[thememedaddy]

[talkethtothehandeth]

It’s really irritating to me whenever I see videos of other severely disabled people saying it’s hard to wash their hair because of their illnesses and people suggest “just” cutting it off. As if hair isn’t a huge part of peoples’ identity a lot of times, if not self expression. And the misconception that shorter hair means it won’t be as bad for someone with severe myalgic encephalomyelitis is just incomprehensible to me.

If they’re not suggesting something, believing it’s a one size fits all solution (bed hair washing set ups, shampoo caps) their solution is to just… get rid of a part of our identity to suddenly “make it easier”. Long hair isn’t the issue when every movement and sensory input is punishing. Making it easier isn’t always the point. Sometimes the point is just sharing “this is what I go through because of my disability, something you might not think of if you’re not disabled/don’t have my disability”. It’s no different than any other person showing a day in their life or how they care for their hair. It’s just not conventional for you to see people still struggle with all the added help.

Why would your first suggestion be to remove another part of myself? Why would a positive resolve to you be for my friends and people like me to change more of who we are just because we are simply sharing something that will affect us regardless of the length of hair we have? We will always struggle with personal care tasks/ADLs but that doesn’t mean we’re looking to make it the easiest way if it means losing more and more of ourselves. Sometimes even with a struggle it is the easiest without giving up the final fight with something. Respect that.

[talkethto-thehandeth]

AHAH found my post before my blog was nuked. I’m never shutting up. I was made to haunt to the internet.

I wanted to also say that even if it is more work, you’re allowed to want to keep that effort as long as possible. You’re allowed to want to be “extra” in your care. You’re allowed to want to feel dolled up and pretty. You don’t have to give in to people telling you to either thin or cut your hair if YOU don’t want to. You are allowed to have it as you are, even if you have rapunzel length hair and it technically “WOULD” be easier, you’re not wrong for wanting to keep that part of yourself.

MUAH.

[the-cosmic-creature]

not to be a hedonist but humans are meant for pleasure. we play, we laugh, we dance. we have sex for pleasure, eat for pleasure. we bare our teeth as a sign of joy, not aggression. humans are meant to enjoy things. its in our very nature.

[godspeedyoublackemperor]

childaborting hips

[strongermonster]

i'm helping out at a creative writing workshop for uhhh i think 10-12s? 10-14s? idk. but that age range. and anyways

a) i forgot how fun this is

b) it's really hard not to like, re-write for them and stick to just "hey add descriptions here, change this grammar, really cool ideas!" bc i'm an adult and not trying to talk over/railroad these kids, but i'm just so excited for their ideas!!!

c) little boys write cool stuff like "what if we went to mars but it sucked so we left, but left behind all our technology and the technology rose up and created its own society and then went to war with us for abandoning them? what if transformers had 100x the war crimes? what if the earth blew up. what if we were the robots all along?"

d) little girls out here writing like "aunt melanie's skin was sloughing off the bones as her beloved dogs tore her apart, turning on her in blind animal instinct. the second she stopped providing food, she became food." and a lot of body horror and dark themes about group pacts and betrayals and ritualistic murder/sacrifices. like a lot

[strongermonster]

me, turning to the teacher who is also doing this: hey so, i'm personally really cool with the tone and direction these girls take, but is any of this? how you say... a red flag?

teacher: little girls have really rich inner lives to combat the way they're puppeted by society in real life. they'll learn to censor it out in a couple years, but it doesn't go away.

me, who was also a weird little girl who phased in and out of weirdness depending on social settings: nice.

[vexheart]

There is no amount of money, oil, or gold that is worth more than having bees, trees, and clean water.

[modernbaseball]

Naming the female razor brand Venus is so personally offensive to me....you think Venus the goddess of love and sex and beauty was shaving her PUSSY? Go kill yourself

[nando161mando]

[darkspaceboytoy]

Incredible tweet

[undeadpsychic]

Volkswagen in talks to produce parts for Israel’s missile defence system, FT reports

German car giant with Nazi-era roots pivots to defence production as the industry struggles to compete with China

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[henchred]

Volkswagen is considering plans to convert one of its German car factories into a production hub for Israel’s missile defence systems, the Financial Times reported on Tuesday.

The carmaker has held talks with Israel's Rafael Advanced Defense Systems about repurposing its Osnabruck plant, shifting from vehicle production to manufacturing components for Israel’s Iron Dome system.

The move underscores growing pressure on Germany’s automotive sector, which is struggling to compete with Chinese electric vehicle makers.

It also carries historical resonance: during the Second World War, Volkswagen halted car production and switched to arms manufacturing for Nazi Germany.

The proposal points to a wider shift, as parts of German industry move closer to defence production with support from Berlin.

[flamingkorybante]

My friend worked with the People With AIDS Coalition in 1990 and found this while cleaning out some old folders. I can't stop thinking about it.

[xeansicemane]

"especially if they've made it to 40" fucking Christ.

[daisy-if-u-do]

Yeah. That. I spent my formative years in DC for Reagan's terms, and never thought I'd make it to *twenty* much less this far beyond. And when I realized I would be? I found myself suddenly without any real, actionable plan for the future.

The AIDS epidemic was monstrous. Not only for the lack of cure, but for the easy excuse it made for 'good people' to rid themselves of those disgusting gays.

The national willingness to discard an entire generation of (at first) gay men and then any queer persons has done immeasurable damage to every single one of us who survived it. The horror stories you might have seen in tabloids or online memorials only scratch the surface. We were unpersoned. We were named dangerous simply by our existence, and our presence was a herald for death and disease.

Our joy was not in spite of this. Our mad parties, the tendency to live in the moment, the stereotypical 'cattiness' and sex-crazed outlooks that media showers us with us even now, these were survival techniques. We dance because we lived another day. We craved physical contact from a world that feared us even in the same room, or touching the same door handle, or gods forbid us holding your hand.

And it's happening again.

If you notice your queer elders seem a little agitated beyond their usual baseline with what's happening with their trans peers this time around it's because we all recognize it from the 70s, 80s, 90s.

Name it a disease. Imply it's contagious, made-up for attention, or masking the 'real' problem (it's always pedophilia, always), often in the same breath. Consistency doesn't matter, only fear and hatred.

Say trans folks aren't worth the same considerations that good, upstanding people are. Deny them the medical care that, were they not trans, they would otherwise qualify for. Gender affirming care. Hormone treatments. Comprehensive therapy. Acceptance.

(Hell, even those lucky enough to escape obvious open discrimination find it on the back end, with medical care suddenly not being covered after being prescribed. Ask me how I know.)

And it's not just the right-wingers. Ask your Democratic or NP rep, if you have one, their thoughts on transgender rights. Listen close. See if they actually say anything of substance.

And then when trans people start dying off in droves, vanishing to forced detransitioning, assault, murder, or worse, well, that's just proof there's something wrong, isn't it? Not with the system. With us.

This is why we ask that the newer generations of queer folks learn the history. It's not *all* about Stonewall and Pride. It's about the lengths that those in charge will go to in order to ensure our deaths.

[atyourperil]

is anyone here ready for fat transgender summer can we give it up for fat transgender summer

[pixeljade]

[depsidase]

[star-trekster]

[bebsi-cola]

it's ironic that ableds love using disabled people for inspiration porn but hate actually giving the vast majority of disabled people the tools and accommodation to facilitate disabled people doing more with their time. it's almost like the point of it isn't to inspire but to create a false narrative that disability can be overcome with strength of will because look at these people who did it! now stop asking for help

[rimouskis]

"happy pride to the nhl player who was preparing to come out and changed his mind. I hope he’s happy and loved." im new here. what's this post in reference to?

About 25 years ago, Tom Harrington was a CBC sports reporter and host of the Sports Journal magazine show. He was researching a story about an NHL player who was gay while working with a go-between who ran a support group in Toronto that helped professional and amateur athletes who were gay. Harrington was told there was a “prominent” NHL player who had been thinking about coming out. During the next year-and-a-half, Harrington said he worked with his go-between trying to convince the NHL player to do an interview, but the player was “extremely reluctant and afraid he’d be exposed.” Harrington tried to arrange a phone interview or a meeting with the player, who asked if his voice could be disguised in a phone call in case Harrington recognized him. Harrington promised the go-between he would never reveal the player’s identity unless he permitted it. “It was a step closer to the beginning of something, but it was also a window into just how terrified he was, and it said a lot about the culture at the time in professional male sports, where players didn’t feel they could even take the initial step to come out, let alone reveal themselves,” Harrington said in a phone interview. Harrington said the player eventually decided not to come out, saying he was too scared of the impact it would have on his family, hockey career and his life after hockey. “I remember saying at the time (to the go-between): ‘You know, there are a lot of people who would be very supportive of him. There would be businesses lining up to sponsor him to have him as a spokesperson. I’m telling you, there’s an untapped market for someone like this … the Jackie Robinson of gays in sports.’ But, ultimately, it failed. “I never knew who the player was and to this day I still don’t know who it was,” added Harrington, who retired last year after almost 44 years at CBC.

Cowan: Canadiens say they would be ‘welcoming’ and ‘supportive’ of gay teammate (January 22, 2026)

[dovesndecay]

we don't actually need gender markers on our licenses and whatnot. we could just. do away with those entirely. i do not believe this would lead disaster.

[epicallyepicnerdery]