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[dumbwhore420]

Lonely and deunk

[houndmother]

Consider: it is the healthiest and most normal thing in the world to go to your close friends and loved ones with problems in your friendships and relationships. Not to gossip, not to talk shit, but I go "Hey, me and (x, not related to my current partners) are on the rocks right now, can I talk it out with you?" and then you get input, advice, you get to process your feelings through conversation, then you're probably more equipped to go back to the person and go "hey I've been thinking and processing, I feel xyz."

Two major thoughts here:

Don't let anyone convince you that this type of conversation should only exist in therapy. Your friends and loved ones are there for you. Its called a support system for a reason. Getting advice and comfort is entirely different from talking shit.

If someone gets upset with you for talking about your interpersonal problems with your friends, its worth examining that dynamic. Why are they so worried other people will find out how they're treating you? This isn't like 100% always a bad thing, but like. Consider if there's other parts of the relationship that feel controlled. Consider how listened to and respected you feel, how safe you feel, how independent and free to act you feel.

[the-real-seebs]

my ex was very firm on how i must never talk about our relationship problems with anyone without her permission, and at the time i didn't think anything of it, but then, at the time i was just completely shattered and broken for unrelated reasons so i wasn't thinking of a lot of things.

[rottingtrouble-child]

I saw this video about a doctor who performed an MRI on a 5 year old and discovered she essentially had “brain damage” from excessive iPad use, as the white matter in her brain couldn’t form properly due to an understimulated environment.

Hmm it’s almost like there’s supposed to be adult figures responsible for monitoring her screen time and making sure she develops properly… certainly this isn’t the result of neglect at the hands of her parents…

[rottingtrouble-child]

“This 5 year old is brain damaged by excessive iPad use”

Translation: This 5 year old is developmentally impaired by neglectful parents who used an iPad as a stand-in for social and environmental stimulation / interaction for hours at a time during critical early stages of child development. The iPad is the cop-out.

[rottingtrouble-child]

“Children don’t have the strength to hold pencils anymore because they only use screens.”

Translation: Parents aren’t making the conscious effort to help their children develop necessary skills and letting iPads raise them.

When are people going to realize the iPads and whatnot are the instruments through which the neglect is happening through and not the cause? How the fuck do you let your child have such a severe lack of physical strength in their hands that they can’t hold a pencil properly?

[rottingtrouble-child]

People will see a study suggesting children with higher screen times have poorer or negative developmental outcomes and immediately say it’s the screens causing this, and not the more likely fact that higher screen time = less engagement time with their environment, physical exercise, parents, family, and their peers, all of which are NECESSARY for a healthy upbringing as a social species.

It’s like saying a dog who was kept in a cage all its life and left with atrophied muscles was damaged by the cage, and not by the fact its owners were too lazy to play or walk their dog in order for its muscles to build properly. The cage is the instrument of neglect and the owners are the perpetrators, in the same way parents are the perpetrators and weaponizing screen time as an excuse and painting themselves as helpless bystanders.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

my notifications are once again devolving into a spirited debate about the ethics of actions that could potentially make someone uncomfortable, and at risk of sounding like someone about to get a lot of irate anons I think we're frankly giving way too to much moral weight to hypothetical discomfort

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

the thing about discomfort is that it's an extremely nebulous category that can be triggered by virtually anything and that's far too broad a category to have any inherent moral quality to it. like. my mom was mad uncomfortable when I stopped shaving. that didn't mean I was doing violence against my mom it just meant she needed to get over herself. many such cases it must be said.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

there's not a single example I could give that's better than this

[cloverchameleon]

[whereserpentswalk]

A cannon event for me is hearing a rich Upper East Side lady talk about how she had "a right to feel safe" when she was arguing for the removal of homeless people from her neighborhood.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

the number of people who think that they have some kind of right to not have to see unhoused people while doing absolutely nothing to help get those people housed (and frequently voting against any kind of measure to do exactly that) is astonishing, yeah.

[a-better-mind-deactivated202604]

lets get a little representation for kids who have no money and nothing to do in town and dont live in walkiny distance of their friends and arent brave or outgoing and arent really allowed to go out unsupervised in our high achool aus okay

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[l3ominor]

[corpus--incorporated]

if i hear anyone starting a sentence with “as a” my eyes are glazing over instantly. this motherfucker’s about to list twelve different identity terms, their dog’s name and their home address and none of it’s gonna be fucking necessary

[corpus--incorporated]

you know as a white canadian young adult with adhd bipolar disorder and ocd who works in the medical industry while trans and gay i find it pretty annoying

[godvictim]

honestly, as a black american later 20s employed car owning apartment renting prescription glasses wearing cat owning adult who works in the food service architecture industry with a bachelors degree from a real new york state university and is also a music movie and game enjoyer I think its also at the very least incredibly super duper exceedingly extremely egregiously unnecessarily verbose

[corpus--incorporated]

uh yeah whatever he said

[flawlest]

[the-real-seebs]

The scariest shit I see always comes from people who are quite confident that, being very loving, they could not be doing anything abusive.

[loisfreakinglane]

HEATED RIVALRY // 1.02 "Olympians"

[jame7t]

gun to your head, you HAVE to make an R-rated scooby doo movie. What do you do

[thyrell]

completely normal silly movie but shaggy hits a bong in every scene

[thyrell]

its a different bong each time BTW

[dumbwhore420]

i feel. like dan is almost constantly negging phil

:(

[thelawfulchaotic]

Listen, friends, you have to understand that I defend people you hate.

It’s all well and good to hear that I defend children by speaking to them like humans. It may be less easy to hear that my child clients aren’t just accused of shoplifting or shoving their parents, but of sexual abuse of siblings, breaking into stores to rob them, crashing cars with their friends inside, threatening school shootings.

I represent sex offenders. I’ll defend a sex offender’s rights in the same breath as the rights of their victim.

I can talk about abuse with authority not just because I’ve read books but because I’ve represented abusers for years upon years, and watched them come back to court for crimes against the same victims.

I believe in the inherent value of human life no matter what horrible things that human life has done. I’m a pacifist and I disavow violence in all forms but I’ll make excuses for it all day in a courtroom.

I’ve put my money where my mouth is; I defend the “worst” of humanity because I can see with my two human eyes that it’s the only way to preserve the freedom of the “best” of humanity.

My job isn’t just being kind to the innocent. It’s being kind to them AND the worst people you’ve ever met, over and over and over, every day. Most people go their lives not really gazing regularly into the abyss. Public defenders be like, “hey, abyssal horrors beyond imagination, how’s Tuesday going.”

[cipheramnesia]

I know everything is shit fucked sixteen ways before lunch time, but it remains a fact that you should not trust anyone who wants you to feel like the whole world hates you all the time. That's a person trying to sell you something, swallow you whole, or bleed you dry. Especially those times when it feels like they're right.

No one wants anything good from you who wants you always feeling scared and hated. They will wear you out and leave you in the bin the second fashions change. Things are extremely high levels of fucked, but you are not hated like that. It's scary and isolating but you are not alone like that. Worst case, come and shiver like a wet dog with me, I won't say anything and we can dry out.

[dumbwhore420]

My parents

[espanolbot2]

Doctor’s Remove Woman’s Brain Implant Against Her Will

A woman whose epilepsy was greatly improved by an experimental brain implant was devastated when she was forced to have it removed.

A woman whose epilepsy was greatly improved by an experimental brain implant was devastated when, just two years after getting it, she was forced to have it removed due to the company that made it going bankrupt.

[marxistcrap]

Specifically, because she couldn't afford to buy the implant from the company. They basically took her implant back to recoup their losses. This is what happens when you privatize healthcare and health research. The group providing her with this implant should not have been able to go bankrupt in the first place, let alone repossess her implant to pay off their debts.

[femmeharlequin-deactivated20240]

This is what disabled people mean when we say that cyberpunk horror is just a reality for us. This woman was literally forced to undergo a surgery because she couldn't pay to keep the implant already inside her brain. How long till companies start repossessing pacemakers and transplants?

[achillesinhighheels]

[firesigh-deactivated20181118]

naruto’s silence on abortion is deafening

[lithiumhydroxide]

[matter-for-mass]

i’m le.arning so many rules toda📝y