Formerly powderedsugarr

21, writer | I have things to say once in a while I can probably out-troll you nuance inclusive radical feminist

[drbased]

Radfems talk about blackpillers the way tras talk about terfs

Idk why you're addressing this in such a way to me (assuming you're talking about blackpill 'feminists' here - when I use the word 'blackpill' here I will be using it as shorthand for 'blackpill feminists'. After all, blackpill men are merely the logical endpoint of patriarchal ideology and therefore don't need to be highlighted as some separate group), but I can tell you why this is:

The blackpillers are the caricature of radfems that form the grain of truth that TRAs have built their understanding of radical feminism around. But as I've said before, this is transparently nothing to do with TRAs having some secret understanding of the core tenets of radical feminism, and rather that TRAs, blackpillers and conservatives are all pulling from the same limited patriarchal pool.

The fundamental belief of patriarchy is that the neutral biological realities of 'male' and 'female' are representative of some greater truth: the male body and existence becomes imbued with some inherent 'essence' of maleness, in order to venerate it above the denigrated female body. Maleness is associated with culture, which masters nature as represented by the female body. Of course, this is a chicken-and-egg scenario here but it just so happens that when women and our bodies are devalued to the sub-spiritual, we are then placed into the same category 'resources that can be exploited', lumped in with the rest of nature - our reproductive capacity can be used, we can be raped and forcibly impregnated, to bring about more males, and the rest is - quite literally - history.

With this idea of male and female essences being embedded into our perception of the neutral sexed body, it's very hard to truly ever deprogram yourself from that narrative. After all, it benefits men to perpetuate this idea so that apart from feeling entitled to women's reproductive labour, he can also project every part of himself with which he feels uncomfortable onto his female counterpart, scapegoating her on a subconscious level. And furthermore, as humans are social creatures designed to seek meaning, to make narrative, and to connect with each other, if feeling 'normal' means buying into these male and female essences, then the vast, vast majority of people will take the easy road.

So, we have our 4 camps:

Conservatives/Patriarchy: Gender exists and is inexorably linked to the sexed body, and that is good

Blackpills: Gender exists and is inexorably linked to the sexed body, and that is bad

TRAs: Gender is not linked to the sexed body, but gender exists, and that's good

Radfems: Gender is not linked to the sexed body, and nor does gender exist - instead, what we call 'gender' is sexed roles that have been valorised into male and female 'essences', and thus it's bad

Note how there are three primary conditions here: conservatives/patriarchy believes in all three, whereas blackpills and TRAs will believe in 2 out of the three, and radical feminism is the only one to truly reject all conditions.

When people believe something, it is hard for them to comprehend the idea that other people don't - this is why Christians famously claim that atheists 'reject God'. After all, it makes sense that a component of belief is, well, believing it - I (rightfully, I hope) believe the sky is blue, so if someone told me it was orange, I'd think think they were either lying, had some problem with their vision, or they had some internal reasoning that made them want to deny the very evident fact that the sky is blue.

So we have TRAs who are out here believing that gender exists, and so unable to comprehend that others do not - so it makes sense to them that anyone complaining to deny gender's existence must actually secretly believe in it. So the only real option here is to assume that as we believe in gender, an instead we deny its inherent essence, instead assuming that it must have something to do with biology. In the TRA mind, that is the ultimate evil - because they have venerated gender as something that is no longer even represented by the body but instead surpasses it entirely. To reject gender is to reject its inherent spiritual essence and instead to assume that it must have something to do with the base and animalistic - radfems are accused regularly of degrading women by relating our femaleness with our bodies.

It's not surprising to me at all that blackpillers are a TRA's wet dream. After all, as I've said, actually rejecting these instilled beliefs about the nature of gender are hard. It's evident on the face of it just how much blackpillers buy into so much patriarchal ideology - Blackpill Jesus's tagline literally states that sex is the root of all evil. At their core, these ideological positions hate the body - in the conservative/patriarchal and blackpill viewpoints, the body is begrudgingly accepted as a gateway to some greater essence, some inherent truth, some form of transcendence.

Radical feminism is the only ideological position that posits at the very minimum and neutral relationship with the body - no matter how many times we chant 'Woman: Adult Female Human', we are chronically misunderstood because even neutrality towards the body is seen as denigration of the self, for the self must be Divine, and for the self to be Divine, it must exist as something More than a dull material form. For whatever reason, be it some inherent human desire to seek meaning or just the product of a culture that demands it of us, we as humans seem to have some deep desire to percieve the self as Divine. And so it stands to reason that there will be women who ostensibly consider themselves of feminist persuasion but will happily carry this revulsion towards the body.

After all, the blackpill is a simple narrative of good vs evil, which means you don't really have to do anything other than Believe the Right Things and do what vaguely feels right in order to consider yourself in the 'good' camp. Blackpillers love to claim that they're not fighting for all women - they're fighting for fellow enlightened radfems only. It's about group connection and being proven correct on the spiritual battlefield - that's a language the TRAs can understand!

And so no, radfems do not talk about blackpillers the way TRAs talk about radfems, because I dare you to find a TRA willing to dissect these ideological positions in the same way I do. The similarities in criticisms are ostensibly similar because when you're part of one group making a whole-cloth assessment of another group, there is always going to be people who claim you Just Don't Get It. You may as well be saying that people who criticise, idk, Game Of Thrones, are just like people who criticise the existence of climate change. Turns out that the english language is limited, and we tend to default to certain ways of phrasing things when criticising - so there is always going to be crossover in how it sounds! You have to be willing to look past superficialities and instead look for gaps in explanations, defensiveness, obvious cognitive dissonance, logical fallacies, etc. etc. and make up your own mind if what someone is saying is 'valid' or not.

[drbased]

Within a day of posting this I happen upon this:

The thought doesn’t even occur to them that ‘womanhood’ isn’t some pseudo-spiritual essence to be chosen, and that you can have immutable sex categories without male supremacy.

[patchesthegreat]

I'm not vegan but I don't think there's a better example of "making up a person to get mad at" than how non-vegans talk about vegans. yeah I've met obnoxious vegans, you probably have too, and I still hear far less from them than I do from non-vegans inventing arguments to piss themselves off

[11032025-deactivated20251104]

let's be real. was i wrong about anything i said. transfems and trans women can be whatever they want just like us transmascs and trans men and other afab people want but it is literally just real life that they aren't biologically female and don't experience the same sex-based oppression that we do.

like i said. i'm not transfem so i don't want to dictate or be the ultimate voice (or any voice) what they do or do not experience. but i AM female and they are not so they don't get to dictate what we experience. there is a type of oppression that affects all people born female, just like there is a type of oppression that affects all people who are not white. it is that simple. don't try to erase or silence our experiences and nobody will have any problems with you. if you think it's bigotry to say that transfems are not biologically female and that transmascs are biologically female, you are out of touch with reality and are suppressing our only way to talk about the experiences we face at the hands of our oppressors: people born male. you are perpetuating the oppression.

i said it before but. at the end of the day, if you get mad or upset at the suggestion that there is a type of oppression that is sex-based and affects the biologically female half of the population, you are in fact a misogynist. you are a sexist. there are no ifs ands or buts about it.

[korrasera]

Yes, you were incorrect in several points.

Sex-based oppression isn't real. That's not how oppression works. People oppress one another based on identity. The kind of oppression a trans man faces is not the same as what a cis woman faces, because the cis woman doesn't experience the transphobia the trans man experiences, and the trans man can be impacted by misogyny but isn't targeted by it the way a cis woman is.

All trans women and most transfems are women and female, so it would make sense to say that they're included in your original statement. People wanted to call that out explicitly, but you then clarified that you think trans women and most transfems don't count as women or female, which is incorrect.

AFAB does not mean biologically female. It only means one thing, that the person in question was assigned female at birth, by a doctor assuming they were female based on the shape of their genitals.

AFAB isn't a term originally created by and for the intersex community. The original term was 'coercively assigned male at birth' and it was coined by trans women. After being adopted by the rest of the trans community, it was also shared with the intersex community and is a celebrated point of commonality between all of us.

Biological sex is a social construct that doesn't describe the biological reality of humans. Being born with a penis doesn't make you biologically male and being born with a vagina doesn't make you biologically female. Those ideas are just prevalent because most people are cis men or cis women and their gender and sex traits all line up in a typical pattern. Biological sex is a social construct that isn't based on biological reality, because it doesn't account for trans people or intersex people.

You can prove the previous by looking at how people will discard anyone who doesn't fit their preconceived notion of biological sex, in order to justify their need to deny that a trans person is the gender they say they are. See: People who claim any woman who can't give birth isn't a real woman, that people only have XX or XY chromosomes, that intersex variation doesn't matter, etc.

If you're talking about actual biological fact, trans women are biologically female because our gender is female and we just happen to have other sex traits that are not typical for biologically female people. Same goes for trans men, who are biologically male, because they have a male gender with some atypical sex traits, and intersex people as well, who can be cis or trans and have atypical sex traits.

Something that's important to understand about trans people in particular is that we are the gender we say we are. The only real difference is that our bodies came out shaped a little different than what you expect. It's not a mental condition, we are just rare examples of what men, women, and non-binary people look like in the human population.

Many people who are transphobic or gender critical or whatever kind of name they're giving to their prejudice these days think that trans people merely 'think' we are the gender we say we are. These people think that we're wrong and that we're either mentally ill or are literally evil.

In reality, we are the gender we say we are, and these kinds of people just hate us because we look different from them. This is the exact same kind of attitude you find in proud racists who believe that anyone who isn't white is a lesser form of human, and in some cases, not human at all. People hating other people because of how they look, not some actual true thing.

When you argue that women are not actually women because they don't meet your definition of female, that's misogyny talking.

When the women you're talking about are intersex, that is intersexism because you're denying that they're biologically female because they may have been born with TAIS and have testes instead of ovaries.

When the women you're talking about are trans, that's transmisogyny because you're arguing that trans women are biologically male and thus are not Actual Real Women.

And finally, when you argue that trans men are female, you're engaging in transphobia by denying that they're Actual Real Men. You may feel a sense of solidarity with someone who the doctor also claimed was a girl at birth, but if he's not a woman you are doing him a great disservice by acting like he is one.

You should respect the reality of human biology and not try to act as the arbiter of who counts as a man or a woman, male or female.

[11032025-deactivated20251104]

sorry i am not reading any novel that starts with anyone telling me, someone affected by sex-based oppression (sexism, misogyny), that sex-based oppression is not real. you are a joke lol. i would have humored you had you not said something so cruel and also untrue

let me reiterate:

if you are upset or made angry by someone suggesting that sex-based oppression exists, you are a misogynist. no ifs ands or buts. you are perpetuating the sex-based oppression.

[snarltoothed]

the way my eyes popped out of my head reading that list… 100% no ifs ands or buts if you don’t believe in sex or sex-based oppression, you’re a misogynist.

swaggy let me answer the points for you as best i can 🫡 (don’t feel compelled to read since you, yourself, are sane)

1. Are you crazy? Tell that to all of the female people in Afghanistan. If their oppression has nothing to do with their biological sex, but rather their identity/how inclined they are toward performing the feminine gender role as dictated by their culture, why are they all being oppressed? Or are only some of them oppressed? Are the women and girls in Afghanistan who risk their lives leaving their homes unescorted by men or by removing their coverings (or any other number of things they’re not allowed to do as female people) all some flavor of trans or nonbinary and that’s why they’re persecuted (often to death)?

How about the female people in war-torn areas who experience rape as a weapon of war? If they simply felt more masculine, would they be safe?

How about the female people forced into servitude at brothels for American soldiers during the Korean War? Do you think the fact that they all had vaginas was just a coincidence?

I could go on, and on, and on, because this trend literally stretches back to the earliest ancient texts/records we as humanity have.

2. “Female” is a biological category that applies to pretty much every species that reproduces sexually. Lots of things can be female. Trees, flowers, grasses, ants, bees, butterflies, fish, frogs, lizards, moles, mice, and so on and so forth. “Female” means nothing more than having a reproductive system that follows the design for making large gametes — seeds, eggs, ovum. Even if a being (are plants beings?) has some issue that causes sterility, it can still be sexed (according to its species, some sexually reproductive species have true hermaphroditism that does not occur in humans/any mammals) based on physical and genetic makeup.

However, in humans, the presence of an SRY-gene and lack of Swyer Syndrome/46XY-DSD indicates a male (not excluding intersex folk! Swyer Syndrome is just the only DSD that includes an inactive or non-present SRY-gene in XY individuals and completely prevents gonadal development). Therefore a human with an active SRY-gene cannot be female.

Regardless of whether a person with an active SRY-gene is also intersex is irrelevant to their biological status as a male — an active SRY-gene is the determining sex marker for humans. Even XX individuals with an active translocated SRY-gene (de la Chapelle Syndrome/46XX-DSD) are typically male, despite typically experiencing infertility… although some individuals with de la Chapelle syndrome may also experience OT-DSD and have some combination of ovarian and testicular tissues.

People with OT-DSD are the only people who cannot be reliably sexed as either female or male and who are able to be considered hermaphroditic (although they may sometimes be categorized as one sex or the other based on if they have reproductive function in one type of gonad and not the other, though fertility in OT-DSD individuals is rare and fertility in both ovarian and testicular tissue is even rarer — so much so that there has never been a recorded case of autofertilization in humans despite rare cases being recorded in other mammalian species… unless we perhaps consider Mary, mother of Jesus, as possibly having experienced autofertilization… though I would consider that just about as likely as the Biblical interpretation of God-induced pregnancy).

Aside from de la Chapelle Syndrome, other causes of OT-DSD are mostly sex mosaicism/chimerism (46XX/46XY-DSD — sorry, this one doesn’t have a more colloquial name) and genetic mutations (not listing all the known gene mutations that can cause OT-DSD bc I’m pretty the exact gene codes don’t mean much to most people). The XY “equivalent” of de la Chapelle Syndrome is actually Swyer Syndrome, which as already covered, causes total lack of gonadal development and therefore cannot cause OT-DSD.

Given that most transwomen are not intersex/most women who are biologically male but have an intersex disorder that caused external female development and require surgical removal of internal testes don’t refer to themselves as transwomen, DSDs/intersex conditions aren’t super relevant, but I figured since you didn’t seem to learn about biological sex classification in school and clearly haven’t had access to reliable, reputable resources on the matter I figured I’d cover as much as possible.

Transwomen certainly can experience some misdirected misogyny (which is a term I’m using to mean hatred of the female sex) if they pass convincingly, no one is questioning that. Personally, I also have very little issue with males who experience gender dysphoria socially identifying as women so long as they don’t go around making ridiculous claims that sex classification in humans is based on the ratio of estrogens and androgens in the body, or even worse, whether your soul (an inherently spiritual concept that not everyone believes in) is female or male. Because that’s simply untrue.

We apply the same sex classification rules to humans as we apply to every other sexually reproductive species on this earth: by whether a being produces large (female) or small (male) gametes, or if that being is infertile/sterile, by the genetic and phenotypic structures indicating what gametes it would produce if it were not infertile/sterile. In humans, the presence of an SRY-gene and even partially developed testes indicates a male. A human person simply cannot be biologically female if they have testes. Those are the rules of biology.

3. The definitional meaning of “AFAB” is somewhat irrelevant because people use it in place of “female” because “female” is apparently a transphobic dogwhistle to a lot of people, and they don’t want to be called TERFs for caring about/having thoughts about female oppression or experiences that only female people can have due to their biology or even just social norms between females.

“Women and femmes” doesn’t exactly cover it — transmasculine people are still female and are or have formerly been subject to female oppression and experiences, while transfeminine people are still male and only experience misdirected misogynistic discrimination (which has its place in discussions, dgmw, but is far from the whole picture). Well, and transphobia, obviously… but transmasculine people also experience transphobia and that wasn’t the topic at hand.

4. LOL this is literally the google AI overview when you look up “origins of the terms AFAB AMAB”?

Please don’t trust AI overview for serious topics. There are so many examples of it accidentally creating misinformation based off of joking/nonsense tumblr posts alone… you should take literally everything said by generative AI/any LLM with several grains of salt.

Since the gen AI results tend to change from search to search after the first sentence, I’m not sure if you also got linked to the creator of the term “intersex” who was a German entomologist breeding moths and noticing that some of the moths were not clearly identifiable as male or female in 1917. That’s not relevant, I just thought it was fun. It also appears the term didn’t really make its way to being popularly applied to humans until around 1993 with the publication of The Five Sexes by Anne Fausto-Sterling [1], which certainly has a different view on gender/sex identity than we do today… and outside of advocating for “herm, merm, and ferm” inclusion in sex categorization, largely seems to focus on the childhood medicalization of intersex individuals and advocates against it due to the obvious ethical issue of children receiving hormonal and surgical treatments they didn’t consent to and the roots of homophobia in the practice of forcing intersex individuals to conform to the stereotypical appearance of one sex or the other.

BTW, this 2018 comment from a Medium user [2] is the source for your claim that transwomen first invented the term CAMAB. The source for THAT comment is this 2017 reddit thread [3].

Confusion over whether AMAB/AFAB are terms created by trans or intersex individuals has existed for a long time and this 2011 blog post [4] seems to propose that it was a collaborative effort to create a term inclusive of both trans and intersex individuals.

However, this 2009 publication called Race To Justice by NYC Health [5] only refers to the terms “AMAB/AFAB” as something intersex people use due to male and female being the only legal sex categories. This is the oldest source I could find defining the terms. Make of that what you will.

5. I think I pretty thoroughly addressed sex categorization in point number 2. Of course it’s more complicated than vagina = female and penis = male (although actually, unless we’re counting a clitoris with cliteromegaly as a penis — which we shouldn’t, because an enlarged clitoris is… still a clitoris and as such is not a penis — penis = male is pretty much correct), but that doesn’t mean we don’t have actual biological parameters for sex determination in humans. We do, it’s based off of the presence or absence of an active SRY-gene/which gametes the body is programmed to be able to make (whether or not that body actually possesses the ability to produce those gametes), and only one very rare DSD is unidentifiable as clearly male or female by these parameters.

Of course these parameters are also a construct, literally all human knowledge is a construct. But no one is arguing that chimps are actually basically people and should be subject to human law because we share ~98.8% of our genetic code with them and species are just a construct. Scientific constructs are an important way for humans to verify material reality, since we are only inherently capable of experiential reality.

6. Again, I very thoroughly went over sex determination in humans in point 2. I won’t deny that people who claim infertile/sterile women aren’t “real” women exist, nor people who are unaware of intersex disorders and/or believe that intersex acceptance isn’t important and/or that intersex people should just undergo medically unnecessary surgical procedures and hormonal treatments to fit in with the typical male/female binary (which of course is made even worse by gender roles that affect even cisgendered perisex people like it being taboo for women to have facial/body hair despite hair growth distribution being a natural variation among cis- perisex woman).

Anyone who thinks any of the above things sucks as a human being, and these are not ideas commonly held by radical or radical-leaning (?) feminists. (sorry tommy idk if you label yourself as radical but obvi your ideas are rad-leaning enough to upset people LOL)

7. Again, unless we’re just throwing away the entire concept of sex categorization for all sexually reproductive beings or making some special anthropocentric exception for humans, this just isn’t how biology or sex determination in humans works. Based on the percentage of intersex individuals and the percentage of those individuals with OT-DSD, only 0.0018% of the human population (at most, I used the 10% out of 3-10% estimated for the percentage of intersex people with OT-DSD) cannot be reliably sexed as either male or female. That means humans are 99.9982% likely to be categorically male or female, including everyone with any intersex condition besides OT-DSD.

Rough bibliography in case the hyperlinks don’t work:

1. https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Anne-Fausto-Sterling/publication/368714235_The_Five_Sexes_Why_Male_and_Female_are_not_Enough/links/63f69c77574950594536cb5e/The-Five-Sexes-Why-Male-and-Female-are-not-Enough.pdf

2. https://medium.com/p/fb8447cffdee/responses/show

3. https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/7glz6x/does_anyone_know_the_origin_of_the_terms_amab_and/

4. https://mixosaurus.co.uk/2011/10/

5. https://www.nyc.gov/assets/doh/downloads/pdf/dpho/race-to-justice-action-kit-glossary.pdf

[pure]

the people who claim to oppose “bioessentialism” will tell you that the usage of porn and the prostituting of women is normal, permissible and natural. it’s all just sexuality, after all. their sex therapist said it’s fine. their psychologist said eroticizing rape and sexual exploitation is just human nature. you wouldn’t want to be a conservative. sexual slavery is bad if it’s private, but good if it’s public, accessible to all, and socialized among the masses. 😉

the people who claim to oppose capitalism will critique every billion dollar industry on earth except for the ones that give them orgasms at the expense of millions of women and girls. suddenly, for women, consent makes exploitation permissible. you wouldn’t want to be a reactionary. communism is just for men, but the most that women can hope for is libertarianism.

the people who claim to oppose sexual violence will keep their heads down if the sexual violence results in an orgasm for the participants. strangulation is domestic violence unless someone requests it. consent makes abuse impossible, after all. you can’t abuse anyone if you garner consent before you do it. these people will claim to be “materialists.” you wouldn’t want to be a prude.

the people who engage in “media criticism” and care about “representation” fall silent when the representation of women and children in porn is a topic of discussion. suddenly, representation doesn’t matter if the representation is intended to give you an orgasm. they simply want more diversity among the sexual slaves. you wouldn’t want to be exclusionary.

i could go on lol but bottom line is it is of utmost political importance for feminists to oppose the right-wing while disentangling our political project out of the clutches of liberals and leftists. they have nothing to offer us but a prettier set of chains. they want to neutralize our attacks on male supremacy just as much as their right-wing political rivals. we cannot subsume our goals to either of them. this is not an appeal to centrism. it is an appeal for a revolutionary movement that views us as human beings. this “political spectrum” is where our movement goes to die.

[mousidy]

sorry, but you were socialized christian. I just can't trust you in a trans space

[botchulism]

It’s funny because this is lowkey a valid take. It doesn’t matter much to claim being an atheist or ex Christian when you haven’t worked through your own authoritarian framework that can affect how you think about the world around you.

It’s also demonstrable that being raised in a Christo fascist culture permeates your thinking by legitimizing de-facto Christian frameworks in the political sphere. For example, condemning all forms of political violence because of “turning the other cheek” bullshit that’s only relevant in a Christian context.

If you wanna poke fun at gender socialization, don’t use an example that legitimizes the concept of SOCIALIZATION. Jesus it’s like if i labeled myself as anti-racist and got mad and claimed that you were oppressing me if i got called out for still being racist

[worstgirleva]

Male socialization is such an evil rhetoric. Yeah I guess not transitioning at the age of 5 is my fault and I'm evil for it. Yeah I guess not having the childhood I wish I did means I'm a danger and I should perpetually apologize for it

[botchulism]

Glad we’re on the same page

[skepticalpigeon]

A big thing in so-called progressive spaces is criticizing women for being suspicious of random men, and insisting that there must be a racist/ableist/classist/anti-homeless bias at play, while conveniently forgetting that the woman in question (any woman) is a marginalised person doing what they can to avoid being hate-crimed (assaulted, raped or murdered) by a member of an oppressor class.

[noblackwomannocry]

a lot of transfems' posting about gendered socialisation makes it clear that they think it's something that they opt into/choose to participate in/have to enjoy to be affected by rather than something that happens to people from the time they are born. people start saying shit like "wow what a little flirt!" about baby boys before they've even developed object permanence. people have gendered expectations for babies based on their cries. mothers overestimate their infant sons' ability to crawl and underestimate their daughters' ability. these attitudes affect how people raise their children. these attitudes affect how children develop their attitudes towards themselves and others.

peers bullying you for your sensitivity, parents blowing up at you for liking Girl Things, boys saying you aren't really a boy because you're a pussy are things that happen to boys because they were born and raised male. being the world's sweetest most gentle and sensitive effeminate little child who never hurt a fly or did a misogyny doesn't make the male socialisation not exist. the socialisation one receives isn't an "I consent!" thing it's the way people treat you differently based on your gender. transitioning later in life doesn't magically stop wider society from being homophobic, transphobic & misogynistic and enforcing rigid expectations based upon this on anyone in society.

[moved-to-empresscaress]

I hate the entire concept of rehabilitating a rapist. Rapists aren't ill. Raping is not a symptom. It is a misogynistic hate crime. Stop letting violent men pathologize themselves out of consequences. They're not the ones suffering from what they've done.

[meangirlnurse]

abortion is a fundamental right. but our conceptualization of reproductive justice cannot begin and end with abortion rights. it also has to include the right to make an uncoerced decision whether or not to have children.

reproductive control – e.g. forced sterilization and the trafficking of marginalized children – is a bog standard tool of colonialism and genocide.

there are a lot of people who consider themselves anti-capitalists who are altogether too comfortable with the implementation of systems to redistribute poor people’s children to the wealthy

[botchulism]

Not to be Catholic but I think that especially in the present day with the Catholic Church being like “hey you’ll actually get in trouble for touching kids” I start to wonder what it’s like in independent Protestant churches that aren’t connected to any other church or religious community or higher authority. How it must be to feel utterly alone. Catholic priests have become a joke but there is a particular horror about a pastor that you can’t run from in a church where there is no one to turn to.

[botchulism]

I hate when people defend the use of misogynistic slurs because “everyone says it” correct. A slur directed to 50% of people on earth will be used everywhere. It doesn’t mean it magically doesn’t meet the definition of a slur.

[theangryman]

why are TERFs unwilling to call out violent rhetoric in their community?

[botchulism]

I want to play a game…

Make a post saying “I asked 100 trans women to say that violent threats against terfs are bad (you won’t be surprised what happens next)”, tag it transmisogyny and tma, and live.

[botchulism]

I’m going to be absolutely insufferable about the Paris drama; in the days gone by the goalposts have shifted (shocker) to frame Paris at the very least as “terf-adjacent” because her content curates a safe space for terfs. It is her responsibility to make sure her content can’t be misconstrued as rhetoric a terf might believe in.

So…

Paris clearly DOES support trans women. So if TERFs aren’t all about hating trans women, then what other content would could they possibly agree with Paris on???

Wait… do you mean… That when Paris talks about female oppression… and FEMALE SPECIFIC ISSUES… that terfs will come flocking to agree???

How could Paris be so cruel???) What can we do to make the terfs be silent for good?

Of course the solution is easy…. Just stop talking about those issues! Or of course, reiterate that female specific issues don’t actually affect solely females.

In other news: 2 + 2 =4 , 3 + 3 =6, and the end goal of transgenderism is to declassify females from being a distinct oppressed class.

[anjomecanico]

If you look at this and still continue with that liberal "sex work is just like any other work" thinking you're simply a fucking monster

[mollyjames]

I think a lot of transmisogyny stems from this idea that people are really scared to see a dick. The reason bathrooms and locker rooms and hot springs keep being flash points is because these are all places where if a trans woman is using them, it's possible you might see her dick. A lot of transmisogynistic humor revolves around being traumatized because the subject saw a woman with a penis. And look, to a certain extent I sympathize. I'm not a fan of dick; I dont want this thing either. But if you want to be an ally to trans women, I think a big important step you can take personally is to examine your own reaction to the scenarios I described above, and recognize that a dick is just a body part a girl has sometimes. Seeing it as inherently sexual and/or traumatizing is a major wedge conservatives use to justify their rhetoric

[botchulism]

0 days without nambla rhetoric

[tbposting]

not for nothing but "chastity until marriage" and "lifelong strict monogamy" is every bit as much kink as piss or free use or knotting is. we just don't call it that because those weirdly specific and highly fetishized sexual practices are institutionalized and considered normative.

[shera-dnd]

what are traditional catholic values if not just an overly elaborate and widely accepted version of a breeding kink

[butchviking]

"chastity until marriage" and "lifelong strict monogamy" aren't a kink thing. they're a way to control women's reproduction. to ensure the bloodline for male heirs. to ensure power and wealth is handed down and men get to continue their "legacy". imagine being so oblivious to opressive social structures you think people just made the rules up randomly one day to decide what's normal and what isn't lmao. "what are traditional catholic values-" a way to fucking control people, dumbo. especially women. same as every other religion.

[lesbian-interveners]

porn addicts looking at misogynist violence and oppression: i'm getting real kink vibes from this

[tabbycatcarnival]

The call is coming from inside the house