Dragons of Heart

Dragons with hearts (She/Her)

[dragonsofheart]

Hello there, the dragons are here to explain themselves!

We are the dragons of heart, a blog about dragons, fantasy, and being aroace. (Despite our name being plural, and using "we/our" pronouns here, it's just one person.) We mainly talk about whatever we wanna talk about here, as long as its fantasy or (more often) aroace themed! Please take note that we dragons are not trying to say anything completely factual, we're just trying to be goofy on the internet and speak our minds sometimes.

Microlabels, if you're curious!

Aegofictosexual Bellusromantic Demialterous Rat Ace Aroflirt Vocaromantic Aegoromantic Anovelaen (obviously) Nebularomantic Arolovic

Please have a good day, the dragons all wish you well!

[tangymogais]

Arolovic/loving aro

♡ An identity for aros who still feel that love is an important part of their identity! This may be platonic love, love for objects and concepts, or any type of love you associate with. The opposite of a loveless aro

Disclaimer: I fully support loveless aros! But I feel like my experiences with love and being aromantic are the exact opposite, and I wanted to coin something for it :)

💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖

[ID: a rectangular flag with 9 equally-sized horizontal stripes and colors in this order, top to bottom: dark pink, pink, light pink, green, light green, green, light pink, pink, dark pink. On the second flag there’s white text saying the meanings of the colors, the pink says “love in all its forms” and the green says “aromanticism”]

[aro-pride-stuff]

hopeless aromantic sticker by notkarlaDesingCo

[bloggingboutburgers]

genuinely curious about this hut like, do aroace people get horny? i need an answer the curiosity is killing me

Depends on the aroace people I think? From what I understand.

[desic65]

"And what was your thought when you realized You'll never feel naïve love again? Was it pain or was it sickness? Were you proud of who you'd been?" -wilbur, lovejoy its all futile its all pointless

[deadbeatdadjokes]

Ace ppl who are you killing first

“You just haven’t met the right person yet 😩🫣🤣”

“That just sounds like straight w extra steps 🤔🤨🤨🤔”

“Don’t worry! 99.9% of people change their mind when they get older 🥰✨💕🌈”

“*vague suggestion that the only reason society exists is bc people fuck* 😎”

“You don’t feel attraction??? Am I like 🥺🥺 that ugly to you?? 😭😭😭😭”

“Why? Did something like…happen to you…? 😬😬😬”

Other (do tell so we can throw tomatoes at them too)

Voting ended onSep 3, 2023

brought to you by all the things people have literally said to me in 100% earnest

[queenjulia24]

HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS

[lichpire]

was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.

seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.

i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.

they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.

[atasteforsuicidal]

sometimes i notice i haven’t seen “grace” (grey-ace) in a while and consequently wonder if i made it up.

[slenders1ckn3ss]

I remember ppl - even other ace ppl - saying the card suit thing was “cringey” and “straight ppl aren’t gonna take us seriously” (sounds familiar?) So i guess the community wound up abandoning it. We were also having severe issues at the time with aces being stereotyped as “childish/immature” for associating things like cake, dragons, and space with asexuality, plus in general as most aces just don’t “get” allosexual things in media and irl. We were starting to be viewed as ignorant, virginal, childish, losers, etc. I haven’t seen an ace-cake thing in a good while now.

This was the infancy of exclusionary influence on us. I didn’t realize it did more damage than just closeting us. Whole symbols and terms have been lost. Community has been lost.

[cobraonthecob]

I remember three-four years ago I got myself into the ace community on Insta, and I came across these terms. People in these circles would talk about cake, space, dragons, and the black ring on the middle finger. Then, a year or two later, ace content fizzled out (I thought it was Insta’s algorithm figuring out that I knew all this and didn’t bring me the old stuff) and young aces had no idea what any of these were - including the black ring. Finding out young aces had no idea what the black ring meant nearly snapped my heart in two - I proudly wore the black ring, I drew characters with it, and it was my quiet way of communicating to others what my sexuality was. I was baffled at the lack of knowledge - and it turns out that exclusionists got their hands into our community and snuffed us out. 

Anyways, we need to bring this back. I thought the card suite thing was cool, it taught people the different ways people can experience attraction, I loved making jokes about preferring cake, I loved wearing the black ring and talking about it with my fellow queer people at my highschool QSA club. 

[kriss-watches-stuff]

I’m sorry, people don’t know about the cake or ring anymore? I remember being welcomed with spams of cake gifs, photos, and MS Paint drawings. I also distinctly remember that the block solo ring in the midle was meant as reference to the Ace of Spades (black, solo, middle of card). Only thing I didn’t know was that other aces could represent a more refined nuance. Let’s see if we can get this all rolling again.

Welcome to anyone who is interested in helping with the culture revival.

[haunting-kind-of-high]

This is the exact reason I started my #ace positive and #aro positive tags. I remember learning about asexuality and thinking it was cool, but not for me (yet). I remember ace visibility day where people would post selfies with an ace card to signify their orientation like in the original post. I remember going through the tag and following every ace blog I could find, turning notifications on and scrolling through their blogs endlessly to learn more about it. I haven’t gotten a notification for any of those blogs in ages.

Going through all those blogs and seeing validation, learning more things about my newfound orientation was so incredibly as a questioning and unsure 15 year old. It’s devastating to me that this community has fallen quiet so much. So I started my tags, hoping to spread some more positivity and maybe inform people. This community is full of incredible people and the fact that so little of them remain, it heartbreaking.

Check out my tags if you ever need to. Maybe I’ll add more tags to my list to do whatever I can in support

[friendly-neighborhood-reblogs]

I remember seeing the start of ace exclusionary rhetoric only a few years ago… I can’t believe so much of the ace culture got lost to it so quickly.

Please, if you want to start exploring an identity for yourself (especially one exclusionists will try to tell you doesn’t “belong”), consider finding and talking to older people who’ve been in the community for a while - preferably IRL if that’s safe, or on dedicated community forums. 

Diversify your research and look outside of socmed, which can be a hive of exclusionist rhetoric and flat out misinformation.  Ask around about old publications or websites (the ace community has been developed and discussed in queer spaces for pretty much as long as those spaces have existed)!  Check out the sources in wikis!  Do your best to learn the history - because there is history.  Share what you learn with your peers!  Every queer identity has an older and richer culture than the exclus want you to think, and you all deserve to be a part of it.

[icannotgetoverbirds]

friendly reminder that this blog is a safe space for aspec people! unfriendly reminder that if you’re an exclusionist, Fuck You!

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

I should start using the ace of diamonds symbol.

[livingmeatloaf]

[image transcript: Ace is a popular nickname for a person who is asexual. It is a phonetic shortening of “asexual”, and has lead to some symbolism regarding the playing card “ace”. Some asexuals use the ace of spades or ace of hearts to represent their orientation. The ace of hearts is more commonly used for romantic asexuals, whereas an aromantic asexual would generally use the spade.

{red heart emoji} Ace of hearts - romantic asexuals

{black spade emoji} Ace of spades - aromantic asexuals

{red diamond emoji} Ace of diamonds - demisexuals and demiromantic aseuxals

{black club emoji} Ace of clubs grayasexual and grayromantic asexuals

/End transcription.]

I started wearing a white ring recently! It feels nice to partake in aro culture, as obscure as it is.

[generic-enthusiast]

So I thought of a way to explain most sexualities I think. Let's say that each type of bread (bagels, challah, baguette, etc) is a gender, butter is sexual attraction, and jam is romantic attraction.

Each person eats some types of bread and doesn't like other types of bread. Some people like all types of bread but prefer some types (omni). Some people like all types of bread equally and don't care which one you give them, judging each slice individually (pan). Some people like a couple types of bread. Some people only like one type of bread. Some people are allergic to gluten.

Even though most people put jam and butter on all types of bread they eat, sometimes there's a type of bread you only want to eat with butter because it just tastes better with only butter, and sometimes you want to eat a type of bread with only jam. And there's people who only like jam and there's people who only like butter, and there's people that don't like either.

Sometimes someone will like butter or jam, but prefer to get used to the taste of the bread alone before putting anything on it (demi). Some people are only sometimes in the mood for jam or butter, or have no particularly strong craving for it (grey). Some people almost never like jam or butter but will suddenly get a craving for it (aro/ace spike).

There are people who don't like butter or jam, but if you give them some bread with it, they won't complain. Maybe out of politeness, maybe they don't care that much because it just doesn't have any flavor to them. There's people who, if they eat something with butter or jam, they will throw up because they're allergic to it.

And then there's people who eat bread with Nutella (qprs).

[hello-im-queer]

I was today's years old when I realized that people actually think that other people are attractive.

Like

PEOPLE JUST LOOK AT A BODY AND BE LIKE : 'whoa I wanna date, hot, sexy, kiss kiss' ?!?!?

[romance-evil-aro]

IT IS OKAY TO HAVE COMPLICATED FEELINGS ABOUT ROMANCE!!!!!! IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE ROMANCE REPULSED OR ROMANCE FAVOURABLE!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE DEPEND ON CONTEXT!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE ARE!!!!

[loulooser-deactivated20231120]

IS THIS TRUE???

[romance-evil-aro]

YES

[untitled52969]

wait so you’re telling me pick-up lines are actually used and not just a joke people make up for laughs??????

[untitled52969]

aromantics are all valid

aphobes can shut up forever

[thediamondarcher]

we're literally brainwashed to believe teenagers can't label themselves as aro/ace because "you're maybe too young to have crushes" when it's literally the age when hormones are like yk, if you don't get it as a teenager you probably just won't get it, or "you're too young to decide that, you'll probably change your mind anyways" you don't have to have your whole life complete to be able to label yourself as aro/ace, also, sexuality is fluid ! you can label yourself as aroace now and maybe later you don't feel as comfortable with the label as you did before and it's alright!!!

[cowboylikeghost]

i physically cannot go to pride, because if i ever see a "love is human" sign i think i might go insane

[cosmicredcadet]

*bites off the head of everyone who calls aroand ace rep homophobic*

[maroisedot]

Have some aro positivity everyone!! I made this when I was going thru it and Bluey is such a source of comfort, making this little title card actually helped a ton

[urpurplehairedsage-deactivated2]

arospecs (demi- & grayromantics), but especially arospec allosexuals talk to me for a sec about being across the aro spectrum, your attitude toward romantic attraction and romance relationships, I'm tryna see something

-Y.