awareness of "the abused can become the abuser" is useless without the knowledge that abuse is a choice anyone makes that is made for self-benefit. recently I watched an interview on the psychology of domestic abuse and the woman who interviewed those who inflicted the abuse always made sure to ask "why didn't you take it further?" because the answer would always show the abuser hadn't simply lost control. for example one man said he pushed over his girlfriend but didn't kick her once she was down because he didn't want any noticeable bruising that caused suspicion. human psychology is much less poetic than you think. too many psychology enjoyers only enjoy the poetic
You know, when I've remarked that a lot of the responses to my posts feel like people are just plucking out keywords they think they recognise based on the shape of them and replying to what they imagine the post says based on that, the possibility never occurred to me that this is actually how many American schools are currently teaching kids to read.
Like, my assumption this whole time has been that when folks go "I misunderstood this post that says [thing] as saying [unrelated thing] because I mistook [word] for [completely different word that happens to start with the same letter]", that was a bit. What do you mean they're teaching kids a reading method that's tailored to produce this exact error?
Please also keep in mind that region and age will effect if the American has been taught this way. There are young adults who were taught to read like this, but this system was forced more fully into place within the past 10-15 years, so many current teenagers are effected by it.
Many teachers TRIED to warn about this, but our government forced the changes. I have met multiple teachers who've openly complained and tried to talk to the boards if directors about it, but if you didn't/don't comply, you could lose your job.
I get you're joking, but airborne spread is far from clouds of "bad air" and smells generating diseases. It's just germ theory with applied physicis behind it. We've learned in the past century how easily humans create aerosols, how all kinds of things can hitch a ride on them, and how surface transmission is mostly just dogma propped up by people who never wanted to be embarrassed about supporting medical and scientific dogma that was killing people ever again (whoops), but that's not getting addressed because of the modern day equivalent of the Semmelweis reflex ("A gentleman's exhalations are always pathogen free") when it comes to masking, ventilation, and air filtration.
Please for the love of the Gods I *need* an update regarding your work nemesis, so I can live vicariously through you. <3
Ok, so my boss sent my nemesis that email, and then it was silence since we had state holidays so we were OOO for 4 days. Hence why I took a while to give an update.
For my nemesis, let’s refer to her as Laura from Pfizer (different name and different company but same gist)
The summary is: we will now charge extra for Pfizer projects from Laura, and Pfizer will also have stricter restrictions on her. Hopefully that’ll make working with her easier 🙏
I’ve also gotten questions on why exactly Laura is my nemesis, so I’ll explain that below:
We do research within the pharma industry, and companies can reach out to us to buy/sponsor that research. So they’ll ask us to research a specific medication/condition, to understand the prescription habits of doctors, the barriers to treatment, etc.
So Pfizer will tell Laura to find out X thing about Y medication/disease, and she’ll buy that research from us, which we will do correctly. We charge by project size and methodology, as per method we have different procedures, team size, third parties, etc.
But Laura must not understand our methodologies very well, so she’ll frequently buy the wrong type of project. This has catastrophic implications for us. Because when the projects are drawing to a close, Laura will reach out to us and ask for results which are not included in the methodology she ordered. So when she can’t deliver the results Pfizer asked of her, she blames US! She’ll literally slander us to her superiors and tell us we caused damages at Pfizer.
This causes financial damages to us too, because Pfizer is one of our biggest clients and names in the industry. Laura is also incredibly mean in her emails to us, to the extent some of our employees have actually cried reading them. She’s not only incompetent at her job, she’s also a bully.
And the thing is, we don’t have access to Pfizer’s internal communications, so we don’t know what they actually asked of her. Laura is our only point of contact, meaning we have to go by what she says. And her information is often wrong.
When this happens, we’ll often have to scramble to alter the fieldwork last minute, revise project timelines, reprocess our data, and so many more awful things. Our employees have had to work late countless times because of Laura, and realistically miss out on bonuses too. Merely saying her name in my office produces winces, stressed sighs, and facepalms.
Hopefully you can understand why I had enough of her, why I dedicated an entire day to take her down, and why my coworkers were willing to take on my work for the day because of it. That’s also why my bosses loved my report on Laura so much — she also causes them a lot of stress lmao. Pfizer having harsher restrictions on her means that there will be other employees reviewing her work, which hopefully means that she’ll make less mistakes when ordering research from us.
Working an office job will truly make you have the wildest enemies, bc why is my nemesis rn a woman I’ve never met and who exclusively haunts me by sending diabolical emails, and also a specific guy who left my company before I even worked here and made the system so fuckass that it ruined procedures for like a year
Yesterday my nemesis (woman I’ve never met and whose face I’ve never seen) sent my office an email so rude, basically saying we had fucked up every project she ever ordered from us, one of the worst emails I’ve ever read in my life.
And it pissed me off so badly that I spent the ENTIRE WORK DAY today compiling evidence from every project my team has ever done for her, pulling past emails she’d sent us, putting together an entire case proving that she had been the problem all along. That she got projects mixed up, that she’d made requests that were nonsensical, literally everything you could possibly imagine. Screenshots of emails, reports we’d submitted, EVERYTHING.
This woman in particular has been terrorizing my team for years, her name is almost a slur in my office, I had simply had ENOUGH of her.
I put all of this evidence together and sent it to all of my bosses at 4:30pm. Then I took a long break to eat a sweet treat and drink some tea.
After my break, my bosses all called in an emergency meeting with me and they said they read my report and fucking loved it. And I sat on a teams call with my boss’ boss as she wrote my nemesis the scathing email I had always fantasized about sending, using the evidence I’d compiled, and hit send.
It was the most satisfying workday I’ve had since I got hired.
Working an office job will truly make you have the wildest enemies, bc why is my nemesis rn a woman I’ve never met and who exclusively haunts me by sending diabolical emails, and also a specific guy who left my company before I even worked here and made the system so fuckass that it ruined procedures for like a year
Yesterday my nemesis (woman I’ve never met and whose face I’ve never seen) sent my office an email so rude, basically saying we had fucked up every project she ever ordered from us, one of the worst emails I’ve ever read in my life.
And it pissed me off so badly that I spent the ENTIRE WORK DAY today compiling evidence from every project my team has ever done for her, pulling past emails she’d sent us, putting together an entire case proving that she had been the problem all along. That she got projects mixed up, that she’d made requests that were nonsensical, literally everything you could possibly imagine. Screenshots of emails, reports we’d submitted, EVERYTHING.
This woman in particular has been terrorizing my team for years, her name is almost a slur in my office, I had simply had ENOUGH of her.
I put all of this evidence together and sent it to all of my bosses at 4:30pm. Then I took a long break to eat a sweet treat and drink some tea.
After my break, my bosses all called in an emergency meeting with me and they said they read my report and fucking loved it. And I sat on a teams call with my boss’ boss as she wrote my nemesis the scathing email I had always fantasized about sending, using the evidence I’d compiled, and hit send.
It was the most satisfying workday I’ve had since I got hired.
from Sensational Designs: The Cultural Work of American Fiction, 1790-1860, Jane Thompkins, 1986, p37 (bolding mine):
For classic texts, while they may or may not have originally been written by geniuses, have certainly been written and rewritten by the generations of professors and critics who make their living by them. They are the mirrors of culture as culture is interpreted by those who control the literary establishment. Rather than being the repository of eternal truths, they embody the changing interests and beliefs of those people whose place in the cultural hierarchy empowers them to decide which works deserve the name of classic and which do not. For the idea of "the classic" itself is no more universal or interest-free than the situation of those whose business it is to interpret literary works for the general public. It underwrites their claim to be the servants—and not the arbiters—of truth, and disguises the historically conditioned, contingent, and partisan nature of the texts that their modes of construction make visible. The recognition that literary texts are man-made, historically produced objects, whose value has been created and recreated by men and women out of their particular needs, suggests a need to study the interests, institutional practices, and social arrangements that sustain the canon of classic works. It also opens the way for a retrieval of the values and interests embodied in other, non-canonical texts, which the literary establishment responsible for the canon in its present form has—for a variety of reasons—suppressed.
in response to people saying things like "men aren't allowed to cry in public, unlike women" other people will then say things like "women are penalized, not rewarded, for public displays of emotion—the fact that women are presumed to be overly emotional & irrational is misogyny, not a privilege"
which is often true but like, it's contextual innit. lest we discount the phenomenon of White Woman Tears
I've recently had white women in professional contexts tell me that they were quote "hurt" and "gutted" by what amounted to very minor professional faux pas on my part. I remember reading a white woman academic's essay on Jane Eyre that began with recounting her emotional upset upon having Jane Eyre "taken away from her" by postcolonial / anti-racist scholarship. white women's emotions do have currency in personal and professional spaces in selective contexts, i.e. when wielded against people of colour 🤷🏽♀️
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