This is a blog for me to like and repost things I like, such as Men with Big Tits; No Vapers, DISCRIMINATION, MAPS OR ZOOPHILES ALLOWED 20+ Antis; if you got mad at what I repost, then that's on you.
I feel like ever since normies started to come into fandom spaces they ruined it for everyone else, like what happened to don't like don't read or how about an artist draws a ship or character you don't like you just block them or better idea just scroll away.
Tumblr getting rid of NSFW didn't help with this, either. I started the blog the year it happened lol so I have no idea how things would've turned out, back then was rough, but nothing like it is today. People are reactionary to things they see first online, so if they see "This fetishizes this-" they don't look into it, they simply agree.
They don't even care to look into any studies saying that what we do is harmless. They don't care about being right, they care about being superior because they have an identity complex and can't handle that people enjoy things in a way they personally don't like. They bring up arguments that can be easily disproven, and when they're cornered, they call you an abuser or pedophile to further weaken the meaning of a serious crime and continue to hurt victims like myself.
Taboo fetishes of all walks of life are harmless, especially in a fictional world. Humans have always had ways of imagination to escape. It's been like this since we could walk upright. Thought crimes aren't a thing, and expression in art and writing as well as sexual endeavors have been demonized through all of history.
Saying anything else makes it sound like my mom when she thought listening to angry music would make me evil rather than actually giving me a healthy outlet to heal some mental wounds. No, I just like the aesthetics, and think blood and yandere's are neat.
I don't think people into Yangire and gore are actually out here trying to "normalize" murder. I think they're neat individuals who are into stuff I get squicked about, and that's it. I don't think furries want to have sex with actual animals, and I don't think people into diaper play want to do anything other than live their lives in a safe place.
So I block and move on. (Not the furries, I love furries <3 )
This goes for things that make anyone uncomfortable. Minor x adult is another one, often compared to the horrors of actual child abuse, which as a victim myself, I don't appreciate the term being watered down.
It's just art you don't like, plain and simple. It's often a tool used for therapy from other victims, but even if it isn't, I don't care. No one real being hurt? No signs of concerning real life danger? Then leave it alone.
I don't want people thrown in jail over cartoons, I want them in jail for actual crimes. This goes for everything in fandom and fiction. Monster fucking is bestiality, gore is murder porn and snuff, and I've been told in MY OWN INBOX that I glorify rape and deserve what happened to me when I was stalked and harassed, on top of being assaulted. Anything in fandom is illegal under the guise of what these people put it under, and it's legitimately the video games cause violence argument but remixed.
These tropes and creations are things that could be considered grounds to arrest someone for art wise, which is never ok, because no one in these scenarios are REAL. (not to mention conservatives use it as a way to harm queer and trans creators, especially if they're POC.)
It also takes the responsibility away from actual monsters, pointing fingers at art and saying "This made me do it!" Rather than accepting the fact they made the full cognitive decision to do what they did. The people who hurt me didn't hurt me because art and fic told them do, they hurt me because they wanted to.
Fiction hurts no one. If someone pulls the evangelical "if someone reads it they want to do it." card, it's bullshit. It's used to infantilize AFABs mostly, as anything dark romance or otherwise is seen as enabling abuse instead of a fun steamy scenario to have fun with, or even to help with trauma.
To some, BDSM is considered noncon and rape despite it being around for as long as humans have been, and adults who consent to it are still seen as horrible people despite it just being Matt from accounting who likes hot wheels and ropes. Calling someone Daddy/ Mommy has incestuous terms and vibes, yet we all know it isn't anything more than some roleplay with power dynamics.
Supernatural has millions of incest fics and everyone knows incest IRL isn't ok. Game of Thrones has nothing but rape, incest, war and murder, and the millions of people who watch still know it's fantasy, and therefore, not ok to implement in real life.
I write for incest. I write for noncon / rape, as that's literally tied to what yandere's do. I write for bull hybrids and werewolves and scp monsters. Y'all know this shit isn't ok in real life and are able to enjoy a fantasy setting, so why other people can't, is frustrating. They're looking for a scapegoat and don't realize that the "freaks" they hate so much are the ones trying to keep fascism out. I can't sit on a soapbox and pretend I'm some holier than thou writer when my shits on the chopping block too.
I'll always stand by the ship and let ship, and stand by anti censorship. Even the shit I find gross deserves a place to be labeled appropriately and exist in a way I can block it out, and leave it be.
Even saying this, right now, this lukewarm take of "Well if no one who is real is hurt who cares." has me questioning if it's even safe to post over harassment. Fairytales and playing dolls has become so vile and toxic I can't even say the bare minimum of fandom rules.
TL;DR: You don't have to like something that brings genuine discomfort, but acting like real crimes are happening isn't ok. It waters down the severity a lot of actual crimes deserve, and makes freedom of expression, even expression you dislike, more and more conservative and fascist. Don't like, Don't read, and move on.
not my tweet or my fic (and there’s a good chance of this comment being a bot) but yeah, don’t do this. sure, some writers wouldn’t mind having fanfics (or direct continuation) of their fanfics written by someone else. some may even be thrilled and happy. but the fandom etiquette is that if you want to write a fanfic or a continuation of someone’s fanfic, YOU POLITELY ASK THE WRITER FOR THEIR PERMISSION. not their readers.
also 5 months isn’t long at all. 5 months is 5 minutes when it comes to fanfics. I’ve waited years for my favorite fics to get updated (one of my favorite fanfics was updated by the author after 13 years) and I’ve never said anything to them about “it’s been ___ years, I don’t think it will get updated anymore”. because another fandom / fanfic etiquette is that fanfic writers write for free in their free time, they don’t owe you anything. maybe they will update one day. maybe they won’t. if you want your favorite fic to get updated, you comment something like “this is good!! I’m excited for what happens next” and maybe your positive comment will motivate the author to update. but you don’t say “it’s been ___ months or years”. fanfics writers write for themselves and their own enjoyment. they’re just kind enough to let you read their works for free. stop being rude and entitled to fanfic writers.
I’m blocking this lying MOFO!
this person has ZERO idea what an animal hoarding situation looks like, and Save A Fox was not that in any way shape of form.
i love you shy reader-inserts i love you naive reader-inserts i love you soft-spoken reader-inserts i love any and all reader-inserts and you should not complain about them in the x reader tag. by doing so you are putting down someone's creative work and efforts when you could have simply moved on, or even better, written your own story
Why do toxic fanfics keep popping up on my fyp, like no I don't want Gojo cheating on me, fucking me as an apology and me actually FORGIVING him???. I need a man who is OBSESSED with me and wouldn't even think of looking at another woman. The only fanfics that truly still my hunger are yander fics.
kay s like. do u play those chill cozy games?? bc apparently mfs are calling it 'gooning' now??? 💀 like is this a meme or are girls genuinely losing their shit over stardew pixels?? i can't tell if it's ironic or if they're actually out here sweating over pumpkin crops pls explain!! I'm scared
First off: I had to look up wtf "gooning" even was—& yes, I’m Gen Z 😭
Second: I’m guessing you meant "Love & Deep Space" & the whole “men calling it a gooning game” thing? I haven’t played it since launch so I’m not super deep in the lore, but I do catch edits & memes on Insta from time to time. So I’ll answer from my perspective—feel free to correct, add, disagree, etc. 💅
Also: I got this ask super late at night & accidentally stayed up trying to organize my thoughts until 7AM. My neurons are crusty.
But don’t worry, Anon—I got you. 🔍💋
🕸️Why We Love
Gojo, Nanami, Damon, Sylus, Caleb, & The "Grey Kings"
—And Why That Scares Men
Every time I see some man sneering in a comment section about women "gooning" over Love & Deep Space or "romanticising" morally grey characters like Damon Salvatore or Gojo Satoru, I laugh a little.
Not because they’re wrong that we’re invested—of course we’re invested—but because they completely misunderstand what we’re invested in.
We aren’t attracted to these characters because they’re perfect, or because we expect anyone to measure up to their exact shape.
We’re attracted because, despite their flaws—sometimes because of their flaws—they demonstrate what real-world men around us don’t even attempt:
a willingness to hold someone else’s humanity higher than their ego.
Let me explain.
📖1: Tablecloth Men, & the Myth of the "Gooner Girl"
When I hear men call Love & Deep Space a "gooner game," it’s clear they don’t even know what that means—& worse, they’re projecting their own relationship with porn onto women.
For context: in online slang, a "gooner" refers to a man (usually porn-addled) who enters a trance-like edging state, binging porn for hours while hyping himself up. A "gooner game," therefore, is something designed to put women into a similar spiral, completely lost in lust & fantasy.
The insult is absurd on two levels:
Women engaging with romantic fantasy games are not typically masturbating to them the way gooners do to porn.
Women’s desire isn’t purely physical or consumptive—it’s layered, narrative-driven, & deeply tied to emotional fulfilment.
Women might read smut while folding laundry. They’ll sext while making dinner without touching themselves or even being "turned on." They’re capable of engaging sensually & intellectually at the same time.
The very fact that men think reading smut or playing otome equals a woman slack-jawed in a dark room, sweating over her phone, says more about how men experience desire than it does about how women do.
So when men accuse us of "gooning" over games like Love & Deep Space, what they’re really saying is:
“How dare you retreat into a fantasy world that doesn’t centre me?”
🌑2: The Fantasy of the Grey King
Characters like Gojo, Damon, Sylus, Caleb, & even Haibara from my fic "Third Wheeling" are cut from the same cloth:
They’re not purely good.
They’re not purely evil.
They are loyal, dangerous, competent, & painfully human.
But what matters is that in their worlds, they choose the woman they love & orient themselves around her in a way real-life men rarely do.
Take Damon Salvatore.
Damon is a disaster of a man—manipulative, violent, morally bankrupt at times—but his loyalty to Elena is unwavering. Even when she’s not his. Even when she chooses Stefan. Even when she tells him to stop, he does stop, because her boundaries matter to him even when his feelings make it hard. He doesn’t become good because of her; he struggles & grows because he wants to be good for her.
Take Gojo Satoru.
Gojo’s lightness is a mask. Before Suguru, he was untouchable but empty. Suguru grounded him. When Suguru fell, Gojo didn’t collapse, but he stopped caring as much about his own moral integrity, because no one he respected was watching. His loyalty & morality were tethered outside himself.
Take Sylus & Caleb.
These characters from Love & Deep Space represent something real-world women rarely see: men who are successful, confident, & powerful, yet make deliberate space for a woman in their lives. Literally & figuratively.
Another character repaints his bedroom, makes space in his closet, lights candles—because he wants her to feel at home. That’s not "gooning." That’s an emotional fluency men are rarely taught but women crave desperately.
Because love isn’t conquest. Love is making room.
I’ve been thinking about how characters like Damon (TVD) & Gojo (JJK) resonate so strongly with women, not because they’re perfect, but because they’re deeply flawed men who tether their morality to someone they love.
Damon’s loyalty to Elena—even when messy—shows a man willing to reorient his entire self around respect for someone else’s values.
When she’s gone, he spirals because he hadn’t yet internalised that moral compass.
Gojo mirrors this. He was untouchable & irreverent until Suguru anchored him.
When Suguru fell, Gojo started rolling the dice with his own ethics, because his compass shattered.
These kinds of stories show women what it looks like for a powerful man to choose to defer to someone else’s humanity. And for many of us—raised on tablecloth men who can’t hold a conversation beyond porn tropes—that’s revelatory.
It’s why games like Love & Deep Space feel cathartic rather than "cringe:"
– The men are functioning adults
– They make room in their lives (and their closets) for you
No wonder women turn to fictional men who treat them like humans instead of props.
For some of us, it was more than just escapism.
I was barely in my early twenties when I left a 10-year relationship that left me with PTSD—one I’d been groomed into as a minor, one where I thought crying myself to sleep & being yelled slurrs at was just what love looked like.
Because the truth is—asking for someone who listens, makes room, & respects your mind shouldn’t be a fantasy. But here we are.
And then, somehow, I found Damon Salvatore.
The show wasn’t perfect.
But watching this chaotic, morally grey man choose to orient himself around someone else’s feelings & stay there, even when it hurt?
It cracked something open.
It showed me what I’d been enduring wasn’t love—because if even a fictional man could make space for someone’s boundaries & grief, why couldn’t a real one?
I see women say the same about Love & Deep Space.
You scroll through the comments on their edits, & you see it—women quietly, sometimes even tearfully admitting:
"I finally realised my boyfriend was never going to treat me like this."
"This game helped me leave him."
"I thought I was asking too much—but it turns out I was asking too little."
That’s not cringe.
That’s survival.
Psychologically, this is what we call a [Link] Corrective Emotional Experience—when you encounter a new model of love or safety that contradicts your trauma, & you internalize it as proof that you’re not broken for wanting more.
It’s why these characters feel life-changing.
So, no—I don’t think it’s embarrassing that Damon helped me escape.
Or that Gojo, Nanami, Sylus, Caleb, & many others like Jack Frost or even Nick Wilde—the Fox from Zootopia, help other women escape too.
It’s not silly to want a man who sees your humanity & adapts to make room for it.
It’s not silly to believe that love isn’t about shrinking yourself.
Because the truth is—it should never have been a fantasy.
But for some of us, it was the first step toward reality.
They give you permission to leave the story you were told you had to stay in.
🕷️3: Why Women Retreat to Fiction
Real-world dating for women today is a minefield of men with the emotional range of a dishcloth & the self-awareness of a brick.
They ask what you bring to the table, while bringing nothing but porn addictions, fragile egos, & a phone full of bikini reels.
If you talk about your hobbies? They tune out.
If you mention your needs? You’re "too much."
If you resist sex? You’re "frigid."
If you want sex but also respect? You’re "delusional."
Meanwhile, the male-centred fantasies they’ve grown up with glorify girls who are:
— infantile
— submissive
— underage-coded
— overtly mothering towards their adult partners
— purely decorative
So when women play Love & Deep Space or write fic about Gojo or Damon or Haibara or Caleb, they’re not "deluded"—they’re reclaiming a narrative in which their pleasure, safety, & autonomy matter.
✨4: Why Nanami Feels Like Home (& Gojo Like Sunlight)
And then there’s Nanami Kento.
He is not the loudest in the room.
He does not demand your laughter to feel like he’s alive.
He does not treat your quiet as a defect, or your sadness as something to fix.
He does not make you shrink yourself so he can feel big.
For many of us, Nanami doesn’t even feel like a character—he feels like a possibility we never believed existed.
When you are with a man like Nanami—even if he’s only fictional—you feel, maybe for the first time, that your stillness is allowed.
Your bad days are not an inconvenience.
Your bipolarity is not a moral failing.
Your silence is not a betrayal.
You don’t have to entertain him.
You don’t have to be "on."
You don’t have to drag yourself into manic cheerfulness just to keep him from sulking about your mood.
Nanami just is.
Because Nanami is the kind of man who would simply say,
“You don’t have to force anything. Just sit. I’ll handle the rest.”
And he would mean it.
If Nanami is home, Gojo is sunlight on a day you thought would never get warm again.
He makes you laugh, even when you feel like you’re falling apart inside.
He is a chaotic spirit, but never cruel.
And while he might never understand the weight you carry, he would at least never shame you for carrying it.
By contrast, Gojo is the opposite—but not in a bad way.
He’s not perfect—he’d probably forget the groceries & lose his keys & drive you insane—but he’d always come home to you.
Gojo is the kind of man who would lie down on the kitchen floor with you at 2 AM, telling dumb jokes until you laughed again, just because he can’t stand seeing you cry.
And when you feel ugly or unworthy, he’d just laugh & kiss you & say:
“You’re ridiculous. You’re perfect.”
Some days, you need Nanami: quiet, steady, capable, unafraid of your darkness.
Some days, you need Gojo: bright, relentless, a reason to laugh when you feel like nothing is funny anymore.
🌷 Why Both Matter
And what real life so often fails to give women is even one of those things—let alone both.
Instead, we get men who demand our light but resent our shadow.
Men who say we’re "too much" but "not enough."
Men who say "just be happy" because our quiet threatens them.
Men who cannot fathom that sometimes we are just tired—& that’s okay.
It's called a partnership for a reason. All relationships need balance.
We fall for Nanami & Gojo—as opposites—because they represent the two halves of love we deserve:
Someone who sits with our grief without fear,
Someone who can make us laugh anyway.
We don’t want perfection.
We don’t expect to find a Damon or a Gojo or a Sylus walking into our coffee shop tomorrow.
🧊5: What We Actually Want
We want what they symbolise:
A man who listens even when it’s inconvenient.
A man who orients himself around your humanity without erasing himself.
A man whose loyalty does not depend on whether he gets to sleep with you.
In real life, that looks like a boyfriend who moves his stuff so you can hang your clothes.
It looks like a partner who doesn’t treat your trauma like a buzzkill.
It looks like someone who asks, "Are you okay?" & then waits for the answer.
It’s not that hard.
It just happens to be rare.
A man who makes space for you without resenting it.
🔥6: Why It Scares Men
Because these stories show women that we don’t have to settle for mediocrity.
They teach us that "at least he doesn’t hit me" isn’t enough.
That our longing is not weakness, & our standards are not "too high."
When women retreat into these worlds, men panic. Why?
They expose the ways men have failed to grow.
The men mocking women for playing otome games or writing fic are the same men who think a romantic evening is you sitting silently while they scroll their phone next to you.
🌙 Not a Fantasy—a Reminder
When you’re a woman who has been told her sadness is a burden, her quiet is ungrateful, her darkness is too dark—these characters are not "escapism."
They’re recognition.
We don’t want perfect.
We don’t even want easy.
We just want someone who doesn’t punish us for being alive.
They’re proof that someone—even if only on a page—could hold all of you without flinching.
And in a world full of tablecloth men—who only know how to worship your light & run from your shadow—Nanami, Gojo, Damon, Sylus, Caleb…they don’t run.
They stay.
And that is why we love them.
The love stories we build—in fiction, in games, in fandom—aren’t delusions.
Of what we already deserve, & sometimes what we already are:
— the person who carries everyone else’s burdens.
— the one who stays up to fix what others break.
— the one who never stopped hoping there was more than this.
We love Gojo because he falls apart but keeps showing up.
We love Damon because he’s a mess but still chooses her.
We love Sylus & Caleb because they understand that making space for someone else is not weakness—it’s love.
We’re not "gooning."
We’re remembering.
That we deserve to take up space.
That loyalty can exist.
That love is supposed to feel like home, not a hostage situation.
So if that scares you?
Maybe it should.
Because some of us are done playing NPC to your fantasies.
We’re building our own worlds now.
They’re reminders.
And they’re beautiful.
A/N: I hope I made sense & not overshare. Thank you for the ask Anon!
Also, I feel like these two are the epitome of my argument.
"Waa why aren't fandoms fun anymore" because you keep policing people's headcanons, make fun of cosplayers,make fun of selfshipers, make fun of beginner artists and just make fun of people for having fun 😐
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