all monsters are human.

he/they

[dank-wholesome-memes]

[violentviolette]

one of the big concepts I learned in therapy that has been fucking revolutionary for me is the concept that sometimes u can just feel feelings and they don't have to mean anything.

like, I can just be sad about something for a little while because it feels cathartic and helpful to let myself be sad, and it doesnt have to mean anything or change how I act or treat people.

like sometimes u just need to feel an emotion in order to process and work through things, and sometimes it just feels good to let urself be sad about a silly or little thing. and then once its out its over, uve experienced it and now it is done so u can move on.

and I dont have to derive greater meaning from it or do anything about it. i was just sad for a few hours and now i feel better and that's all that matters.

[raven-footed]

yeah. accepting that feeling bad does not necessarily mean that there is something in me or my environment that can or should be solved was really helpful for me in dealing with depressive tendencies. i used to stop everything and try to rationally and practically work my way out of the discomfort, but then i got better at recognizing when something was actually wrong and in need of address vs when my melancholy or boredom or whatever was just a fleeting emotion. now if i know that whatever unhappiness i am feeling is a passing thing, i try to just get on with life while i wait for it to be over. 

[feministism]

[drankinwatahmelin]

4. If the car pulls up to you run in the opposite direction.

5. Walk with your keys in your hands and keep a key between each finger

6. If they put you in the trunk kick out the headlights

7. If you get lost find a woman with a child. Never ask a man for help (this one was drilled)

[bando--grand-scamyon]

That scream fire piece of advice is literally life saving

8. Watch your shadows and reflections, especially if someone is walking behind you. A split second notice is better than none and will help you.

[gaylittlepieceofsh1t]

Yes this last one really saves lives y'all I do it all the time

[uncleromeo]

girls have to learn to view the world like international intelligence agents just to be safe walking down the street. smh.

[twilightt-fantasy]

guys pls pls pls reblog and girls pls pls pls be safe out there. terrifying and so sad that we have to worry about this on a daily basis

[guiltyidealist]

(I’m an enby, but, frankly, this is helpful for anyone.)

[cryptidinks]

- always tell someone where youre at and an approx time when youll be back

[witcheshaven]

Add text replacement words in your phone if possible. Something short and memorable that you can send quickly to people in moments of emergencies.

E.g.

[whatchagonnadoabooouuutttit]

I f ing hate that we need to reblog this, people suck, but this will save lives.

DO NOT SCROLL PAST

[anonymousmothman]

Being female fucking sucks but yes this shit is important for everyone

[buffshipper8490]

I’m a guy and it’s absolutely horrible that women have to live in fear like this

[bpdamn]

maintaining friendships is so hard when your mind is constantly telling you that you’re annoying and unwanted

[traumathoughts]

[radiqueer]

Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

[severalowls]

Pretty fucked up that you, personally, reading this post don’t give equal attention to every tragedy that happens on the planet every day. I heard that you, personally sometimes only hear about things that news sources in your specific cultural sphere pick up on. That’s pretty fucked up of you, personally.

[evilkitten3]

what do you mean your levels of compassion don’t exceed far beyond the parameters of what the human brain is capable of? have you considered trying harder? i am now going to misuse the word empathy and will refuse to see anything ironic about any of this.

[kyoshi-lesbians]

anyway what ive learned in my 23 years of life is that its just as important to tell your loved ones "I'm proud of you" as it is to show that you love them

[kyoshi-lesbians]

really like its not just something for parents to tell their kids, let your people know how proud of them you are for getting into grad school, for getting that new job, for planning that event, for going to therapy, for getting out of bed on the mornings when it is so hard to, for their artistry, for their skills, for trying and maybe failing but continuing to try, for growing as a person! let people know you see all that & you're so proud of who they're becoming

[slavicafire]

listen I love languages and theoretically I know this should not be funny - not at this point, after this many years of learning both English and French.

but.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Think about why you love your friends. What comes to mind first? It probably isn't things like "I love how they have a job" or "I love how they get good grades." Instead you might be thinking about their compassion, their sense of humor, their perspective, their passion, their values, their mindset/attitude or their intelligence. So don't let yourself or anyone else reduce your worth to your productivity alone. We're all far more than that!

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

You're not a worthy person "once you recover." You are not a worthy person "once you finish your education." You're not a worthy person "once you get a job." You are not a worthy person "once you fall in love." You're a worthy person NOW. With all your flaws, struggles, problems and fuck ups. Your worth is inherent and you don't have to do or achieve anything to prove it. You always have been worthy of good things and you always will be!

[promethes]

if you’re not constantly questioning and dismantling your preconceived notions then what is the point

[vanitybecomesme]

I really don't know how it has become this huge stereotype that cluster b personalities are geniuses, master manipulators, who are so socially adept and emotionally intelligent. I litterally can't understand some jokes or sarcasm because low empathy brain but okay....

[real-uwu-hours]

This post made me realize that a lot of the cluster B stereotypes are a mix between empaths thinking we have Too Much Social Skills and Not Enough Social Skills at the same time

[guerrillatech]

[silima]

sources: nytimes, nature.com

[owelight]

fun fact. it literally doesn’t matter if your trauma “wasn’t THAT bad” compared to other peoples. its still trauma and it will affect you the same way. it doesn’t matter how “bad” it was, its something you went through and are continuing to live with the aftermath of, and, no matter what, everything you feel is completely justified.

[bakwaaas]

no matter how loved you are, there are some things in life you will have to face alone. there are some moments which are yours, and only yours. and there are parts of you that only you will truly understand.

[counseledcounselor]

~advanced~ interpersonal skills.