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autogynophelia

Something that happens a lot in non-binary spaces is that a new member of the community will ask a tone-deaf transphobic question like "Hi, AFAB here, I was wondering if any other AFAB NBs had advice about swimsuits? My AFAB chest means I can't wear swimsuits for AMABs," and an established community member will have to gently explain that not only are we are a community of people who often change their bodies to a degree that certificated sex becomes a useless way to describe anatomy, but we are also a community of people who often join the community explicitly to get away from our birth sex assignment, and so referring to people that way can be really offensive.

And no matter how gently this is pointed out, the newbie will often initially feel instinctively defensive towards what they perceive as scolding. Which means that when another community member comes along and says "Don't worry about the language police 🙄, many of us think AGAB language is fine, it's a useful way to refer to the kind of formative experiences you had as a child," the newbie will latch on to them like a life raft.

And yes, we live in a transphobic society, a lot of people coming into the trans community will have uninterrogated transphobic views, but that just makes them more vulnerable when there is always someone in the community willing to tell them "no, your transphobic views are fine actually, and in fact here are some more you might not have thought of!"

It means a sizeable chunk of newly-out NBs are swiftly radicalised into increasingly extreme transphobia and transmisogyny simply as a defense mechanism against having their own comments criticised. One day they're just happy to join a community where people supposedly don't judge you on your birth sex, and the next they're talking about the importance of "AGAB socialisation".

It's a really big problem and I don't know what we can do about it.

renthony

Hot take but rigid divisions between queer identities and heavily-policed labels that are treated like diagnoses are really, really bad.

Trans men have shared histories with lesbians who have shared histories with bisexual women who have shared histories with ace people who have shared histories with aro people have shared histories with gay men who have shared histories with trans women who have shared histories with nonbinary people who have shared histories with etc etc etc etc etc.

Labels are important for people who want them, but we need to stop treating sexuality and gender as rigid boxes and checklists.

idhren

yes. labels aren’t a fort you need to protect; labels are a pin you can add to your backpack to signal being part of something. You can, in fact, have more than one label (as a treat).

Bad thing, good thing.

#ballpit personal #I think we sacrificed our guardian angel for this one #he’s really shaken and feels like he just messed up everything #there were empty disposable vapes in his car #so theyre charging him with reckless driving for the weather #a marijuana possession charge and a paraphernalia charge #it should be a slap on the wrist being his first offense ever #but we all know the luck we have #so he’s stressed theyre gonna jail him over it and we’ll lose the house

cleaverqueer

petition to change LGBT to DFTQ (Dykes Faggots Trannies and Queers, naturally)

cleaverqueer

AMENDED

cleaverqueer

happy pride everyone

daysleftofsecondterm

DTFQ on 960 days left

animentality

natequarter

the grim reality for a lot of nonbinary people is that their options are closet themselves and be perpetually misunderstood by the world at large or be out and proud and be perpetually misunderstood by the world at large

buboplague

I'm doing a collab with tattoo artist Joe from Nepenthes Tattoo! These designs by me are available to be tattooed by Joe, you can book an appointment at nepenthestattoo.com . All designs are repeatable, available until further notice, and the studio is located in Bloomington, MN

lleyksie

too many catnip mice, too little time.

tiktoks-i-enjoyed

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

meangirlnurse

this is literally a stick and poke tattoo done by a stoned teenager who forgot what cats look like

meangirlnurse

😭

cyclesofmystery

Clare Victor Dwiggins, 1908

I was amused by this rather “freaky” bit of Edwardiana, especially since I always got the feeling that Charles Dana Gibson, when drawing the Gibson Girl, was at least partially fantasizing about being stepped on or something.