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[budgiesmuggled-deactivated20210]

Passing (2015). A documentary about trans men of color.

[ID: Excerpts from scenes with two interviewees.

The first trans man, Lucah Rosenberg Lee, says “I was in a heterosexual relationship. I was female. I would question this all the time. Am I attracted to these men, or do I just want to be them? That was a big turning point in my own self-discovery.”

The second trans man, Victor Thomas, speaks about his experiences with transphobia. He says, “You’re subjected to something because they don’t understand you. And you have to watch the way you react, because you’re a man now. People take you as a threat."

Lucah, in another scene, talks about experiencing racism and the erasure of trans men in LGBT+ communities. He says, "Being so invisible within the LGBT+ community can actually feel so isolating. When people don't know about my history as a trans person, I feel sometimes that I'm viewed as more of an enemy." END ID.]

Trans men have always been around. We deserve access to LGBT+ spaces, no matter how masculine and cis-passing we are.

Being masculine is not wrong or dangerous. Being a man is not wrong or dangerous. Trans men of color deserve to be safe, and to be treated with love. Trans men are being excluded, from history and from our own spaces, and this is wrong. Please support trans men of color. Please support trans men. Please support men. Men belong in trans spaces.

[charmedatlaw]

IF YOU ARE UNMARRIED, DON’T HAVE KIDS, AND HATE YOUR PARENTS PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD HAVE A FUCKING WILL

this has been a public service announcement from your friendly neighborhood probate lawyer

[charmedatlaw]

Again:

1. The law doesn’t care how long your parents and family have been out of your life

2. The law doesn’t care about your long term friends or “found family”

If you don’t have legal documents that say otherwise, your biological family calls all the shots.

This goes especially for LGBTQ+. Please do not get deadnamed in your obituary.

[the-final-sif]

How to make a will.

How to make a living will (Advance Healthcare Directive) so you don’t get fucked over by biological family if you end up in a situation where you cannot make your own healthcare choices.

[pyroinfusedtiger]

If youre trans, this video is a good ref to start with and she provides links and organizations that can help

[fandomsandfeminism]

^I’ve been loving this channel lately, and this is a particularly good video about how to have your wishes respected after you die if you have family who may NOT respect you/your identity.

[amiraelizabeth]

Such a good idea to make a plan. And also watch Caitlin’s channel (and read her books).

[puremetalimagination]

THIS IS NOT JUST WILLS

Also check up on your Power of Attorney. If you’re in a coma/unresponsive state they divert to legal next of kin. 

[homobeast]

the statements “the south & appalachia can be and is an unsafe place for a lot of minorities in some places, especially for BIPOC & lgbt people and a lot of aspects of southern culture can be bigoted.” and “the south is the most racially diverse region and has the highest concentration of lgbt people in the country, is not inherently racist or unsafe, and claiming the entire south are uneducated, bigoted hicks is racist & classist and ignores the disenfranchisement of minorities in the south.” can coexist.

[homobeast]

there is soooooooooo much nuance to this and i’m begging people who don’t live in the south to listen to people who live here. no one’s claiming the south is free from criticism and is a safe haven for minorities. but some people are far, far too comfortable calling everyone in the south uneducated hicks and refusing to understand the duality of there being poor, disenfranchised people in the south who are being exploited while refusing to acknowledge the racism anywhere else.

[nothorses]

Yall know that “toxic masculinity” refers to expressions of masculinity that are toxic, right? it doesn’t imply that all masculinity is toxic- it’s used to talk about like, how people will repress their emotions aside from anger in order to seem “manly”, and how they might act in violent or self-destructive ways because that is what society expects of men.

masculinity is not inherently toxic. it hasn’t been poisoned or corrupted. it is a neutral concept, a kind of gender presentation, and it doesn’t make you a bad, unhealthy, or toxic person to be masculine.

masculinity does not need to be “soft” to be acceptable, it can just be neutral. because it is not toxic, just sometimes expressed in toxic ways or for toxic reasons.

[ninjakittenarmy]

Does this mean there is toxic femininity?

[nothorses]

imo? Yes.

Like when white women fake cry to win arguments, or to appear to be the victim (despite how much damage they may have caused), or when female abusers point to their femininity as a reason they couldn’t possibly be hurting anyone. Or when the girls in school weaponize their performances of femininity against more androgynous, less traditionally attractive, or more masculine girls.

Plenty of cis women have a similarly toxic relationship to femininity as cis men do to masculinity. A good example of a less material expression might be the tendency to self-martyr, using the “caregiver” role to guilt trip and gaslight, and abuse in a more manipulative, emotional/mental way than the physical aggression more typical with toxic masculinity.

The patriarchy rewards gender conformity, and requires cis people of both genders to uphold it. Cis women are at a structural disadvantage to cis men regardless, but can absolutely gain more social power by adhering more strictly to traditional femininity- and weaponize that power against others.

[architects-archive]

obsessed with this photo series about trans love by photographer landyn pan (source)

[andshecanproveitwasolidrighthook]

i wish i was a teenager in 2014! *flip phone with no games on it* *pandora music with ads* *girls with ugg boots bully you* *axe body spray in the PE locker room* *gets bullied in the PE locker room* *pacer test* *computer class where you do one thing and its coolmathgames instead of word documents* *gets sent to the principals office for wearing a hat indoors* *identifying as asexual because you saw it on the internet at 13 then failing to realize its normal not to experience that yet at 13 and/or you are repressing your sexuality/gender identity because you are lgbt and in desperate search for some kind of identity label that allows you to not confront that* *looks up “funny quotes” to look at memes on the school internet and gets in trouble* *social exclusion* *“i dont understand, you had so much potential”* *gets an email address for the first time and it sucks but youll use it for the rest of your life* *gets bullied for liking one direction* 

[colorisbyshe]

i’m still irritated at that person who used the word amatonormativity in front of me like 😭 just say heteronormativity we all know society doesn’t prefer romantic love over friendship for any marginalized person like that word is so fucking privileged

society does not value romantic love. it values white, christian-based love between people sharing the same privileged classes. it does not value romantic or sexual love shared between lgbt people, people of color, disabled people, neurodivergent people, poor people, immigrants... let alone love between one person belong to those groups and one person belong to the “right” classes

it wants the white supremacist ideal of a nuclear family stemming from an approved union.

and paints any marginalized person and all the love they have to give as “just” friends, just side stories (even irl). desexualizing and deromanticizing marginalized people is an extremely important facet of their oppression, especially because this is used to prevent inter-community relationships or pretend intracommunity relationships are equal to the “rights ones.

the term amatonormativity implies this isn’t happening. that marginalized people are encouraged to love and are fully humanized when they aren’t. love stories for gay people, trans people, people of color, disabled people, fat people are all incredibly rare and still INCREDIBLY radical. valuing this love is still something society does not do

pretending you are oppressed for not wanting to date while real people face real threats of violence and other forms of discrimination for who they love or because they have been declared unlovable as other is fucking heinous and embarrassing

having friends and not lovers doesn’t make you oppressed. perpetually single people aren’t an at risk group of oppression.

but almost every single oppressed group faces a demonization and devaluing of their love.

people cry “oppression olympics” while undermining real oppression to make their minor inconveniences seem special.

y’all don’t feel broken cause two people got married on the, y’all feel broken because you are petty, jealous people who are so self centered you can handle someone else’s pain mattering

[luntfontanne]

this kid is 14 oh my god is no one teaching children to protect themselves online anymore…

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Meanwhile us olds are like: I don’t have a carrd and I’m not reading yours

[tusara]

Please don’t advertise your personal information, anyone could find that and use it however they want.

[starstruck-strife-moved]

Oh my fucking god it isn’t 1998 anymore no one cares

[cerayanay]

??? Wtf does this mean??? 80% of employers google you before hiring you, child predators use that info to groom kids, abusers use that info against victims, police/government track activists online? Do you honestly think the internet has gotten safer since 1998????

[oopsabird]

also don’t tell any rando who wanders onto your blog with unknown intentions the specifics of how they can trigger you???? no????

[autumndragons]

the fact that its not 1998 anymore is exactly WHY you should be more fucking careful. do you have any idea the tools people have now compared to then? the fact that its gotten exponentially easier to find people in real life based off online info while young people have gotten extremely comfortable sharing all their personal details is deeply concerning.

im sorry no one ever taught you internet safety but that is NOT because its not important anymore. ITS MORE IMPORTANT THAN IT EVER WAS. please listen to the people whove been on the internet longer than youve been alive. our intentions are good and internet safety is vital. especially if youre queer, which i know for a fact a lot of you are.

[radicalurbanista]

full thread

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[goobra]

Congrats on giving in to being a terf, tme people don't exist, especially if you're aiming at trans mascs which is just horizontal violence

this is truly one of the most powerful takes i’ve ever seen. absolute dumbest as well, but powerful none the less. this is a top level bit and i respect your commitment to being the biggest loser in the world.

[goobra]

i was going to just clown on this person and move on but actually let me just take a moment to be very serious:

if you call a random trans person you disagree with a TERF, go fuck yourself

if you try to shut down trans women who are speaking out about transmisogynistic experiences with tme people, go fuck yourself

and if you feel the need to defend transmisogynistic people just because they also happen to be trans, absolutely go fuck yourself

[politicalsci]

[rainbowdoom32]

Also more kids in cages! Biden has opened another detention center to hold immigrant children who have conmited no crimes

[moonsofsappho]

wlw with anxiety disorders are not just overreacting

wlw with mood disorders are not broken

wlw with personality disorders are not monsters

wlw with psychotic disorders are not violent

wlw with depressive disorders are not lazy

wlw with neurodevelopmental disorders are not weird

wlw with eating disorders are not just insecure

wlw with dissociative disorders are not scary

thank you for coming to my ted talk :)

[paxamericana]

[volaee]

Some people who don’t understand the situation are saying things like “dispute it” “don’t pay it” etc. etc. not realizing how dire the situation is right now.

They shut off the power to kill ppl, not b/c they had to, the leaked audio & other info coming out basically shows they were gleeful about the price hike & worked very hard to get it approved while ppl were suffering.

This is explicit class warfare, they massacred dozens of people & they’re going to do everything to make this seem like a natural tragedy. it is anything but natural.

we are at war and we are losing. when are we going to hit back?

[hxmoerotic]

Y'all understand that it is literally not possible for gay couples to be heteronormative. A masculine gay man dating a feminine gay man isn’t heteronormative. A butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian isn’t heteronormative. They’re fucking gay. Telling gay people they’re somehow enforcing heteronormativity by being themselves and dating another gay person is nasty and ridiculous.

[rosyish]

No but seriously as I’ve gotten older I realize more and more that although white gays do face certain levels of oppression they are still white people.....like does that make sense?

[rosyish]

Like yes a white lesbian has some form oppression against her but she’s still a white woman..... and the same thing for white gay men and white trans men and women like they’re still white !!!!!!

[rosyish]

Like I don’t mean this in a rude way but like if we’re going to be honest about the lgbtq community we should also talk about how the white people in said community oppress poc and it doesn’t change just because they’re in a minority group they’re still white people

And like personally I’ve seen that white lgbtq ppl hate when you bring up that their still white because they’ve separated themselves in their mind as being better but they’re still white!!!

[rosyish]

Hello white people should definitely be looking at this and reblogging it lmaooo

[guerrillatech]

[dea-certe]

So many of my family members are dealing with this. And they’ve found that the company has made opting out of auto pay damn near impossible. The place where it used to be on the site has changed, calling results in getting disconnected, when they finally found it on the site, it “times out” when they try to cancel….its just a fucking mess.

We got lucky. I’m like 80% sure we have a rate cap because I haven’t seen it spike and I’ve been watching it fairly closely. But I’ve got aunts, geandparents, friends who have had their entire paycheck taken for electric bills when they barely had power for 3 hours over the course of 5 days. Money they needed to replace food gone bad, to fix water damage, to make car repairs, all gone to a bill that shouldn’t even exist because they didn’t even have power for 3 days.

[saiyanqueenreads]

Friendly tip from a long-time bank employee…  If your money is on autopay directly from your account# or card, you can put a STOP PAYMENT on that shit!  But do it at least 3 days before it is due to be pulled from your account.  There may be a $20-30 fee for it, but that is much better than a power company trying to pull hundreds from your account and overdrafting you.

Also, if they already pulled a ridiculous amount of money from you… if you believe that the charges are for power that you did not use you likely can file a dispute with your bank.  If you lost power tell them about that and say that services were not received, or if there are sudden new previously not disclosed fees you can state that the price is different than disclosed. Those sorts of reasons should keep banking systems from messing with the account itself, as it would do for a fraud claim.  Filing a dispute against your power company might not get you your money back, but it MAY.  It may also allow the bank to waive a stop payment fee if you fear a second round of hiked rates.  Just ask the banker about that before filing the stop paymen as some systems will ONLY waive the fee if it’s done DURING the dispute process…. 

But!  You have to remember that the stop payment is there until YOU remove it.  While some banks may remove them after 6 months, or 1-5 years…. it will be your responsibility to remember to reestablish your payment relationship with the power company, and you’ll also then need to let your bank about it when you want to start allowing payments to process again so they can remove the block.

And for those worried that it might somehow look shady: No, the banker will NOT think you’re trying to pull a fast one.  The banker is 10000% likely to be on your side when you explain the situation and ask them questions. 

If this information helps even one person then I’ll consider it a wonderful use of my time to type it out and post it.   Y’all stay STRONG!!!

[aevios]

[id= a tweet by @ apexxlexx “Texas friends- take your electric bills off auto-pay. My billing cycle just started this week and it’s already 8 times my normal payment with 25 days left to go. I sat in the dark and barely used my heat. We need to demand relief for these bills. This is so criminal and evil.” with the phrase “take your electric bills off auto-pay” and the word “time” in all caps /end id]

[meangirlnurse]

the point of criticizing “not like the other girls” was to address the way some girls/women would put down others because of their belief that their interests were superior or less mainstream or whatever

if you’re using this phrase to belittle neurodivergent women or lesbians or bi women for acknowledging that they were different from their peers and often treated unkindly for it….what’s the point. what are you accomplishing

[coyotesmokebreak]

Disturbing number of white women are pulling this with WOC too

It’s not “I’m not like other girls” it’s “my experience as a woman is implicitly different from a white woman” and they can’t stand it