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tfw u wonder y ur tablet so slow and then u find out the type of tablet u hav was discontinued 11 years ago.... oop
just saw a 'comments' tab on someones blog you know where the following and likes tabs would be if enabled and it was just showing all the replies theyve made on peoples posts. this is fascinating when did this feature come out
EMERGENCY - ITS AUTO ENABLED!
if you've made replies on posts there is now a tab on your blog showing every post youve replied to and your reply.
if this is not what you want, either go to your blog and click comments and disable it from there or just go to your individual blogs setting pages. just change it from blue to grey if you dont want everyone to see your replies AND the post you're replying to
PLEASE BE ADVISED that it is set to disabled for blogs that have not made any replies but it will turn ON if you reply with that blog in the future.! i just tested it with my main, which was greyed out but it turned on the moment i left a test reply
figured i'd get the word out bc i have not seen a single mention of this and i'm sure there are plenty of people who maybe comment on things they don't want on display for everyone to see on their blog lol. you can still look at your replies with it toggled off just no one else can, like locking the following and likes list
so for some reason this feature was actually announced on the tumblr engineering blog. interesting choice not to reblog it to the staff or tumblr blog, esp considering they asked for user input on how to implement it, but i suppose considering the response to the last update maybe the replies would be too overwhelming...
so couple of clarifications. comments are disabled as default for primary blogs that have their likes disabled. they are seemingly enabled for all other blogs that have replied to posts
posts you comment on may show on your followers 'for you' page if you leave your replies publically available. they may, in the future, show in on your followers dashboard if your follower goes to their dash settings and enables this. apparently, if your likes are enabled, your followers can already see those on the dash if they've gone into preferences and selected to do so, which I was unaware of, and that seems to be disabled at default, but it's possible i disabled it previously and forgot about it ig
legit thought this was fake at 1st bc i was like "there's no way right? i mean literally y would tumblr staff think it was a good idea 2 implement a feature on tumblr of all websites where ppl's replies r just on their blog, presumably out of context" but i checked anyway just 2 make sure and low and behold this was real, wtf tumblr staff
The average straight monogamous person will expect their partner to never talk to half the world population ever again out of jealousy then turn around and genuinely ask you to specify "ethical polyamory" because otherwise they can't help but assume the worst
Happy pride to the post that turns the average Tumblr user into a pearl clutching conservative
fr like just admit ur into yandere kink at that point u don't gotta pretend 2 b "normal"
genuinely tho i don't get y monogamy is seen as the default? not every1 is comfortable w narrowing their social circles when it comes 2 who they can and can't fuck or b w romantically 2 just 1 person and thats okay and i don't get how ppl think its more normal 2 treat monogamy as the default and not open relationships as the default, when monogamy is the 1 that would require some1 2 make major changes 2 their life and how they approach social situations, whereas w open relationships u don't gotta change everything abt ur life just bc u wanna hang out and hav fun 2gether w some1, sure some ppl want monogamy but i feel like it makes more sense imo 4 monogamy 2 b the 1 that needs 2 b specified and not the other way around like not every1 is comfortable w the idea that having a relationship w some1 needs 2 actually literally b life changing and thats okay and its okay if u don't wanna hav a relationship w some1 who doesn't want that bc that's smth thats important 2 u
if i hav 2 constantly specify im gay so that straight women leave me alone u can deal w specifying that ur monogamous so that the rest of us know 2 leave u alone and then u can find ur lil weirdo u can b yandere 4 yandere w or whatever it is u guys do
tbh i feel like monogamy is just a rly niche kink that we've all been gaslighted by the church into thinking is the way humans "naturally do things"
having lots of fun playing story of seasons grand bazaar lately, probably my fave story of seasons game so far
w that being said tho i feel like the pacing is a lil fast 4 me? it might b just bc its early game and i haven't unlocked sprinklers yet but i feel like this is 1 of the few games where i feel like it might actually b better if it functioned using a real world clock instead of an in game clock, i feel like there's enough content 2 keep the game fun instead of it becoming tedious bc of the real time clock and i feel like it might add 2 the more relaxed tone of the game, some events i think would need 2 b tweaked of course like mayb having the bazaar b all day on saturday from 10am until mayb 8pm? instead of having a morning shift and afternoon shft u hav 2 time right
then again tho im on xbox so its not like i can mod my game so this is all just gonna stay hypothetical even if some1 did make a mod like this 4 pc, idk mayb there could b an update or dlc 2 hav it as an optional game mode? like "fast paced" 4 the in game clock vs "real time" 4 the real time clock
future archaeologists will know you were (not) a boy
i've seen countless kind and emotional replies in the year or so since i posted this comic, but this particular tag set has squeezed me unlike any other. thanks
i was a lil afraid 2 reblog at 1st but this story was rly moving, it makes sense 2, in the future when i eventually pass away they'll c my empty bottles of t gel in the bin, the unopened 1s tucked safely away, they'll c my diary entries talking abt how much i wish i had got 2 b a boy sooner, they'll c that i changed my name, it'll b okay, ppl will still know if they're willing 2 look
this is what transandrophobia in the trans community sounds like to me btw
i was looking for this for forever regarding a recent interaction i got but like. im thinking about this
You need to respect the intellectually disabled and delayed I'm not fucking asking
EXACTLY. This is why disorders rooting from childhood trauma are extremely demonized. They will say that people with ASPD and NPD are evil, and they will say that NPD and DID aren't real conditions, not only because they hate survivors but because they want to cover up the abuse we suffered and blame it all on us so they can keep getting away with it
Today, the UK government accepted guidance which excludes trans people from single sex spaces.
This is a change to the interpretation and implementation of the equalities act which legally prevents any trans person from using the correct changing rooms, toilets, or even attending gym classes.
It’s more than a bathroom ban. It’s something that will prevent us living our lives.
And, as it stands, the guidance is markedly worse for trans men than it is for trans women.
Taken from page 268 of the pdf linked above:
This guidance sets out, in a legally binding code, that trans men can be barred from both men’s and women’s facilities.
While it does go on to say that preventing us from accessing any services might be grounds for a discrimination claim, that’s in direct contradiction to the paragraphs shown above, and right now is purely hypothetical until tested in a court of law.
As the news of the government’s decision to enforce this guidance spreads, a lot is going to be said about the impact on trans women. That’s good, a lot needs to be said.
I doubt, though, that as much will be said about the impact on trans men. I doubt it because when this guidance was first released as a draft I saw dozens of not hundreds of comments talking about how the only impact was to trans women, joking that trans men should use the women’s toilets to make transphobes uncomfortable.
Please don’t fall into that pattern this time, not now this is really happening.
Protect trans women, please, but I am begging you, protect trans men, too.
This guidance systematically erases us from public life. It is deliberate. We are not collateral damage, we are the target.
Think of us in your anger.
The concept of being 4 months clean from ai...
idc what you guys think I'm proud of him
Several AI services (chatbots ) are purposely addictive, the same way people can become addicted to gambling or shopping. We’ve literally seen in real time how ChatGPT has caused psychosis and delusions in people; it can have a huge affect on someones’s mental stability. Just because it isn’t substance-based doesn’t mean that doesn’t count as an addiction, and shaming people who are trying to move on and improve themselves is counterproductive. Im proud of that dude and his 4 month mark!
AI chatbots can fuel emotional dependence and blur boundaries. Emerging research highlights significant mental health risks. Here are import
Large language models often prioritise agreeability over truthfulness to the detriment of users
AI addiction includes the overuse of AI chatbots and companions, often leading to adverse psychological effects.
Some articles to back my statements, and this isn’t even mentioning about the predatory chatbots who do this on purpose
Then I'll mention the predatory chatbots who do it on purpose! Character.ai is one of many AI chatbot websites that're designed to be addictive.
None of the signup methods require a password. It only takes email and birthday. Minimizing time on the signin or signup screen makes it harder for people quitting to avoid relapse.
"Characters" on the website will send messages "on their own" (prompted by the site) to try to invite inactive users back after as soon as 1 day of inactivity. This is likely to force FOMO, or make users feel more like they owe the bots a response. Unhealthy attachment stuff.
Account deletion is an essential part of every service that should go smoothly, right? Right? Wrong. It takes 1-2 weeks for a Character AI account deletion to be finalized, and account deletion requests have a high chance to not go through if you're not using the app.
Rephrasing: People leaving Character.AI are pushed to download the app in order to delete their accounts, if they haven't already. This makes it harder for people to quit and stay gone. Failing to quit an addiction makes it harder to quit successfully in the future, so this feels like a feature, not a bug. On top of that, the delete account menu reads like this:
Tell me THAT doesn't sound like a bad ex. It's a carefully crafted yet hostile environment to those who are already addicted to the technology. I am so so SO happy, downright delighted that they've managed to quit, and I wish the best for others in recovery spaces or considering quitting as well!! While AI addiction is an emerging condition, there are already therapists and other mental health professionals trained to help people plan to quit and do so a bit easier. (If anyone seeing this is in need of them, there are several tumblr Communities here devoted to quitting, too. They provide a mix of advice, venting spaces, and proof that you aren't alone.)
genuinely ppl need 2 understand that addiction isn't just abt substances its abt smth hijacking ur brain's reward system, or in the case of chatbots intentionally hijacking the brain's need 4 socialisation in a world where we r actively being isolated
we're told not 2 unload our problems onto a friend bc that's toxic and so if talking 2 a friend abt our feelings is toxic then the only solutions r either talking 2 a therapist or suicide prevention hotline who has the authority 2 jail us 4 being "2 mentally ill" or talking 2 a fucking chatbot
in the UK porn has basically b banned unless we leak our government ID but u don't need 2 use ur government ID 2 acess 18+ chatbots
we live in a society that is currently telling us that everything abt our natural desires 4 human connection r toxic and a burden on those around us and that the solution is therapy and chatbots and the sad thing is chatbots r more easily accessible and less dangerous despite being intentionally predatory, at least a chatbot can't write a letter 2 my doctors telling me im 2 mentally ill 2 b allowed 2 continue my medical transition 4 example
it's genuinely dystopian how more and more intentional this seems 2 b the more i think abt it, i mean if u get rid of a population's ability 2 communicate and connect w each other then they become easier 2 control, ai chatbots r predatory and intentionally addictive but also a way 4 the government 2 further isolate u from ur fellow man so u don't hav the ability 2 organise and rise up against them
just saw some dumb shit on youtube shorts abt some fukin white lady teacher talking abt how schools need 2 b harsher on students and literally everything she suggested would've been especially bad 4 neurodivergent students
teachers r not entitled 2 students paying attention in class when going 2 class is mandatory and i think neurodivergent students (of all neurodivergencies not just autism and adhd) should b allowed 2 hunt teachers 4 sport
school was genuinely 1 of the most trumatic events in my life and thats coming from some1 who was raised in an actual fucking cult where i got sexually harassed by my bio dad every night, school was legitimately more upsetting 4 me most of the time and also was used by my bio family as a way of worsening the abuse at home
realistically if u actually want 2 make school better u hav 2 options:
- make school optional meaning that at literally any age a student can just choose 2 drop out of school w no notice and just leave and go home and never go back 2 school again
- make it okay 4 students 2 not care abt school and not try in school instead of punishing them 4 not trying
ideally it would b both but the lvl of entitlement teachers feel over a student being interested in their class when the student is being legally forced 2 b there is so fucking tone deaf that it makes me wanna punch a teacher with the rage of a thousand suns
school will never b less traumatising 2 neurodivergent students until we stop treating teachers like the victims and instead acknowledge teachers as an oppressive arm of the government, thats without even mentioning the ways in which teachers will sometimes racially profile students and decide that black students r at fault 4 things they never get the white students in trouble 4 which is also a major fucking problem
tl;dr
teachers r not victims they r an oppressive class and just as at fault in society as any cop and minority students should b allowed 2 hunt teachers 4 sport until education in school stops being mandatory
keep seeing ads 4 finch so i gotta ask
did any1 else find finch super unhelpful?
like 4 me personally it made things worse tbh since it made the stuff i had 2 do feel more like a "task" and 4 me apps that help u track stuff like that r usually not helpful 4 me bc its just adding another task of having 2 check the thing off the list which makes me then put off doing it bc my ability 2 do things is so fucked that i can't open an app some days even when i can do the actual task i need 2 do
4 me personally what helped most was finding ways of making the tasks themselves more doable and feel less like tasks
like i put my meds in cute lil pill bottles 2 make it less depressing that i hav 2 takes meds every day
i hav my meds and daily skincare stuff visible from my bed so i remember 2 do it
i usually watch tv or listen 2 a podcast in the background while i do my tasks so that i hav smth fun on in the background
and most importantly im trying 2 learn 2 actually cut myself some slack and rest when i just can't do it, 4 me at least executive dysfunction sometimes stems from the stress of "having" 2 do a thing, so when i remind myself that its not that big a deal then im more likely 2 get it done and as 4 my meds and stuff while i may not get my meds done at the exact time i want 2 and i may not do my skincare every day i can do my meds b4 bed and i can just do my skincare and other hygiene stuff when i can
idk 4 me weirdly enough distractions and focusing less on that stuff can help w actually being able 2 do it bc then it becomes less stressful
another thing i found helpful was instead of thinking abt everything i hav 2 do just thinking like "okay im gonna do my meds" and then bc i hav my skincare stuff in the same place w a mirror and everything then it usually also turns into "well while im here anyway i may as well do my skincare" so setting things up in a rly convenient way combined w focusing on 1 thing at a time
2 b fair since im severely disabled my tasks i hav 2 do r simple self care tasks so it might b different 4 some1 w other tasks they hav 2 do but as some1 who struggles w self care tasks sometimes i found that finch made things worse 4 me personally but what helped instead was not thinking abt it 2 hard in the moment and having my room set up 2 maximise convenience in doing those important tasks
mourning the loss of my pet cat is weird bc its like, god u were so annoying and terrible but u were also so so lovely and sweet and i miss u so much every day
she would piss on the floor and shit in the sink and the bath
she would steal food off my plate (especially hash browns)
she would sniff at the bin next 2 the changing area (im incontinent)
she would make biscuits on my clothes and knitting and sewing projects leaving holes in them
she would leave cat hair everywhere
she would deceive me by cuddling up 2 me and then would lick my armpit and run away leaving me just disgusted
she would try to stand on my tits
but she would also say hello to me every morning
she would curl up next to me if i was crying
she would get up and follow me to check on me if i was out of bed and walking around (i have mobility issues and i think she noticed)
she would purr so loudly and content when i pet her
she would watch cheesy horror movies with me
and in her final moments when i tried to comfort her she ended up doing her best to comfort me, putting her paw against the see thru plastic the vets put her in, up to where my finger was, i'll never forget that, i don't want to
i started thinking abt this again bc i was listening 2 welcome 2 nightvale again bc its a comfort podcast 4 me and heard the phrase "no pet is perfect, they become perfect when u learn 2 accept them exactly as they r" and yeah it got me thinking abt this ig
elf sex: 3 to 12 effeminate twinks coo and giggle in a sensual pile in the woods. sometimes the elf queen joins and pretends they’re her baby birds
dwarf sex: a pair of strong able bodied warriors tacitly agree to mate as equals under a binding contract of tomelike thickness, with consent from the council
gnome sex: married couple of 200 years finally gives in to temptation and call upon the stork to deliver their child, then sleep in separate beds completely satisfied
all of u r poisoned by generations of racist and uninventive fantasy writers and it disgusts me
i think i get what you mean, it's like, "elves are twinks & orcs are brutes & everything is fetishistic but nothings allowed to be fetish tolkien derivative fantasy"
2 go into detail:
the fact that elves were always asian coded in tolkien's work but r now often asian or white coded and as such heavily infantanlised and treated as more "pure" and "gentle" and this post does the same thing and plays into those ideas
the fact that dwarves were jewish coded in tolkien's work and here r being treated as if intimacy isn't so much an act of joy but of business when it's a stereotype that jewish marriages r brought abt bc of convenience or financial gain instead of love
the fact that the gnome 1 is the only 1 where the post mentions they r completely satisfied and ofc its the 1 that is the closest 2 weird white ppl christian ideals
the fact that orcs in the modern day r often used as a stand in 4 black ppl when ppl wanna b rly racist in a fantasy setting "yeh they hav their own evil language and in dnd 5e art they wear the furs of often exotic animals like tigers and they hav weird brow shapes and noses, r p much always men and they r less intelligent and more violent, bro no it's totally not that im using them 2 b covertly anti black racist, dude no, i mean ur racist 4 thinking that, anyway i think that if they were gonna hav sex they would probably rape and kill their partner since they r evil rapist savages"
so yeh this is basically everything wrong w how sex and intimacy is viewed in the modern fantasy genre in 1 post and 2 replies, thanks i hate it
elf sex: 3 to 12 effeminate twinks coo and giggle in a sensual pile in the woods. sometimes the elf queen joins and pretends they’re her baby birds
dwarf sex: a pair of strong able bodied warriors tacitly agree to mate as equals under a binding contract of tomelike thickness, with consent from the council
gnome sex: married couple of 200 years finally gives in to temptation and call upon the stork to deliver their child, then sleep in separate beds completely satisfied
all of u r poisoned by generations of racist and uninventive fantasy writers and it disgusts me
man u guys were all right abt getting a 3ds 2 help w doomscrolling
i used 2 hav an og 3ds back when they 1st came out but i lost it recently bc depression room house reasons (dw im fixing it and renovating) but i remembered rly liking it and i was struggling a lot w doomscrolling so i decided 2 buy a 2ds xl since my og 3ds was rly old (hinge a lil loose and 3d slider 2 loose) and still had some of the stuff from the microtransactions on 3ds era (any1 else remember the 3ds arcade? lol) and man it rly is helping
like y would i doomscroll when i could instead b playing miitopia?
ngl miitopia specifically also been helping w me kicking the chatbot ai habit 2 since if i wanna c silly interactions between fictional characters i can just put them in miitopia
personally would 100% recommend getting a 3ds/2ds 2 help w doomscrolling and using miitopia 2 help w cutting chatbots out of ur life
also on the chatbot thing b4 ppl start saying "just interact w fandom" fandom spaces r not always safe spaces 4 every1 due 2 fandom bigotry and also not every1 wants 2 hav a community experience and would prefer smth more solitary, i think miitopia fits that niche well, also i can't speak from experience but it seems like ppl hav also been replacing chatbots in their life w playing the new tomodatchi life game, personally i wouldn't recommend the old tomodatchi life game 4 the 3ds bc u can't hav queer relationships in it, legit it was so jarring 2 me when i remembered that games didn't always used 2 hav queer relationships as an option even tho i literally lived thru it not being an option being the default
We need an alternative to doesthedogdie cause they’ve started fucking paywalling warnings that include timestamps for triggering moments.
Like what the fuck
I just checked and
Need to read about trigger warnings? Please click the whimsical dog icon for more information!
I recommend Unconsenting Media. Not as comprehensive as DoesTheDogDie, but if sexual assault is a trigger for you, it’s a good resource
rbing again real quick--i and other(s?) have noted in other rbs that this is almost never done. it's for very few properties, and it's only for timestamped warnings that are done in-house, not by users.
there are still timestamps available for warnings on those same triggers for those same properties. just bc there's a paywall on something doesn't mean other comments and timestamps can't be posted or read for free on that property or that trigger.
see here:
i don't have an account and haven't paid for anything on the site, so all of those comments are what i'm seeing for free.
i had to search and search to find anything that had paywalls, and had to resort to looking at The Substance, as referenced here. i've been using the site regularly since the op posted and have never organically encountered a paywall on anything, including on very popular properties.
i don't see any reason to stop using the site--everything is still available for free. they just have added another way for some ppl to choose to pay some $ (in addition to ads), since this is a completely free service, and no website is free to maintain.
as an example, someone with the money could pay to see the timestamps, and then leave a free comment with the same timestamps for others if they wanted to.
I've seen this post on my dash a few times now and I want to boost this specific addition. I've emailed the owner of the site to get clarification on this, and I was told the motivation behind this. He wanted to start paying some people to memorize all 200+ triggers on the site, sit down and watch popular movies/shows to thoroughly analyze whenever any trigger pops up, and note down timestamps and details of them. Ads unfortunately do not cover this (they probably only cover the site's base upkeep), so the subscription service is specifically to pay these people. Community comments have never been paywalled and are still accessible.
He thanked me for my feedback when I expressed confusion and concern about the paywalled comments being mixed in with the free comments, and has since updated the site to make them clearly distinct, along with a preview of what the paid comments look like:
He was very transparent about it all and very kind. He also said this was his mistake and is trying to clear it up. Please continue to use DoesTheDogDie.com, it is an excellent resource and there is nothing else like it!