing you to had in common.

At networking events I've gone to, where there's no host who knows everybody, good networkers pick up the slack. They go around the room once making just enough small talk to learn some useful info about a good portion of of the people in the room, and then circle back around and go, "Oh hey I was just talking to X over there and he's looking for someone who does Y for his next project; you should go talk to him." You can do something similar at parties, referring people to other people you made smalltalk with you have the same hobbies or like the same kind of movies.

[inqorporeal]

To take a few steps back up the thread to the part about turning down future dates, the same goes for turning down shitty job offers.

"[Thank you for your interest]/[Thank you for thinking of me for this role], however I'm afraid [I have prior commitments]/[I'm not a good fit] at this time. I wish you the best of luck [finding the right fit for your company]/[with your startup endeavor]"

Delete or substitute more relevant lines as appropriate, but it's a polite way of saying "no" without feeling like you need to overexplain.

Increasingly, people -- millennials and younger, rarely anyone older -- will not get the hint about this and get pushy, fishing for extra information to let them work around the Polite No, which in previous generations would have been incredibly rude. It's still incredibly rude, at which point the polite response is, "Thank you, but I gave you my final answer. Best of luck!" no matter how many times they come back. Become a broken record until they go away.

[strawberry-crocodile]

personally? i enjoy being a fan of characters who have done Wrong. i like when a character is not a perfect victim, has hurt people, has transgressed, has done bad things. sometimes its nice to feel the sting yknow? and to recognize that a character is not a flawless perfect victim, but is deserving of understanding and compassion anyway. a lot of people in fandom refuse to let go of moral absolutism and its... rough.

[strawberry-crocodile]

great now name a female character you feel this way about in the next 30 seconds or another hostage dies

[furryprovocateur]

i started reading this book and kept tilting my head at the comparisons the author was using so i started a running list of them

[furryprovocateur]

this author's use of imagery is so questionable

[furryprovocateur]

i actually went "what the fuck" and had to stop for like 5 minutes after this one

[furryprovocateur]

[letslipthehounds]

I feel like this is important information about this post.

[bish0ps]

[crying-over-really-dumb-things]

A second Dollar General has hit the server

[crying-over-really-dumb-things]

[taydivorce]

*scrolling tumblr* hmmm. i agree with the sentiment of this post, but the phrasing feels off to me. it doesn’t really have that Reblog factor, you know? *scrolls* oh good, a post that just says “i jerk off till my penis scrweam” . i better reblog this

[emmacandle]

i jerk off till my penis scrweam

[sugar-petals]

hot take in a roundabout way i think that's also why so many of us opt out of becoming parents ourselves

[advanced-passenger-train]

Does anybody know how to fix it

[rosslynpaladin]

Start disappointing people and not backing out of it when they are upset, reject feeling ashamed of everything including of yourself, start saying No to things you do not want to do not just things you're scared of, do more of those things you're scared of but wish you could do, make your own plans and execute them, decide to do or not do something without basing it on who will Dislike it.

Free Will takes practice, and the chance of making someone somewhere Slightly or even Very Disappointed In You. But you're an adult and you can't be made to stand in a corner anymore.

[girlblocker]

by 2026 the average tumblr post about gender and interests will be like ‘dont ask me why but having a job is sooo boycore and cooking at home is so girlcore’

[asteroidtroglodyte]

Narrator: and they were right

[yookay-times]

[duchessvongooseberg]

[lonelysa1lor]

Beginning to sense a pattern here

[hoina-hysteria-deactivated20221]

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[pocket-deer-belly]

it's really really funny to me that like "people under 18 might consume porn and that's generally fine actually" is some shocking take. like were you not also young once. is it not normal to develop sexually around the age of 12. is it not normal to experience sexual thoughts as a teen. like it's fucking absurd that we're suggesting mass surveillance of children to ensure they will never see a boob ever outside of a classroom instead of just teaching children how to interact with adult content safely. you're just arguing for abstinence again, plugging your ears going "lalala" when someone tells you that kids should learn about sex or they will have sex in worse more dangerous ways

[rainformation]

formative years? aren’t they all?

[artisanjelly]

reminder for all hockey fans:

netflix is making a hockey show called "the sticks" that is based on a very real tragedy that occured in canada in 2018.

the show follows a minnesota high school team after their bus crashes and coming back to hockey afterwards.

in 2018, the humboldt broncos' (a junior A team made up of 18-22 year olds) bus was hit by a tractor trailer on a highway intersection. 16 people (10 players, 2 coaches, and 4 team staff members) were killed, along with 13 other players severely injured.

the memory of the humboldt broncos crash is an incredibly sensitive subject carrying a lot of trauma to both the survivors, their families, and deceased's families. the trajectory of hockey in canada was changed significantly after this tragedy.

despite this, netflix has decided to make a show using the death of young hockey players for profit. they did not consult the survivors, nor the deceased's families. they stole a canadian story for a feel-good cash grab.

i understand wanting to watch shows about hockey, but this is not the show to watch. do not give it attention, as the humboldt broncos' memories deserve to be theirs and theirs alone to share.

[forustothinkistobealive]

This is how Netflix advertises the show btw… They’re calling it “your new hockey obsession”. It’s disgusting.

[ambroseandmox]

One of the kids on the Broncos lived on my block. A coworker lost her brother in law. This tragedy was widely felt in Canada as a whole - flags at half-mast level.

None of the families even knew about this show until the media started asking how they felt.

It is taking a tragedy and turning it into a cash cow.

This was such a deeply-felt issue that even the truck driver pleaded guilty and has tried to make amends. (And as he is facing deportation after his sentence, some of the families have even started supporting him being allowed to stay in the country.) There is a real story you could be telling about community and resilience that is not just turning one of the worst days for THE NATION into cheap thrills and sensationalism.

Don't watch. Don't tweet. Pretend this show does not exist.

[ambroseandmox]

Netflix’s The Sticks Bashed by Humboldt Bus Tragedy Parents https://share.google/E6EsgKDY0Ft3HXwS1

Netflix’s Hockey Drama ‘The Sticks’ Bashed by Parents Connected to Humboldt Broncos Bus Tragedy

Parents connected to 2018's Humboldt Broncos bus crash are accusing Netflix of sensationalizing the tragedy in its new series 'The Sticks'

[ambroseandmox]

‘Not their story to tell’: Humboldt Broncos families angry over Netflix hockey tragedy series | Globalnews.ca https://share.google/2GGMDxeJSteDwQxhw

‘Not their story to tell’: Humboldt Broncos families angry over Netflix hockey tragedy series | Globalnews.ca

Sixteen people were killed and 13 were injured when a truck driver went through a stop sign and into the path of the junior hockey team's bu

[lydiardbell]

I think Tumblr in general would appreciate the newest back-of-bus advertising campaign in Wellington, Aotearoa New Zealand

[lydiardbell]

So-called "free thinkers" when a bus is traveling between Strathmore Park and Newtown: