Sometimes people genuinely lack the terms to even explain what they mean. Sometimes the culture and community a person lives in uses very different terms to refer to others and themselves. Alot of much older queer folks literally do not give a shit, and many from the south have already talked about how this literally how the most supportive people they've met talk.
"Code swtiching" is important, not only for people to understand and give a single shit about what your saying, but also for you to actually understand what's being said.
The first post: Believes trans people should have equal acess to bathrooms, has no interest "figuring out the sex" of a trans person beyond what they are told up front, believes in acess to HRT and the ability to transition, and would 100% deck someone for being an asshole to a queer person they knew. Doesn't beat around the bush or know the "correct terms" (or care to), but very obviously does care about the fact trans people are people, regardless to if they are trans.
The second: feels the need to overstate how inclusive they are (virtue signaling), uses medical terms and terminology to prove they "are allies", believes is heavy regulation/cutting acess to HRT, that children should not learn about trans people, that being trans is inherently a "weird" thing to show around children (normally rooted in sexualizing trans people or believing them to be "mentally unwell"), doesn't actually believe in representation for trans people, will constantly ignore trans issues in favor of "more important" ones.
One sounds like father of a trans kid from Texas who cares massively about their kid and would throw hands if someone trued to lay a finger on them
the other one sounds like the type of person to parade being an ally while using the 1 person they've who was trans as a trophy to show their greatness/how much of an ally they are, while also excusing anything cruel done to said trans person. Who, if their kids came out as trans to, would never be convinced because "I know you better" and "I know trans people and I know you so well, you can't be trans." Who comes up with excuses to their discomfort around trans people, not because they actually care about the community, but because they've surrounded themselves with liberals who use dumbed down language and medical talk to fly under the radar of being TERFs.
Actions and actual beliefs have ALWAYS mattered more then the words used to express them. I would rather get called a fag got and tranny by someone willing to throw hands for my rights, then not be just for the comfort of my own emotions while being used as a way for virtue signalers to parade arpund how great and woke they are.
I've run into this in real life so much for literally every issue, and genuinely I would rather, any day of the week, have an ally who doesn't know or care to learn terms and uses what they know then the other option. Because will throw hands if someone tries to kill for being trans, the other will find excuses for why they couldn't have helped
We need allies willing to actually give a fuck and bleed for our community. I genuinely could give less of a shit if they call me a faggot.
