gay and emo

nonbinary, they/them only pls I stole my gender from Frank Iero 2007 never dies apparently

[akiizayoi4869]

[akiizayoi4869]

Sokka and Toph giving Aang relationship advice

[fakelawyerbug]

I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.

[iridescentoracle]

#imo the potluck analogy applies- it would be rude to critique someone's icing technique at a potluck bc it wasn't as good as at the bakery #but if they had decorated their cupcakes w hate symbols it wouldn't be rude to tell them that's gross and gtfo #in fact it would be inappropriate to NOT say anything in that situation #or to complain that another guest who did point it out was 'ruining everyone's potluck' #and pointing out racism in fan works is 100% the second thing not the first! (via destructions-daughter)

[silverrdagger]

whatever 𓆝 𓆟 𓆞 𓆝 𓆟

[cubejello]

I did my PhD in a fish lab, and one time I was emailing a fish company, and the guy emailed me back with the signature “Best fishes,” followed by these guys

[yeesiine]

[johannestevans]

Ngl the actual criticism could be legitimate but if i see a post criticising an individual creator and when you look at that person's account it's ALL just long posts criticising that creator and attacking them personally like

That's no longer legit. It's at best obsessive, at worst, harassmsnt

Like esp when it's a smaller creator like an author or an artist, if the blogger in question is basically a one-man protest brigade against that person, and that person hasn't actually like. Done anything hurtful to an individual - ie like. Sexual assault, physical abuse, theft, etc

Then it's like. Cool. What's happened here is you as an individual have gotten really fixated on this creator or their work as Representative Of All Wrongs.

No amount of apology or change of behaviour from them will matter, bc you're being obsessive and parasocial.

And i won't reward that

And i certainly will not engage with it

It's good to like, aware of media and engage critically but when you're just like. Obsessed with a random person and stalking their socials and doing the "this bitch eating crackers" shtick but with beefed up media criticism language, that's NOT good

As always, remember to have hobbies and activities that are not social media, that involve friendships in meatspace where possible, that are creative or constructive in a way that satisfies you

If you find yourself fixated on someone like this, take a step back, take a breath, and redirect.

[pangur-and-grim]

kneading with all four paws

[pangur-and-grim]

[iliketurtles55]

(Sequel to ‘This memory is being forgotten’)

[ominous-signs]

Official somber sign

[agoodjake54-deactivated20150429]

[ruinedchildhood]

Jinkies

[jesterday00]

Jeepers!

[dollfacemcghost]

Zoinks!

[galvaniccorsair]

Ruh roh!

[paperandpencilsandskips]

FUCK

[pirateprincessjess]

My favorite part of this post is that it implies Fred is the one saying “FUCK” because we know who typically says the other 4 things

[catgirltoes]

"Trans one's gender" is such a wonderfully casual way to discuss coming into transness. It's one of my favourite neologisms of all time, and the main way I want to talk about my own transition. I transed my gender and I think you can trans your gender too.

[apathy-tied-in-knots]

i absentmindedly tried to borrow that into portuguese once but we already have the verb "transar", so the sentence came out meaning "i am going to fuck your gender"

[anfae]

Ratventures 🐀

[eshpur]

✣ Medieval Jimothy ✣

[infizero]

bringing back my too woke opinion that you should be allowed to change labels without the previous one being incorrect

[infizero]

i think you should be allowed to identify as trans without retroactively saying you were also trans in the past. i think the "born this way" rhetoric is limiting and you should be able say stuff like "i was fully a girl when i was a kid and now im a boy" without it invalidating your current identity but maybe that's just me

[gravityjunior]

Starting a collection

[theweirdwideweb]

[worldheritagepostorganization]

World Heritage Post

[vigilantsycamore]

eeby deeby... i haven't heard that name in years...

[digitaldiscipline]

[fishing-princess]

For thousands of years humanity has selectively bred chickens to have larger breasts and to have to lay eggs constantly. We did it to get more meat and per chicken, but from the perspective of the domesticated chickens they’re sorta living in a very specific fetish scenario

[aliceoverzero]

The first tags I see on this are absolutely inspired. Incredible pervert lesbian website.

[mysteriouseggsbenedict]

I love Matilda because it's a story about a child who sees injustice around her and gets mad about it and questions why things aren't fair, and instead of the ending being that she learns how the world works and that life isn't fair, she catapults one of the adults who abused her out of a building with her mind

[hometoursandotherstuff]

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cwydx34kzlvo

[runcibility]

"Vanderhorst had been under the influence of MDMA and three litres of vodka she had consumed on the night of the offence last September, her lawyer Michael Hill told the court."

three. liters.

[anais-ninja-bitch]

i support women's wrongs

[homoqueerjewhobbit]