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[constellations2]

SPOILERS FOR TADC LAST ACT EPISODE 9

I actually thought the trans rep was great!

We have Zooble, who's struggling with body dysmorphia, but then ends the series being (mostly) self-actualized.

Then we have Jax, who has been hardcore repressing the entire series, slamming on the breaks HARD whenever she begins to start questioning or feels perceived (internalised queerphobia is real), and we get to see the two main endings of that: a version who never manages to actually accept herself (bad ending), and a version that is seemingly taking steps towards socially transitioning (growing out hair, dysphoria hoodie, Riley's bar, etc), AKA the hopeful ending.

The fact that some people seem to be completely oblivious to how not every trans person can accept themself, and that self-acceptance is messy business.

Queer folk are just as flawed and messy and differing from each other as het, cis folk!

I'm not saying the episode was perfect, but I really enjoyed it besides a couple nitpicks. I get discourse on quality of the ending. Some people were disappointed - I can see where they're coming from. But to deny the powerful messaging behind Jax's transness (and maybe it could have been better, but it was still pretty damn good), whether you liked the ending or not, is wild to me.

I'm not even saying this as a Jax fan. I went into the finale as someone who knows that Jax is an objectively terrible person, but still being able to appreciate depth of character.

I was genuinely euphoric when my suspicions that Jax is transfem were confirmed - I really didn't think it would be made so obvious. I'm really hopeful that Leroy (who has not committed all the terrible acts Jax did) can find her way to self-fulfillment, and I'm terribly sad Jax gave up before ever being able to start working towards redemption.

It's a tragedy, but not devoid of hope. It's a message to the audience. It's a bittersweet ending (but hey, look at the inspiration)

[aroace-ryland-grace]

Hi guys! I thought I should just share my whole mini little library of Project Hail Mary-related things so they're all in one place:

It includes:

My transcript of the movie (more on that here)

Audio recordings of the movie

A PDF of the book

The full audiobook

A copy of Andy Weir's doc on Eridians

The audiobook and audio recordings all have their properties programmed so they (should) work just like songs with a track number, album cover, artist, and so on if you download them.

There are two audios of the movie, one is the entire film untouched and one is that same audio cut up and broken down into separate scenes for convenience.

Additionally, there are two versions of the transcript, one with time stamps that match the audio and one without. The time stamps (+ their titles from the audio) are outlined in that version, so if you double-click on that tab or click "show outline," they'll all show up and you can pick a specific scene.

As always, if anything's not working right, you notice any mistakes in the transcript, or any of the audios are cut wrong, please let me know and I'll fix it as soon as I can!

[mysticblizzardkitty-phm]

Even more here!

[stormagedondarklordofall]

[treewizarded]

a BRILLIANT read, and even more incentive for me to make my own wizards trope-defying and excellent.

[roachpatrol]

God it’s fascinating to look at the timestamp on this one and then realize that Pratchett went on to write his Witches Series and Granny Weatherwax, who’s strong and fierce and brilliant and austere and so achingly, bitterly, intensely good. I think Granny Weatherwax would give Gandalf a hard look and Gandalf would remember he had a very urgent appointment three shires away and stroll off really fast. 

[ceruleancynic]

Holy fuck, everybody go read this right now. 

Pratchett is one of the people whose work is not only hilarious, but legitimately brilliant. I learned so much from reading his books. Even this talk is peppered with the kind of thing that makes you snort out loud and get stared at by coworkers: 

No wonder witches were always portrayed as toothless — it was living in a 90,000 calorie house that did it. You’d hear a noise in the night and it’d be the local kids, eating the doorknob.

And he fucking nails the witch/wizard dichotomy. Wizards = wise, powerful, organized, educated; witches = crones who give you warts. The Tiffany Aching series addresses this directly, as do the regular Discworld books focusing on the Lancre witches. Like Roach says, Granny Weatherwax is achingly, bitterly, intensely good, and that’s partly because she’s constantly aware of how easy it would be to be bad. How someone has to do the mucky jobs and help the obnoxious and stupid and never, ever take credit for anything you didn’t do; how the hardest thing is to stay balanced just on the edge between extremes, maintain that equilibrium, do what needs to be done no matter how awful or difficult it may be. Wizards never have to think about this. They just forge straight ahead, eating big dinners and squabbling amongst themselves and taking their power for granted.

[roachpatrol]

Come to think of it, that’s one of the most significant divisions of power in Discworld: the men all gang up into this big elitist mob and loll around indolently, specifically not doing magic. Their magic is so powerful and dangerous that it’s a better use of their time to all keep each other down, all the wizard books basically revolve around ‘Oh no, someone’s doing magic, we’d better stomp them flat and then go home for second breakfast’. They keep the world from turning inside out but not much more than that, and they’re kind of a bunch of assholes about it too. Meanwhile the witches are just grimly slogging along, delivering babies and rousting out vampires and changing compresses, like, they stake out territories and then take care of everyone in it… while everyone still thinks that wizards are respectable and witches are shady. 

[oldmanyellsatcloud]

The line about equal rites killed me, though. The insightful commentary (on the internet no less) here helped buffer that.

[discworld-heritage-posts]

Discworld Heritage Post

[kyraneko]

It’s the difference between status and value. Who does the necessary work, and who takes the credit. Who the world would actually fall apart without, and who reaps the rewards of being considered important.

There’s gender in it, but shades of poor-and-rich as well.

[singlecrow]

What’s marvellous I think here is that Pratchett’s criticism of Le Guin, on Earthsea, was made in 1985 - and in 1990, she wrote Tehanu, which is a fantastic indictment of the sexism and misogyny of the earlier Earthsea books. Doesn’t meant she saw this, she probably didn’t - her own unease with the earlier Earthsea books was evident in other places - but it’s what Pratchett himself is saying, reality creates fantasy creates reality.

[mific]

Terry being brilliant, and read the comments.

[the-rain-monster]

Cookbooks

A NYC grad student working on food stamps for her thesis has released a free cookbook for those living on $4/day.

[vastderp]

SIG NAL BOO OO OO OOOST

[roachpatrol]

hello

[isozyme]

oooooh this is so nice!

[ransomdracalis]

I believe it’s important to eat well, even when you’re strapped for cash. It’s good for your health and energy! This cookbook is full of delicious and healthy recipes, the ingredients of which are fairly inexpensive.

[fuckingrecipes]

I ACKNOWLEDGE THIS WOMAN AS A FELLOW WARRIOR AND A FANTASTIC HUMAN BEING. 

[fleetfootfox-deactivated2019011]

Boost so hard. Feeding yourself well is a challenge when you”ve got little income

[vrabia]

I HAVE BEEN USING THIS COOKBOOK FOR MONTHS AND IT’S AMAZING 100/10 RECOMMENDING EVERYWHERE

(just to give you an idea, my food budget is 30 euro/week at most [about $38] and I have to maintain a healthy diet due to weird medication side-effects and yeah, basically this book is a lifesaver if you’re broke but need to watch what you’re eating)

[adramofpoison]

Reblog to save a life. Because it’s easy to find food for $4/day, but most of it tends to be garden variety junkfood

[natashakhan]

(The pdf is free, I repeat, the pdf is free) 

[captainragtag]

Can we include darebee.com with ao3 and wikipedia on our list of really good nonprofits with excellent services that we stan?

It's a free, no sign-up, no ads fitness resource created by professionals who view this as activism (fitness should be accessible to everyone), and it's very thoughtful and thorough.

Features I really like:

- all instructions for workout routines are diagrammed on single pages with a clean, easy to read layout

- there's 30 or 60 day programs you can follow if you, like me, don't know what to do. they take you through a rotation of workouts so you're working different muscle groups on different day for a specific purpose

- there's so much variety and there's a filter so you can find the level and your goals and type of workout you wanna do

- you don't need any equipment

- some of the programs are RPGs or adventure stories! How's that for motivation. There's also badges and achievements or something but I haven't looked that closely at how that works yet

- they're nerds. they name workouts after D&D classes. There's a Lannistrr workout, a batcave workout, a witcher workout

- I've only scratched the surface

I'm doing this really easy one to start out

Darebee, darebee, fitness, visual workouts, workouts, fitness challenges, fitness motivation, training tips, recipes, nutrition

[bisexualshakespeare]

If you don't understand from the picture they have an Exercise Library playlist in YouTube so you can see what all the moves look like in motion!

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQSMS0J6JbrKdSOSbyJXaQ_zN_HSSp7zZ

Exercise Library - YouTube

[scretladyspider]

demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

[hummingirls]

one thing that people get thrown by is when i say that i, being demisexual, do not find any famous people sexually attractive. they can be beautiful, in the same way that art is beautiful but i don’t have any interest in fucking a good painting. and even when i have a crush on someone, i’m uncomfortable with the idea of being intimate with them, and i only start to feel interested in sex with that person if we actually get deep into a relationship. it’s really not just “trust”.

[ryan-sometimes]

When I was about to go to college my dad, who is a thoracic surgeon specialized in lung cancer, sat me down and told me I could be a stoner, but absolutely not a cigarette smoker

[ryan-sometimes]

His logic was:

He’s operated on hundreds of cig smokers but no stoners

The average stoner doesn’t smoke nearly as many joints as a cig smoker smokes cigarettes. Many cig smokers will smoke 10+ cigs a day but the average stoner doesn’t smoke that many joints

Joints don’t have as many carcinogens

It is generally harder to quit nicotine than weed

People can have medicinal cannabis but no one has medicinal cigarettes

He was a stoner in med school and turned out fine but some of his cig smoking classmates are already dead

[ryan-sometimes]

@buticaaba you are absolutely correct! My dad hates vapes. He says the lungs of cig smokers look black and kind of like asphalt, and that the lungs of vape smokers retain their pink color but are covered in burn like blisters. He participated in a double lung transplant on a 20 year old vape smoker and has done multiple drainings of vape smoker lungs that filled with fluids because they’re absolutely full of blisters.

When you smoke cigs you’re clogging your lungs with tar and other nasty stuff, but when you hit a vape you’re quite literally giving your lungs chemical burns.

[ellynneversweet]

Darcy’s introduction in Pride and Prejudice is really ‘what if you had just had the worst month of your life because your ex-bestie tried to lover boy scam your baby sister out of her share of your dad’s life insurance and your friend dragged you to a shitty party in a dive bar in the neighbourhood where he’d just signed a short term lease, and you decided to let your bad mood show because you were never going to see any of the assholes in this stupid shitty bar EVER again. And your friend ended up making out with a girl he’d just met there while you were stuck talking to her sister who was less cute and then her mother appeared and started trying to matchmake and started saying how if she was twenty years younger she’d clime you like a redwood and ooooh is that a black Amex, guess the next round is on you hahhahahahaha, while her other sister (how many fucking sisters does she have?!) flashed an obviously fake ID at the bar and ordered six vodka-diet red bulls and no one in her family except the less-cute sister even tried to stop her. And you went home and consoled yourself that you would never see any of these people again but then you met them over and over again because they live next door and your friend and the cute sister keep meeting up to make out but not actually date and then. You fall in love with the less-cute sister because it turns out she’s really witty and charismatic but she already knows and remembers and resents the fact that on a day when you were in a shitty mood you called her mid out loud in a dive bar.’

[penciltests]

“Lilo and Stitch” 2002

Deleted Scene

Lilo plays a trick on the tourists.

[leidis]

IF YOU LIVED HERE YOU’D UNDERSTAND

I desperately need to understand

WHY

WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY WHY

Was this scene cut from the movie??!!

Fucking christ, do you know what this would have done? What this would have meant to SO MANY people??  The truth of this is devastating. And to think it almost found it’s way into a DISNEY film??

The inclusion of this scene alone would have made it the greatest animated feature the company ever produced. Easily. And if you think that’s hyperbolic clearly you don’t understand.

No, really, if anyone knows why this was cut PLEASE let me know. 

[snoozlebee]

oh man WHY WOULD they cut this, this is so great, holy MOLY

[coelasquid]

It was clearly something the crew was very reluctant to get rid of if it made it all the way to rough-clean (and in a few scenes clean!), fully inbetweened animation. That is like, thousands and thousands of dollars and weeks (months?!) of labour. Maybe a reluctant producer decided they would alienate their white middle-class American audiences by making them feel “too guilty” and pressed them to drop it? It’s unfortunate, it’s one of the most honest accounts of racism in a Disney movie (which is why it’s believable that someone got uncomfortable and made a case to get it chopped)

Designing entertainment by committee for maximum marketability is probably the most heartbreaking process in Hollywood.

[racebentdisney]

I’ve been seeing this around my dash and think it deserves some more recognition!

[brawltogethernow]

“Does girl control ocean?!”

[catastrophic-writer-deactivated]

THIS IS INCREDIBLE WHAT

[tawked]

Superman desperately scanning the street during a fight to find the most morally acceptable car to throw at his opponent, knowing that not everybody has insurance, and loss of transportation can ruin a life -

A wave of incredible relief washes over him as he spots the hard geometric lines and silver paintless sheen of a Cybertruck.

[kerryweaverlesbian]

Inspired by this post by @psychogirlfiend

To humans the inside of a microwave when it’s on is nothing special, just a glimpse into the spinning plate inside. Castiel knows this, because he was briefly human himself. Repowered, however, able to watch the interplay of radiation on fixed surfaces with focused attention, Cas has found that observing the reheating of a deflated burrito is equivalently interesting to watching fish at the aquarium, or birds at a feeder. This is why he almost lets Dean dislocate his own wrist.

“Ow! Jesus Christ, Cas!” Dean cries out from behind him, attracting Cas’s attention enough to turn from the microwave, and Cas belatedly registers that there had been a pull on his shoulder. Dean is cradling and rubbing his hand protectively, but he stretches it forward immediately when Cas reaches for it and heals it. “You’re addicted to that microwave. Did you even hear a word I was saying to you?”

Cas thinks. “Something about…ghouls?” 

“Yeah, they’re taking over Tampa, we’re heading out in 20. Man, that hurt like a bitch.”

“My apologies. I was distracted. I suppose this burrito will need to be ‘to-go’.” Cas goes to turn back to the microwave, but Dean stills him with a touch. He’s got a calculating expression as he scans over Castiel, the same as he gets as when he’s processing clues on a case. “Dean?”

Dean doesn’t reply, but he pushes Cas’s hip, directing him to stand flat against the counter, and follows him, close. Castiel’s pulse starts thudding in his ears. Dean takes Cas’s shoulder in hand and shakes him, then lifts his whole slack arm to do the same with that. Before Cas can latch onto the crazy idea that Dean’s going to entwine their hands, Dean drops his arm and takes hold of Cas’s chin. The idea of whatever Dean is going to do with him are only getting crazier: he can’t stop his gaze from sticking to Dean’s pink, partially open mouth. 

“Dean?” Cas asks again, shocking himself with the slight quiver in his voice, but again he is ignored. Dean tugs down with his fingers then pushes up with his thumb, getting Cas to open and close his mouth like a puppet at his will. It takes a lot of effort not to whimper at the thought, Dean using his body like a toy. Dean’s grip changes, and his thumb brushes lightly over Cas’s bottom lip in a casual sweep. His other hand firmly grabs the knot of Cas’s tie, and he draws Cas forwards with both holds, stepping back as he does until Cas has to stumble to not fall over. Cas is on the verge of knocking Dean’s hands aside and diving in for the kiss himself when Dean suddenly smirks, pats his cheek and lets him go completely, leaving Cas to straighten himself up a beat later.

“Huh. Interesting,” is all Dean says, grin spreading big all over his face, then spins on his heel and walk out, calling back over his shoulder, “You coming, Cas?”

He’s out the door before Cas can respond with a “yes”, correctly assuming his obedience.  The microwave beeps loudly behind him, knocking him out of his confused, fuzzy stillness. He packs the burrito in a bag, and follows in Dean’s footsteps in the direction of the garage. Anywhere Dean wants him, that’s where he wants to be.

[kawareo]

Got reminded again of my old coworker who was a massive misogynist but also trans inclusive. Told me he believed trans women are indeed women because "only women would be stupid enough to want to be women"

I wonder what he's doing now

[kawareo]

He also aggressively corrected himself whenever he accidentally misgendered a trans guy we knew because "there's already more women than men in the world, the more numbers we steal from them, the better." Did that even when the trans guy wasn't around.

[kawareo]

I need to point out that he was completely serious btw. This man had no sense of humor on purpose.

He was a cook at the restaurant/bar I was a bartender at, and almost punched a costumer once because he overheard him talking about how women belong in the kitchen. Told me he thought women should stay out of kitchens, that cooking is a man's job and when I asked him what he thinks women should be doing, he went quiet for a moment, then proceeded to explain to me the following

"I trust a bitch to run a kitchen as much as she can run a country, they should do shit like plumbing. Or electricity. Something you can just learn to do and don't need to lead, you know?"

Apparently women are good at "fixing shit". He claimed that he doesn't trust male plumbers or electricians except if they're gay because "something most be wrong with you if you want to go fix other people's houses, that's that maternal instinct"

[firbolgonmain]

[onlytiktoks]

[dw]

iive been so obsessed with this video for days

[stegal]

Ha a lélek vándorlásában hiszünk, el kell fogadnunk hogy ha zenészek voltunk, zenészek maradunk akkor is, ha négy lábbal újraszületünk..

[silvormoon]

Translation, via Google Translate:

If we believe in the migration of the soul, we have to accept that if we were musicians, we will remain musicians even if we are reborn with four legs.

[thepioden]

Wolfgang Malamozart over here like damn

[catchymemes]

[prof-grace-aspen]

This is the best description I’ve heard for this method, I always thought it was bullshit because I never heard a description that actually explained how to do this other than “tap your head 20 times”.

I have anxiety-induced hissing, which sounds/feels different from sound-induced tinnitus (which I have also experience). Sound-based tinnitus actually sounds like you’re “hearing” something in your ears, whilst the hissing I have feels like it’s “inside my head”, if that makes sense. But this technique still helps!!

[mieaouy]

Here’s a visual I found because I couldn’t understand the instructions well

[sushinfood]

My ringing just went away for the first time in years. What is this blissful quiet.

[roseverdict]

wait wait i gotta try this, i don’t think i’ve had Actual Silence since i was like 5

[roseverdict]

HOW THE FUCK

[alex51324]

Reblogging to save a life, and also because, even if you don’t have tinnitus, this is totally worth trying if you like new sensory experiences.  

[jordisstigander]

Just showed this to my dad, and in his words, “The cicadas are still there, but the train is gone.”

[quicksilvermad]

I can’t believe it. It turned the volume down on my cicadas (what a perfect way to describe it—cicada season is when everyone gets a taste of tinnitus) for about two minutes.

[earhartsease]

yes! temporary relief from the eternal fax machine in our skull

[maaradag]

Would I Lie to You at Christmas (2023)

Victoria: For our first Christmas together as husband and wife, David was startled by one of the gifts I got him.