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These are some thoughts on what goals I would have for an ideal society. It's by no means a comprehensive list, but more to get some initial thoughts down.

An end to patriarchial religion

Freely avaliable abortions, birth control and sex education

An end to porn, prostitution, and assistance for the women

For quality medical reserach into women's health and mental health, towards better diagnosis and treatment

An end to 'modesty culture' and other policing of women's bodies

For sports to celebrate women's achievements and abilities

An end to forced marriage, female genital mutilation and other practices that seek to limit and control women

For women to not become trapped in toxic, abusive relationships

An end to sex roles and socialisation

An equity in domestic work

An end to war and war crimes

An equal voice and consideration given to all minority/oppressed groups

For billionaires not to exist

An end to violence against refugees, and more broadly an end to racism

For complex debates to not be simplified

An end to the nuclear family model

An end to capitalism.

#radfem

mini-wrants

Every time I see a new story about the Polymarket/Kalshi shit I’m reminded of “you just bet against the American economy, every time the unemployment rate goes up 1%, 40,000 people die.”

A soldier is being investigated because he bet Maduro would be ousted and he was on the mission to oust Maduro. He made $400,000. Dozens were killed on that mission.

Multiple someones in the Trump administration are placing bets on oil prices and is making a lot of money off of bombs and economic pain.

Does polymarket take bets on school shootings? If so, how long will it be before some kid bets their will be a shooting at their school and then commits it to win the bet.

When you can legally place a bet on real events, you are creating a financial incentive for someone to carry out that real incentive, and people are placing bets on bombings and economic collapse. Who’s making it happen.

mini-wrants

You’ve incentivized nationwide voter fraud.

bushpropaganda

found this revolutionary paper that analyzes every single case of transgender violence across 25 years in Britain, using data from Trans Day of Remembrance. it is the first study that has ever counted trans perpetrators, and the researchers found that trans people were more often perpetrators of violence than victims of it in Britain.

this paper is very comprehensive and has a ton of sources if you wanna do further research on this topic. i recommend reading it and forming your own conclusion.

gendercriticalbutch

very very interesting, strongly recommend reading

pwlanier

Hedgehog-shaped jar, Neolithic period (3500-3000 BCE)

Courtesy Alain Truong

redscharlach

I feel you, Neolithic hedgehog. I feel you.

walerihq

analytically

Astrology is very popular — both Gallup and YouGov report that about 25% of Americans believe that the position of the stars and planets can

Astrology doesn't seem to work.

intimate-mirror

performativezippers

Some highlights:

Astrologers helped design the study

No one did better than random chance, even though they only included people in the study who are experienced with astrology and stated that they expect themselves to do better than random chance

They gave every astrologer a set of 50 things about a person and 5 birth charts to choose from. They weren’t even coming up with the chart themselves!

After taking the test, most thought they nailed it. Zero out of 152 did better than 5 out of 12. None nailed it

Astrologers who rated themselves highly experienced (“world class experts”) did the same or worse as those who said they have limited experience. Both performed the same as random chance

This is hilarious

o-craven-canto

That's got to be the funniest graph ever published in a paper

furiousfinnstan

THEY MIGHT HAVE FIGURED OUT WHATS CAUSING LONG COVID?!?!???

furiousfinnstan

In this study, the critical role of the epipharynx in managing long-term coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19), and in particular, how residua

SUICIDE POSTPONED INDEFINITELY !!!!!

furiousfinnstan

Genuinely the only good news I got in WEEKS

yournewfriendshouse

maaarine

Why aren't we talking about the real reason male college enrollment is dropping? (Celeste Davis, Oct 6 2024)

"White flight is a term that describes how white people move out of neighborhoods when more people of color move in.

White flight is especially common when minority populations become the majority. That neighborhood then declines in value.

Male flight describes a similar phenomenon when large numbers of females enter a profession, group, hobby or industry—the men leave. That industry is then devalued.

Take veterinary school for example:

In 1969 almost all veterinary students were male at 89%.

By 1987, male enrollment was equal to female at 50%.

By 2009, male enrollment in veterinary schools had plummeted to 22.4%

A sociologist studying gender in veterinary schools, Dr. Anne Lincoln says that in an attempt to describe this drastic drop in male enrollment, many keep pointing to financial reasons like the debt-to-income ratio or the high cost of schooling.

But Lincoln’s research found that “men and women are equally affected by tuition and salaries.”

Her research shows that the reason fewer men are enrolling in veterinary school boils down to one factor: the number of women in the classroom.

For every 1% increase in the proportion of women in the student body, 1.7 fewer men applied.

One more woman applying was a greater deterrent than $1000 in extra tuition! (…)

Since males had dominated these professions for centuries, you would think they would leave slowly, hesitantly or maybe linger at 40%, 35%, 30%, but that’s not what happens.

Once the tipping point reaches majority female- the men flee. And boy do they flee!

It’s a slippery slope. When the number of women hits 60% the men who are there make a swift exit and other men stop joining.

Morty Schapiro, economist and former president of Northwestern University has noticed this trend when studying college enrollment numbers across universities:

“There’s a cliff you fall off once you become 60/40 female/male. It then becomes exponentially more difficult to recruit men.”

Now we’ve reached that 60% point of no return for colleges.

As we’ve seen with teachers, nurses and interior design, once an institution is majority female, the public perception of its value plummets.

Scanning through Reddit and Quora threads, many men seem to be in agreement - college is stupid and unnecessary.

A waste of time and money. You’re much better off going into the trades, a tech boot camp or becoming an entrepreneur. No need for college. (…)

When mostly men went to college? Prestigious. Aspirational. Important.

Now that mostly women go to college? Unnecessary. De-valued. A bad choice. (…)

School is now feminine. College is feminine. And rule #1 if you want to safely navigate this world as a man? Avoid the feminine.

But we don’t seem to want to talk about that."

xcziel

very good tags from @downwarddnaspiral

van-del

literally saw this tweet this morning

paleo-violet

I saw a dude say with his whole chest that biology isn't really STEM

Take a wild fucking guess as to which major has the most female students

thecoloredcanvas

Good.

Let's do everything we can to push men and boys out of academia, out of the workforce, and out of our homes.

They deserve no place in the decent, kind, democratic society women and girls are building.

hugewoman

fuckyeahchinesefashion

A PE teacher from a small county town posted about the basketball prodigy girl at their school.

inkskinned

gaslighting isn't just lying. and it is one of those words that needs a gentler hand than most people are giving it.

i kept journals during the relationship; and i feel pained about them. in the beginning i was bright and fast and self-aware. i wanted out much earlier than i remember. i felt things were toxic by the fourth month; i was beginning to wonder if it was abuse by the sixth. she got physical by the ninth.

and it's shocking to see my own spiral away from sanity. in the beginning i was horrified by each breach of my trust, every boundary that was crossed.

towards the end; i am unrecognizable in my affect. my writing is barely decipherable. i allow her to say horrific things without even remarking on them, because i had become so used to mistreatment. asking for an apology would have been asking for the argument to escalate.

it was genuinely easier to just let it go; to let her say whatever she wanted, directly to my face.

i tried everything. i tried reading self-help books and walking her through what i needed in a conversation. i tried explaining that we don't use accusatory words like you never or you always. i tried explaining how traumatizing it is when she gets angry like that; i tried talking about my past; i tried therapy-speak. i regulated myself, i apologized first, i tried to lead by example. i tried explaining and then over-explaining. i just wanted peace. i wanted any one situation to actually feel safe for me.

i thought i was being a good communicator; i was begging.

it isn't that i was ever convinced of something so obvious as my skin turning a full and solid green: but she could have said that to me. she could have said you have green skin, i know it, just admit it; and i would have (most likely) agreed. i was able to read her moods in the air like smelling rot at a bakery. if accepting that i had green skin meant i could momentarily avoid an argument, i was going to do it. i would have held out my arm and looked at it and then lied to myself about it. i would have said she just meant that i do have a yellow undertone, don't i? what she probably meant is that my skin is like green-ish, that i have a yellow-blue tint in certain circumstances.

and alongside this is a factor of gaslighting that most people don't see: part of it is that these are people incapable of listening. it isn't just that they manipulate and lie to you: it's that your truth is completely eviscerated. it begins with small things (asking if you're sure about a recipe you know by heart, asking if that artist really sang in that song) - and by the end they are saying that didn't happen like that, you're misremembering.

you cannot ascertain what "true" is because they constantly deny it to you. outside of arguments i would find myself pointlessly defending facts i knew to be true. in arguments - well, who is going to argue about semantics when facing down a rabid bear?

and of course, the final power over you: always, the fear. like an animal in a trap; i had no imagination or space to consider self-actualization. instead all the room in my brain was focused on staying safe, not staying sane. and one must be a little insane to survive a situation that defies sanity. all of my processing power was put into keeping her happy - what room is there for truth in that scene? am i really going to say no, i remember that clearly - when i know it could result in direct harm done to me?

and the thing is: once the experiment is complete, once you're confused and anxious and trying anything: they get away with everything. are you sure you saw the text? are you sure they said that? are you sure? because if you are, and this thing becomes real to you: what will you have to process? are you sure you're ready for the fallout?

we all think we'd be the exception; that we'd know it somehow, get out early. i was in therapy for years, and i still fell for it. i no longer recognized myself. i would find myself making excuses for her even when the abuse was obvious. and did i really want an argument? was i just misremembering it? i am oversensitive. maybe i just need to calm down and take a deep breath. maybe she doesn't even recognize what she did. maybe -

at one point, i was telling her a story about my past, one that was unrelated to her. i said the exact date it happened on, because i'd written it down. february 12. she said that's not when it happened. she said it was in november. i remember saying i am pretty sure it is, i can get confirmation from my brother that's when it happened. she got visibly upset, doubled down and said she knew it was in november instead.

i ran the equation in my head, then. if i told her she was misremembering, she would explode at me. she would sob and possibly self-harm. she would have definitely been angry at me for correcting her. said some wild accusation like this is why i tell people that you always like to humiliate me.

instead of standing my ground, i backed down. even knowing i was right, knowing she was wrong. even knowing, with evidence, the truth. i said: "you know what? it might have been november, time is so wonky."

my brother confirmed it privately: february 12. i remember staring at the phone and thinking: holy shit. this is gaslighting.

femalegothic

one of the most important tweets ever twote

theprofessional-amateur

Oh hey, do you know what time it is? It is highly specific resource time!

Today we have the Royal School of Needlework Stitch Bank! There are HUNDREDS of stitch types in the RSN Stitch Bank.

And more added regularly, let’s look at a recent addition

I picked the first one in the 25 recently added Elizabethan stitches, the Elizabethan French Stitch

The stitch bank provides written and photo tutorials as well as a video option to learn to do it yourself. There are examples of the stitch in use, resources, references, everything but a needle and thread!

RSN Stitchbank

rsnstitchbank.org

vincentbriggs

I looked at some of the tutorials last night and holy shit I'm so impressed! They're SO thorough! Not only do they have written and video instructions, but there are photo and illustration options for each image AND a "flip view" button so that left handed people can see all the images in reverse!

theprofessional-amateur

I am going to jump in and add, as you said they are very detailed in their directions, something that takes a lot of time and money.

If anyone who has enjoyed this resource has the means, I encourage you to adopt or sponsor a stitch to help keep this free to access. I know not everyone has the means to (fair, been there) but if you can, check out their sponsor options

RSN Stitch Bank Progress

And one other resource I have shared before, The Lady's Magazine. Embroidery patterns from 1770-1819. In case anyone wants some historic ideas for using all these new embroidery stitches

The Lady's Magazine: Patterns of Perfection

balkanradfem

common oppression of women from all patriarchal religions:

male deity instead of female

origin story demonizes a female sin for which all women now have to be punished

achivements, creation and labour done by women discredited from them instead credited to a male deity

women regarded as second class citizens, incapable of religious leadership, decision making or being independent from a male

women put into the role of servitude/follower/helper/owned by husband

women instructed to act submissive to m*n

women instructed to center m*n in their life instead of their personal happiness/career/independence/safety

inexperience in sex depicted as desirable or even necessary trait in women while disregarded for males

women heavily encouraged to marry despite the rates of domestic violence and abuse

women instructed their place is at home to be mothers, caretakers, servants, cooks, cleaners, all in one workers, while never expecting payment, putting them at double risk of isolation and financial abuse

women being told to follow their husband's 'leadership' but still blamed for his every action of harm, infidelity, assault, violence, abuse etc

women encouraged to have as many children as possible despite their own well being put at risk

women encouraged to accept marital rape as normal

women and female children scrutinized for their appearance, with assumption of sexual provocation

women shamed, held responsible and punished for m*n looking at them sexually

women pushed into life-changing measures to evade sexualization and assault (covering up, dressing modestly, undergarments) but still blamed if m*n do it anyway

women told they 'control' m*n with their appearance/body even when those m*n are attacking and harming them

women heavily scrutinized for any sexual desire or behaviour while m*n are told it's natural and women's fault anyway

women responsible for any kind of sexual harassment, objectification or assault done by m*n

protection and enabling of male sexual predators to the point of it being commonly known most pedophiles are high up in the church, some religions forcing victims to marry their rapists

heavily religious comnunities having the highest rate of childhood sexual abuse and refusing to stop or report it

gay, lesbian and bisexual people deemed 'unnatural', 'sick', 'wrong' and subjected to abuse that leads them into hiding or suicide

pressing gay/lesbian people to try to be attracted to the opposite sex and even marry into it, ensuring suffering to both spouses

the movement of feminism villinized and blamed for everything percieved to be wrong (women wanting agency, human rights and protection from abuse)

sacrifice and obedience promoted as the ideal female act of dedication while m*n are encouraged to get what they want from women

deep seated victim blaming when the religion doesn't seem to work out (you didn't believe enough, didn't pray enough, weren't righteous enough, weren't patient enough, don't understand that god works in mysterious ways)(all the ways end up oppressing women, mysteriously)

heatherwitch

My resolution last year was to do one thing before bed that would make my morning feel easier, and that’s become a daily habit that I’m carrying into this new year.

Some nights even filling up the kettle and setting an empty mug out for my morning tea felt hard. But I was always thankful for it in the morning.

Other nights, one thing would lead to another, and I’d wake up in a clean house with everything ready to go.

And, on a rare few nights, the one thing that I could do to make my morning easier was going straight to bed and allowing myself to rest.

What stayed the same each day is that I would take a moment to think of what I could do for my future self and do it, even after a hard day. And I would wake up knowing that I had done my best and any effort—no matter how small—was a kindness to myself.