[lavadrakobloxxer]

this is my favorite video evcer whats going on

[outerspacekat-deactivated201801]

ADVICE FOR PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY:

wait until it gets dark and make tea or coffee or hot chocolate, or if it’s too hot outside make yourself a healthy smoothie with your favorite things in it at any point during the day

put on your favorite underwear, it helps, trust me, it’s an old family secret (i’m not kidding)

if you have a pet, play the “how many things can i stick on you until you move or get mad” game (bonus points if they fall asleep, extra bonus points if a family member sees you and tells you to quit it, extra double ultra points if they join in)

rip a peice of paper into as many little pieces as you can

go to animeseason.com and click “random anime” until you see one that looks completely ridiculous (or actually good) and watch the first episode. repeat if it sucked or if you get bored halfway through

spend at least an hour making a music playlist for how you feel right now and save it for now or when you feel a bad mood rise again

curl up in bed and cover yourself with blankets and pillows and put in music and just lay there for a while (sleeping is also good)

eat everything

drink lots of water

it’s okay bad moods don’t last forever!!!!!! i promise!!! you will be yourself soon and there are people who love you very much, don’t be afraid to reach out to them

you are lovely

eat lots of bananas

[asoftgoblin]

here are some more friends

i bet there is still a box of crayons in your house somewhere (if not you can get them cheap during back-to-school sales); find them and use them (maybe while watching ridiculous anime)

sunshine if you can manage it or just a sun lamp trust me it matters more than you think especially in winter

hugs even if they are stuffed animals or your pet or your pillow whatever is on hand

if you’ve got a favorite lotion/soap/thing that is scented use it liberally

cry if you need, if it doesn’t start by itself or if you don’t want to attract attention put on a sad movie so you have an excuse

write this down to pull out on future bad days:

it is okay to have a day where you don’t get things done

it is okay not to have a reason for feeling bad

taking care of yourself is a worthwhile use of time

if you still don’t feel better it is not your fault (and it is okay to ask for help)

[dino-dancer]

@daysleftofsecondterm

[daysleftofsecondterm]

And may I say, before the crowd of “self care isn’t always fun” crowd rolls in… not with that attitude it’s not.

[sufjansjoy]

i think i could direct a movie pretty easy probly. you, go over there but sadder. you, play with your balls but a little bit sadder with it. that camera angle is all wrong, make it sadder. close up on his balls. sadder. ok then one full penis shot and make it joyous because we loves it

[heli-o-trope]

what i'm about to post isn't so much a well thought out, put together theory but throwing 6 dice on the floor and hoping two of them land on the same side. i get Funny Feelings when i think about Ingrid/pos (she's my second favorite) and what started this is remembering Damon upset at Ingrid for jumping to conclusions about his relationship with his parents. While searching for that (which I will get to in a moment), I found this

These are two of Ingrid's reactions to receiving gifts she hates. My first thought was "*gasp* was Ingrid spanked???" While you don't have to get spanked to disapprove of corporal punishment, it's just...more likely to me at least that she was given she used words like "lucky" (almost insinuating that she could've gone down that path but chose not to because she understands how being spanked feels) and the fact that she casually spoke of a whole town of adults being willing to beat on someone just because they received a gift they didn't like as if that's somehow normal (maybe this is hyperbole but for the sake of this whole post im gonna take it literally). If Ingrid was spanked as a child (or at the very least threatened to be spanked) then it certainly sours her comments about parental appreciation (which is what i was originally searching for also forgive my bad crops)

Coloring this interaction with the lens Ingrid has been spanked before, it gives the vibe Ingrid was punished into accepting the bare minimum (food, shelter, affection) from her family rather than being genuinely grateful and that any notion of displeasure towards certain behaviors (like for say rejecting pet names) counts as being unappreciative and that she in turn MUST pay it back. If you look at Ingrid's Echo and Imitation arts my girl is SUFFOCATING. To the question "who are you?" Ingrid is "an Obligation"

Because of "all the love in the world" Ingrid feels obligated to pay it all back. Obligated to take care of her siblings (aka parentification, a theme Ingrid clearly has going on given her current dynamic with Toshiko), obligated to run the business and take care of chores and put food on their plates, obligated to do SO MUCH that Ingrid states during the Laundry Room scenes that she hasn't had help in a really long time. Damon is even confused by why she would say that (i don't have a pic of that rn sorry). Speaking of preserving the traditions, Damon also picks up on how traditional Ingrid's family is (Btw traditional southern households are more likely to use corporal punishment as a form of child discipline than not) and how perhaps that level of rigidity has held her back (bc why would her siblings know how to sell things online but not her? maybe she was too busy with everything else how to learn? or was learning just not necessary to keep the way she's been selling her products this whole time?)

I just find it...kind of bleeghh that Ingrid's first reaction to helping improve the family business was feeling guilt. I get that traditions are important and a lot of people don't want to break them. I get feeling disappointment or anger or sadness about having to change the way you did something but guilt is just strange. But considering that in the family change is literally seen as a betrayal it would make sense why Ingrid would feel guilty. Because she's betraying the people she's obligated to. Because she's betraying the people who showed her "all the love in the world" its....not a pleasant feeling. And, if Ingrid was spanked, it would only make these feelings worse because if she was punished for not being appreciative then...how would her folks feel about betrayal? What would they do? I suppose in the end they relented to Ingrid's and her sibling's ways otherwise she wouldn't have become an Ultimate but that must've been a terrifying conversation. Side Note: Why didn't Ingrid mention her parents at all outside of Damon asking if they were blacksmiths and why didn't they look to sell online? If Ingrid is so appreciative of her folks wouldn't she gush more about their hard work running the business before her? Anywho this is getting pretty long and I never had a point to begin with so I'll try to wrap this up as concisely as possible. Bearing ALL of what I said in mind it would make sense why Ingrid jumped to conclusions about Damon's supposed lack of appreciation for his parents. She isn't necessarily projecting onto him but her understanding of what it means to be appreciative looks totally different than his. Her expression of appreciation is fully outward while Damon's is inward (listening to his grandma's stories, always wearing the handmade cardigan, fervently studying for debate competitions to win prize money). She sees Damon rejecting her pet names, not wanting to talk about what his parents call him and translates it to him being unappreciative and thinking about himself because its the exact opposite of what she'd learned truly showing appreciation means.

I love you Ingrid you're so underrated please don't die next chapter

[etchif]

Maybe I'm just imagining it but I feel like when you have female characters in fiction who are tomboyish or masculine they often have some sad backstory or whatever like "ohh I wanted to be pretty like my sister but she was always prettier so I gave up and started doing sports instead😞" or like they secretly want to be more feminine but are scared to and that's so stupid right like that's dumb as hell. I am not imagining that this is a trope that exists right. Can girls not just be masculine because they are masculine why does it have to be a tragedy also if we're being realistic I feel like the opposite is a far more common thing irl. Feminine girl wants to be more masc but feels she'll be judged so she doesn't do it. Where are those female characters??? Where is closeted masc girl rep in media?????? Punches a wall

[solardriftx]

damon and eva except its that one better call saul image

[lotsamozzarella]

Fanmade concept art for the P:EG cast's dorm rooms batch 1

[xxxxmaticide]

When the seagulls cry

[cupidswoe]

My stupid bugs

[mrsessington]

quotes i like

[kabukeo]

hwuh? whuh?❓

[mia-down-under]

[c-53]

I’m obsessed with my 19 year old coworker. I was telling him about how my crashout divorced dad got a sugar mommy by going to random churches and having screaming sobbing breakdowns in the pews until a random rich christian widow was like ‘I can fix him’. And he went ‘yo thats tech. The meta is changing.’

[doyoulovebugs]

:(

[coco-code]

[whydidisavethistomyphone]

[relevant-wikipedia-articles]

Crumple zone - Wikipedia

[librarychair]

The amount of safety features incorporated into modern cars is unreal. I've seen crashes where the car flipped over and the occupant only had minor injuries. My dad was t-boned by someone speeding off the highway and walked away with a broken arm. The car was completely smashed except for the passenger compartment, which was curtained on all sides with airbags. That one manufacturer has decided they are exempt from implementing all these advancements disgusting and terrifying

When I was going through driver's ed I was taught that the steering column would stab through your chest if you crashed head on and that was just the way it was. We do not want to go back, not even a little

[foone]

The point of car safety features is that the car is supposed to die in an accident so you don't have to. Your car should be a pile of smoking rubble after an accident, and you should be fine.

[a-teacup-of-golden-cracks]

[elalmadelmar]

I totaled my first car. Like, the car itself just stopped where the windshield met the dashboard. Ahead of that point, there was no more car. It was gone.

Me? I had some really spectacular bruises and a lil friction burn on my nose from where Mr. Airbag and Ms. Glasses had a disagreement. That's it. That's it.

I was driving a little tiny coupe and went more or less head-on with a pickup truck. The entire engine and hood of my car was twisted rubble that was not connected to the rest of the car afterward. I sat down on the verge, about twenty or thirty feet from the accident, while I waited for the cops and EMTs to work their way through the traffic backup to get to us, and found that I was sitting beside one of the headlights of my car. The whole entire headlight, bulb and reflector and cover and frame and all.

All I had were bruises and that little friction burn. That's it.

Crumple zones save lives. So do seatbelts and airbags; half the bruising was the exact shape of my seatbelt in livid crimson and black on my torso. It was and remains the most insanely intense bruising I have ever experienced in my life. BUT IT WAS JUST BRUISING!! Unpleasant, sure, but eminently survivable and didn't even require much treatment beyond not wearing a bra for a few days. But all the force that created that spectacular bruising was force that wasn't flinging me through the windshield or impaling me on the steering column. My car crumpled and crushed and dissolved but it held me safe and secure and protected.

Crumple zones save lives. You do not want your car to look undamaged after the accident, because that means it made like a Newton's Cradle and passed every bit of the impact straight through to your soft and highly crushable body.

[dreadfulman]

Placing misogyny as an inherent trait of men/masculinity is just another form of "boys will be boys" btw. You cannot ever meaningfully hold misogynists accountable if you treat it as an inherent trait of their identify and not bigotry they are willfully perpetuating.